Pregnancy after miscarriage - Various ways of getting from one day to the next...

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Thanks for the thread name Purplelostprincess

Thanks everyone for your good wishes.

Feedmenow - my new due date is.... 18th March 2008. Will update the states page.

EllieG - thinking of you, best wishes for the scan.

Updated stats. Feedmenow - what DD have you been given?

PurpleLostPrincess - 22nd September
Rubles - 28th September
Fettle - 29th September
Mumpbump - 1 October
ejt1764 - 2nd October
ejb1976 20 October
Glimmer November 13
Jossiejump-November 23rd
mad4girls 4th December
hotchoc 10 dec
Bouncingturtle - 23rd December
becklespeckle - EDD 27th December
MrsMcJnr ? 15 January.
VictorVictoria 21st January (EDD 1st feb but C section booked for 21st Jan!)
Bluebell- EDD 24th Jan
BellaBear - 6th February
Taichimum - EDD 16th Feb
HAylstones- EDD 24th Feb (my birthday!!)
Gingercat12 - 7th March
Jules - 10 March
AnguaVonUberwald - 18th March
Winkygirl - 19 March
Spugs - 22nd March
Siameez - 1st April
Rainbowdays - 8th April
EllieG - 19th April
Feedmenow

Hey Glimmer! I think itching on your belly can just be down to the skin stretching. I think with OC it tends to be hands and feet in particular, but I guess from Fettle's posts, it can be more generalised. Are the Braxton Hicks quite sharp and painful? And do you find they are brought on a bit by moving around? I'm sure it is just that and it is just because I'm starting to feel like I'd rather get this baby out than go through another 4 weeks of feeling knackered, dreading childbirth, etc. I'd like to get it over and done with! As others have said before me, it seems so funny after months of willing it to stay in...

All caught up now?

Gingercat/MyFairLady your workplace sounds a lot more fun than mine ? what do you do?

EllieG ? hon, I could have written your post about scans myself, that is exactly how I feel and I think how I will always feel ? it?s the legacy of a pg after MC I guess. At least we will never have that awful feeling again as to some degree; we are always prepared for the worst now. Hopefully that means we never need feel that way again. LOL at DSD! Hon a year is fab I am of that ? I am sure we will all be the best Mummies we can be but play dough?s no good with nothing to eat

Fettle ? I know exactly what you mean about the silence in the room and the picture on the screen HEALTHY AND WELL!! about the whole pg dragging ? so glad I am not a whale or a panda however much I might look like one!

Spugs ? lucky you having your own room happy 12 weeks tomorrow I don?t think there are private rooms at mine, well not that many if there are, not had tour yet either but every ward/room I have seen has been spotless so that bodes well on that front hope it?s private delivery rooms though, it would freak me out to hear other people in pain

MOM ? roll on weds

Bouncing ? your hospital sounds nice my friend was saying that the ward at my hospital was really noisy and that one girl had a radio on 24/7 and there were loads of women going in and out all the time for a smoke and coming back stinking of fags got me quite worried. Hope to get a tour as part as my parent craft classes ? if MW would blooming well tell me when they are!

Ejt ? ahh hope Ds?s first day goes well are you in the same building? Healthy and well hon I didn?t cry today ? just shock uncontrollably! my sis told me similar stories about the women on her ward when she had DS, apparently many of them refused to eat anything or feed their babies and just ate KFC and McDonalds and the husbands and other relatives had to be told to stop sleeping on the beds! She said it was filthy in her hospital too ? hence her home birth for DS2. Hope the appointment goes well this afternoon go girl!!

Mumpbump ? poor you, you sound shattered

Winkygirl all the very best for tonight and I hope you are feeling better. Hope it give you peace of mind for the trip to France

Hello Glimmer LOL at the Invisible Army ? totally agree!

Hi Angua

Glad you all liked my pics thanks for all the lovely comments.

I thought I'd say high and introduce myself if that's ok.

Well, I have a complex pregnancy history. I first got pregnant the first month of trying, only to find at 6 weeks that it was ectopic and I had to have full surgery to remove my baby and my tube. I then fell pregnant again, but it was another ectopic in the stump of the tube that had been removed. It almost cost me my life as my tube ruptured and I lost a lot of blood before surgery.

I then went on to have 2 miscarriages at 4 and 8 weeks and then starting the IVF process.

Before I started IVF I conceived and now have my miracle, my daughter who is 1 year old.

I have recently found out I am pregnant (just over 5 weeks) and I'm spotting, which I also did with my losses and my daughter.

So, the rollercoaster begins again, the wait for an early scan to see if babes is in the right place and ok.............

Wishing all you ladies lots of luck.

x

Congratulations happytobemam and welcome to the thread. Here is wishing you a long and uneventful stay... Have you got a date for your scan yet?

Hi mumpbump,

no, I don't have a scan date yet, it might sound strange but I don't want one yet. Because of the ectopic pregnancies, subsequent pregnancies have been monitored carefully (blood levels taken every 48 hours etc). This has driven me mad and caused so much anxiety and at the end of the day, the definative answer is a scan at 6-7 weeks. So, I'll wait a bit longer and then contact my doctor nearer that time. Trying to remain calm about it as I hated every minute of my successful pregnancy as I was a nervous wreck!!!

xx

Happytobemam Welcome amongst us. Hopefully you'll get lots of support from us

MrsMcJnr I work for a University as a researcher. It is such fun. In my previous life (before I moved to England) I used to work in a bank (lots of responsibility, stress, everybody is single, etc.), I never thought I can get used to being this laid back. I love all my customers to bits, who BTW pay all my wages , and you can go on holiday whenever you want. Well almost. I can even study, which you would find hard if you had a "proper" high-powered job. I bet if I did not tell them I am expecting and only turned up occasionally for half a year, very few people would have noticed.

Hi all

Welcome happytobemam to the healthy and well thread!!!

Glimmer good to hear from you - I wouldn't worry too much about itching on your abdomen - quite normal as the skin stretches. Only be worried if you are itchy all over especially if there is no rash present and particularly as Mump said on your hands and feet. Mine is mainly on my face, arms, hands and soles of feet - but as my blood tests have come back within normal range, I'm assuming it is just psychosomatic and I'm just a worry-monger!!! {hard not to be after 2 mcs, i suppose!! - when I had it with DD, I was in bits, but then I was diagnosed at 32 weeks, so had 4 weeks of constant worry and alternate day monitoring and blood tests and that was before I'd even had the worry of a mc, so putting it all together, I'll just be so happy and relieved when this little one is out of me and sleeping in his moses basket!!!]

Take care all - sorry to say hello properly - absolutely shattered. DH is out tonight, but as soon as I've got DD to bed, I'm off to watch TV in bed too! And then no plans for tomorrow, so can have the whole day resting as dD is in pre-school until 3.30pm!

xxx

Hi Mumpbump -- don't know how much individual variablity there is but for me
the BH feel like a tightening of the whole uterus like an oversized fist closing and staying closed for a while. I wouldn't describe them as sharp or painful, I can completely ignore them when I talk to sombody etc. But then I am only 30 weeks and maybe they get sharper with time? The whole bump goes tight for 60 sec or so (it seems very, very long) and I have them for several hours in the afternoon. I don't mind them at all in terms of pain, it's just that they freaked me out in the beginning.
(hello, good friend paranoia). They are more common when I move around and I have heard some women get them when they are dehydrated or after coniugal activity ;-) (not for me). They tend to go away when I lie down, which i normally don't do (since I am at work). My MW sais they are normal and nothing to worry about unless they become stronger or more regular. (Can't say much about their freqnecy, since I have started to ignore them altogether). To my understanding, there is no reason to avoid them by lying down, not walking etc., but this is just my humble understanding....

MrsMcJ -- ahem, sounds a little militarist... maybe there is a better word than army? I just have this vision of a large mass of women with their fists in their sides and sleeves rolled up! And furious to get their
opinions heard.

gingercat12 -- what a nice job. What kind of research do you do? (Only answer if you want to..)

happytobemam -- sorry to hear about the sad sides of your history. But you have an adorable daughter, this is good! You will get here much support, especially through the first hard 12 weeks. I had a lot of bleeding and spotting with my current pregnancy (now 30 weeks), so although it's very distressing, it might not be a bad sign. I had no bleeding with my missed mc, so that in my particular case, bleeding was a good rather than a bad sign. We hope all goes well and please post whenever you feel like it!

Glimmer - thanks. My contractions sound a bit different. They're very low down only rather than over the whole bump. Hmm. Might see if the m/w has a spare appointment on Thursday - my DAY OFF!!!! - and get it checked out. I think I'm being paranoid 'cos ds was induced so no idea what the start of labour feels like!!

Hi Fettle -- X-post! Thanks for the info. I agree that there are many reasons, why my skin might itch. As I said in my last post: hello friend paranoia :-) I get checked for protein, but not for sugar or anything else (even had to ask to be checked for iron levels). So it's more a matter of not relying on the system and being aware of what's going on with my body....
I hope your levels stay normal and wished you wouldn't have to worry about this...

oooh - Mumpybumpy - do you really think it might be? Have you had any more today? I've not had that many BH's this time around, but when I do, they do make you stop in your tracks for a few secs. Hopefully it is just your body preparing itself, as it is a little bit early still! Roll on 37 weeks, eh? - my deadline is Saturday!!

Had a really sharp pain in my right abdomen this afternoon, which felt really like cramp - kept coming and going for about 20 mins, but I hung the washing up through it and went out shopping. I'm a bit like you though, as I was induced with DD, I'm ever so slightly (ok completely and utterly!!) paranoid and worried about labour starting - how I will know and my water's breaking in the most inconvenient place and time!!! Which is probably why, part of me is hoping consultant says he will induce me early when I see him next Tuesday, although I know that's not the best thing for me or baby.

take care all
xxx

Changing my name to Grande Dame Itchy Paraonia!!

Yes, Mumpbump -- getting checked out is always a good idea! Let us know what the MW sais! I read on the threads here, that one should be concerned if there is a show, the waters break, or the contractions become regular. Ah yes, and
dilation is a necessary criterion for established labour, but how on earth can you check this yourself... (can you?) But this is a case of the blind talking to the seing -- since this is my first to be born I have no idea what I am talking about!!!!

Oh, this is exciting....Fettle and Mumpbump, Mumpbumo and Fettle...

I don't know if my body might be warming up for the big event, but it has brought back memories of how painful it was first time around... Ouch! Haven't had any more today, but I wouldn't be surprised if the walk to the station at the end of the day triggers them again... I will see what happens over the next couple of days - just got to make it to 37 weeks on Monday and then I won't mind if it comes early!

There is a thread about checking your own cervix to see if it is soft or firm, but don't fancy that, somehow!!

urgh - cervix checking!!! Found it hard enough CM checking while TTC - blimey that seems a lifetime away now!!

Monster post from me ....

Winky & MoM ? 12 weeks tomorrow ? congrats!

Fettle ? I can definitely sympathise with the sentiment of every part of pg dragging ? I?m not a naturally ?good? pg person anyway ? sorry to hear your results were inconclusive.

Ellie ? I went back to work (full-time) when ds was 22 weeks old ? due to financial reasons, but like many of the others, I feel that the time I spend with him is precious, and I make a real effort to do things with him ? whether it?s just reading stories, or chilling out. It?s not done him any harm at all being in childcare since a very young age ? I just have to make sure that the time I spend with him is used wisely.
I?m finishing this Friday (as you know), but I?ll be going back to work again full-time next July (well, for a week, to make sure I get paid during the summer holidays!), but I?ll be right back into it next September.
In a perfect world, I?d probably be part-time, but finances dictate that I work full-time as I earn more than dh ? don?t beat yourself up about it!

MrsMc ? fabulous news about your scan! Maybe you can start to relax a bit now ?
DS?s first day at school went really well ? we were early back from the consultant appointment, so decided to collect him ourselves, and we went to the cliff-top for ice-cream ? he?s had a really good day, but is very tired ? an early night for him tonight, I think!
We?re not in the same school ? I teach at a comp ? (or big children as ds calls them!)
I can almost understand people bringing in food for those in hospital ? a couple of years ago, DS was hospitalised for several days (he had an infection in his lymph nodes ? very scary!) ? but we tended to take snacks and food in for him, as the food they were serving at the hospital for the children was inedible! For instance ? mince beef and onion pie ? for a 2 year old?

Glimmer ? you always say the nicest things ? thank you!
I suggest getting a big pot of aqueous cream from the pharmacy for the itchy belly: it?s not expensive, but it is a fabulous emollient ? I use it by the bucket-load, as you can use it as a body wash in the shower as well!

Mumpbump ? BH feel like somebody is squeeeeeezing your uterus ? it goes all hard ? I fond they?re brought on by tiredness, stress, leaning over, dehydration, sex (), but sometimes they just happen ? sometimes they hurt, sometimes they don?t ? the general rule of thumb is that if you?re getting a lot of painful BH and you take paracetemol ? and that gets rid of the pain, then they?re nothing to worry about!

Oh, and I?ve tried checking my own cervix when I?ve had lots of painful BH ? ? but as I couldn?t feel it (must be very far back), I figured that all must be well ?

Happytobemam ? congratulations on your pg ? here?s hoping for a dull and uneventful pg for you this time!

Well, my consultant appointment was a complete waste of time: I went in there all fired up, only to find out that the consultant himself wasn?t there due to a bereavement: nobody has written into the hospital?s notes that anybody has contacted them about me delivering in the MLU, so I?ve got to go back next week to see the man himself ? but I have to phone on the Tuesday morning to check that he?s back from compassionate leave ? think I may have to get on the phone to the consultant midwife clinic and demand to know why nobody has been in touch with the consultant or his minions ? am a bit actually ? not because the cons. Has had a bereavement ? but because of the lack of communication between the different teams. I?m at the hospital tomorrow for hydro and an appointment at the pain clinic, so I may see if I can pop in to see the midwife who?s supposed to be dealing with my case.
Never mind ? baby is healthy and well ?

Sorry you had a bit of a non-event this afternoon, EJT. It is pretty cr*p of them not to bother telling you that the consultant wasn't around... It must have been very disappointing after psyching yourself up to it as well! The invisible army will have to melt into the background a la Lord of the Rings and reconvene next week instead, I guess!!

mumpbump - I'm counting on it!

(have this vision in my head of a gang of women rolling their sleeves up - in various stages of rotundness following behind me as an invisible army ... it's a great image to have!!)

pretty scary image too, I should imagine - especially for a male consultant!!!

Good evening, what a busy day it has been here!

Ejt, sorry to hear about the wasted appt. Pain in the ar*e that you will have to get yourself all psyched up again in a weeks time.....

Happytobemom, what a sad history you have I have had just one mc and feel like a nervous wreck so I can empathise with how hard this must be for you. Fingers crossed for a happy and healthy pg for you...

Mrsmc, amazing scan pictures! And the pictures of you show you to look NOTHING like I imagined! You sound so wise on here that I pictured you looking a little more "mature" and mumsie, nothing like the beautiful pics on your profile!

Angue, EDD by LMP is about 21st/22nd March but at private scan I had at 9+5 she said bubba was above average. Apparently they decide on their definitive EDD at the 12 weeks scan when they do the nuchal test so I'll see what they have to say next Monday. Not that a few days makes a whole lot of difference in the grand scheme of things!

With only 6 days to go til my scan I am beginning to get nervous. More and more people are finding out about the pg and it would just make it all even more horrendous if I had loads of congrats one week then had to announce the sad/bad news the next. My lower abdomen is definately feeling firmer to the touch so I am hopeful bubba is still growing, but I can't help being scared and anxious all the same.

Hang in there feedmenow - healthy and well, health and well!!

xxx

EJT...Spugs, winky and I are all 12 weeks 2mo...wonder what we were doing that night

feedmenow....how many weeks are you?

MrsMc...YAY for scan!

hello!! Newcomer alert!!!!

Got a BFP last week and currently 5 weeks pg.
Got one dd 15 mths old, but had 1 early mc prior to her arriving. Took over a year to conceive dd, which I know is not really that long but it felt it at the time. This time it happened 'second time lucky'. I am in shock! Obviously v happy to be pg but it just feels TO GOOD TO BE TRUE, after TTC dd.
One of my bf's just had a mmc (twins ) at 8 weeks. I think a combination of these things are making me verrrryyyy nerrrvooouusss!!!!

Isn't it a shame we can't enjoy these first few weeks.

I don't have any symptoms other than fuller boobs. No nausea yet but I guess it's early days. I actually want the symptoms to kick in as a bit of reassurance!!!

I think I am due 5th May. DD was born May 06, it's such a fab time of year to have a baby.....that's why I reaaallllyyy wanna keep this one!!!! (aswell as the obvious reasons!!)

I am so glad I was told about this thread.

Did I just read somewhere on it that risk of mc greatly reduces after week 8?????