Feb Bus pt 2 graduates

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@professorastrocat - I said I'd set up a graduates group I'm tentatively on here though coz if the test at 11 is bad news I'll be back on a bus! Everything so far seems ok as the test this morning says 3 + weeks got the midwife appt tomorrow xx

You can on Glow it's a pregnancy tracker app but then when you're pregnant it changes to Glow Nurture and you can amend your EDD xx

So you've your scan next week @Talcott2007 that's exciting!

Who else has a scan coming up?

Hey @professorastrocat I finally have my booking appointment tomorrow (!) and my scan on the 11th. It feels like I’ve waited forever and so glad I had an early scan!

Yes @professorastrocat - I will be probably closer to 13w next Tuesday. Starting to get the excited/nervous feeling again about it all. I have my consultant appointment on Friday to sort out my blood medication (after a slight stress about the original date that the hospital came back with after my midwife appointment - 29th May!! I'll be pushing 18w by then and I should be starting the injections by 12w!!)

@ptofessorastrocat I've got my scan next Friday. Letter came through today, it could not stress enough about no one else being allowed in (unless a carer or under 18 young mum). I'll be 12+4 so hoping for quite a clear view 😃

Hope the apt goes well tomorrow @Wise0wl there really is lots of waiting isn't there! I'm already counting down til my next scan and it's still 6 weeks!

@Talcott2007 glad they sorted the meds out.

Yes going on your own is a little strange I have to admit @Anon87 even though I didn't really mind.

@professorastrocat I don't mind it either. It's a shame for him to miss out but he knows it's not for us at the end of the day. It's medical! I think I might try and book a private one for a father's Day present. Of course it'd be lovely for him to see it wiggling about.

Hey everyone. My husband couldn't come to my NHS scan but I've managed to book a private where he is allowed to come with me. It's this Saturday. Window to womb still are doing them xxxxx

Oh good to know @Hhdxx. I feel like I’m ridiculous for wanting another scan before 20 weeks but I really really want one!!

In bad news, my DH has coronavirus. Not badly, but enough to make him unable to get out of bed. I’m on all the childcare! Had a little cry last night about it. Non stop childcare is hard work.

Ah no I hope he gets better quickly. ☹️

Oh no @Needallthesleep -hope he recovers quickly!!
I've got my 16w midwife appointment a week on Monday tho I'll be 17w by then!! Atm I still have to go in the my GPs surgery to see her!
My 20w scan is 4 weeks on Tuesday!! Xx

@Needallthesleep! Oh no! Hope your DH recovers soon! Are you able to isolate him to a different bedroom so that you and DC are more protected from getting it too?

Also Non stop childcare is really hard I'm on a good 90% childcare while DH is WFH (even longer hours that usual) and I'm furloughed at the moment and that's tough enough so I can't imagine how hard it is for you. Sending lots of good thoughts and strength your way! X

@Needallthesleep I'm so sorry to hear that, how is he doing now? Must be such a tough time for you all.

@Wise0wl how was your appointment?

I can't remember who was asking about baby buddy, but it's got lots of in depth information about every aspect of maternity care, which is handy. Very good for first time or young Mums, although doesn't go into too much depth about how baby is developing etc.

My scan appointment came through today- it's real! It's on the 4th May (Star Wars day!) after a nightshift, so I'll be super emotional(!). Just hope that there's actually something there. With a heartbeat.

Still having plenty of symptoms. Actually went for a run yesterday. It included a significant retching session after several hill climbs and I've been knackered and headachey since. Exercise is clearly not good for you. First time I threw up in front of my DH in 14 years. Last time was outside a pub because I was 18 and classy

Well I had a great appointment with my consultant- he really put me at ease and had obviously read my notes so it was good not to have to go through my life story again. Got my medication and a few more appointments actually booked in directly with him - on a really positive note he was happy with aiming for a natural start to labour rather than an planned induction at 38w this time (like with DD) as long I was happy for extra monitoring and some extra scans from 33w which is fine by me!

@Bumblebee413 May the fourth be with you for your scan then!

@Talcott2007 glad your consultant apt was good. Mine was fine but just felt pressured really to in the end have to go with whatever they think. I said I want to avoid induction this time so if there were issues like last time I'd want to discuss section option. She said well inductions have probably changed a lot in 5 years so you'd be fine.🤔

@professorastrocat - I've had consultants like that in the past - slightly condescending speaking to you as if you have zero understanding of your own circumstances/condition. I was very much a "I'll do as I'm told - you are the expert" last time around which ended up with me having a really bad induction experience and almost needing a hysterectomy/dying. So this time while I'm still at the end of the day going to do what I'm told by the experts im not going to passively go along without asking questions and challenging anything I am not happy/sure about.

Ps. Thats not to freak anyone out about potentially having an induction - most inductions are very starightfoward in my case it was an actual mistake was made with my care - it would not be a common thing to go wrong!

There is still plenty of time to have discussions about induction vs CS - just keep bringing it up at your appointments for discussion.

@Needallthesleep I've only just read your message. I hope he is recovering well and you and your family are keeping safe xx

Thanks everyone. He’s back to his normal self today, and I’m assuming I’m asymptomatic because I have been totally fine.

Sounds like everyone has still had good service from their maternity units? Mine have been very supportive of a second c section. I had one on maternal request last year (for those thinking about it, NICE guidelines state it is absolutely up to the woman whether she has a c section). There’s only one hospital trust in the country who I know go against that (Oxford). Though there may be others.

I’ve got my 20 week scan on 3rd June and I absolutely cannot wait until then! It feels like so far away.

I have a birth related question I’m going to throw out there...

I really struggled with breastfeeding first time round. I only managed 8 weeks of combination feeding before I went to full formula fed. I want to give it a really good go this time. For this reason I don’t want visitors for the first couple of weeks. Is it mean if I tell the grandparents (who are a bit intense and will be upset) that they can’t visit at least for the first couple of weeks while I get settled in?

Last time they turned up on day 3 while I was sobbing my heart out with the hormones, and it was awful. I really want to avoid that again. But I know they will be upset.

I can relate a lot @Needallthesleep I struggled the first few weeks and visitors stressed me out. I remember not wanting my parents to visit initially as I was so overwhelmed which sounds awful but it was that hard. I think that you have the right to say whatever you want re visitors - is it your parents or in laws? I also think that your partner must be an advocate for you and stand with you firm on it if that's what you decide. You could always not give a time frame initially if they would be that upset and just see how you get on. Also tell them how much breastfeeding means to you this time and your reasons for feeling this way so they perhaps are less likely to take it personally. It's hard as some people see it as their right to come and see a new baby so it's pushing against those norms too.

Also, 8 weeks of having had your breast milk is still amazing, so don't downplay that as it can be incredibly hard without the right support.

I have my 20w scan on 4th June! I'll be 19+6.

Thank you for your message @Talcott2007 sounds like you had a really scary experience, no wonder you're standing by your guns this time round. I also refuse to be as passive as last time. She said it can be discussed but not until 36 weeks which is when they'll know if I can just wait and hope for things to just happen on their own.

3 weeks on Tuesday til my scan even that seems ages away!!
My in laws came the day after I got out of hospital (only in for 1 night) that was actually better for me, thoI couldn't sit down very well coz of my episiotomy, but they brought lunch and I hadn't hit the baby blues stage yet which hit about day 4!! Xx

@Bumblebee413 thanks for asking! It was pretty bad. I haven’t weighed myself for more than15 years (teenage eating probs). Midwife who called kept asking my to hold whilst she spoke to the IT team and other colleagues for various reasons, and then she laughed when I said I didn’t know how much I weigh, and told me I have to look at the scales when I come in for my scan.

On top of the fact they originally booked me into the wrong hospital and have repeatedly refused to offer any kind of advice about why I’m still getting spotting (private scan showed all was ok), I’m feeling quite let down.

But I’m hoping it gets a bit better when I go in for my scan, only two weeks on Monday, one week after yours!

Hope you’re all doing ok and having a lovely weekend! Xx

Oh dear @Wise0wl -hope they eventually get it sorted for you!!

Sounds poor from the midwife @Wise0wl hope things improve from now on!