Due end of November Early December 👣

[ChampooPapi]

Hi ladies,

Finally getting a few lucid moments from the crippling neseua so wanted to start a thread for anyone due around this time.

There are a fair few threads knocking around for around the same months so this one is more for women who prefer not to do the whole Facebook thing or join what app groups. Well not quite yet anyway.

Of course anyone is welcome and if joiners decide to link up in those other ways at whatever point then I for one will definitely support it. It's so good to have support across whatever platforms we use as women, we need either other

💪 To the sisterhood

Anyway. My stats are-

Age 33 this past April
We have two children already both girls age 2 and 10
My Partner/fiancee is also 33 and we've been together 11 years,

We were supposed to be having a civil partnership (yes he is a man) last month but it was cancelled due to covid so it's now next year.

Expecting non identical twins the end of November, but good chance I'll get cut open or induced before then.

See how far we get!

I'm 8 weeks and 2

I had a missed miscarriage at my 12 week scan back in October so this pregnancy took me 5 months on from then to conceive.

Enough about me, how is everyone feeling?

The first trimester sucks so hard doesn't it!

Had my booking in appointment last week over the phone and got a load of stuff through the post yesterday - found that quite hard actually because obviously that material talks a lot about what could go wrong and in the current situation you're just sitting there with it by yourself! Had to remind myself this is about very small risks.

Booking in appt was fine though, midwife was lovely. Have my scan end of next month.

So true about the dreams! Dreamt I was having twins last night it was so vivid haha

I'm feeling quite down today i keep trying to make things work with the baby's dad but it's just not working. I've already had one child on my own so i know I'll be okay (we split up when i was 6 months pregnant) but i think with being pregnant my hormones are making me emotional and I'm finding it really hard. It's a shame that i'll never get to experience being in a proper family.

@peachypetite I was suffering awfully with dry mouth as well at night but got a mouthwash for my bleeding gums and although it hasn't gone 100% it's like 90% gone and doesn't wake me up. I use Kin gingivitis in a white and pink bottle but I'm sure other mouth washes might help too

I've had no sickness at all this morning which is really strange as that is usually when I am really bad and never make it to the kitchen without getting sick. its worrying me

@roro87 my sickness has been tapering off a little this week. This is the first morning I haven't been wretching over the toilet. I've read some women find it starts to come and go towards the end (I know that also happened for my sister) so I'm just enjoying that its not here today although I have heard it may be back in a few days....

@JustFrigginNameChange Sorry to hear this. It sounds like you are being super strong and know you got this. You and your babies are a proper family! This is such a hard time even without being pregnant and hormonal! You are allowed to feel down in the dumps but make sure you don't let that get too down. Make sure you speak to people in real life and get some hugs from your child when you can x

@Icantthinkofanickname123456 that is good to know I've no one to get advice on any of this apart from my partner and neither of us have been here before. He wants me to ring the doctor over most things but especially now I don't want to bother her unless its definitely important. I'll just enjoy the win this morning and hope for the best.

@JustFrigginNameChange I know this is awful and probably the current situation isn't helping but you'll get through this. You and your children are just as much a proper family as any other. I said to my boyfriend when this happened we'll be a proper family and he laughed and said what while you are still technically married to someone else. Nothing is ideal. this may not have helped you at all but I hope you will be ok

Hi lovely ladies, so this is my first post and first pregnancy currently at about 8 weeks I think so due around early December although I haven't seen a doctor or anybody yet.

I have my booking in appointment appointment next week which will be over the phone. We are very excited but nervous at the same time really want a scan just to know everything is ok.

Nausea hasn't been that actually just sometimes sick when I brush my teeth (weird!!) and my gag reflex seem to be on overdrive, drinking lots of water seems to help

@roro87 this is the first morning I haven't been straight over the toilet either!
And I was able to eat breakfast - I was getting worried as well but I'm hoping it's just the morning sickness tapering off as well @Icantthinkofanickname123456

I even managed to change my sons pooey nappy without properly retching this morning which hasn't happened in 10 weeks 😂

Sad news today, after a tiny bleed yesterday I went for a scan at the EPU this morning and although there was a heartbeat at 6+3 this has now stopped at 8 weeks. This is my second loss and I will need to take some time to deal with this. Wishing you all the very best x

@SYVH just devastating to log on and see this. Nothing I'm going to say is going to help I know. Let yourself fall apart, it is so hard and so utterly shocking for you to find this out. You have been through enough it just isn't fair, but you will get through this, you did before, and you will again. I'm just so sorry this has happened to you 💜

Sorry to hear this @SYVH. Take all the time you need to grieve. I've been where you are, and it was harder for me the second time. I hope you're being looked after.

How strange some of you aren't being sick this morning, but I was! It was horrible but meant I was able to eat my breakfast a little easier today... normally I struggle through it as I know it'll make me feel better.

@SYVH oh no that is awful news I’m so sorry to hear that. Do you have good support around you? Can you take time off work?

I'm so sorry @SYVH. I can only imagine how you must be feeling now.

@SYVH - I'm so sorry to hear that: how utterly crappy :( Please take care of yourself and make sure you have all the support you need.

Hi everyone, first time on here and first baby - feeling absolutely shocking at 9+3! (not complaining as we have fought for three hellish years to get here)

I was just wondering if anyone has any information about what we are supposed to do after the 12 week shielding / isolation is up? I asked the Royal College of Midwives on their Twitter Q&A and they said "talk to your antenatal care providers." So I guess no one knows!?

I am in a job where I can WFH currently but this changes in August. Had a sleepless night last night thinking about the impact of all this and the uncertainty...

Thanks and congratulations all x

Hi @firstbabybell :-) I think frustratingly that's a bridge to be crossed when we get to it. Have you asked your midwife what they're advising? :-)

Had the repeat blood tests today. It will surprise nobody that I did not die and my veins did not fall out. I actually had this appointment with my named midwife who was genuinely lovely (and super apologetic about the mix-ups). She was also the absolute best at taking blood: I hardly felt it! Fingers crossed these ones are OK :-)

So sorry to hear this. Thinking of you.

@eithneblue glad your test went well!! another thing to tick off!

@firstbabybell congrats! I'm also 9+3 :), hope you can get some clarity well in advance of when you need it!

Just did my new midwife referral after the mess up with the other one! Feeling good to get the ball rolling again and will be able to settle a bit more once I've done my booking in finally! Should get my scan date through soon too.

@EithneBlue glad it went better this time. Mine will be done on the same day as my scan.

Hello. Does anyone’s symptoms come and go? I would barely know I’m pregnant today and of course I immediately think the worst! Proding my boobs likes there’s no tomorrow! This pregnancy has been fairly smooth sailing so far, I’m convinced it’s going to go wrong.
Also, I notice it being mentioned about shielding whist pregnant, I thought 1st/2nd tri were to social distance unless other health concerns. Have I missed an update?

@MummyShark97 - ooh that's exciting, our babies' are both due on 27th Nov then. (that apostrophe looks wrong!)

I had my 12 week scan appointment through - I'll be 12 weeks exactly. It also says I can bring someone in the room with me but I'm assuming that is incorrect?

Husband wasn't allowed at our 8+3 scan and that was in a private IVF centre.

@Lavenderpurple - hi yes it is social distancing rather than shielding. I am a doctor though so slightly more complicated re work. to be fair to them they have been great though.

Yes to symptoms coming and going - on the day of my 8 week scan i woke up feeling completely NORMAL and was terrified. I ruined the whole experience for myself!

Had a few good days then sickness and sore breasts came back with a vengeance. enjoy it while it lasts!

firstbaby ah I see! Glad I’ve not missed an update, I’m always looking- just to add more worry to this!
This is my 4th pregnancy (Hopefully 2nd baby) and the worry doesn’t get any better. I hope we do have some more information before long, when I’m allowed back to work (Non essential worker) I can’t social distance and I’m self employed. Quite worrying how this is going to pan out.

Glad I’m not the only one with fluctuating symptoms- not that I want others to worry but it’s reassuring it’s normal and common. Hopefully your 8 week scan has put your mind at ease

Roll on 12 week scans!