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November 2020 Babies - thread 2

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EssentialHummus · 16/03/2020 11:03

Carrying on our discussion and hopefully having less of the nausea, morning sickness and sore boobs as the thread progresses!

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FireflyGirl · 21/03/2020 13:45

I had a scan at 5 weeks as they were worried about ectopic, and they arranged for me to have a rescan today because the nurse who saw me also looked after me last year when I had my MMC and so referred me back for a viability scan. It's not normal procedure, but she could tell how worried I was.

I won't be having any more until the dating scan unless I crack and book privately. I can't decide whether that would make me worry more or less.

SqidgeBum · 21/03/2020 13:51

I seem to be odd in this group that I am not booking any scans and just waiting for my 12 week one. I figure having a scan wouldn't change anything if something was wrong. I am just remembering that anything can happen and I will have to just accept if it does, and I take one day at a time. Also I know if I go in and my dates are wrong or something looks a little odd
I would panic way more than just being in a sort of ignorant state. Every day is one more day where everything is ok. I think if I started having private scans i may not stop.

AnxiousLady1 · 21/03/2020 14:01

@ParisInTheSpringtime I'm having a private viability scan next week. Also in SW London. Not sure after that, but also considering whether to go private.

HarrietM87 · 21/03/2020 14:11

I’m seeing a private dr for my recurrent miscarriages as the NHS wouldn’t treat me (said there was nothing wrong with me!) but would never ever go private to give birth. The care isn’t as good as the NHS, even when the NHS is stretched. This Is Going To Hurt by Adam Kay (which is a hilarious book but not one to read while pregnant!) explains why.

I’m supposed to have scans every couple of weeks under my private treatment plan. After two mmcs I’d rather not wait until 12 weeks to find out things aren’t progressing. Also I’m on immune suppressant steroids so shouldn’t take them any longer than necessary, especially at the moment. So I’ll be scanned at 8 and 10 weeks as long as the clinic stays open.

Jazzeemoo · 21/03/2020 14:12

@SqidgeBum, I've not had a scan or even spoke with my GP yet. Smile I will do when they open on Monday, but we wanted to wait a bit and do another test as we had a chemical pregnancy last month.

Chickoletta · 21/03/2020 14:22

@ParisInTheSpringtime The Harmony test is a blood tear which tests for chromosomal abnormalities from 10 weeks. On the NHS, you get neuchal fold measurements etc at your 12 wk scan and they also take blood and test it but you don’t get the results of these blood tests back until they come in the post up to a week after your scan. At your scan they can give you a good indication of whether you are likely to be high risk or not but you don’t know for sure until you get the blood test results.

I have relied on the NHS system with my previous two pregnancies but as I am now 40, and therefore in a high risk group, we are considering the Harmony test this time.

There are 2 advantages for me - one is that you get a result up to three weeks earlier and the other is that it apparently has a much lower rate of false positives, so you are less likely to have invasive testing done for no reason.

I have a good friend who was told at her 12 week scan that everything looked normal, so she told friends and family about her pregnancy. A week later she got the blood test results back and found out that they were high risk for Down’s. She went on to have an amino, the baby had Down’s and she had a termination at 14 weeks. This is a terribly sad story and not meant to worry people unnecessarily, but it is true.

I guess it also come down partly to what you would do if you found out that your baby had a high risk of chromosomal abnormality. If you know that you would carry on with the pregnancy regardless, maybe there’s no real case for it.

Hope that helps a little - just some of my own thoughts.

Chickoletta · 21/03/2020 14:23

*blood test.

Sakura54 · 21/03/2020 14:36

@SqidgeBum no, I totally agree with you about early scans and I have to keep telling DH to stop giving my tummy attention lol it’s just too early and I want to stay as emotionally detached from the baby for as long as possible! Otherwise how else would I cope with a potential MC right?!

SqidgeBum · 21/03/2020 14:42

@Sakura54 I am the same. I havent talked to it or we as a couple havent made any plans really. DH isnt allowed touch me either. Admittedly way more people know than I would like but that's due to circumstances at the minute. I am very aware things dont go to plan, but there is absolutely nothing I can do about it, except try to keep calm and logical. I did find on my DD I was much more anxious. This time around I am a bit more separated and cautious about talking about the future, but also just taking it one day at a time. I figure nature will do what it does. I cant do anything.

AnxiousLady1 · 21/03/2020 15:44

@HarrietM87 That book is brilliant! I have the same mentality as you about not wanting to wait 12 weeks to find out things aren't progressing. I found out at 8 weeks on my last MMC. Im sorry this has happened to you more than once. That is my biggest fear at the moment with this pregnancy. The anxiety over that is overriding any coronavirus concerns at the moment.

ParisInTheSpringtime · 21/03/2020 16:54

@Chickoletta that is incredibly helpful, thank you. I am 37 so I think I will definitely go for the harmony test. We wouldn’t continue with the pregnancy, so the earlier we know the earlier we can start trying again.

wannabebump · 21/03/2020 17:03

Anyone else now got proper paranoia about what they can and can't eat during pregnancy? X

burntpinky · 21/03/2020 17:05

I’ve moved my early scan forward to 10am tomorrow. I am struggling SO much with this wretched morning sickness and had similar when had my first pregnancy which we lost to a MMC so am wanting to see if this is a viable one as I’m really struggling to cope. Currently only spending around 2 hours a day out of bed and they are spent on sofa unable to move.

Am nervous but glad I’ve done it as if it is viable it might just give me a boost. It’s not even like we can bloody well drink through this!!

AnxiousLady1 · 21/03/2020 17:18

@burntpinky I think that's the right decision. As you said, it might give you the boost you need.

I'm definitely starting to struggle more with the tiredness and nausea. Don't know what I would do if I had to go into work or look after young children like others on here have mentioned. I'm lucky in that I'm not throwing up yet (just occasional retching). But it feels like a bad hangover most of the time. Sleeping for 12 hours a night, and want to nap again during the day. I had grand ideas of cleaning my house this weekend and have yet to move off the couch...

ACatCalledLola · 21/03/2020 17:39

@ParisInTheSpringtime I had an early scan at the EPU at 4+4 because of pain and they’re doing another scan next week to check for viability. I think it’s standard here that they do another if they can’t see much at first. I’ll be 7+3. I’m high risk so I’m tempted to pay for a private one at 9-10 weeks to reassure me. Not sure where you are in sw London but last time I booked one in Morden for £40. For both my previous pregnancies I’ve also had scans at 32 weeks at the Fetal Medicine Centre in Harley Street. They were great.
If you’re London then it might be worth looking at Kings. The Dr there also works at the Fetal Medicine Centre and that’s where they’ve done leading research into things like the harmony test. I’m the same age as you and so I’ve referred myself to the Princess Royal in Bromley because they work closely with Kings and do an enhanced 12 week scan there. It’s a 2 hour appointment and you get your risk rating for chromosomal abnormalities on the day. They then do a harmony test on the NHS if you have a high risk rating.

burntpinky · 21/03/2020 17:44

@AnxiousLady1 - yes, our house is a shit tip but I can’t do a thing about it! Watched “what to expect when you’re expecting” across the last couple of days and feel like Elizabeth banks character when she is waiting for “the glow”, didn’t come with my last pregnancy and doubt it will with this one! Plus I’m one of those women who never ever look good in holiday, just a sweaty white mess!!!

Oh what joy will be had looking back on these posts when we are out of the first trimester and no longer feeling sick!!!

bluebell94 · 21/03/2020 18:19

When can I start blaming baby brain?!
Couldn't find my phone, got DH to ring it oh it was only in the fridge with my shopping. Then ran a bath and brought a roll of kitchen roll upstairs instead of my new bubble bath 😶😂

ohiwishyouwerehere · 21/03/2020 18:46

@bluebell94 haha! I went to my bedroom to pick up my water bottle...came back into the living room with a handheld mirror instead 🤷🏼‍♀️ who knows where my brain was for that!

Wise0wl · 21/03/2020 19:40

@ParisInTheSpringtime I may have more than one - I have one at 6+6 next week but they’ve warned me it may be too early to see a heartbeat, so may have to have another one. Going privately as the EPU wouldn’t see me because of coronavirus unless I’m bleeding heavily or in pain (I’m neither, just getting occasional spotting)

LorennaS · 21/03/2020 22:44

Hello everyone! Hope you don’t mind me joining. I got a BFP on two different brands of test this morn (period due to start today), so hope they weren’t both wrong! Have spent day trying to get my head round it as I don’t feel any different so it doesn’t feel real! If my calculations are correct and everything goes to plan I think I should be due around 28th Nov 🙂 It’s my first pregnancy, so sorry if this sounds stupid but... what do I do now?! I’ve obviously Googled a lot but am I best to ring GP now or wait a bit? Thanks in advance for any help and excited to be part of Mumsnet, (if a little anxious, given everything going on at the moment)

anon5555 · 21/03/2020 22:56

@LorennaS welcome and congratulations! So far I've called local midwifes and left message for a first appointment. They see you for this around 10 weeks I think. By my calculations I'm due 1 week before you but I haven't heard anything yet. It will be different in different areas though xx

LorennaS · 21/03/2020 23:04

Thanks @anonn5555! I’ll call on Monday 🙂

FireflyGirl · 22/03/2020 08:00

@LorennaS congratulations and welcome. We have a Facebook group as well. If you want to join, message @littlegem84.

My local trust lets you self-refer to the midwives online. Try googling '(your area) midwife referral' and see if it brings anything up. The first appointment is called the booking appointment, and they take a detailed family history and bloods/urine. Under current circumstances, a lot of people are being contacted to go to their GP for the bloods etc instead, and having the discussion with the midwives over the phone.

To give you an idea when it will be, my booking appointment is in 2 weeks, when I'll be 9+0.

Other than that, the medical world isn't really interested in our exciting news Grin

wannabebump · 22/03/2020 08:27

@LorennaS congrats!

AnxiousLady1 · 22/03/2020 11:42

@burntpinky How did your scan go this morning?

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