Am I rude for not wanting my boyfriends parents at my scan?

[Aliyah30]

Me and my boyfriend have been together for a while now and I recently found out that I’m 7 weeks pregnant. I only officially met his parents 3 months ago and I have a scan next week. He’s asked me can his mom come in the room while I have an internal scan done, I said yes. But I’m starting to regret saying yes, it’s not that I have anything against his family, I’d just prefer it if it was my family in there rather than his. Am I being unreasonable?

Attitude...
What did she say?? @Aliyah30

Be prepared for her assuming front row at the birth..
Bet she has bought the popcorn already!!

Wtf!

Anyone who had a ‘bit of attitude’ wouldn’t be coming to any of my scans-internal or otherwise!

Not unreasonable at all. To be frank, the hell would freeze over before I'd agree to anyone other than my DH being present for any medical procedure where I'm the patient - internal and other scans included. Internal scan is unpleasant, invasive, the pressure is high as you don't know what kind of news you'll get - to go through all of this in front of audience other than the father of the child is unimaginable for me. That being said, I'm grateful that there is an option for single mums-to-be to take with them a family member/friend for support as I recognize how important that may be. However, I'll admit totally not getting someone in a stable relationship who's fine with making scans a family-wide event. I can understand you said yes when asked as you were caught by surprise, didn't think about it, don't have similar experiences... but I also think you have all the rights to change your mind and they should understand and respect that.

No definitely not.

Internal scans are not usual in most pregnancies. I have had a few as IVF pregnancy and early bleeding, but most people do not have one until the external at 12 weeks. For those asking, at our 7 week we could see the baby but as the sack and pole and just starting so could see the heartbeat. However, from IVF dates are easy whereas some do not see anything particularly if they have the dates wrong.

For my early scans, DH was there sat up by my head and with no view. They are not dignified in the slightest and it feels odd having him there, but that was in a darkened room where they protected my modesty as much as they could and I wanted him there. There is no way that my MIL, as much as I love her, would be in the room with me during an internal scan.

It is an internal medical procedure. Tell her that either for the 12 week scan you will let her come or that you will book a private scan later so they can see. If she wants to be in the waiting room so she can be the first person to see the picture after then fine, but there is no way she is being in the room while the dildo cam is being inserted into your half naked body.

"Ask him if he would be happy with his genitals hanging out in your dm's company?"

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Is there a reason why you are having so many internal examinations? I would be wary of having anyone but my partner at any scan, internal or external, if there were potential issues. They are done for medical reasons not so you can see the baby early.

Even if there were no potential issues I would not be having parents either DM or MIL, in the room whilst having an internal scan.

Not trying to be a misery or worry you but I've had two previous internal pregnancy scans which ended in bad news, would you really want her there if that was to happen? And as others have said would you want her there to see them lubing up a probe and inserting it into your barely covered vagina and then afterwards? It's getting to the point where in laws will soon want to be at the bloody conception!

I wonder if the OP isn't in the UK?

It's normal in some parts of the US for example to have internal scans as standard to confirm the pregnancy and more regular ultrasounds throughout the pregnancy than we have on the NHS.