November 2020 Babies - Thread 3

[Sakura54]

Another new thread for the Nov mums to continue our discussion!

@Pink15 thank you for this! The risks do seem low, however I guess you just never know.. I will look into moving trusts but think if I do it’ll be too late to get a scan at the new trust :(

@SqidgeBum - my thoughts exactly, they are there for a reason and many women before us have had them, I just think it’s too vital a test to be sacrificing, the silliest thing is that I will be there, already putting myself and the people around me at risk, so I can’t understand why they can’t allow us to have the tests whilst we are there.

I know that no one could have predicted this epidemic and that there are lots of people, not just pregnant women who are losing out on NHS care because of this virus but it’s such a scary time! I completely agree with you, it’s making me very anxious, I hadn’t really worried about it up until now when I start to see that actually this is having a big impact on the care that we are going to receive :(

I do not understand why they can’t dedicate certain areas in counties to essential care, such as maternity, cancer care that sort of thing, the government keep saying that ICUs have not reached capacity so not sure why they are cutting other services.. I do understand staff sickness will have an impact though.

It’s just so tough to get my head around this all right now, I just feel like there is no support for anything other than COVID right now.

We just have to hope that things improve for everyone very soon!

@luckyme30

I'm sorry to hear this. I'm worried about this too. I'm hoping to find out from midwife at phone booking appointment in a couple of weeks but it's really important to us to have the right tests due to problems before.

@Luckyme30 I’m 11 weeks too, so due date is near yours. My scan is in less than 2 weeks.

That is so unfair for you...I’d be pissed. If possible, I reckon you should quickly self refer to somewhere else while there’s still time and see if they can get your scan sorted! It doesn’t matter that you’re not old. I don’t think there’s any point making a complaint though, because these are difficult times.

@SophiaConfetti where are you based? To be fair I’ve not heard of it happening anywhere else in the U.K. just Oxford, so far anyway! I’ve started a new thread on the main boards just to see if it’s happening anywhere else so will let you know if it is, so far though think it’s just here, let me know how you get on with the midwife, fingers crossed for you.

@Sakura54 nice to see your due date is near mine!! How are you feeling?

I am so pissed that this is happening, also was told I would get extra support, I’m high risk so waiting on consultant and nothing has happened - I just feel let down by this health trust so far: I’m deffo going to try and get over to a new trust, I don’t think I can self refer j think my midwife has to do this for me or my GP. I had discussed with my GP previously that I might want to move trusts and she didn’t seem to think it was a problem, so will call her on Tuesday to arrange. I just need to try and get in there before 14 weeks as don’t think they can do the testing after 14 weeks!! So feels a rush as it’s also bank holiday I feel like I’m losing days!

@luckyme30 I’m ok thanks, just getting a bit anxious waiting for my dating scan, whereas all this time I felt no nerves at all! Can’t even be happy that I’m nearly at the 12 week target...was better when I didn’t know about MMC lol. My hospital seem to be treating me normally including booking me so many hospital appts, including one with a consultant as I’m intermediate risk atm.

Pregnancy is already a horrible time without all this extra stress. Hope you can get things sorted.

@Sakura54 hopefully you get your date soon! How many weeks are you?

Glad to hear that you’re getting treated well, I hope this thing blows over soon and we can all try and get back to normal!

@luckyme30 nah I got my scan appointment letter right at the start lol...it’ll be when I’m nearly 13 weeks. Just been patiently waiting for it. I’m 11 weeks today :)

@Sakura54 Oops sorry too many posts on here I just re-read your first post!! I’m glad you have a date!! 2 weeks will fly by (although at the moment not sure that’s necessarily the case )

@Luckyme30 that’s disgraceful. I would be so annoyed. Definitely move trusts. I’m out of area for mine because there’s no way I’d give birth at my local hospital. I referred myself. The dr also did a referral but mine got there a couple of weeks earlier so worth doing your own if you can. It wasn’t a problem going out of area.

Where have all my symptoms gone??? 😔😔
I've gone from feeling so bad for 2 days earlier in the week I was in bed to only very very slight nausea (even that could just be in my imagination) !!
Why did we have to have a god damn pandemic right now! I'm stressing out so much, what if bump has gone?? I cant cope with care like this, when I had my ds and dd I saw midwife at 6 weeks then every 2 weeks after!
Sorry, just needed a stressy rant

@Hancock2020 mine have gone too. How many eeeks are you? I do think they come and go and then they Peter off around the ten week mark as the placenta takes over. Please try not to worry. When’s your next appointment/scan? Can you break time down into manageable blocks?

I second that @Hancock2020. I woke up this morning with a slight, very slight, nausea. That's it. I am freaking, even though I know symptoms come and go, and I am 10 weeks tomorrow, and people go their whole pregnancy without any sickness etc. And I know even seeing the midwife wouldn't help as she cant do anything. I am still freaking. I am imagining going into the scan (when they finally tell me when it is ) and being told it's gone, and I am there alone. It's been a stressy morning. I completely get what you feel!

@Hancock2020 it’s normal as you get further on. Last weekend I felt fine for two days. Then had four days of feeling like absolute crap. Felt fine again yesterday and then crap again today. I’m 9+6.

@ACatCalledLola how did you self refer? I’ve had a look on the new trusts website and can’t see how I do this, it looks like it has to be done via community midwife...

@SqidgeBum I’m exactly the same stage as you and having the same thoughts. My scan is 3 weeks today. I’m already having panics and losing sleep over it. Dh is no use because he’s absolutely certain that everything will be fine based on nothing whatsoever. I haven’t told anyone else so it’s only you lot on here that understand how stressful it is.

@Luckyme30 there’s a link to a form on the hospital maternity services page for mine.

@ACatCalledLola we have told my parents, his parents, and our siblings. We also told both works. However, DH took that to mean he can tell anyone, so now the neighbours know which is stressing the hell out of me, as all I can think is if something is wrong i cant face telling them. DHs family are also pretty awful. Their response if something isnt right would be 'well that's what happens if you stress and want to control everything'. I am just overthinking everything, but DH being so sure things are ok has made me contradict and say it may not be. Your mind just runs away in these situations.

I haven’t even got my letter yet with a date ... I’m 10+4. My last pregnancy was a missed miscarriage. I was told it’s going to be 14 weeks or so so maybe more. I’m with the people with less symptoms too. Was able to eat two pieces of toast this morning and actually enjoy them 🥺

I’m 9+6 also and had enough energy earlier to fold the (massive) clean laundry pile which had been in situ in a chair in lounge for weeks, and to do more laundry and dust the lounge. Yet yesterday I could barely peel self off sofa.

Honestly @Hancock2020 I totally get the worry, it is endless with pregnancy, but am sure everything is just fine x

@burntpinky I'll be 8 weeks on monday.
I've got a private scan on monday as well, as I still have had nothing from the midwife 🙄 I've been trying to stay calm but this baby is so wanted I couldn't bear the thought of thinking everything is ok just to find out its gone.
I just need to make it through to monday, I just need to hear that heartbeat 🤞

@Hancock2020 I’m also the exact same, my symptoms have been getting less and less recently. I’m currently 10+2.
I was worrying when I was nauseous all day and not eating, now I’m worrying that I feel relatively normal but there must be something wrong.
You just can’t win 🙄

You couldn’t make this up... just called my GP asking them to refer me to the different trust... their answer is ‘we don’t know how to do this!!!’

Guys, it’s ok. I also feel much better and I’m glad because being in bed all day is no way to live! I’m surprised though, because last time I was still puking at over 4 months. We all seem to be going through the same thing plus anxiously waiting for our scans, so it shows that this is all normal :)

@Sakura54 that's one way to look at it I suppose 🤔

@Hancock2020 I know Monday seems like an eternity away but you are never again further away from it than you were 5 minutes ago if that helps.

Can you try and pick a nice activity for each day until Monday? Like bake a gooey chocolate my cake today, read a book tomorrow, spring clean on Sunday? Just to get you through as each will pass a few hours x