Pregnancy after miscarriage - Various ways of getting from one day to the next...

[Uki]

Thanks for the thread name Purplelostprincess

Thanks mumofmonsters for the thread recommendation!!! I found it!

Hi All

Things are a bit calmer round here which is great

Glimer- thanks for the lovely message and yes spring has sprung here daffiodls, jonquils and even my attempt at tulips out now, but today s cold again. How are you going???

MrsMc- love the pics, you look a little different to how i imagined, always thought you would have darker shorter hair no reason to that though, you have a gorgeous smile, a bit like my bf who i nicknamed monster as she has such a large smile I'm glad the sex is still a mystery for you, although I have my guess now

Goodcatholicgirl- WELCOME

I haven't caught up properly, but news seems all goog This thread is amazingly busy, we need more of you on the other side, hurry up babies.

Good morning people!
HappytobeMam & Goodcatholic girl - welcome to the thread, where's to a boring and uneventful pg with lots of ms for the both of you
MrsMc - scan pictures are fab!
EJT - How annoying about your consultant - does his secretary not have a bloody phone to call you???
Feedmenow - send you good scan vibes... understandable you are getting nervous!
Fettle - those BHs sound like fun
Morning to everone else!
Got a text from my friend, she is doing okay, got 2 weeks to go and it seems they have decided to let nature take it's course rather than induce her early. Baby is not only big but long as well!

Bouncingturtle - hiya!

GoodCatholicGirl - welcome to the thread - here's hoping for a long and uneventful pg for you ... with lots of ms and other symptoms!

Uki - Glad to hear everything has calmed down!

I have another hospital day today - but I'm off to the one over the other side of Cardiff (where I'll be having lo, rather than the one 5 minutes from my house, where the antenatal clinic is held!) - I'm having hydro this morning, followed by an appointment with the anaesthetist this afternoon. Hopefully I'll get some effective pain relief at last ... please!

mumofmonsters and winky girl - were 12 weeks today
not that we need reminding of course but yay
just need a scan now

Spugs MumofMonsters Yea 12 weeks today! I feel like singing that Madonna song "We made it through the wildnerness...Somehow we made it though..." Sorry I have gone crazy with sleep deprivation (DD teething and pg insomnia agh) I had my scan yesterday evening and saw beanie waving at us. He/she was not in a good position so I had to have an internal scan thingy. Feeling happier now.

Welcome GoodCatholicGirl may your pregnancy be uncomplicated

Welcome GoodCatholicGirl.

Glimmer I do energy research. Very popular at the moment.

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Hello ladies- there are alot of familiar faces here!

By way of quick introduction, I'm ttc No 1 and had a mmc at 11 weeks back in Feb.

I was going to hijack this thread as I wanted to leave a message for glimmer and mrsmc but this morning I got a BFP! well, a small faint positive!

I had a VERY odd dream last night. I dreamt that Frank from shameless offered me a glass of red wine, a line of coke and a cigarette. DH went mad and said we had to do a pg test first and whilst he was looking for it, I smoked the cigarette and really enjoyed it (very odd as I have never ever smoked!!). Anyway, this spurred me to test when I woke up and -BFP! Of course panicked that the chinese herbs i've been taking meant it was a false positive but then I have to worry about something. I am very excited and scared as you might expect. I also feel a little 'disrespectful' to the baby I lost- but I think thats me being odd and because i've been focussing so much on the due date next week. Don't get me wrong- I am very happy

Glimmer- I just wanted to thank you so much for all the advice you offered, it was very very helpful and came at a time when I was in a very dark space and was at a loss where to get advice from. I decided to go for a HSG on the NHS in the end and see the outcome before deciding on surgery- but hopefully that won't be necessary now

MrsMc- that book you lkent me has been amazing. I've been having acupuncture and taking chinese herbs so who knows maybe thats what's changed my luck! Do you mind if I hold onto it for a few more weeks? I'm feeling a bit supersitious as though I might jinx things.

As this has now turned into some kind of oscar acceptance speech, I'm going to sit quietly in the corner!

Congratulations all round today then - to those getting to 12 weeks and to Torres on your BFP - I find it amazing how you're body can sometimes tell you you are pg, before you really know it. I used to have dreams like that just before BFPs too!! Anyway, hope you're stay here relaxing and uneventful!!

I've just spent the morning asleep in bed - it was bliss, feel like a new woman! Need to go and get some lunch now, before I go and pick up DD from preschool.

Take care all
xxx

Welcome newbies! You'll be welcome here, and have lots of support during your worrying times!

MOM, Spugs & Winky - hooray! By my LMP I am 12 weeks on Friday, but sonographer at scan a couple of weeks ago said bubba was bigger than that so I might be a couple of days ahead. You never know, I could be 12 weeks today too!

ejt, hope hydrotherapy is good pain relief and quite relaxing too. I was in Cardiff a few weeks ago visitng an old friend of mine with her 5 month old. I hadn't been there for 9 years! (went to Uni there) But it still all looked the same!

Uki, glad things are settling down for you.

Have come to the end of my working day so will recite the mantra once agin....healthy and well, healthy and well, healthy and well.....

Welcome Happytobemam sorry to hear about your sad history but many congratulations on the latest pregnancy, I really hope that it is straightforward and boring and we?ll be here to get you through the wobbly days I needed one of those definitive scans at 6 weeks too to make sure Beanie was in the right place so I could start meds (I have a blood clotting disorder) so I understand how long those first few weeks take to pass.

Gingercat ? sounds like you love your job I work for a law firm at the moment but I have worked for banks before so know what you mean (I am a Banking lawyer).

Fettle don?t envy you the itching, must be horrible ? talking of itching, my neighbour came to the door yesterday (not a very friendly one ? she was locked out) and she clearly had chicken pox, whilst I?ve had it ? I could feel myself backing away from the door ? that?s all I need! You need to start hanging out in M&S, apparently if your waters break there you get a year of free shopping! LOL at the CM checking ? it does feel like long ago now!

Glimmer ? I read that BH can be good because they practice your uterus but I really know nothing about them PMSL at your vision of is all ? sounds truly scary

Mumpbump ? how all is well with you keep us posted. What happens at 37 weeks? Is it then safe to go into labour?

Hey Ejt thanks hon glad DS had a good day In Spain your relies bring you your food in hospital sorry to hear the consultant appointment was a complete waste of time I?m not surprised you are fed up ? you were all fired up to have the MLU conversation! Hope you get them all to communicate. Fingers crossed for pain relief!

Feedmenow ? thank you for your lovely comments healthy and well hon, healthy and well I have a good feeling that all will be fine.

MOM & Spugs ? happy 12 week milestone!! & Winky you too. The rest of that Madonna song is hardly appropriate is it?! glad the scan went well; I almost prefer the internal ones in the early days because you see so much more

Welcome Goodcatholicgirl like your name! many congratulations on your pregnancy. Really hope it is a good one and as stress free as possible, we all know on here that pg after MC really does change your thoughts on everything but the mantra of ?healthy and well? really helps Unfortunately, there are always really sad stories at all stages that rock us, I?m 21 weeks and am still hearing them, we just have to hope we make it and yes, once there is a heartbeat, the chance of MC does drop.

Hey Uki thanks hon go on, tell me your guess at the sex of my Beanie?!

Bouncing ? thanks hon all the best to your friend!

Firsty hey you

Torres hello old friend, my heart skipped a beat when I saw your name?oh hon, holding my breath for you and hoping it gets stronger and stays that way for a very long time! you?ve made my day! What a funny dream/premonition! All your feelings are totally natural and we?ve all felt them on here. It is hard when you get that BFP again because you can?t divorce it at this stage from the last but you will. I?m 21 weeks now and though I still love Ava so much and will be so sad on her EDD (4 weeks on Sat) this Beanie has a new space in my heart all of its own we?ll help you through ? promise! So delighted the book helped you just never know what made the difference ? by all means hold onto it Have a look at my profile and see Beanie yesterday! Hope we get some more ladies over from the old thread really soon.

Healthy and well all round!

Hi Torres!! Thanks for your kind words. Glad I could help a little. Now, that sounds really strange but today I checked for the first time in a long time the conception thread and was looking how you fare (didn't post, though). Can this be coincidence? I seriously wonder if it's more than that....especially with your dream (?) and all. I am so excited for your BFP!!! What wondeful news! The next weeks will be wobbly with ups and downs, so join us and share! Have you thought about how long you want to take the Chinese Herbs? I was on Chinese Herbs when I fell pregnant, continued to take them and was then worried if I should have stopped.... Just one little thing to decide right now.

Everybody who reached 12 weeks today congrats!

Hi Firstart --5 weeks already! Sorry to hear about the infection.

Firststar - that's very helpful. Haven't had them since, but suspect they were mild contractions as they reminded me of labour... Ugh! Personally, I am amazed you are finding time to post, let alone try to keep up with the thread. Hope the infection clears up soon...

Torres - congratulations and welcome! Hope you find as much support here I have done over the last 30 weeks!!

Fettle - I am very jealous of you getting all that sleep in. Could fall asleep at my desk right now...

Feedmenow - roll on Friday, hey?

MrsMcJnr - at 37 weeks, you're classed as being "full term". If the baby comes before 37 weeks, it's officially premature and it has to stay in hospital until it reaches the 37 week gestation date. The window for having a home birth is also from 37 to 41 weeks so I will be on their books as of next Monday. Think risk of complications in labour drops around 35 weeks though...

Hello to Glimmer and everyone else!!

thank you for a lovely welcome, i am looking forward to getting to know you all.

Mrsmc- I am so excited to be on the same thread as you again. You have a wonderful positivity and energy and have been sorely missed on the ttc thread (though pleased you had graduated if that makes sense). Love the picture of your beanie! I agree, we need to get some of the 'old girls' over here soon.

Glimmer- that is very very weird! There must be something in the air. I stopped the chinese herbs as I wasn't sure whether theynwould be safe and couldnt get hold of the herbalist. But now I am wondering if I should continue or at least see the herbalist. How long did you take them for? Don't underestimate your help- you really were a glimmer of hope for me.

Oh Mumpbump ? I didn?t know that thank you. I knew about the home birth window as my sis was terrified she?d miss it! She didn?t though

Torres that was sweet, thank you I am delighted to be on a thread with you again too I?m not sure I?ve demonstrated much positivity or energy here and I am sure I have sapped others of theirs at some points during this pregnancy to date but the support has been immense and if I can give back a little of what I have taken, that would be a great thing I honestly think these ladies have helped me stay sane thus far!

Hello torres! (waves) thought you might be here. I am SO SO SO excited for you! I had a feeling it might be your month. It's great when a regular same MC/ttc threads gets the BFP as you kinda feel you know them and you're involved....so great
What happens about an oct/nov cake fest now though?

MrsMC - no WAY are you a sapping person. You are entirely lovely and fab generally.

i'm too tired to keep up properly.Sorry!

Welcome to all the newbies!

So...12 weeks today...somehow i feel MORE nervous! Scan next (when they decide to post the card thru ) and am more nervous than ever now that things have stopped happeneing. Despite the fact that today i came down with my traditional 12 week migraine!!!

Torres Yea! Hello again, Im really pleased to see you over here!

MrsMc Oops have no idea how the rest of the song goes. I just do the first few lines and then la la la. Maybe I'll have to change to "Baby love"...

Feedmenow so its five of us due in one week as Angua is due on 18th. Wow. I did snort with laughter at work when I read Mumofmonsters post and couldnt explain why to colleagues! (Sorry to hear about the migraine)

Love to all

warning - possibly the longest post in thread history coming up!!

Spugs, Winky & MoM ? congratulations on getting to 12 weeks!

Firsty ? to hear about your infection ? hope it clears up soon ? but to hear that ds is coming on well!

Torres ? hiya and welcome ? here?s hoping for a long and completely uneventful pg for you this time around (well, until the main event that is!) ? the feeling of being somehow ?unfaithful? to the baby you lost is completely normal ? try to acknowledge your feelings, then put them in a hot air balloon, and cut the strings (sorry, getting all lyrical there!)

Fettle ? glad to hear that you?re resting!

Feedmenow ? if you come back to Cardiff again soon, you?ll have to let me know ? I came to Uni here too (but quite a bit longer than 9 years ago ), met a bloke, and never left! I love living here ? I live just outside Cardiff itself now, In Penarth, and it?s really friendly. Next time you come, you?ll have to go down to the old docks area ? that?s really changed ? as has its name ? it?s now called Cardiff Bay, and is one of these massive regeneration areas! When I came to live here, it was one of the no-go areas!
Healthy and well, healthy and well ?

MrsMc ? I like the idea of your rellies bringing you food when you?re in hospital ? mind you, my rellies probably wouldn?t!!
How dare you say you sap our energy? ? you are always such a positive person! The wobbles we all have are the reason why we are here on this thread ? they are normal and natural! (Right, shall stop wagging my finger at you now!)

Glimmer ? hiya You always say things in such an eloquent way ? I wish I had your turn of phrase!

Mumpbump ? sounds like things are getting ready for you!

Ellie ? hiya!

Well, today has been a real marathon for me ? I had hydro this morning, which went well, although I couldn?t do a lot of the exercises as I was in a lot of pain ? Gill (the physio) just got me doing cycling movements in the deepest bit, which really helped.

I also bumped into the wonderful midwife counsellor who helped me through the MCs last year on my way to physio ? it was soooo lovely to be able to let her see that I?d come through the other side! I?ve promised to send her a photo of madam when she?s born ?

Unfortunately, the second baby I lost would have had its 1st birthday today (?twas my edd), so I?ve shed a few tears at various moments today ? and seeing Helen was quite emotional for me!
After that, I had a 3 hour wait until the appointment with the anaesthetist ? but there was no point coming home, just to drive back again, so I had gone prepared for the wait (I?m making a jumper for ds) ? but I thought I?d just phone the MLU to see if the pool was free so that I could check if I could get in and out ? and it was ? so I went up, and Delyth (mw) talked me through the whole using the pool scenario, and I got in and then out again ? unaided ? so that?s another thing ticked off my list!
She?s written that in my notes, so that everybody knows! We then had a chat about the fact that the consultant hadn?t been there yesterday, and she?s let me know that?s basically a formality ? it?s more a courtesy to inform him that that?s what?s happening ? and if he?s not there again next week, I can simply write a letter removing myself from Consultant-led care! She has said that I?m booked in to deliver in the MLU ? they?ve even put together a latex-free kit to use when I?m in labour!
We talked about the fact I was going to go and find somewhere to wait for the anaesthetist appointment, and she offered me the sitting room, so I spent a couple of hours curled up on the sofa in there ? I was sooooo glad!

Then I had the appointment downstairs with the anaesthetist ? they were running behind schedule (when do they not?), so I had to wait an hour, but when I got in there I explained the situation to the guy I saw, who told me that the fact that I throw up my pain meds is more to do with the meds themselves (and their side effects), and the fact that I have a severe reaction to general anaesthesia is linked in to this. Anyway, he?s written me up for some hefty pain medication to help me sleep - and he?s written me up for a TENS machine! Am going to go to the TENS clinic tomorrow to get one ? they don?t usually give them out until 38 weeks ? oh, if only I?d had this appointment weeks ago when it should have been sorted out, but never mind!)

Anyway, after that marathon ? pharmacy had a delay on of 30 minutes, more sitting on uncomfortable chairs, and a long drive home (took 45 minutes to do a journey that should take 20 ? I?d hit rush hour by then) ? I took a dose of the new pain meds, and, although I feel a bit sick, I haven?t thrown them up ? success! I also feel slightly drunk ? and will be going to bed early! Dh reckons he?s going to take advantage of my tipsy state ? I?d like to see him try !

Probably won?t post much until next week now ? I?m in work tomorrow and Friday, then we?re going to a wedding on Saturday down in the wilds of West Wales (well, near Fishguard ? but that?s a long way west!)

Take care all ? apologies for a mammoth post!

sounds like a really sucessful day ejt - and you're sounding very positive about everything!

Those pain meds sound great! And great news about the ease of removing yourself from CLU! Sounds like you won't need your army of big-bellied women behind you!!

I've been thinking a lot about my lost little ones recently. My 1st one would have been 1 in the next couple of weeks and then our 2nd one would have been due at the end of August, so pretty stressful time really. thankfully this little one is moving happily!! Can't wait to meet him now!!

hope you sleep really well and manage to fend off DH!!.

take care everyone - off to bed again now! DH is out and i unfortunately need to go into work tomorrow morning - feel a bit nervous about it. Mentally i've completely switched off from work, but I need to see my boss, who was on holiday for my last 2 weeks in the office.

xxx

It is a lovely day, isn't it? My husband is coming home from abroad today, so I am all excited. Came in to work really early to park in the best possible place, so he would not have to carry his lugagge far from the metro station Although this means I could not have my much-craved breakfast of fish fingers in a baguette

MrsMcJnr I am grateful for my work at the moment, and I do not think corporate banking is ideal for being happily pregnant. Four of my former colleagues in the bank are TTC currently with two lovely babies and loads of MCs, IVFs between them. They could only carry the babies to term after spending the whole of the pregnancy on sick leave. It was well worth it though!!! The two of them have been on maternity leave for 2 to 3 years now, and do not want go back to work until they have bouncing little brothers or sisters for their children.

doh!! I went to some friends for dinner last night and they bloomin guessed I was pg. They are my best friends of the last 15 years so I guess they know me quite well. I was really good and didn't mention it, despite other mutual friends pregnancies being discussed. Then, one of the girls who had a lo same time that I had dd, asked me what form of contraception we were using, so I said 'condoms', very straight faced, then went very red (cos I was lying, and I am a good catholic girl!)and one of the others said, 'why are you blushing, and smirking??!!' and then they just asked me outright. I couldn't deny it. They are very very good friends, but I do feel gutted that they have found out and I'm only 5 weeks, which is such very early days!!

I shared some of my anxieties about mc, but none of them have ever had one, so I just got the 'you'll be fine!!' comment. I know there is not a lot else they can say, but I AM STILL SHITTING MYSELF!!!!

I have decided to give myself a new target, I am aiming for 8 weeks now, and then take it from there.

Hey ladies just popped back to see those TTC after a MC and have come back feeing so fortunate and lucky but aching for them

EllieG ? thanks hon same to you

MOM ? repeat the mantra, get as much rest and sleep as you can and hopefully that scan date will come and go and there?ll be nothing but good news

Winkygirl it was ?Like a Virgin?

Ejt thanks for the reassurance. Sorry to say that the thought of Cardiff makes me sad, we visited my little sis there for the first time in Feb, told her about the baby, got all excited and then I lost Ava the following week we?ll have to take Beanie there for a visit once born and change the karma Glad the hydro helped and that the day was a positive one, I am so delighted to hear about the pain relief and the reassurance of the MLU, now you can look forward to meeting your darling girl!

Fettle

Gingercat ? gorgeous day here too, love September generally how exciting about your DH coming home I think stress is a major factor in unsuccessful pregnancies I wish all your friends well.

Goodcatholicgirl ? it is so hard to hide it from people who know you well hon milestones are good hon, good idea!

I find that lighting a candle for Ava in the church whenever I ache for her really helps, if I am cynical; it?s more about the symbolism and the action than my faith behind it. I think I?ll go today and I?ll light one for all of your lost babies and for all of those of the TTC MC ladies and I hope that somehow from somewhere it brings comfort to you all xx

Just to let you all know I had my early scan today (came thro day after worrying I hadn't received one yet!) and all is fine ! Was really scared as thoughts went back to my previous scan when there was nothing there.
The sonographer gave me a photo of bean which i thought was really sweet of her.
Keep well everyone and thanks for all your positive vibes.