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Did you take your partner to your booking in appt?

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VapeVamp12 · 26/04/2019 09:51

I have my booking in appointment with the midwife on Monday morning, she didn't mention bringing my partner but I wondered what others had done?

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Shadow1986 · 26/04/2019 21:15

Mine did the first time because he was excited but we soon discovered it was pretty pointless him being there. I’d wait for the scan if I were you.

Thismummyruns · 26/04/2019 21:42

To my first yes but this pregnancy no, it's terribly boring!

EnjoyItAll · 27/04/2019 07:55

My DH came with me. I had to wait over 45 minutes so I was glad of the company! It's our first baby so his coming to any appointment if he was working he would only attend scans. I found it helpful having him there as I struggled to retain all the information

happymummy12345 · 27/04/2019 08:03

Yes. My husband came to my appointments and scans. I didn't need antenatal classes so never bothered with those so cant comment.

Amelia910 · 27/04/2019 08:07

My partner had come to me with everything has helped as he has remembered stuff I forgot etc plus they ask a lot of questions regarding his and his families medical history at the booking appt xx

Buddytheelf85 · 27/04/2019 08:39

No. It’s a really dull appointment - all administrative. Plus they send your partner out for at least some of it anyway because they have to ask you about your relationship (ie to see if you’re at risk of violence).

LadyOfTheFlowers · 27/04/2019 08:42

Scans and birth

Megan2018 · 27/04/2019 08:44

It’s a No from me. It was a very long 2hrs and involved blood tests. DH can’t go near needles. But it would also have been a complete waste of his leave.
He has been to 3 scans (10,12,20). I have more to come plus consultant but not sure he can do all of those as we need the time off after birth and he was only entitled to attend 2 via work.

Covmum83 · 27/04/2019 08:53

My DH came, he wants to try and attend all appointments if he can.

Raisinbrain · 27/04/2019 09:03

Yes

FraggleRocking · 27/04/2019 09:03

Mine did. Seems that is not the norm though and I’ve noticed that from waiting rooms. A lot of people are saying it’s really boring and just admin but I thought it was quite informative. The MW discussed a lot of things for the pregnancy that were useful to know and for us it was better 2 of us absorb it than just me.

JE87 · 27/04/2019 09:52

Mine did but there wasn't really a need!

Whisky2014 · 27/04/2019 09:53

Nope. There's no need for him to be there.

elliejjtiny · 27/04/2019 09:58

He came with ds2 because he was on annual leave anyway but not for the others.

IntoValhalla · 27/04/2019 10:01

I did with my DC1 - midwife didit at my house. Was helpful to have DH there so he could give his family’s medical history.
DC2 and DC3 (current pregnancy) I’ve been to every appointment and scans on my own (usually with 2 toddlers in tow Confused)

fonxey · 27/04/2019 10:25

Yes. He had to take the morning off anyway because we need to take the cats to the cattery.

Also it's our first and i would like moral support and for him to feel involved. It still doesn't feel real to him i think. Well me either i guess. It's just an abstract concept!

redstapler · 27/04/2019 10:35

No, he was at work. Same for all appts and scans.

Celebelly · 27/04/2019 11:19

Mine came to all scans, including our multiple growth scans, and antenatal classes but not midwife appointments. I had a straightforward pregnancy so they were pretty boring - just handing over pee and being measured, and I was in and out in 15 mins. The booking in appointment was just loads of questions to answer, so it wasn't very exciting.

Passthecherrycoke · 27/04/2019 11:21

Yes my husband loves coming to appointments. He doesn’t come to midwife appointments but all the rest Grin

Mintypea5 · 27/04/2019 11:27

My area insists husbands / fathers come. Our booking is 3 hrs tho and they ask them lots of medical details etc just like me.

outsho · 27/04/2019 11:50

I did with our first pregnancy (ended in miscarriage sadly) but not the next two. It’s so boring and he really didn’t need to be there. It’s literally just blood tests and filling out paperwork.

redstapler · 27/04/2019 12:44

@Mintypea5 insists?!

Celebelly · 27/04/2019 12:47

They can't really insist. I wouldn't be asking my partner to take three hours off work to sit answering questions or using his antenatal entitlement for that instead of scans. Also three hours?? What the hell do they ask? Mine was no more than an hour... Three hours is mental. Ain't no one got time for that. Is this in the UK?

Celebelly · 27/04/2019 12:49

Also I knew the answer to all the medical questions for DP, but if I didn't they just said I could ask him and let them know. They were fairly standard stuff that you'll probably know if you've been together a while. They don't need to know about third cousins twice removed.

stucknoue · 27/04/2019 12:56

No, he only came to the u/s with dd1 (missed birth) and the u/s and screening due to possible abnormalities picked up with dd2 (did get to the birth). I don't need handholding to fill in forms and work pays the bills