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BFP - Due Jan 2020

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CAC5 · 25/04/2019 18:59

Hi ladies,
Excited to say that today I got my BFP and am due 1st January 2020!
This will be my third baby but my partners first. I have two children aged 9 & 7 from a previous relationship.
Anyone else due around New Year? Sticky beans to all! 😀💗💙

BFP - Due Jan 2020
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dumdumdeedum · 09/05/2019 08:22

Sorry about your loss @KMic did they tell you how far along you were when your last pregnancy stopped developing at your scan ? I had a miscarriage a lot later than when it stopped, so I guess that is a MMC due to the long gap between?! But I didn't find out at a scan. I did have a bleed in the end. I was getting close to my 12 week scan date and it's hard as you think your out of the woods by then!

I'm trying to be positive for this pregnancy, but I suppose it's a self protection thing to try to not get too excited. Even my DH who always says I worry too much, is being much more cautious this time.

I've only told a few people in Real life about my miscarriage. At the time it went on for a few weeks and I was too drained and emotional to talk about it. Plus it felt an awkward thing to say if someone asked how I was! I could say now it's 6 months later.

Ironically I found out I was pregnant this time very close to my last pregnancy due date.

Fingers crossed for us all.

KMic · 09/05/2019 08:47

@dumdumdeedum they couldn't be sure but they thought it was around 7-8 weeks when it had stopped developing. My body just didn't realise so I still had to enjoy the MS, sore breasts, tiredness etc. At the time I naively assumes because my symptoms were there I was ok. (I don't want to worry anyone with this, it's not overly common as most people do get some sort of sign eventually) - I had to go in to hospital to have it medically removed and then bled for around 6 weeks! ... I don't wish to take away from any form of MC at all, all losses are so tough as we can't help but get carried away. I'd just never even heard of an MMC so was more in shock about it for a while!

Like you say though, total positive thoughts this time round! Every pregnancy is different and I have high hopes that all will be grand. I'm really sorry for your loss also, it's a tough old time, and like you say hard to talk about at the time. I was very lucky and had a great support system.

Sticky babies all round this time!!!! (I did do another test this morning just to be sure haha) xx

Kinsters · 09/05/2019 09:10

Yes last pregnancy I spent ages looking at those stats for risk of miscarriage and I felt ok because the percentage was so low. But it still happened and it sucks.

I'm feeling ok about this one but I do think its fate is probably already decided so there's no point looking at general statistics. If that makes sense! I was never good with statistics so that's probably the wrong way of thinking about it.

bluemarie87 · 09/05/2019 09:13

I am currently out on holiday in Egypt. I am late for my period by 4 days now. The test is an Egyptian brand so no idea how reliable. Looks quite faint! What do we think?

BFP - Due Jan 2020
KMic · 09/05/2019 09:13

@Kinsters ... what will be will be! I totally agree! :)

Kinsters · 09/05/2019 09:29

That's not faint bluemarie87! Congratulations!

Yes KMic, that's what I'm trying to tell myself! I'm trying not to be too negative about this pregnancy, just more aware it could go wrong than I was before.

bluemarie87 · 09/05/2019 09:44

I just thought with it not being the same colour as the other line it was pink! Glad I've laid off the cocktails now but I was drinking them at the beginning of the holiday Shock

KMic · 09/05/2019 09:46

@Kinsters .. right there with you! :) We'll help each other through! :D x

dumdumdeedum · 09/05/2019 09:47

@Kinsters I did that too.

@KMic I totally agree, we can't do anything to change it so, just keep on keeping on.

@bluemarie87 I would say that's a positive. Enjoy your hols ! 🐫

Mumof4andahalf · 09/05/2019 16:59

@bluemarie87
Def a positive.... congrats!

primarywoodle · 09/05/2019 17:01

"Its the best shit place to be in"

It is just a waiting game but overwhelmingly it has a happy ending. If youve been in the heartbreaking position of living through the worst then its scary but youre more likely to have a healthy baby born than if you werent pregnant at all!

(This is what i say to myself every morning 😂)

McHelenz · 09/05/2019 17:15

No tests in, very anxious. Pee'd on an OPK 😂. I'm officially mental.

SleepingStandingUp · 09/05/2019 18:35

When are people telling?
My sister made a jokey comment cos I went really nauseous and I didn't hide my smile quick enough, and I had to tell nursery because of a trip to the farm but otherwise we're waiting til the end of the month

Avocuddles · 09/05/2019 19:05

@SleepingStandingUp how far along will you be then?
We've got a family trip away at the start of June, I'd usually be knocking back the wines so will have to tell them then I think! Not certain on my dates due to irregular cycle but think I'll be 8-9 weeks then. I've booked an early scan for June 2nd to find out for sure though!

SleepingStandingUp · 09/05/2019 19:10

Only 7 weeks. But I'm having a scan the week before. And just parents and siblings. My sis gets married a few days later so like you people will notice if I'm not drinking lol

McHelenz · 09/05/2019 20:14

@sleepingstandingup I've told a couple of close friends but that's it. I went out for afternoon tea with my mum yesterday and it raised a few eyebrows me having decaf and yawning all afternoon! Im hoping I can get to 12 weeks without having to say anything - but I guess it depends on the scan appointment and work.

SleepingStandingUp · 09/05/2019 20:23

I'm desperate to tell my BF!

Mumof4andahalf · 09/05/2019 20:45

I've told no one! Not my partner, friends or family

dottyrobin · 09/05/2019 21:12

I've only told my DH, planning on not telling people until at least June - unless the symptoms become more obvious sooner! I spoke to a midwife on the phone today and she wants to book my 12 week scan beginning of July.

dumdumdeedum · 09/05/2019 22:08

@Mumof4andahalf why not your partner? Although for my DS, I didn't tell my husband for a week. I was in shock. I did then take a test with him when I was a week late for my period Wink

Mumof4andahalf · 10/05/2019 06:11

@dumdumdeedum I will tell him at the weekend, we're going out for dinner and will be just us, must admit it's been hard keeping it quiet!

Kinsters · 10/05/2019 06:32

DH knows and I've told my sister as well. Haven't told anyone else yet though. I think we'll probably wait until the 12 week scan although we may tell FIL if everything looks ok at the 7 week scan (we see him pretty much everyday and DH works with him so if I needed time off for a miscarriage again he'd definitely know about it).

Avocuddles · 10/05/2019 08:22

@Mumof4andahalf that will be a dinner to remember for your partner!

Caved in and used my final clearblue this morning and was pleased to see that it had stepped on to 2-3 wks pregnant. That'll be it for me now I think - I'll be bankrupt if I keep buying them!

Went to my GP this morning to book my initial midwife appointment which is now in the diary for 30th May when I'll be somewhere between 7 and 9 weeks. I've been referred on to the hospital to be seen urgently by the haematology department though due to my history of blood clots, its a bit scary but I've been fine for ten years now so hopefully all will be fine...

SleepingStandingUp · 10/05/2019 08:52

I've not got booking in till June 4th as it would have been on DS's birthday but I have to go to maternity next week's for bloods.

I told DH by shoving the pee stick in the teabag jar 🤣

McHelenz · 10/05/2019 09:03

@sleepingstandingup I'm going on the 11th June. Not sure I'm patient enough for this!

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