Pregnancy anxiety support thread

[Kate3150]

Hey,

I thought it would be nice to set up a group for those suffering with anxiety at whatever stage of pregnancy.
I’m approaching 14 weeks and my anxiety has been up and down, particularly as I had a loss last year.
I’m currently having therapy and trying to stay active. Eating and drinking well...

Any tips/thoughts/rants welcome. xx

[Nikki512]

Thanks for your reply. I’m just blame myself for the loss and worry I’m gonna do something to cause another one. We just told family thought it would be helpful but now I’m worried even more because they are all so excited 🙈 I can’t win in my head at the minute lol
I do have better days but find the weekends the hardest. I’m seeing the Gp on Monday so hoping to talk to her about it more

[Kate3150]

@Nikki512- I’ve been through the exact same as you. Went in to a bit of a meltdown when we told everyone, almost a panick attack as I couldn’t handle the fact everyone knew and the kind of pressure was on me now if that makes sense?!?
Also had a scare this afternoon, had damp knickers at work. Ended up at hospital... turned out to be nothing but I think I’ve got incontinence to deal with now 😢

[Kate3150]

@Nikki512- it will ease as time goes on.. I think if I make it to 35 weeks I’ll breathe a sigh of relief 💜😂

[Nikki512]

Aww no! Bet that was scary. Hopefully you can get your feet up tonight. I’m just trying to take every milestone I can and hope I can settle myself as time goes on x

[Kate3150]

How’s everyone doing???

Weather has been amazing!

My anxiety has been better over the past week, I’m 16 weeks today and bumps getting more prominent.

Looking forward hearing from you all xx

[babybear02]

Im glad I'm not alone, unfortunately I suffer with mental
Health anyway, depression and extreme anxiety. I had a manic period when I found out I was pregnant and came off all my meds. Stupid I know! I have been petrified to take them since. It's been 8 years since I had a baby and tbh never thought I would get the chance again. I suffered so badly with pnd
I'm seeing the midwife for the first time Friday for my booking appointment I'm 10 weeks now. I'm also trying to get in with my doctor straight after to discuss options for medication what will be lesser risk because I can't go on without anything. The problem is my mh is so bad that if anything were to go wrong I would blame myself. It's hard to explain. I'm hoping to find some kind of help Friday between the midwife and gp as it's ruining this magical time for me. I honestly never thought I would pregnant again I just want to enjoy it and for once not let my mh get in the way of my life.

[Kate3150]

@babybear02- mental health problems can the most frustrating, lonely and isolating things in the world!
I wouldn’t wish it on anyone... I had got my anxiety under control but this pregnancy has bought back a lot of feelings from my miscarriage last year and subsequent illness. I’m looking after myself as I know I have a little bubba to care for... and I try to keep positive but some days are hard!!!!! Especially with all these pregnancy hormones as well.
If you ever need to talk please message anytime 💜

[babybear02]

@Kate3150 thank you so much it means a lot I know most of my thoughts are completely irrational but doesn't stop them does it?. Hope that you are doing ok how far along are you? I'm only 10 weeks and feel everything has changed so much my 1st is 8years old happy and healthy no problems in my pregnancy with her etc but I'm scared this time! I'm suppose to be older wiser and experienced but I feel petrified that I won't be able to do it right, hoping that feeling goes away.

[Kate3150]

@babybear02- remember that the irrational thoughts aren’t real. I know they’re scary but don’t give them attention as they don’t deserve it.
I’m 17 weeks on Sunday... I feel time is really dragging and I cannot believe how much I’m in love with this little thing growing inside me lol. I feel so so guilty having anxiety but I’m doing my best and that’s all any of us can do. I just think if I do the basics.. eat, drink, take my vitamins. Then I can relax on that side of things knowing baby is getting nutirients. I always talk to bump and stroke it and it seems to relax me.
I also take comfort in knowing it’s rare for women to not experience ANY stress or anxiety in pregnancy. I mean life in general is no walk in the park xx

[anitagreen]

Hope everyone's well I've been okay the last few weeks but it hit me tonight out of No where my partners not being supportive at all which has pissed me off also. Just keep worrying about things that probably will never ever happen and keep thinking what if this doesn't pass which is silly as I know it will but it doesn't feel that way at the time does it x

[Kate3150]

@anitagreen- How are things with you? How’s the anxiety been?
I’m having yo yo days at the moment, bit up and down. Im sure the hormones are playing a part xx

[MumApr18]

Hi everyone,

Glad to have found this thread! 6 weeks with DC2. My first pregnancy was terrible with anxiety - for no reason really. I went a bit crazy with private scans etc and was eventually induced at 37+5 for reduced movements - I think the hospital could sense my anxiety. Funny as I'm not generally an anxious person but it was just overwhelming.
This time round I'm going to try to be strong and not worry so much. Although I'm starting to think I might have some sort of PTSD over the stress and worry of the last pregnancy.
Those who have had counselling/therapy - was it private or NHS? I'm debating whether or not to mention to the MW during the booking in appt that I may benefit from it as I don't know what's available. I have limited private cover also.

[Kate3150]

@MumApr18- Welcome 💜
Congratulations on your pregnancy! It could well be that you are suffering from a form of PTSD after last pregnancy.
I’m currently having private counselling but maybe worth enquiring on waiting times with the NHS? I would definitely say it’s worth mentioning to midwife xx

[anitagreen]

@Kate3150 hey I'm the same been okay this week though touch wood I think things are becoming to be okay hope yohr well too x

[Kate3150]

@Puglover88@anitagreen@Missmonkeypenny@Jenbo19@Lauraloop1516@cloudy01@Nikki512@babybear02- Hey lovely ladies, just checking in to see how everyone’s doing? Obviously no obligation to respond but if anyone wanted to share how they’re feeling etc thought it would be nice to catch up.
Katie xx

[Kate3150]

Sorry didn’t add everyone correctly last time.....
@anitagreen
@Missmonkeypenny
@Jenbo19
@Lauraloop1516
@cloudy01
@Nikki512
@babybear02
Hope you guys are all doing ok? I don’t think I added all your names properly onto the thread last time. I hope you’re all doing well, cannot believe it was 2 1/2 months ago I set this thread up!!
Also hope everyone’s staying cool this weekend.
Love
Katie 💜

[anitagreen]

Hey @Kate3150 how are you hope you are well, I'm having a baby boy! I've been quite bad with anxiety the last week i feel I'm coming over the overside of it now thank god, feel much more happier and relaxed I think a lot of it is having my two off school for so long and they've been so bad I've been quite stressed, and that always sets the cycle off again. Really hope your okay great to have this thread up again x

[Kate3150]

@anitagreen- so lovely to hear from you!!! I’m also team blue 💙💙💙. I’m so excited to meet him.
Pleased to hear you feel you’re coming out the other side 😊, it can be a very up and down thing. I have some great weeks then not so great but I just ride them out.. that’s all we can do....
I find the heat is a trigger for my anxiety so trying to stay cool over the next few days..
Also- I’m having an elective c section so just getting my head around that. So lovely to hear from you xx

[BexH1]

Hi can I join? I’m a first time pregnancy at 28 weeks. Suffered with anxiety for a long time but has been hard in pregnancy after a calmer time. I see my therapist regularly but it’s nice to hear from other people in the same boat! X

[Kate3150]

@BexH1- Hey, welcome to the thread!
Congratulations on the pregnancy, I’m also a first time Mum so very much going into the unknown.
Please feel free to come on here whenever you like if you’ve had a bad day, week etc.
Do you know what you’re having? X

[BexH1]

Thank you! Definitely all new isn’t it 🙈 when are you due? No we don’t know what we’re having x

[Kate3150]

@BexH1- I’m due on December 16th, but I’m having an elective c section so will most likely be before then. Probably on or around my Birthday lol which is in December.
I just can’t wait for him to be here; it’s like everyday is a new worry. I try and do everything right and the best I can but still fall into that trap of feeling guilty about being over anxious xx

[sodrained]

@Kate3150 Ah that's lovely congratulations everyone I know is having boys this time before with my DD it was all girls! I was convinced it was a boy but still hoped for a girl lol, but I can't complain baby is doing well and that's the same as me with the heat it is a major trigger for me I feel I can't relax, cool down, or calm down even everything feels twice as hard doesn't it!. When are you due now?x

[Kate3150]

@sodrained- Yes you’re so right! I’ve been such a miserable cow today lol. I’m not great with the heat anyway but i just kind of get on with it. I’ve spent most of today laying on the sofa with my belly hanging out 😂.
I’m due on Dec 16th but having an elective c section so will most probably get to meet him the week before then 😬. How about yourself? X

[BexH1]

It is a supposed to be a little cooler here today so hopefully will be better for all!
I’m feeling a little anxious as partner wants to cut the grass and tidy the garden today. I have a fear of toxo! We’ll see how it all goes x