Due end of November Early December 👣

[ChampooPapi]

Hi ladies,

Finally getting a few lucid moments from the crippling neseua so wanted to start a thread for anyone due around this time.

There are a fair few threads knocking around for around the same months so this one is more for women who prefer not to do the whole Facebook thing or join what app groups. Well not quite yet anyway.

Of course anyone is welcome and if joiners decide to link up in those other ways at whatever point then I for one will definitely support it. It's so good to have support across whatever platforms we use as women, we need either other

💪 To the sisterhood

Anyway. My stats are-

Age 33 this past April
We have two children already both girls age 2 and 10
My Partner/fiancee is also 33 and we've been together 11 years,

We were supposed to be having a civil partnership (yes he is a man) last month but it was cancelled due to covid so it's now next year.

Expecting non identical twins the end of November, but good chance I'll get cut open or induced before then.

See how far we get!

I'm 8 weeks and 2

I had a missed miscarriage at my 12 week scan back in October so this pregnancy took me 5 months on from then to conceive.

Enough about me, how is everyone feeling?

The first trimester sucks so hard doesn't it!

@peachypetite same here!

If not the 20 week one I think we'll pay for a 4d one anyway and hopefully by that time he can come along. Strange times :(

I was so sick this morning I thought it would never end. mine is definitely getting worse in the mornings.

@roro87 sorry to hear your sickness is getting worse! Mine has eased in the morning but from 2pm ish onwards I'm like some awful dry heaving monster until the early hours. It's hideous 🤢

@roro87 I'm so sorry you are feeling like this, it's an endurance test, physically and emotionally isn't it. It's so bloody awful feeling so bloody awful!

I said to my partner yesterday 'i'm just sick and tired of feeling sick and tired!'

You think your getting better around the 8 week Mark and then boom, 9 weeks hits you and your head basically feels like it's going to explode when you wake up and you start actually vomiting.

All Incan say is we are in this together and we just need to rest as much as possible until the next few weeks have passed. By 12 weeks we will 100 percent be on the mend I promise, it does just get worse before it gets better for some of us.

I'm still in bed, I'm scared of moving because I think I'll throw up 😢

@meplusfive that's so horrible, I'm so sorry you are going through this hellish time too 💜

@ChampooPapi let's just keep repeating the mantra 'this to shall pass'... it had better, or I'm going to go insane.

Anyone else suffering growing pains down there? Mine were so severe at around 5w I went to the Dr worrying about ectopic etc but after scans and tests etc they said it's just growing pains and unfortunately I'm susceptible to them. It's not period pain like, just big tugging sensations.

Thanks everyone @meplusfive what you have from 2pm sounds like what I'm like from 5am to 10 am. As soon as I get out of bed it starts.

@ChampooPapi I know I've said that to my boyfriend too. he points out I've wanted this for two years which is true but can be hard at times.

Although I think in a way it has reassured me because up to 8 weeks apart from tiredness and sore boobs I didn't feel pregnant.
Happy Monday everyone

@peachypetite thanks. That's what I thought as well and obviously that makes sense in the climate!
I was just curious as when I went for my dating scan I was the only one alone there!
I guess that's just people breaking the rules...

Feeling for everyone with morning sickness mine is terrible this time around @ChampooPapi do you find your symptoms worse this time with twins? 🤢🤕

@meplusfive we are women so we can obviously buckle down and get through this shit! But Jesus, I am so feeble all the time! Oh also I am getting lots of tightenings and slight pains too

@hollyjg I'm not entirely sure of this worse, to be honest it's about the same which is ridiculous 😆 I think the heads are a bit more intense

Sorry for all those with awful morning sickness. Although I get the nausea and indigestion I haven't actually been sick. Am I naive to think that if I've made it to 7+6 today I might escape the vomiting completely?

@JustFrigginNameChange I shook the maple syrup and grapefruit juice together and poured into the glass, then topped up with ginger ale. I'd say it's about 1 part maple syrup, 2-3 parts grapefruit juice (freshly squeezed is more sour than carton) and 2-3 parts ginger ale. I used fever tree ginger ale as it's more gingery, and you can use ginger beer too if you want a real ginger kick. I had two yesterday and felt briefly confused when I didn't feel tipsy 😂

You poor ladies :( I’ve also not been sick, come close a couple of times but the nausea has been bad enough.

@RestorationInsanity
You might find this interesting: it's a list of different studies with the percentage of women who vomited in pregnancy you can see it's variable within the studies, but their average percentage of women who actually vomited was 47.1% so less than half of the total 19330 women in the studies actually puked up at all.
www.pregnancysicknesssupport.org.uk/resources/literature-review/incidence-of-vomiting-in-early-pregnancy/

@RestorationInsanity I hope you do escape it but mine only kicked in after week 8. although before that I would feel mildly quesy.

@meplusfive I've had those stretching pains too I get them on and off haven't been bad in a week or so but then will have a bad day with them. I thought the same that I had ectopic as all on one side but then it switched and all on the other side.

@ChampooPapi thanks for your advice I contacted my midwife and am booked in for 12 week scan a week on Wednesday at the Fetal medicine unit. Can't wait!

I found with my last pregnancy I was sick only after meals and this one I am terribly sick as soon as I wake up! I am sooo tired and thirsty this time as well!
Us women are incredible humans what we put our bodies through 💪💪💪
All the joy the end makes I worth while though 🥳🤩

@EithneBlue that’s an interesting article. I think most first time pregnant ladies assume they will vomit, when in fact it’s not everyone who will! Most of my friends who have already had babies did have bad vomiting so I always assumed I would.

slightly different topic here but hoping you lovely ladies can help!

Me and my husband will be telling our close friends and family about the baby once we get to 12 weeks but I'm a little worried about how to
tell one of my best friends.

She will be really thrilled for me, I know this 100% because she is a lovely person but, she has been really struggling with how much she wants a baby of her own. Her and her husband need to wait a bit longer for the circumstances to be right. I've seen her get really tearful about it because she just feels so strongly. My pregnancy was a 'surprise' and so I do feel quite guilty about telling her especially when I've been a shoulder to cry on for her. Of course it's really important for me to tell her personally as I wouldn't want her to find out 3rd hand. How do you think I can approach telling her in a sensitive way?

I've been in your friends situation but not through having to wait but because it wasn't happening for us. she decided to try that month and got pregnant it was devastating for me but I was still happy for her. although sometimes it is hard to separate the two. Like I cried for a couple of days about it but the only saving grace was she told me on the phone so I didn't have to put on a brave face in public and it gave me the space to process it. The one thing I found really hard was when she would moan about being pregnant now i know exactly how she felt and she has been a massive support to me. I have no advice because nothing will make it easier on her just try to be as sensitive around her as possible.

@Mummyshark97 I would say send her a whatsapp or text and say you know it’s hard for her but you wanted her to hear it from you. Definitely don’t call her because she’ll be put on the spot and probably no need to include a scan photo with the message.

thank you ladies! It's so hard as you say because you know there is just no way to avoid upset as it is such a deeply personal thing she is going through.

Thank you for the advice about ongoing sensitivity with her as well.

@mummyshark97 we had 4 years of friends getting pregnant when we couldn't. It is a challenge. Being told separately before a big announcement helped, as did friends who made an effort to see us and not just talk about pregnancy/babies. Also, if you can make it clear in a sensitive way that you don't expect her to necessarily be as involved or interested in your pregnancy as some of your other friends, that might help too. I cared about my friends, but I couldn't listen to the perfectly normal and understandable complaints and worries of pregnancy etc the way others could. I sent flowers instead of baby clothes as gifts etc, as that helped me cope. But it's a very happy time for you and hopefully you have a lot of people who can provide all the chat and excitement about it.

That's really interesting @EithneBlue, as @peachypetite said, I think I just assumed if I was pregnant enough, I'd be sick. It's really reassuring to know that's not even close to the truth!

@MummyShark97 I'm now also on the other side of it with a girl at work who has done 3 rounds of IVF so I will be telling her by text privately before I announce or anything. but I know she has cried in the toilets at work when other people have told her. Tbh if I didn't have to wait so long I probably never would have realised all this.

12 week Scan date is May the 16th 🙌

Sorry ladies that was a bit random but I had a moment of clarity in my weakness and remembered to phone the hospital to book.

It's actually a really monumental day the day you book that scan, we are moving forward ladies 🤰

Excellent news @ChampooPapi, bet you can't wait!

I'm hoping I hear about my booking in appt etc soon. It was just under 2 weeks ago that I referred online but I know that things are so up in the air at the moment. Maybe it'll just end up all being rolled into the 12 week scan appt.