November 2020 Babies - thread 2

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Carrying on our discussion and hopefully having less of the nausea, morning sickness and sore boobs as the thread progresses!

Had my early reassurance scan today. I knew when the first thing he said was, ‘are you sure about your dates’ that it was bad news. I am measuring 5 and a half weeks instead of 7+1. Yolk sac, fetal pole but no heartbeat. I know my dates aren’t out. I rang my community midwife who was more honest and looked at my notes on the system. She said based on my early positive before my period was due, it’s likely to be another miscarriage and that the Sonographer had written miscarriage but not mentioned it to me and instead just said my dates could be wrong. My poor partner who is new to all this had no idea and thought the scan was positive and was confused by my tears. Another scan in two weeks but I think the outcome is obvious.

@Oldermum80 so so sorry to hear this. I think we all scrutinise our cycles and dates so much that most of us are pretty certain when we conceived. I had the same in 2017 - I knew I had my dates right but the sonographer wouldn’t say there was an issue and I carried on but knowing deep down it wasn’t right until bleeding started at 9.5 weeks.

I hope you have lots of support in real life and just sending hugs and understanding. So so sorry for your loss x

@Oldermum80 I am so sorry - I have nothing I can say that will help, but I'm thinking of you and didn't want to read and not respond x

I’m so sorry @Oldermum80. I hope you have plenty of real life support

So sorry @Oldermum80

@Oldermum80 so sorry your going through this :(

Hi everyone, I’m totally new to this. I’m 6 week pregnant due 8th Nov!
I’m a mixture of excitement and first time nerves. Is it normal to go from day to day with totally different symptoms, yesterday I had the worst aching boobs, today they are totally fine, a few period like pains occasionally then the next day nothing!

Congratulations and welcome, @Katie602.

It's completely normal for symptoms to change. They'll probably start again this morning!

Wishing you well oldermum.

So sorry @Oldermum80 xx

So sorry @Oldermum80 xx

I've sent you a friend request @littlegem84 - thank you for organising.

@Oldermum80 so sorry to hear

so sorry @Oldermum80 have you just got to wait 2 weeks now? awful. hope you can rest this weekend x

I’m really sorry @Oldermum80 - I have had this twice myself and know how horrible it is. My first one the dates were identical to yours. Hope you can get through the next couple of weeks. Will be thinking of you xx

@Oldermum80 - so sorry, to read this! I can’t imagine what you’re going through now...can’t believe you have to wait 2 weeks to confirm on way or the other. We’re here if you need to talk. ❤️

@Oldermum80 So sorry to hear that

@Oldermum80 my thoughts are with you, keep talking to us if you need somewhere to get your feelings down

@Oldermum80 so sorry, this happened to us in January so I empathise with you xxx

@Oldermum80 I'm really sorry to hear that. Thinking of you x

Given the announcement that pregnant women are now in the vulnerable group, and should be doing proper social distancing, and from the weekend they might formally tell us to isolate for 12 weeks, is anyone actually doing it??

I have two jobs, one from home, perfect, but I also deliver pizza and am considering stopping that to avoid contact with all the customers??

@Whoamieven I’m doing it. I’m also on immune suppressant medication in pregnancy (the treatment for my recurrent mcs) so am at extra high risk from that anyway. I’ve told work I’ll be wfh for 12 weeks (our office is closed now anyway and we’re all wfh) due to the medication - haven’t said I’m pregnant yet. Basically plan to stay at home all the time, except for medical appointments, at least for the next 6 weeks until the end of the first trimester.

@Whoamieven - I'm a doctor in the NHS and been sent home. Thankfully I can call patients from home and do some admin but it's not looking very certain at the moment. Really hoping for more guidance about if self isolating for 12 weeks and specifically for pregnant healthcare workers as there's been nothing and the approach is slapdash!

@Whoamieven My office is currently working from home, so that has made things easier. Nausea is starting to kick in a bit now, so I'm happy for the opportunity to not have to travel to and from work.

I don't really know what to make about it all, I'm not a panicky person and at the moment I'm going about my day going to/from work (don't have the option to WFH) but will obviously be avoiding social gatherings etc but I feel like I've been a bit irresponsible TTC in the midst of all this. When we first started it wasn't even in the media and as soon as I find out I'm pregnant it seems all hell has broken loose and now I'm feeling like it's happened at a reeeeeeally bad time