Anyone else due August 2020?

[Jem9153]

How are you feeling if so? How far along are you?

I’m due 12th August, 21 weeks 1 day today, first baby and I’m having a boy!

I’ve felt a bit overwhelmed with this whole pandemic and the unknown of whether it’s going to be better by then! Fingers crossed for the best.

I also really want to start buying things but feel bad for shopping online given the current scenario, I just don’t want to leave it all til last minute and be really unprepared.

Would love to hear from you all

@Oldestchild90s that's so good that you have a supportive family, you can't beat that!! And you also know that we are all here for you (and you for us) as we are all in this crazy ride together- and I think some of these thread comments show that it's pretty much whatever goes here with no TMI 😆🥰

@heroineinahalfshell self isolation has slowly been getting to me more & more each week. I’m not at the stage that I feel my mental health is more at risk than catching CV. As the restrictions in Scotland still have a week or so until they lift some things, I’ve been mentally planning what I’m going to do when that happens! I feel as long as you use your own judgement & common sense. I plan on going to see my pregnant friend who has also been self isolating & also visiting my gran. As my DP has still been working I feel like he’s more at risk to give me CV than the majority of other people that I miss. I have been trying to go to the supermarket once a week/fortnight in the last few weeks as I had such bad anxiety about being out in public & worried that the longer I left it the worse it would be, so been trying to do things gradually.

Sorry that was meant to say “I am at the stage that my mental health is more at risk than catching CV” 🙈

Welcome @Becky8690 and @Duffy23, sorry to hear about your hard time @Duffy23.

I'm up and down about lockdown, I think the baby both gives me something positive to focus on but also makes me realise what I'm missing out on too! I saw my mum for a socially distanced walk today, it was so lovely. I haven't seen her since beginning of March so I looked pretty different! Didn't really even have a bump last time I saw her.

@squashie34 the baby shower looks amazing! I managed to get a stand for the carrycot, a second hand mama and papas one I got off Facebook. Fits perfectly.

@squashie34 Sorry meant to say that your baby shower looked so sweet. Brilliant friends and OH you have there.

After worrying about baby being a little quieter for a few days. This evening it feels like they are trying to escape straight out of my belly and are the most busy they've been for ages. Think I'll still mention it all to midwife tomorrow though.

@Duffy23 I don't think there is one of us on this thread, who isn't scared some of the time. It's difficult not to be!

Hey ladies - welcome to all the newbies!

@squashie34 that baby shower was adorable!! I would have been in pieces lol I've told my bestie that she can still do me one once the baby is here if she wants - that way I can have a few drinks too 😁

@newmama29 I'm with you on the mental health front. Especially with our mortgage issues atm. So we broke yesterday and went to my bestie's new house. It's massive and they have a 1.3 acre garden so spent most of the time out there. But to be honest I'm so done with it now. Less than 700 new cases in the whole of London in the last two weeks according to the times today. So I'm just going to use my own perception of risk now.

My DH's Dad has dementia and has taken a turn for the worse so we are heading up there Tuesday - Thursday so DH can stay overnight in the flat with him while I stay with my brother and sister in law. They've both had CV (he's a healthcare worker so they've been tested) so I think the risks are so low. Plus, it might be the last time DH sees his Dad with a functioning mind before he needs to go into a home so it's a necessary trip.

@heroineinahalfshell I wouldn't feel guilty, just use your judgement!

@cannotmakemymindup that's soooo funny!! And I know exactly what you mean - the struggle is starting to get real now!

30 weeks today for me. 😱 bag packed and I'm just looking forward to the big day 🥰 x

@cannotmakemymindup @squashie34
Thanks ladies, really appreciate the kind words ❤️

Have any of you bought everything from scratch? Any second hand stuff? Any hand me downs from anyone?
I'm so happy, my day has been made! A beautician lady i know messaged me and asked if i wanted her old baby clothes as a lot of it wasn't worn or hardly worn, she said she'd sort it out for me! What a bonus! We haven't really been able to enjoy the full 'baby shopping experience' have we? 😢

@Oldestchild90s All our stuff is such a hodge podge of totally brand new and second hand from family and friends.

Lot's of baby clothes, toys and moses/crib sheets, plus steriliser, moses basket, breastfeeding pillows and other items are hand me downs/second hand. However I have still purchased new MAM bottles, breast pump, changing bag, reusable nappies, bottle/milk warmer and swinging crib for instance. It's just depended on quality of items given or what people have offered me. But nobody I know minds if you go through the items and either deciding to hand on, if not my style or bin if actually shabby/stained etc,. It means I don't worry about what comes my way.

Bought new: Next2Me, pram (but MIL kindly footed the bill for the pram), and I'll buy the changing bag new.

Bought 2nd hand: ErgoBaby sling from a friend, and I want to try and get a moses basket & stand for downstairs and a bouncer before she arrives.

Gifted 2nd hand: cot, clothes, bottle warmer, cot mobile.

I’ve bought a lot new as I’m a FTM & only have a few friends with babies that are still quite young. However I’ve been offered some stuff from them they didn’t use like crib sheets, Moses basket, bottles they didn’t use. Anything you get for a discount or free is a bonus!

Can I ask what bottle warmer people are going for? I’m looking at them & would like one for out & about

I have a second hand Cosatto pram from my sister, I would highly recommend it!

I've also bought pretty much everything new so far. We've had a few offers of stuff from friends but they haven't actually told us what they have for us, so figured it was easier to just buy what we want and anything we get given to us after that is a bonus. Would've been given the stuff by now if it wasn't for the coronavirus but here we here. Thankfully MIL got us a Next2me and my mum got us the pram set. So the money we've saved on the next2me we're using to get a tumble dryer.

Ah ladies, migraines and baby kicks do not mix well. Took a migraine at about half 12 am and paracetamol naturally does nothing, baby kicking away like it was having a party in the there, so the normal migraine nausea was horrific. Stood in the bathroom for 15 minutes thinking I was going to be sick but thankfully I wasn't. Oh being the beauty that he is rubbed headache balm on my temples and wrapped a stay cold towel thing round my head but even that didn't help much. Ended up having to sit up in bed & & Finally it eased enough to allow me to lie down and go to sleep about 3am but was then awake every hour after that to pee 🙄, fought for as long as possible but got up this morning at 9 and had to take more tablets. Bloody heads still sore now. Thank god its a Bank holiday or I'd have had to call in sick to work. So feeling all tired, sore and emosh today. Migraine hangover in full force.

@JMill13 That sounds so painful and difficult. Really hope your migraine eases during the day and you feel better soon.

I wanted to report that I had a great midwife appointment this morning. Totally different one to the previous appointments (as she said they all keep getting moved around). However she was lovely. Took her time with everything, listened, asked questions and just generally thorough. Would seem my baby has head down and a least one leg up and wedged under my ribs which would explain why top of my bump hurts so much. I cannot bend over at all! Really trying to pay attention to this babies movements and not compare to my previous pregnancy now after talking to the midwife. All booked in for 32 weeks now hopefully with same midwife again which I would love.

@cannotmakemymindup im pretty sure I have a leg wedged in my rib too! Can't bend over without feeling like something is stuck there!

@Becky8690 yes! It just doesn't feel right trying to pick things up. Putting footwear on is a joke. Currently feel like a contortionist half the time.

I think me and my partner have "lost the sparkle" in our relationship since me being pregnant. It's making me feel really down and I don't know if it will change after the baby is here but does anyone know any good ways during the lockdown to sort of bring the romance back?

@Beau2020 I think that's really understandable during lockdown as things are so uncertain and you've also had a bit of a rough time with your pregnancy too haven't you, poor thing!

Me and my other half have a 'date night' every fortnight on a Saturday night where we make sure we both get dressed up as if we were going out (it actually feels good for my own mental health to spend some time putting on a nice dress etc!) and then do something in the house - for example last week we ordered a DIY pizza kit and made our own pizzas. We've had a picnic and movie night where we got the picnic rug in the lounge and watched a film- just things to try and get a bit of 'us' back instead of being all about covid or babies! Maybe you could suggest something like that? We haven't actually been together for that long (TTC took us WAY quicker than any consultant suggested, first month of trying 🤣) so it's so important for us that we have time to be us.

I'm sure it's the whole situation lovely rather than any problems with you both!

@squashie34 that's a really nice idea and I like that it's meaningful! Yeah, basically my OH said he felt that he couldn't be happy and upbeat around me because I've been so ill so he didn't want me to think he was enjoying himself. Made me a bit sad as I don't want to bring everyone else's mood down xx

@Beau2020 I do get what you mean totally and I think a lot of that will have to do with him feeling helpless too when you've been poorly especially as he can't come into the hospital with you. I know my partner feels that way as I've been in and out the last couple of weeks. His job is to protect you and I think sometimes we forget they're worried too.

Maybe you have a day where you just spend the day together and agree there will be no baby talk for the whole day and do something fun? ☺️ I think that would be good for you too after your rough last few weeks x

@beau2020 sorry to hear that, me and my OH aren't romantic people at all, never have been in the 5 years we've been together but every so often one of pulls a wee gem out of our pocket. Haven't all of lockdown though, he's been amazing looking after the house and me any time I'm sick, but we were talking recently and the worry for everything because he can't know how it feels, hates seeing me sick or sore but has no real idea what it's like so he just does what he can control outside of the baby thing. Maybe your partner feels similar, just a bit helpless? I'd say it's hard for men in this situation cause it's different for them and they can't really be part of it until the little is born.

I once put together a little picnic just on the living room floor, no TV on just a bit of music, picnic food and chill and made the time all about him. Maybe you doing something similar for your partner, doesn't have to be a living room picnic but something that he loves or that yous can do together, making the day or a bit of the day about you and him rather that baby. Show him that he can still have a good time or feel happy and that he's still a priority for you.

@cannotmakemymindup today has been a write off really. Haven't been out of bed, heads not sore now thankfully but I feel so drained, tired and groggy as hell. I don't appreciate the hangover despite no drink 😂

@Beau2020 are you happy for him to be upbeat around you. I personally like my OH to have the right level of concern for me but also still fill good about other things. I remind him to talk to his friends and especially his dad to if he feels he wants to offload any worries about me. I Don't want him feeling alone.

@JMill13 So unfair!! Well I hope tomorrow is a better day for you then.

@Beau2020 Sorry I didn't mean to imply your OH does feel alone. I just meant that for me is what I suggest for my husband.

@JMill13 that's lovely about the picnic and perhaps I should make a bit more effort instead of expecting him to surprise me.

I absolutely do want my OH to be upbeat and his normal self I don't want to be a party pooper to anyone but I think perhaps my energy is rubbing on to him perhaps? I really don't know what it is, when he's around other people he seems so happy but when he's with me I feel that his mood is down and unmotivated. I think the lockdown really doesn't help because we are probably so sick of each other's company lol before we were both quite active people and had our own lives going on xx

@Beau2020 I really don't imagine that you are a party pooper at all!