Did you take your partner to your booking in appt?

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I have my booking in appointment with the midwife on Monday morning, she didn't mention bringing my partner but I wondered what others had done?

I did with out first child but now pregnant with my second we didn't bother, it's just paperwork, weighing and blood pressure so quite boring for them to be honest 😅

My husband has only ever come with me to the scans, none of the midwife appts seemed worth his time taking time off work.

Having said that if he doesn't come make sure you have an idea of his family medical history, as you'll have to fill in a form about that.

I didn’t but he came to the scans and a couple of the routine midwife appointments when he could take the time off work. He will also come to the antenatal classes and a first aid course we have booked.

I honestly can’t remember! It was only 3 years ago 😂

Nope. Scans only.

I went alone this time,its mostly her asking you questions.
My husband is just coming to the hospital appoitments just because of work.

Thanks everyone I asked him all about his family medical history so I'll go on my own I think

It's boring, taking dc1 with me livened it up a bit though.

No. Only to scans & the birth.

I didn't. It's just paperwork. Better to save it for scans etc.

Yes he did because he happened to be working from home, other midwife appointments he generally didn't go to, apart from scans.

Some midwives won't allow partners in, or will, but will ask them to step outside for part of the consultation. Part of their role is to enquire about domestic abuse and whether you feel safe in your home.

He insisted on coming to all my appointments, think he wanted to be the pregnant one lol. It's literally paperwork but be sure to know his family health history because that is asked to see if you need to be consultant led etc.

No, I didn’t think it was worth half a day of his leave.

I did as my DH hadn’t been able to be involved in his first DDs midwife appointments due to work although he said very little and I’m not sure how useful it was for either side. Probably the more important ones to make sure he’s there at are the scans, 16 week where you hear baby’s heartbeat and the birth planning one.

Did with my first not with second.

It's basically a game of 20 questions and I knew his answers from the first time so wasn't needed.

No it's the most boring appointment and lasts over an hour! You don't really learn anything. Just make sure you know if immediate family history.

My DH came to mine, he was just as excited as me

He did but only because he was off that day anyway. The rest of the midwife appointments I went on my own. He saved his time for my scans and my obstetrician appointments.

We're very lucky in that my DH works from home and it's very flexible so time off isn't an issue.

Sounds like it's best if it's just me though.

Thanks again everyone

I took him along to my booking appointment, but unfortunately the midwife said he wasn't allowed in, so was a bit of waste of his time coming.

Yep but I wanted his support and to feel part of it. It's just loads of admin and they might ask if he has any genetic disorders but that's it. If he's not there they'll just adk you. If he really wants to come then let him, but he doesn't need to be there if you'd rather save it for the scan.

No. It's neither interesting nor scary so no need. I think it is a bit odd to want someone with you for every appointment although I know people who've taken their mum if partner was at work so I guess they've seen it all!

No, I’d been told it wasn’t necessary and was a bit of a tedious appointment.

He has been to all scans and most of the consultants appointments in both pregnancies.