Pregnancy after miscarriage - Various ways of getting from one day to the next...

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Thanks for the thread name Purplelostprincess

i dont know yet hun, still waiting for my 12 week scan but hoping it gets better after that!

sorry to hear about your mmc and so late as well,my nausea with this pegnancy was not as bad as with my last child and its driven me batty but it did start to calm down at about 9 weeks.

in my humble opinion this thread is one of the best for support that you can get after a mc, theres ladies at all stages of pregnancy and some who have graduated who come and say hi when there not to knackered so i would definitly recomend sticking around.

you wont have offended anyone, the positive thing was more to do with people on an antenatal thread who were basically telling people not to be worried about there babies and to bring down the thread (by the way im sure this was the last thing they intended to do but it has rubbed some of us up the wrong way a little)

off course its brilliant to be positive but the last thing you need when your worried (which you do get) is someone telling you to stop ruining the positive vibe.

heres hoping it gets better too. no-one told me that there was so much worry during preg, everyone said that started when bb arrived. prob one of those things that no-one talks about, why is that?

hope you get your date for scan soon.

you'd be amazed at how many people told me they'd had miscarriages when they found out about mine, i htink its something people don't like to talk about.

i find pregnancy down right terryfiying but its my own fault ive read too many books and looked on too many internet sites and now have a huge long list of every single thing that can possibly go wrong!! i didnt even know there was such a thing as a missed miscarriage till a few months ago!

i hadnt read a thing with my first preg. i'd worked with a girl who read everthing avail and that had put me off. wish i had done some reading, may have realised something was wrong earlier last time. but my dr didnt pick up anything at 16wks.
only started reading up this time when tiredness/nausea stopped, then i was convinced i'd had a mmc. like everyone i just hope 12wks scan goes ok

i dont think you would know at that stage of pregnancy, once the sickness has stopped and before the baby starts to move i never feel pregnant, feel like normal.

how far on were you if you dont mind me asking?

i started to bleed at 19wks so went to hosp immed. i didn't go the hosp i had booked into i had a really bad experience with them and told my gp i wasnt going back there! - they had told me i was 11 +5 when i had my 12 wk scan. when i went to hosp with the bleeding was told bb died at 11 +6.
thats why i was shocked gp didnt pick anything up at 16wks. felt movement at 16/17wks but later told this was clots moving and why my tummy was swollen

welcome to the thread positive. Please don't worry about your name. It was an insensitive comment on an AN thread that rubbed me up the wrong way. You are fine

Your dates aren't too far out from scan date, it could just be that you concieved later in your cycle. Sorry about your mmc so late

even if you read everything you possibly could it doesn'tstand to reason that you would know anything was wrong. Please don't beat yoursself up. I kept telling myself that i m/c because i had sex/went to softplay/ate the wrong things/didn't take folic acid....trth is that it was none of those things.

Welcome positive! Here's to an uneventful pg for you - you will fit right in here
I second what other people said about an clubs - I didn't join one until after my 12 week scan. When I was pg first time around, I joined an an club straight away, and the week leading upto when I miscarried, 4 other ladies on the same thread also had miscarriages . It was hard enough seeing the bad news on there but then when it happens to yourself, it is even worse - I also think the people who were still there were becoming very alarmed and some of them admitted they had stopped posting on that thread because they found all the bad news upsetting and worrying, even though their own pg were going well. So I was glad I found this thread, as it was a relief to talk to people who understood what I had been through when I lost my lo, and who understood why I wasn't enjoying the first few weeks of pg as I had done the first time around. They don't call us knicker-checker anonymous for nowt!
Anyway, feel free to post any worries you may have, positive, we've all been there and we are all sticking together.
It is still very true that m/c is something people don't like to talk about in RL until you yourself had experienced the same thing. I was amazed at how many people had told me they suffered a m/c or their spouse had. One thing I hadn't realised was just how common they are for 1st pgs.
Anyway, enough from me! Hope you all have a great weekend!

Oinker - if you're still around I'm so sorry my last post crossed with yours and I didn't check back. So very very sorry to hear your news and thinking of you

Hello all and welcome positive - sorry you have to be here but it a lovely thread where no one makes you feel like you're fussing or silly if you have worries (which people sometimes do in RL I think). Don't think people understand the constant worry unless they've had a MC themselves really - and saying stuff like 'Oh I'm sure it'll be fine this time' doesn't really help.
Am feeling curiously cheerful today because am still putting on weight (last time it stopped and I was really pleased and it turned out to be MMC) and have woken up with a face full of spots and really sore boobs. Weird things to be cheerful about I know, but we're in the twilight zone now....
Mom - what about my name? Is it because you think it's like AliG - someone else pointed that out but tbh I hadn't thought of it it's just my name and the initial of my surname, very dull but couldn't think of anything witty or more interesting.
I will be 8+5 on thurs so hopefully they should find a heartbeat. Am going to try and not obsess about it til then though!
Glad everyone else is OK, hope you all have lovely weekends x

Just found this thread and it is very reassuring to know I'm not the only one!!

After a year ttc, I got pg in March this year. Had some bleeding so they scanned me at what they thought was 6 weeks. Absolutely nothing in my womb, which was a huge shock, they then admitted me as my HCG was too high and they suspected ectopic. Fortunately (?) the laparoscopy they eventually did showed nothing wrong with my tubes, they sent me home to see what happened. Eventually miscarried a week later.

They think it was ectopic but miscarried early on, took ages to miscarry properly. Is that a missed miscarriage?

Found out I was pg again mid August and had a scan a couple of weeks ago - was so relieved to see it in the right place and there was even a heartbeat. Think I was just short of 6 weeks, so amazed to see that. I have another scan next Friday and am terrified. Still have the same pg symptoms so am trying to be optimistic, but it's hard.

Good luck to everyone on here. x

Hey toastaddict - do I know your name from the April AN thread?
Welcome to this one - sorry to hear you've been through the mill, but we are all here for you x

Hi Ellie - yes, think we are due pretty much the same time

Depending on my mood, I think I'll flit between the two threads! Having read some of the comments further down this thread, I think we are quite lucky on the April AN thread, seem to be a few worriers on there, so I don't feel like the only one. But it helps to be able to talk here to people who have the same fears as I do, even if I am being unnecessarily pessimistic.

Good luck with your scan next week, I'll be thinking of you. Mines the next day at 9am - doubt I'll sleep the night before

Hiya all, sorry have not been on for a while, you have been so chatty it has taken me ages to catch up with you all! Been a very busy week with work and also the DSs went back to school and nursery, daftly I thought it would mean I had more time!
Hi and welcome to all you ladies new to the thread, I hope you have really boring pgs this time and all goes well. Congrats on all of you who've reached 12 weeks (yay!) and those who've had scans too!
Oinker, I am sooo sorry to hear your news, it is so unfair and . I don't know what else to say so I'll just send you a {{{hug}}}.
Getting excited for the Grand Dames now! Mumpbump, for me BH felt a bit like baby was pushing hard against my uterus and a bit like my uterus was being squashed if that makes any sense at all! It used to go really tight and squareish shaped (I actually had my first BH of this pg last weekend - it woke me up!). A couple of days before DSs were born the BHs started to feel sharp right down at the bottom and I was told by MW that this was the neck of the womb rolling back in preparation for dilation. If they are not frequent (mine were 5 mins apart for couple of days, just getting more painful as time went on) then I would not worry about labour starting yet - reassuring to know you are now 'full term' though! Keep us updated though!
Bit of a TMI question here - has anyone else found that their ladybits are more swollen than usual (and more so after sex )? Is it just that there is more blood flow to the area or something like that which causes it?
Anyway, hugs to all and will try harder to keep up next week!

Becklespeckle - yes, have noticed mine are rather more, um, sensitive than usual was actually wondering about that very thing today and whether I could ask on MN or if it would be tmi!

toastaddict - yes I think we are quite lucky there, we haven't had any people telling us we're bringing things down or anything, and they all seem to be a bit fretty too, so I fit in quite nicely

Yes it is due to increased blood flow - plus extra hormones. I do find they tend to be a bit sore afterwards, more than usual.

Phew, seems as though it is fairly normal then! Have been wanting to ask for a while but worried it was TMI. Definitely bit sore afterwards but always fatter and more swollen.

It was in one of my pg books, can't remember which one!

Afternoon all!

I totally agree with you all about AN threads and this one - people who had not suffered a mc, have absolutely no idea the constant worry you are under over every slightist thing - even feeling well is worrying after mc! I luckily had my DD before any mc, so her pregnancy I was blessed without the worries (until I developed Obstetric Cholestasis at 32 weeks, which adds a whole new dimension to worrying!). This time around I've got 2 mc behind me and the worry of OC re-occuring too, so even now at 37 weeks, I still find myself worrying if baby hasn't moved enough recently. Excuse my language, but pg after mc, is shT - but we will all get there - this is after all the Healthy and Well thread. Thank goodness we have eachother for those wobbly days - all I can say to those in the first worrying few weeks is keep posting your worries. RL people may not totally understand, but someone on here will have felt exactly the same as you are feeling at some point and make you realise you are totally normal.

The AN threads have their uses too, but perhaps they just don't understand the stresses we all have to go through.

Right after that little rant - I'm off to put my feet up. 37 weeks today and went on a tour of the delivery suite and ante/post-natal wards - suddenly feeling very close now and now worrying about what happens when labour starts, who I'm going to call to look after DD (all our options seem to be busy at the moment!). Entirely different, but much more pleasant worries that those early pg worries.

Take care all
xxx

BTW - totally normal to have extra swelling or more sensitive areas down there! All down to the pregnancy hormones - enjoy it while you feel well enough to do anything!!
xxx

Are you getting excited fettle?

Very excited!! Realised that I might not have sounded excited in my last post!!! it's been a long 2 years to get here! That said, it is all seeming a bit real now too - what do you do with a real-life baby again?!!
xxx

Fettle - I have a couple of friends who due any day now and they are utterly fed up!!

Great post Fettle! Bet you are excited, I am excited for you! (and the other Grand Dames!)