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Those who waited to find out sex at birth... are you glad you did?

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Leleophants · 25/04/2019 20:24

Desperately want to know but also want to protect it in a way and not having anything judging it. I want everything to be as non-stereotypical as possible!

For those who waited.. were you tempted and was it worth it? :D also did you secretly think you knew?

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GeorgieTheGorgeousGoat · 25/04/2019 20:26

Yes of course! I’ve done both of ways. I guessed correctly with all three of my dc whenever I found out with them.

CIT80 · 25/04/2019 20:26

I had 3 surprises and loved the moments after birth finding out if it was a son or a daughter ! I thought I instinctively knew on all of them and was wrong everytime 😂 I had boy girl boy

Hunkyd0ry · 25/04/2019 20:29

Yes. The moment the midwife lifted the baby and asked “What have you got?” Was so special as I found out for myself.
Pregnant again and although I’m tempted to find out I think we will wait again. I’m just desperate to know!! Yet it was such a moment last time, not sure I’d get that at the scan....

Islaofsilly · 25/04/2019 20:31

I waited and it was SO hard but I am glad I did. As a pp says, that moment of finding out after the birth is priceless. Looking back, it was fairly obviously at the scan that DS was a boy but luckily I was quite clueless and didn’t think anything of it.

dementedma · 25/04/2019 20:31

didn't occur to me to find out first. I have 3 Dcs and guessed wrong every time! More fun finding out on the day

Whisky2014 · 25/04/2019 20:34

I Was always going to wait but someone said to kebthatvafterbtheir lavpurbthey didn't care what it was, they were just exhausted and happy baby was healthy. So i thought that made sense and I found out and I'm glad I did because I can now think of him and his name :)

Whisky2014 · 25/04/2019 20:36

kebthatvafterbtheir lavpurbthey wow what was my phone thinking?!
Should read "that after labour they didn't care*

Cakemadeoffruit · 25/04/2019 20:36

Did it both ways, but finding out at birth was much more fun. Opted for finding out with the second as we didn't have the luxury of time as we did with the first.

pallisers · 25/04/2019 20:37

I didn't find out with my first and I kind of regretted it coming up to the date - I didn't care what I had so why not know? Didn't find out with my second because I desperately wanted a girl but knew I wouldn't be disappointed with an actual boy who was just born (it was a girl). Found out with my third and didn't regret it.

The midwives told me they love women who haven't found out because then someone gets to announce it. This was all years ago though.

Cynara · 25/04/2019 20:39

I waited until the birth because I felt the same as you: I thought that it was more respectful in a way to leave the baby to get on with developing and growing in peace without its parents and every other Tom, Dick and Harry making assumptions about it before it was even aware of itself (I know how mad that sounds. I've been told many times. Still believe it to be true though). As it turned out, I knew that my baby would be a boy with total conviction by about the 18 week mark. He was, and I can't imagine the shock I'd have felt if I'd had a girl! I was absolutely certain he was a he.

JuniLoolaPalooza · 25/04/2019 20:43

I waited with both of mine and I'm glad I did. I got to know both of them as individuals without imposing any gender/sex stereotypes on them.

Also, when you're in labour and they go 'do you know if it's a girl or a boy?' in a bored way and you say 'we're having a surprise' everyone perks up and says how lovely it is.

duvetfan · 25/04/2019 20:43

I waited with both DCs. Someone ince said to me that it was the only true surprise on life and I liked that idea (even if not convinced it is true). I guessed correctly both times but I'm so glad I didn't find out before hand.

fixyourgardengate · 25/04/2019 20:43

We didn't find out with either of ours, made a short list of names both male and female and waited to meet our baby before making a final choice.

DS was not a surprise (DH side of the family is very male dominated )

DD was a huge surprise. I was convinced she would be a he, and in fact hadn't really put much thought into girls names at all!

duvetfan · 25/04/2019 20:44

Sorry for all the typos. Its been that sort of day...

codenameduchess · 25/04/2019 20:45

I waited with dc1, and that moment I heard 'it's a girl' was amazing. I was so happy we waited! But we were almost immediately inundated with pink....

Pregnant again and we will find out, mostly for practical reasons but we have dd and she really wants a sister so I think knowing will help her either way and help her feel involved.

Thankssomuch · 25/04/2019 20:47

I waited with all three of mine. Absolutely loved it that way and wouldn’t have changed a thing!

MiniMum97 · 25/04/2019 20:48

No I am not glad I did. The first two things I felt after giving birth were relief it was over and then slight disappointment it was a boy. I was in a bit of a state at the time but wish I had known in advance to avoid that feeling.

bibbitybobbityyhat · 25/04/2019 20:50

Yes, very glad I waited for the surprise.

Bluebelltulip · 25/04/2019 20:50

I waited with my 2 and would do it again. I had absolutely no idea with either of them.

TidaQuel · 25/04/2019 20:52

Totally loved having a surprise each time with mine and would always choose not to find out if I were to have any more. Best surprise ever.

Twixes · 25/04/2019 20:52

It's a 'surprise' regardless of when you find out.

Dinosauratemydaffodils · 25/04/2019 20:54

I've done both.

Dc1 we had a private scan to find out (they don't tell you here) and due to the circumstances of his arrival, it was absolutely the right thing to do with hindsight.

Dc2 we found out when she came out of me and that was absolutely perfect.

Both times I had the sex wrong.

dontticklethetoad · 25/04/2019 20:57

I found out with dc1 but not with 2 and 3.
Having it as a surprise totally changed each labour for me. It gave me more focus as I was so desperate to find out
As it happened, it was quite a few minutes after they were born each time that I remembered to have a look and see what we had.

I would definitely say it's worth the wait. You don't get many nice surprises in life.

DialANumber · 25/04/2019 20:58

We didn't find out with any of ours and was so glad each time! It was so good to have no preconceived ideas and with dc3, dd2 was adament she was having a sister and I'm sure would have loudly voiced her disappointment if told we were having a boy, which would have been upsetting. As it was, she found out she had a brother at the same time as meeting him and was nothing but thrilled - much nicer memories.

NameChangedNoImagination · 25/04/2019 21:03

I had 1 dream my DD was a boy and 5 that she was a girl so I was desperate to find out if I was right so found out at the scan. It helped me to bond really as we knew her name from quite early so it was like we already knew her, just waiting for her to come.

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