Feb Bus pt 2 graduates

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@professorastrocat - I said I'd set up a graduates group I'm tentatively on here though coz if the test at 11 is bad news I'll be back on a bus! Everything so far seems ok as the test this morning says 3 + weeks got the midwife appt tomorrow xx

Congratulations @Piglet11! What exciting news! Glad it's starting to sink in a little bit now. Sounds like normal stretching ligament pains. Not very much fun though! X

At the hospital where I work, they're pretty much completely paper free. You can access your notes via an app and have a folder to carry blood results and scan reports in but nothing much else. The hospital I've booked at seems to be paper notes still, which I prefer tbh.

I got my pack of maternity notes but apart from my appointment letters that I've put in there and my scan reports there's not much in it as all the paperwork normally in it is now in the computer system! Xx

Well its finally my 12w scan day! I've got all the nerves going of course. Be nice to see if my dates have caught up again after the early scan. Had a pang of sadness this morning about DH not coming I just hope everything is Ok. I'm not sure how I'd cope will getting bad news - not so much getting the bad news itself but then obviously me being the one to have to tell DH when I got home. Does that make sense?

For thoughts of us that have older DC have any of you actually been more stressed about things going wrong this time? It's a bit like I know how lucky I already am with DD and I am more aware of things that could go wrong because I'm more experienced rather than completely clueless like last time.

Oh and my Consultant gave me all my notes - quite a big folder when I saw him last week. Very detailed. I don't think much is online (or at least no one has said about there being an online copy)

Will let you know how it goes later

All best for any scans this week! Is it you today @Talcott2007 ?

Ah cross post 😆

Good luck for you scan @Talcott2007 - let us know how you get on? Xx

Well I'm here at the scan - slightly false start as my bladder apparently isn't full enough for them to do all the measurements - I've been drinking all morning!! I actually need a wee!! My bladder must be the size of a raisin (which would explain why I regularly get up multiple time in the night) Anyway I've seen baby & heartbeat but need to keep forcing water down and try again in an hour to do all the measurements. Watch this space....

So we managed to get all the measurements eventually! My goodness this little wriggle-monster was being difficult today (hope that's not a sign of things to come! ) they would not stay still and kept pointing their bum at the sonographer!! My dates have caught right back up again and I'm measuring exactly what was indicated by LMP so 12+6 and EDD is 4th Nov

Great - lovely photo glad it went well!!,xx

Glad it went well! There's a lot of wiggly babies on this group! Lovely picture.

Re your question earlier I'm so much more worried about stuff this time round that was never on my radar at all with my first. I think it's a combination of awareness now (and probably being more anxious as I age!) and my dad was quite ill at the time so I was quite preoccupied with that. I realise I lucky I was symptom wise (or lack of) with my first though, apart from the sciatica and heartburn towards the end I didn't really feel pregnant!

Glad your scan went well! And yes, ive been way more stressed. Im putting it down to being older 🙄 i am literally having every symptom going with this one, including that gross metallic taste in my mouth that i only ever had when pregnant with my daughter, not with either of my boys.

@professorastrocat -if you replaced sciatica with sore boobs I could have pretty much written your post! Hardly any symptoms I naively didn't really worry about anything going wrong (which thankfully it didn't) and I didn't know how bad labour would be or how I'd handle it so I wasn't as nervous last time but this time I know what going to happen and having had really bad TFMR experiences this makes me even more nervous too!! Xx

So pleased it went well for you, @Talcott2007!

I woke up today and could've put my life on it that I was having my scan tomorrow (Friday). Good job I didn't place the bet. 🤦🏻‍♀️

What a lovely photo @Talcott2007!

I'm 11/40 as of today and I have my first scan on Monday. My colleagues all pretty much know as I've really been struggling at work with the nausea and the ppe, but we live far away from our other family and friends, who we haven't told yet.

I still have symptoms and have no idea where this is coming from (nowhere rational) but as Monday gets closer I'm getting quite worried that something will be wrong. So many people at work know and from so early on, I'm just worried that I'll feel like such a fraud if there's been a MMC. It's been such a big, strange thing for us as a couple too that if it were all to come to nothing, it would just be the weirdest thing to tell our family.

I know this doesn't make any sense and there's no reason to fear the worst, but I think Monday will be absolute proof that there might just be a baby in there.

Lots of love @Bumblebee413 I know most of us have had these same fears.

@Bumblebee413 good luck for monday, im sure it will all be ok 😊

I just had my over the phone booking in appointment. Turns out that due to the way they now do screening (at the 12 week scan instead of at booking in app) my oh might just be able to attend as they already know he needs screening for my blood disorder. The midwife sounded super optimistic about CV though and asked if i was considering a homebirth due to my quick labours, and when i said i thought that wasnt an option she said they were offering them as an option for births later in the year. Thats good news, right?

Thanks @professorastrocat and @Hatepickinganame.

That's really good news about the home birth. I'd wanted one too, but they aren't offering them here and the local low risk birth centre is closed. Obviously it's way off and I'll have to see how things go, but it's making me consider booking where I work as their low risk unit is open and it would be nice having friendly faces. Only problem is that it's around an hour away- not nice in labour! Like I say, not an immediate problem

@bumblebee413 oh i dont want a homebirth lol its never appealed to me just Seemed like good news that they are still planning them. On the other side, they've decided the blood screening is too urgent to wait another 4 weeks and we've been called to the hospital to get it done tomorrow. Hospitals are safe, right?!

You'll be fine, you'll do what you need to do and be off! @Hatepickinganame
Home births haven't stopped where I am, though I'm pretty sure Im not advised to have one.

Never wanted a home birth. Give me doctor's and medicine! 😂
I couldn't rely on DP in that situation to even find the towels nevermind heat some water haha

@Bumblebee413 totally get how you feel!

Also I like the idea of a home birth but am a bit of a neat freak and just wouldn’t want the mess/clearing up after!

I'm high risk so have been told a home birth would be too risky for me - they might recommend I have an elective section but I had a VB last time so should be ok I'll see what my consultant says xxx

@Talcott2007 4th Nov is a great birthday to have for your little one. Lots of bonfire parties as he/she grows up?!

And yes to being more stressed this time than last time. I breezed through my first pregnancy without a care in the world. This one has been a lot harder, both with physical symptoms and mentally. I definitely won’t be having number 3 after this!

@Hatepickinganame I’m with you with the metallic taste. I’m 15+3 so really think I should have stopped having it by now!

As we start getting due dates in I might compile a bit of a summary later (in between the full time job and toddler childcare!!).

Appreciate this is a long way off, but has anyone thought about how long they will take on mat leave??

I took 9 months with my first, with a phased return. Half of me wants to take a full year, because I’ll never do it again. The other half of me thinks I’ll go crazy (and be so poor by the end!). My boss only took 6 months so that’s making me think she might judge me taking a full year.