The Graduates of TTC after loss thread #7 - 🐧 The Penguin Huddle

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This is a safe space and supportive thread for anyone who is pregnant following a loss.

We all understand the worry and anxiety that can come from being pregnant again following miscarriage/stillbirth/neonatal death.

Plenty of births on the last thread, congratulations to you all!

Let's start a fresh roll call below? I'll collate as we go.

@rubyroost @bluebelltulip I'm not 100% sure which they're advising. The impression I have is that we should stay home as much as possible and avoid 'unnecessary' socialisation. I think it's the uncertainty that's the hardest.

@Kayjay2018 that's understandable but still annoying about the NCT classes. I wonder whether you can get any of the money back. They're expensive!

@sadtoday21 glad everything is going well and your little family are able to self isolate together in safety :) really wish dh was able to work from home! In terms of vaccinations I'm still going to my midwife appointment tomorrow, they have basically closed the GP surgery down and will let me in through a side door apparently. So maybe they will do the same for you?

@sadtoday21 isolating as much as poss. Today I had to go to the hospital to get tongue tie sorted and was so paranoid and worried. The nurse offered some toys to my toddler, I said no we would rather he didn't touch the toys. We also have a. Midwife appt in a children's centre on thursday where hopefully she will discharge us as he hadn't quite regained his birtj weight day 10. I've ordered an online shop for sat but we will need some food in between now and then. Feel like it's unavoidable not to venture out, but keeping it to a definite minimum.

@Dimblebimble our NCT are sorting online sessions out which is better than nothing, but only had 2 face to face ones and hadn't formed any friendships yet. Still I'd rather be safe than sorry.
@Rubyroost how did the hospital appointment go?

@Mistymeow How's things going, hope little one arrived safe and sound x
@Kayjay2018 thanks for asking... a 120 mile round trip with toddler and newborn to watch a nurse get out a pair of scissors and snip babys tongue tie. Whole procedure took 1 min and then I b fed him. Its over and done with now and all done. He only cried a tiny bit and slight bit of blood, then had feed and off we went. The main issue for me was all the bloody people and potential germs 😳

@sadtoday21 that's wonderful to hear that you're really getting along with breastfeeding now. You must be so glad 🙂 I am glad for you too!

I am starting isolation tomorrow I suppose... Today was my aunties funeral. Bit concerned about if my elective c section will get cancelled. Less than 2 weeks to go 😬 don't mind being isolated too much, got lots to organise in the house for the baby.

Sending love to all, hoping the corona virus isn't causing too much stress for everyone ❤️ xxxx

I've been told to work from home for the foreseeable. I feel bad because I can't completely do the job from home so my colleagues will be picking up my slack ☹️ but as I work in a risky nhs area I know it's for the best. Hope everyone is managing to keep sane.

@Mistymeow thinking of you, hope all is well 💕

Hi all. Haven't kept up but just to say I'm thinking of you all in these worrying times. My anxiety is shot right now and I hope you are all doing as well as you can be xxx

Thank you everyone. Baby girl is here, at a tiny 4lbs 8oz. It was a traumatic elective section unfortunately- they couldn’t get her out and it became scary. She has ended up with a broken arm so I’m waiting to see the orthopaedic doctor to see what the treatment plan is. We are just focusing on getting her fed right now as the breastfeeding could hurt her arm more. I also lost a lot of blood but feel ok. Hoping for a private room at the hospital because the other patients on this ward are ignorant- talking loudly/swearing all hours and watching tv with no headphones.

I was sort of already self isolating and dh working from home, and we will be staying inside with baby when she’s home. To be honest I haven’t given it a second thought, just want to get her pain free, strapped up and putting on weight.

@Rubyroost my little one has a small tongue tie, so I guess that’s another thing to sort!

@sadtoday21 glad you feel better with the breastfeeding- im hoping to breastfeed too.

Congratulations @mistymeow I’m so sorry it was traumatic and she ended up with a broken arm. That must have been so difficult. Wishing you both a speedy recovery. I hope you get a private room too. It must be so frustrating being around noisy people at the moment. Thinking of you both! Xx

@Mistymeow congratulations on the arrival of your little lady. I'm sorry she has a broken arm, that must be causing you some worry. Take care of yourself, hopefully you will be home very soon x
@squirrelnutkins1 don't feel bad about working from home, it's to protect them and you. You didn't create the virus or make government decisions, you are just doing the right thing by the nhs by working from home!
@ChikiTIKI I hope your aunts funeral went as well as these things can. Self isolation at the moment is not too bad, toughest bit is trying to work when one of the dogs keeps grabbing your arm for cuddles, and IT is a bit hit and miss. I have 3 weeks tomorrow till my last working day and I cannot wait to finish

Congratulations @Mistymeow! I hope you get a private room - the wards are just horrible, I don't know how people can be so inconsiderate. Hoping little lady's arm is healed and you're home soon xxx

@Mistymeow congrats!!! So sorry it was so traumatic and little lady has a broken arm. Really hope you get a side room soon. Lots of love and congrats x

@Kayjay2018 thank you. It's just natural to feel a bit bad. IT are over run with WFH requests so still not got my equipment. I'm actually looking forward to working to keep my mind busy. Glad you're on the final countdown!

@Mistymeow congratulations on your baby girl! I'm so so sorry it was traumatic though and that she is hurt. You must be so worried and upset. I hope the staff are taking great care of you and that you can get a private room to stay in.

The birth trauma association is great for support if you need them. And we are all still here too. Thinking of you ❤️ xxxx

Thanks @kayjay2018 ❤️

Congrats on your baby girl. Awwww @Mistymeow the poor little mite. I'm sorry she's suffering and you have the added stress of her having a broken arm. That must have been/be so difficult. But she's here and otherwise safe is the main thing I suppose. Tongue tie was not really an issue re feeding, but we got it done anyway in case. His latch does seem a little stronger since, but I'm not totally sure. Good luck with the first few days b feeding and I hope these first few days aren't too difficult for you.

Sorry you had a difficult birth @Mistymeow but so glad your little girl is here and in good hands 💕

I'm feeling a little down about missing Mother's Day and my Dad's 60th whilst I self isolate. My mum also wanted to take me shopping for baby bits before the baby arrived and she won't get to do that now. Sad that family won't get to meet her, possibly for weeks or even months. I know nothing can be done about it but still feel tearful when I think about it

I also have to continue working from home - and as I work in higher education I'm under a lot more stress than I would normally be with assignments needing to be adapted for remote learning - whilst dh is bored downstairs watching tv all day (his company is in the leisure industry has lost a lot of work due to the crisis). So hard to concentrate 😬

@Dimblebimble I was thinking along similar lines. My mum has other grandchildren but I'm her only daughter and she's not going to see my bump growing and then depending on how long this all goes on, isn't going to meet baby for who knows how long. Not due until the end of July but we just don't know how long things will go on for at the moment. I feel sad we'll probably have to do all our pram, cot etc shopping on line rather than going to the shops.
First world problems really I know. X

Congratulations @Mistymeow, sorry to hear about the traumatic birth :(

@Dimblebimble it's a lot to take in this change in ...everything. Instead of leisurely shopping for baby bits we are now panicking about whether or not we'll have nappies when the baby arrives and things along those lines. I am getting used to the idea of a home birth because even if I wanted to get to hospital there's no one to watch my 3 year old other than my husband and I don't want to be on my own for the entirety of the birth if I can help it (due late May). Also dreading having to somehow juggle my 3 year old and a newborn with no pre school and husband busy working from home so not much help (and no grandparents for relief either until this thing is over). All very daunting but I'm sure we'll all get through it as best as we can, nothing else to do but to keep going!

@Dimblebimble I'm due early May and I don't think I'll get to see my mum and dad before then which makes me sad. I haven't seen them since christmas as storm Dennis and Ellen got in the way. My parents are really poor on technology, they don't even call me, it has to be me initiating contact. And my MIL is significantly older so I'm worried as I really want her to meet the baby (my second but my DHs first). I'm really struggling to concentrate too- DH is on the phone all day with work, DS is interrupting with school work questions (he was suppose to be doing GCSEs this summer so he is really unsettled at the moment). I think it's the uncertainty that's getting to us all

@squirrelnutkins1 I ordered my pram at the start of feb to be delivered to store at start of April. First they advised the car seat and base would not be in before May so I changed that, now they have advised my whole pram package (not car seat) won't be in until July. Have swapped to a colour they have in store. Might be worth making your purchases earlier rather than later just to make sure you can get what you want.

@Twitwooo I'm not able to have a home birth but the thought of going to hospital is not appealing at the moment.

I had a little piece of good news. My fetal cardiologist has said they don't want to see me again, my local consultant is wrong that the chance for my anti bodies to damage the babies heart is a risk up till birth. Apparently after 30 weeks (am now 32 1/2) the chance is minute and all my heart rate checks have been great. I just have to carry on with those till burst but they say I'm really really low risk. I could have cried! Bump is incredibly active, properly giving me whole tummy movement which I adore.

That sounds like great news @kayjay2018 ❤️

Still thinking of you @Mistymeow hope you and baby are beginning to recover ❤️

Also thinking of you @Mistymeow hope you can b feed despite your little ones broken arm. Poor little thing, hope you're both as okay as can be x.
@Twitwooo I have a 2 year old. 2 year and two months to be precise and the terrible twos has really cranked up. It's not fun being stuck indoors mostly and then walks and garden. There's only so much you can do. But we will get through it. He keeps on going on about nannys house 😭

@Rubyroost I feel you. Not sure if the terrible twos are better or worse than the threenager stage! We have decided to explain to my dd that coronavirus is a dinosaur and it is shutting places up because people don't wash their hands 🙊 she loves dinosaurs so that seems to work for now. Granny's house is also closed because of this ferocious dinosaur and we wash our hands to make sure it doesn't close our house too!
Have sort of prepared her for all of these closures like this too, said a good week ago that coronavirus dinosaur will eventually close pre school and daddy's work and that. Tough times

Thank you everyone, sorry not to reply individually- it’s all been a bit stressful. I got scared when she threw up and went pale but midwife checked her quickly and this she just choked a bit as she was lying down. Delighted to say yes we got a side room and we are also now home! Baby doctors pleased with her progress- we relentlessly bottle fed her throughout the night to prevent jaundice and she’s done amazingly well- no neonatal care- and we are now home! We see the orthopaedic doctor in two weeks at his fracture clinic, her arm is secure in a swaddle- that’s all she needs. Thanks for the support. Now to focus on breastfeeding and getting enough stuff due to the hoarding!