Can I really be off by 3-4 weeks??

[Help1983uk]

So, I need some help / positivity, according to my last menstrual bleed (15th Jan was my first day), I'm apparently 11 weeks, but I paid for a private scan on Saturday and after much searching (the gestational sac looked empty at first, she had to press hard and up) she seen a yolk sac but foetus was positioned difficulty. The sonographer said that it looks like I'm around 6 weeks pregnant not 10, and that it is showing a pregnancy is happening and they'd like to check again in 1 week. Could she actually be right? Or could this be a silent miscarriage? I've had no bleeding, my nausea has settled the past few days but my breasts are still tender. I've got my nhs scan due then on April 11th as well. Can my dates be that much off or does it sound like the yolk sac and foetus stopped early on?
She did say dates are wrong all the time, but I'm just thinking the worst

Oh @VenusStarr hope you're okay? From what I've read, isn't it red blood which is concerning? Sometimes brown is just old blood.
They'll def see you at your hospital if you're spotting - have you been?
I'm okay today, I'm trying to be more positive. Nothing more I can do x

I was there on Friday and back next Wednesday @Help1983uk. I don't think they'll see me earlier. Like you say there's not much we can do other than hope and keep distracted. Im less emotional today so hopefully by my next scan I'll have come to terms with it x

Hope you get some clarity today ar your scan @Help1983uk. I'm pretty sure it's over for me as the bleeding ramped up on Thursday but will get confirmation at my scan on Wednesday. Let me know how you get on x

Hi @VenusStarr really sorry to hear that, hope you're okay? Still remember not to give up hope until you 100% know.
Scan is in 2 hours, so so nervous. Yeah I'll let you know the outcome x

I'm OK thank you @Help1983uk I'll be thinking of you x

@VenusStarr Not looking like great news. So this time around they managed to give me measurements, the fetal pole was measuring at 6mm which she said is 6 weeks 4 days, this is an ever so slight increase to last week, but they didn't have exact measurements back then. After much pushing, she finally told me the gesational sac looked around 11 weeks, but that size isn't an accurate thing to look at, the 3 measurements for this were 4.57cm, 3.17cm and 4.17cm. Strangely no yolk could be seen this time. She has got me an appointment at the early pregnancy unit for Tuesday, where she said they'll do internal scans. I have been told to maybe prepare for the worst but to also pray for a heartbeat. I'm definitely thinking the worst now x

Oh I'm sorry you didn't get better news today @Help1983uk. I think an internal scan will give you more concrete detail. Keeping my fingers crossed for you. Let me know how Tuesday goes x

OP I am so sorry you are going through this mental torture. I had a similar thing last may and it didn't turn out well for me. I knew my dates were right and had to wait a week to see if there was any growth which unfortunately there wasnt.

These next few days are going to seem like an eternity but my advice is to take it one day at a time. Remain hopeful and try and keep yourself occupied. I really do feel for you. Sending hugs xxx

Have you

Thinking of you today @Help1983uk x

Thanks @Mondayblues7

@VenusStarr it's basically over, had the TVS measured at just 6 weeks 5 days, and no heartbeat. I've got a hospital bed booked at the hospital next Tuesday where they'll give me misoprostol to start a natural miscarriage. Hope all works out okay for you tomorrow xxx

I'm really sorry to hear that @Help1983uk make sure you get lots of rest. Don't put too much pressure on yourself. I'm pretty sure it's over for me too. Take care xx

@VenusStarr let me know how things go for you xxx

I am so sorry to hear this OP. I don't quite no what to say. Be kind to yourself this next week. You may feel as though you are in limbo, but it is important to listen to your body and follow what it wants you to do.

I am sending you strength love and light to you xx

Hi @Help1983uk miscarriage confirmed as complete today. I'm sorry this has happened to us both :( hope you're OK xx

@VenusStarr I'm so sorry. Wishing you all the best for the future. I want to get my process going now, the waiting to have the tablets next week is just haunting xxx

The waiting is the worst @Help1983uk, I felt exactly the same. I've literally done nothing some days, just watched netflix and rested, other days I've been able to get out for an hour. It's helped not having to do things so my only advice is if you don't feel up to it don't do it. And allow yourself to cry, I found I've cried out of the blue and other times I feel OK. It's such an unknown, crappy time. Sending love 💜 xx

@VenusStarr yep I've been exactly like that, okay 1 minute then crying the next. I went into work today to keep myself busy, which definately helped. Really appreciate your kind words and hoping we never have to go through this again xxx

Hope you're OK @Help1983uk, been thinking about you xx

Aww thanks @VenusStarr I'm okay-ish. Still get my moments, but time will heal I guess. Still counting down until Tuesday when I think I'll get some closure.
How have you been? Xx

Glad you're not too bad @Help1983uk, hoping Tuesday comes round quickly for you. I'm back at work, only managed half days. Not had a brilliant day today, just found myself very emotional. We've been given the go ahead to try again by my gynecologist, just in two minds whether to actively try xx

this happened to me before too, I should have been 8 weeks and they kept telling me the same I was 5-6 weeks, basically the heart beat continued for week 8 but it wasn’t growing, I miscarried. I hope you are okay x

@VenusStarr if you're in the right mind frame, then I say yes, try again, don't let this affect what will most likely be a happy ending. I've decided that I want to try again after I have the meds. I'm also going to book a holiday and just try to take some pressure off x
@Mommaof2x life just feels so cruel at times doesn't it. I've read lots of positive stories afterwards, so hopefully I'll be able to post mine too x

To be honest, when it happened to me the next month I got pregnant again, my DD, just happened because I was so fertile after the miscarriage , hang in there... my dd wouldn’t be here if I hadn’t miscarried. I feel she was the one meant to be and a healthy embryo, so don’t worry i’m sure your baby is waiting for you and will come along soon

Thanks @Help1983uk. I keep changing everyday. Wasn't too bad over the weekend but crashed today 😢 got sent home from work. I don't think I want the added pressure of trying but we won't be preventing either. Really hope we can share our success stories too. X

That's whats helping me @Mommaof2x, hoping that I will get to take home my baby one day. Glad you have your DD :)

Hope you got on OK yesterday @Help1983uk ❤️