Pregnancy after miscarriage - Various ways of getting from one day to the next...

[Uki]

Thanks for the thread name Purplelostprincess

I haven't had one yet - am only 8+5 they are giving me an early scan because of the MC and I am nervous. I think I will try to think about something else as am just getting all worked up and there is nothing I can do anyway so I may as well try to put it out of my mind for a bit if possible

Oh poor you, Ellie, I'm not surprised you are so stressed I'm keeping all my fingers and toes crossed for you tomorrow {{{{hugs}}}}

good luck ellie and mumofmonsters for your scans today.

ellie - hope your feeling better x

Thinking of you today Ellie

YAY Spugs and Angua

am actualy really really worried about my scan. I have to take the boys with me and DS1 will know why we are there. If spmething has gone wrong i am worried about how they will interpret it.

I had to take them with me when i was scanned at start of m/c and told them we were going to see if there was ababy there, wheni was told it looked lke m/c i told them that it wasn't my turn ds1 a year older now and picking up on everything

Good luck Ellie!

Excellent news Spugs!

Jolie, I had a scan at 5+4 and, although no "baby" the consultant was able to confirm gestational sac, etc. I also went on to have a little bleed at about 9 weeks (scared the shit out of me!). Am now 13+2 and (fingers crossed and touch wood) all is going fine. Maybe try and hold on for a week and then go to EPU when they'll be able to see something on a scan? Hope the bleeding stops, and that all goes well for you.

MoM, is there no one else who can have the children? Having to take them with you will just be another worry on your shoulders, you poor thing.

fmn...no one else knows yet and would mean i have to tell them and don't want to do that until i have seen the baby a) in there in the first place and b) with a heart thats beating!

Hi everyone, not felt strong enough to post on here yet after my BFP last week
but just wanted to say to EllieG it might be worth discussing your AD's with your GP/MW/psychiatrist - I have been taking Prozac (20mg a day) since June (4mo after my MMC) and my GP is adamant that I should stay on it until 12weeks at least, and then come off VERY gradually if at all. He says the main risk to baby is in the 3rd trimester, and only if you are on a high dose (my internet searches said same thing), and even then the benefits of you not being a depressed mother can often outweigh these risks. Having said that he emphasised that every case is different but you should certainly think about it.
Everything crossed for your scan today, I've got one on Weds (will be 6+1) and am terrified. We're all thinking of you xx

mom and ellieg...just a quick good luck for you both. mom..could you just sat it's a hospital appointment and not explain further? or woukd your dcs be able to stay in the waiting room?

Joliegirl, how are you today?

Hi all- well after a very sleepless night knicker checking regularly the bleeding seems to have slowed from brown when I wiped to nothing at all now. Was very tearful this morning. I envy people so much who blissfully get pregnant and sail through the next few months without a care in the world. It is just blo*dy hard to keep a brave face on it today so I am trying to keep busy but rest as well - under strict instructions from DH! Thank you all for your kind words, I shall keep you updated. Tons of good luck to those having scans today as well.

Morning ladies

EllieG & MOM ? hope it all goes well at the scans today

EllieG - Sorry I wasn?t here in your time of need its natural to feel vulnerable hon, it?s a scary and exciting time fuelled by lots of hormones. You must be your own best friend and take care of yourself, cut yourself some slack, if work is stressful, can you try to cruise a little or pull back a bit? Or have a few days off to re-charge? I?ve never been on anti-depressants so can?t help with that specifically but it is another dimension to all the things you have going on right now. I?m sure after the scan all will seem far more manageable. How old is DSD? Old enough to understand that you have things on your mind? Remember also that nothing could prepare us for those awful scans we had before, now we expect that every time but don?t forget to hope and have faith that this time will be different ? why shouldn?t it be? Huge hugs xx

MOM ? will be thinking of you today too. Xx can you tell the boys it?s a ?check up? and then tell them nice news afterwards?

Mumpbump ? hey mat leave lady !! Really hope its not OC hon, fingers crossed for good results tomorrow.

Fettle ? hope the tests go well today know how you feel about being a pin cushion!

Uki ? thanks hon glad all is good with you. It looks like Fettle and Mumpbump are head to head for the next baby

Hey Beckle how are you?

Spugs so glad the scan went well. Hope that helps you feel much better

Hello again Firsty

Hey Ejt you sound like the Delia Smith of Breastfeeding (sure she had a tip about left over wine (what?s that?) and ice cube trays! amazing that your boobs still prickle when you hear a baby cry!! As you are so good on abbreviations, do you know what these mean? They are on my notes from the Consultant from the 20 week scan: ?Presentation: Ceph? Ooohhhhh another series of Torchwood ? love that! DH and I insisted on standing on the spot where their HQ is when we were in Cardiff, sis was mortified!

Hey Feedmenow

Angua that?s fab about the scan, delighted for you hon! Sorry about the fall though I was talking to a girl last night who go knocked over by a car at 18 weeks she was getting tummy pains afterwards and the hospital put that down to stress and said the baby was fine, worth checking out though if you are worried ? which I see you now have Hope you are ok. I?ve heard that about EDD too, when was your LMP?

Hey Glimmer I wasn?t away that long was I? but thank you for the welcome back anyway! what are babmboozekls hon?

Bouncing I?m planning to start my mat leave on 21/12 25 days before my EDD. I hear you about first baby?s and I think that is normally the case but I am a bit wary as I was due 18/1 and arrived on 29/12 and my nephew was due 5/12 and arrived on 6/11 both first babies! sis actually went into labour on the tube! I?m with Glimmer I think Fettle and Mumpbump will be the same day with Ejt a few days behind!

Welcome JolieGirl great news on your BFP, everything crossed for you and I am sorry to hear of your losses ? we all know how you feel on here. I?m also really sorry to hear about the spotting, it is very scary to bleed at all in pregnancy. I bleed with both my pg that ended in MC at 10 weeks and this one and I am now 22 weeks. I know it can be common to spot around when your period is due, I did this pregnancy at about 8 weeks, at 4+2, and I?m guessing that that could be a possibility? Have you got any other feelings? Headaches? Dizziness? The fact that the blood isn?t flowing nor clots is browny and that the cramps are more tummy like than uterus like all sound hopeful ? I doubt the EPU would scan until 6 weeks but at least you could be booked in for then and that gives you something to focus on? They may well do bloods but at the very least, they may give you reassurance. Always worth a call I feel. Really hope it all turns out well for you x So glad that the bleeding is easing off ? another good sign

Hello Daisy hope all is well with you.

Welcome ZamMummy ? a big smile and quiet congratulations! we are here to support you if you need us. All the best for your scan next week.

I would trust ds1 in the waiting room by himself but he wpould be worried, ds2 is a differtn story! he would destroy the place!!

Have decided i am going to tell them the same as i did last time - that they are havign alook to see if there is a baby in there, ds1 will be tired from his afternoon at school so hopefully won't takein as much and am taking ds2 to teh park to tire him out (and distract me!).

sorry for ignoring everyone today...can't concentrate and be a gd support or gve good advice when i am like this!

My stomach is churning - part MS part nervousness. not helped by the fact that dp didn't wash up last night and there are left overs on the kitchen and dirty water in the sink (both of which knocked me sideways Before having super smell!!)

MOM, I hope it goes well!

Ellie, just wanted to add my opinion re anti d's. I have been on ati-d's for years now. Last year when I was planning pg I spoke to my GP who referred me to a specialist about continuing to take during a pregnancy. I was told to stay on them, although at one point the type was changed and then changed back cos it didn't suit me. Anyway, after my mmc in Jan I got really paranoid that the ad's may have been the cause or a contributer. I have a friend in pharmacology so I asked his honest opinion, specifying not only his professional opinion but his personal opinion based on his findings (ie would he be happy for his dp to continue taking them if she were pg). he sent me loads of info and basically told me that he could find nothing hard to suggest I shouldn't take them and thathe would be fine with his dp taking them during pg. I have to say, we weren't specifically talking about prozac, but ones in the same group. So I am and will continue to take mine throughout my pg.

Also, when I was pg with my ds I stopped my ad's myself immediately and I suffered horrifically. My gp tried me with homeopathy, I got signed off work, everything, and still it was horrendous. I was so unhappy. I just couldn't do that again.

So maybe you could just look along the lines of cutting down a bit if possible, but if it has an awful effect on you then don't beat yourself up about staying on them.

Good luck with the scans today!

I am so happy for you Spugs.

Although I know nothing about ADs EllieG, I wish you all the best!

I had a wonderful two-week period after scan not worrying at all, but I am so anxious to know it is all going well with LO inside. It'll never go away, will it?

Had to rush to submit a proposal this morning and lovely in-laws are arriving soon. Am very excited!

I do not know if any of you are football fans. Well I am, or used to be. I do not know what it is with me, but ever since I am pregnant, I fall asleep sitting during TV matches and snore so loudly that DH cannot hear the commentary. Baby obviously thinks time is better spent sleeping

ellieg, I am taking an AF called Lustral (sertraline) as I'm BF. It would be worth finding out if this is suitable for pregnancy too.

This was administered at the neo-natal psychiatric unit, and conflicted with what the GP told me when i was given ADs at 30 weeks PG(prozac ok) and what the post-natal ward told me (prozac not fine, seroxat OK).

Can you get a psych referral to sort this out as I don't think that GPs etc are as clued up about things as a consultant in that area is.

I know my situation was slightly different, but i just wanted to highlight the conflicting information out there.

An AF???? I mean an AD

one handed typing is difficult

Hi all, I've been very quiet since announcing my arrival on your thread last week. I've had a bit of an amotional rollercoaster- I've been spotting quite a bit and got myself in a real state that I would lose the baby and it would happen this weeknd, the due date of my 1st baby. Dh has been trying to calm me down but i got so het up. I went for a scan yesterday and everything seems ok, though as only 5 weeks not much really to see and too early for a heartbeat. I just need to find the strength to get me thorugh the next few weeks.

Joliegirl- sorry to hear you are in the same boat- my GP was very sympathetic and refered me to the EPU- it has temporarily calmed me down though I do still feel precarious. Have you seen your GP?

Ellie- sending you a big hug, I'm so sorry to hear how down you are. I hope the scan gives you some peace. My sister took prozac throughout her pregnancy and my nephew was born healthy and well.

Hi siameez and winkygirl- good to see you again. Hope we're together on this thread for a while.

Congrats to those who have just had your scans and sending lots of positive vibes for thos going today xx

just dropping in to see if ellie or mom have been on yet, hiya to everyone x

Hi Firsty, Uki & Daisy, - how are things going? Hope you are enjoying your LOs!

Ejt - hello! So, have you set up your lunch date with DH for Friday?! I would! I never thought of making breast milk ice cubes! I used breast shells to collect milk while feeding DS (as I used to soak through the breast pads ) and used to get about 1/2 to 1 oz each time ? never knew what to do with it though! Do you think it is safe to collect it in a bottle through the day and then freeze it or does it need freezing straight away?

Angua - glad you had a good scan on Thursday! Sorry to hear you fell over though ? hope your bum is not too sore! Baby is well cushioned in there and unlikely to be harmed by the fall as you did not land on your stomach. I think they are well protected even when you are bigger too - I fell down the stairs a few weeks before DS1 was due ? he was still late though!

Glimmer, you are not the only disorganised one! I know I have a bit longer to go than you but I currently have a cot and blankets (was the DS?s but have no mattress), a pushchair (again DS2?s) and carrycot and one snowsuit that my friend gave me. Ooh, and loads of babywipes as I buy them whenever they are BOGOF but they don?t really count as I still use them with the boys (faces, hands etc ? marvellous things).

Bouncing - Hi! Hows it going? I start my MAT leave on 3rd December too although am taking a weeks holiday first ? can?t wait as I seem to be getting very stiff at work and hips feel quite painful the next day! Have been trying to get in touch with my MW for a couple of days to see about getting my MATB1 form but they haven?t phoned me back yet! I need it to get my MAT pay sorted as I am under the lower earnings limit so I need to get it done at benefits office. Also need to let boss of daytime job know when I am leaving and that I am not going back (putting that one off a bit, he keeps praising me so feel doubly bad that I won?t go back ? only been there since May).

Spugs ! Glad bubba okay even if sleepy! Hopefully will be more active at NHS scan! Their little toes fascinate me ? at my 11wk and 20 wk scans they showed me the soles of baby?s feet ? so cute! They were side by side on the first and crossed at the ankles on the second ? so perfect!

JolieGirl, speak to your MW or doctor hun and see if you can at least book a scan in for a couple of weeks. In the mean time try and think positively if you can, brown blood is old blood and could be from implantation. At about 5 weeks I had some blood and cramps for a few days and MW said it was baby burrowing in and getting comfy so will keep my fingers crossed it?s the same for you. BTW I have bled with every pg, successful or not, and quite heavily at times with DS1 ? it is quite common and not always bad news.

Torres, sorry you are having a rough few days hun but glad everything on scan looked good. As I said to JolieGirl bleeding, while incredibly scary, is not always bad news.

Ellie, I don?t know anything about ADs but agree with others that perhaps you should keep taking them, see if you can get some advice from docs? Also, don?t be too hard on yourself hun, pregnancy can be hard enough without having the added worry of m/c. I found the first 14 weeks terribly hard this time and felt very down and detached from everything (on top of having awful awful nausea), I dread to think what my poor DH and DSs went through at the time but it does get easier with each milestone you pass. Make sure you keep coming on here for support too! Hope your scan goes well ? the fear is normal and I wind myself up before every scan and cry when I?m in there too. When you have mmc it is hard to go for a scan and picture any other outcome than the one you had before (my first died at 12 weeks and I found out at routine scan at nearly 16 weeks) but I have since had 2 healthy DSs.

MOM, good luck for your scan today hun, I think you are doing the right thing to say that they are going to see if there is a baby in there, how hard for you to have to take your DSs with you. How old is DS1? My DS1 was only just 6 when I mc?d last year and was very sad, I told him that I had made a mistake an there was no baby, it was not my turn but they are so clued up even at that age. Needless to say we did not tell him until 14 weeks this time but he has asked me a few times this pg whether the baby will ?disappear? and if it is growing well.
Congrats and welcome to the thread

ZamMummy, hope you have a long and uneventful stay here!

MrsMc - Hiya! Doing well here although physically this pg is soooo much harder than my previous ones! I am now not at all convinced that the lower tum/inner thigh/pelvis pain I get when I walk/turn over/get up etc is stretching ligaments ? seems odd that I had no problems with any of those things even at the end of my other pgs and yet I have had this discomfort, getting steadily worse, since 14 weeks! Will definitely be speaking to the MW about it at next appt in a few weeks! Other than that all seems well ? baby been quite active today which is always lovely to feel! How are things going with you? BTW ?Presentation: Ceph? means baby is head down!

Hi Gingercat and Feedmenow .

BTW, has anyone heard from Rubles or PurpleLostPrincess for a while? Hope they are okay!

Just a quickie (plus a hello to the newbies!) had a text from my friend F, she says A is 5cm dilated!!!!! I'm very excited for her - she is my friend who is having a giant baby and has a heart complaint! She was getting very impatient, so I bet she is glad it is all happening well in between the screaming agony

Good news! Went for scan and was all OK! Cried before, after and during it - poor doc stopped at one point and said 'It's really OK you know! Look! It's moving' but couldn't stop. So happy to see my little person - he was moving LOADS, could see his little arms and legs wriggling round and his heart going and everything! And have a really clear picture. Am so relieved (at least til next one!). Is just so good to be able to have seen it alive and kicking and know that at the moment it is healthy and well.

Thanks for advice re ADs, particularly feedmenow, that's useful to know. My GP has changed and my last one was very chilled out but this one am not sure she actually knows as much about this particular thing so she's been a bit 'Right cut down and in a month come off them' and have been on them for about 2 years now and quite happily maintaining mood recently, and really don't want it to slip. I will go back to her and talk to my therapist. But nothing could get me down today

Thanks SO much for you support today ladies, means a lot

Thinking of you MOM xxx

, and double Ellie!

Thanks beckle! Also they told me I was 9 weeks rather than 8, which is nice as it gets me nearer to the safe(er) zone!
So happy today, can't stop smiling

fantastic news Ellie!

Big wave to everyone else - absolutely knackered today!! hope I get a rush of energy before my induction on Tuesday, the thought of labour at this precise moment horrifies me!!!

xxx

ellie so happy for you xx