Anyone else due August 2020?

[Jem9153]

How are you feeling if so? How far along are you?

I’m due 12th August, 21 weeks 1 day today, first baby and I’m having a boy!

I’ve felt a bit overwhelmed with this whole pandemic and the unknown of whether it’s going to be better by then! Fingers crossed for the best.

I also really want to start buying things but feel bad for shopping online given the current scenario, I just don’t want to leave it all til last minute and be really unprepared.

Would love to hear from you all

@stephd2020 just had a quick look at the Obaby range and I love it! They have similar colours to Tutti I went for the slightly off white colour which is beautiful! It's so exciting isn't it xx

@Beau2020 yep, browsing everyone's prams and furniture as I type. Hubby thinks I'm mental and said I'm not allowed to change my mind now we've had most of our bits delivered lol.

Just ordered this from Cath Kidston - they do such gorgeous little baby bits and I had a voucher which was due to expire so thought why not!

www.cathkidston.com/en-gb/cath-kids/baby-0-24-months/baby-clothes/404865604002IVORY.html

@stephd2020 omg stop it that outfit is so cute!! My heart melts haha! I'm the same! I found this site called "beautiful bambini" and I've ordered pretty much everything from there including the travel system and all the decoratives for the nursery. Partner gets fed up of me changing my mind too, he says just pick something and order it now! 😂😂

@stephD2020 that outfit is so cute!! 😍

@squashie34 and @Beau2020 when it gets delivered I'll take a pic and post it. I know this sort of outfit would be for special occasions but she might not get any this year if we are still in some sort of state of lockdown and I don't want her to miss out and spend the whole time in sleep suits.

Indulgent I know but we've been waiting 3 long years for this little miracle and I want her to have everything despite covid! X

@StephD2020 no I think that's so lovely! Even if you take her out in the garden when it's lovely and take some pictures of her in the dress they'll be amazing memories to have! Let's hope we might be able to go out a slight bit by then!

So here's a question.. let's imagine lockdown is lifted somewhat but social distancing is still recommended to some degree.. what do you all think you will do with letting your little one meet family etc? It breaks my heart to think my mum might not be able to cuddle her newborn first grandchild!

@squashie34 we've thought about this a lot. My mum is shielding as she is on immunosuppressants as she has a life limiting blood condition so hasn't been out since lockdown began. Hubby and I will be completely self isolating for at least a week before my due date as I don't want him catching the virus and not be at the birth. So we will probs move my mum in with us for a little while when the baby comes so she can meet her. Hopefully by beginning of August those sorts of changes should be within reason? 🤞🏻

@StephD2020 @squashie34
I to have been thinking about asking my mum if she could completely self isolate for two weeks before the birth, then come stay whilst I am in hospital to look after my daughter, so that my husband can come with me. As it would count as looking after vulnerable people. Then have her stay afterwards, but I am not sure where we would all fit tbh in a two bed house. Plus if my husband is home for a couple of weeks I don't know if I'll need both of them. Half depends if I end up with a C-section again or get to have a VBAC.

On the whole moving front we even had boxes that I was going to start packing, that's how close to getting somewhere new we were! They've had to be stored elsewhere for now as I couldn't cope with the extra clutter.

I think you can definitely have special moments even at home. So yes for adorable dresses.

Hi all ! Baby boy due 29th August . Number 3.

I'm really struggling at the moment and think I am needing to speak to someone about antenatal depression again. This child is with my new partner , has come as a surprise and it was hard enough getting my head around it before this pandemic. I have bought few second hand things but not yet ordered a pram. I will need to think about this, and read this thread properly! I'm.hoping it will motivate me.

I'm probably just in ostrich mode right now . I'm particularly worried that this baby will spell the end of my relationship as it did 6 years ago. I'm not having many positive feelings towards my partner either though hes being amazing to me, and I have an awareness that this is prob hormonal driven though in my head I am planning already on single parenting in case it doesn't work out. I want to run away from all of this, I could single parent two but not 3 !

This is compounded by a lack of people to speak to face to face. Perhaps if I actually bother with some virtual support this will help me🙄

@Realladymarmalade sorry to hear you are feeling like this hun. The lockdown is mentally affecting people without surging pregnancy hormones so I can totally emphasise with you- I would say speak to to the midwife as they've seen it all before. Do you think you are in this 'single parent mindset' as protection to prevent you from getting hurt again because you think it's going to happen again? He sounds like an amazing man though and no two relationships are the same!

I was thinking the same thing about asking my mum to self isolate beforehand (she's a carer so is at high risk at the moment) the only trouble is I know my OH wouldn't want her (or his mum) moving in and he has quite rightly asked if we have 3/4 days after baby is home with no visitors to give us time to get used to her and learn how to be parents in our newborn bubble. I've actually had two friends who have given birth post lockdown and have said that this has been the one huge positive of the situation, that they've felt no pressure to have visitors and have that time as a 3/4. My OH is a very shy man with not much confidence, never picked up a baby before and his real worry is that people are going to judge him for what he's doing and telling him that he's doing it wrong. I love my mum to bits but both our mothers are very opinionated and would definitely try to helicopter even though their heart is in the right place 😆 my ideal was that both sets of parents could visit in hospital if I had a section and then we'd see them again a few days later after we were settled at home. Now I don't know how we will do it 🙈

I’m 25 & a FTM, ideally I was going to have my mum & partner as my birthing partners, my partner works nights & travels so I might still be having my mum as a birthing partner if he can’t be back in time when I go into labour. I will be letting close family see my newborn within reason, I can’t rob any of them of this (this is all firsts - grandchild, great-grandchild, nephew etc). I will be ensuring everyone washes hands before touching him & no kissing or touching face - I was against that anyway due to the herpes worry! But on the bright side I feel we can use this time to ensure we don’t get bombarded by visitors in a small period of time. I will be asking to limit to 2 a week.

@Realladymarmalade I’m so sorry to hear you feel like this. I have found this week particularly lonely & cried every day. Lockdown has been so hard on everyone but it’s so much harder with hormones & worries about our babies. Please speak to your midwife, you deserve to enjoy this xxx

I've woke up and the skin on my tummy is so sore. I have a really active baby and she is constantly moving all day and night. I can actually see her arms and legs poking out of me and now my skin (particularly my belly button) is really sore and sensitive. Anyone else experiencing this?

At first I loved feeling baby move, but now they seem so strong and constant that it's preventing me from relaxing. I don't want to complain because movements are obviously a good sign but I feel like she's always moved a lot, I first felt her at about 16 weeks. I'm also FTM!

Really good point about getting husband to self isolate before due dates - i hadn’t even thought of that (but had panicked about him getting ill in August, he’s a police officer so still going to work as normal and getting the train ever day - not ideal!!) Going to ask him to speak to his boss about potentially working from home for a couple
of weeks before madam is due, good thinking ladies! xx

@squashie34 that's perfectly understandable wanting to make sure you bond in the first few days and so important. I think my mum stayed last time after the first week at home as my husband had to go back to work - self employed - and I definitely still needed the help and support after a C-section.
However my mum didn't actually stay in our home then, she stayed 5 minutes round the corner at a friends house and left every evening at 6pm when my husband got home. This was great because I had the help I needed but equally we had we needed as a new family to bond. Plus my mum was happy because the friend was cooking great meals every night for her as they lived on their own and loved cooking!

@Reallyladymarmarlade this week has been a hard week for sure for emotions. Definitely mention it to your midwife or GP soon as you don't want to let it spiral. I really struggled at first when I got pregnant as this baby is very much a surprise to! For me it's settled down but it definitely doesn't make it any easier under the crazy circumstances we're living under.

@Beau2020 I definitely remember having a very sore belly button last time. Pretty sure it settled down though. Not the movements mind.

@cannotmakemymindup thanks so much for that, it's made me feel much better about it because when he suggested it as first I was a bit annoyed, thinking that I'd need my mum and it was selfish but now that I've come round to the idea I totally 100% agree with him, we won't ever get that time again just the three of us to figure out what the hell we are doing and how we keep a tiny human alive 😂 i just need to break this to my mum who I know will get the hump and take it personally 🙄 I think this will be especially important for dads if the hospital rules stay the same of them having to leave shortly after the birth, particularly if you then have a 1/2 night stay, they're missing out on the first couple of days of their life and I can't imagine how that would feel for them. My mum is going to do the same- my OH is taking 2 weeks paternity and then 2 weeks holiday and then my mum is going to take a week off to come and keep me company/let me take an hour nap. That's so lovely that your mum is staying with your friend!! 💕

@Lolxx totally get everything you say here about denying all the family those things when it's their first, I'm exactly the same! I just know I'd never forgive myself if she caught anything though so it's so tough to make the decision.. my worry is the breathing close to/on them if they're cuddling them, but I don't want to be that mum who says you have to wear a face mask too😅 we just want it gone by August so we don't need to make those decisions 😂

@squashie34 Oh that was last time with my mum with our first daughter, 6.5 years ago where she stayed with a friend. I haven't got a clue what I will do this time yet!

Agree hoping it's gone in August then enough to not need to worry, but I agree I can see face masks being needed.

@squashie34 - I am in the same situation! Although my my parents live 300 miles away so once they're here they'll be here, I had thought they could stay on and off with my sisters but that is involving more people! I just feel like we'd be better finding our feet first. My sister has told me my mum will be amazing and I will want her there so I'm going with that at the moment- and feel lucky to have parents still around. Once thought I had was if I have a hospital birth then we may need to isolate for 2 weeks before seeing them as they're in the vulnerable category.

@StephD2020 are there benefits (discounts!) from buying from a show, I think I've decided on the iCandy Peach but not sure whether to hold out for a discount.

@Realladymarmalade lock down is hard , I especially miss the nattering conversations with friends which I find quite supportive. X

I am thinking of self isolating for 7 days after we get out of hospital in case we get exposed in hospital.
My partners family are in a position to self isolate and then visit for several days to a week which I would be happy with.
I don't know what to do about my family, they are local so it would be short visits but my dad and one of my sisters are working as essential workers and my mum shares full time caring responsibilities for my grandparent with my auntie. I don't want to make my mum chose between protecting her parents or her grandchild. It is hard!

@squashie34 I’m lucky that the majority of my family are self isolating at the moment so the risk is much smaller than many others. I also hope that this is much better by august so that it’s easier to make these decisions.

@Superscientist that sounds super tricky doesn't it as you just don't want to upset anyone or put people in tricky situations! But this is something none of us have lived through before and think most people should understand.

I never even gave it a thought about having to self isolate if you've had a stay in hospital! 😯

This is just it with my husbands family his mum works in a supermarket and I just think it'll be to risky to see her in person for a long time, however I know she's going to get upset if she can't! I sure hope she understands this time. Last time they rather imposed themselves a number of times in the early days plus guests she thought we should see. At least the randoms won't turn up this time!

@squashie34 @WorriedButterfly I’m in the exact same position too! My family is all very opinionated and I can imagine both our mums giving lots of advice that will just stress DH out. I feel relaxed about the practical parts of looking after a baby (ask me again in August!) as I’m a health visitor but my husband hasn’t ever looked after a baby before and I know he’s worried about changing nappies and bathing etc. Our mums being here at the beginning will stress him out. Before lockdown we had decided they can stay in a hotel when they visit as they’re 3 hours away and we don’t have a lot of space but who knows if hotels will be operating in August or not?! Sadly they’re too far away to be able to pop in once to meet the baby, once they’re here they’ll have to stay and I don’t know if that’s possible.

@Realladymarmalade sorry to hear you feel like this, although I would definitely say no two relationships are the same and you should definitely give him a chance to prove he’s capable and deserving first. I’m not sure if you’re new to MN but If you are still struggling with this later on, there is a relationships board you may want to check out. I’ve been on MN for years and it’s been really helpful for me.

@StephD2020 I know exactly what you mean about not wanting bub to miss out. I had so many plans with mine and had a little cry I couldn’t decorate her a nursery since we’re not able to move until life is normal again. Im still planning on getting little dresses and headbands even if nobody sees her wearing them but us! There’s an insta page I’m following that do the cutest little baby bonnets and bows and sunglasses - I know it’s extra but it’s so cute haha.

@squashie34 my thoughts are that even with the best infection control any place with lots of people will be a risk and exposure goes both ways. I can't expect guests to follow precautions I wouldn't follow myself. With adequate testing the risks would be minimum I'm just as fearful about making others ill as I am them making us ill. I was reading an article the other day on the testing capacity, it was saying there are 800,000 NHS employees who in an ideal world would need testing weekly to ensure they are still free of the virus, that's 115000 a day without testing hospital patients, care workers, sick people in the community. I don't mean to be doom and gloom but we have a long way to go before we can adequately determine if the people we come into contact with are not going to pass on the virus.

@worriedbutterfly there were great discounts at the baby show! We got the new icandy peach cerium (which doesn't get delivered until mid-June) complete travel system including the cybex 360 car seat. Wasn't cheap but we saved around £300 by getting from the baby show. We officially ordered through baby planet so maybe drop them an email - they are taking around 5 days to reply at the minute but they have been very good customer care wise I have to say.

@beau2020 I'm exactly the same - periodically wake up with a sore tummy even though I have used bio oil from the day I found out I was pregnant! I was watching a programme the other day that said babies grow in stages, not a little every day so I expect our little beans are having a growth spurt today!

@realladymarmalade defo get on the phone to your midwife. There is loads of support out there for you hun, just make sure you take it! You need to take care of yourself right now so do whatever you need to make yourself feel good. Hopefully the better weather today is helping!

@Nfblues what's the insta page? I'm alllll about dressing little lady up in her finest when she arrives, even if the most exciting thing we do is walk to waitrose while hubby does the shopping!! 🤣