MIL keeps saying my arse has grown

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I need a reality check. MIL keeps mentioning how my bottom has grown since I've become pregnant and how it's clear I'm having a girl since my the weight has gone into my bottom.

She also commented on how huge my bump is and how the baby clothes she bought will not fit my baby as I'm going to have a massive baby.

Neither my bottom or my bump has grown since the last time I saw her a few weeks ago. I use a tape measurer every day. My bump has not grown in circumference for 4 weeks, neither have my hips.

I've been crying my eyes out this evening and really worried my baby is huge and that I'm generally huge and something is wrong.

Am I being overly sensitive ?

Oh, it was the usual - she didn't mean anything bad - she thinks its wonderful that I am not obsessing over weight like her generation did... But, and this is a big BUT, we are now at the stage where my DH gets more upset than I do. Once I put my foot down with him, gave examples and explained how hurtful and offensive her comments are - he took it seriously (mind you this didn't start in pregnancy) and now he reacts before I even get a chance to process what she said. I also took the gloves off. I was raised to show respect to my elders, but respecting them doesn't mean letting them walk all over me. Pregnancy and knowledge I am carrying a girl made me much stronger too - I now don't allow others to treat me the way I don't want her to be treated and I react as I would to defend her. Maybe some of that could be of help to you in your situation.

@Aneley yeah definitely. You do become stronger when you think about your child- even when you're just pregnant. You think of them and you already want to set a good example. I'm also having a girl and feel strongly about raising her not to be people pleaser like I am. I'm lost without the approval of others. ( I'm trying to change and have been for years ). I want my girl to feel like she can also exist without everyone's approval. Even mine. It's also great to hear your husband now gets it, that helps a lot !