Due November 2019 Thread 3

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Since we're about to fill up the other.

@Hayley89 That's excellent news about your scan. Did you get a new due date with the measurements or is that where you should be?

@cakeordeath89 yes! I'm right in the struggle boat too. I feel like I'm supposed to be happy every second (which I am!) but that's overridden by everything else which feels a lot stronger. I am a very anxious person and I know I'm higher risk for pregnancy related depression and anxiety so I'm worrying about that already. The first 2 weeks after I found out were the worst. I was in a state of shock and panic but after I told someone it felt like SUCH a relief. Since then the major panic has eased slightly but I still get days where I know I'm just horrible to be around either snappy or crying! My OH has been great but he's not overly emotional and he just doesn't get it. For him nothing really changed until we saw the heartbeat yesterday. He can't feel what I do and it's hard to properly explain how I feel (apparently "like sh*t" doesn't explain much!)
Have you got someone you can talk to? Even if it's a colleague who has been through it before? From what I've read everywhere it's totally normal to feel down and frightened or to panic about a lot of things all at once!!

@Pollypocket5 she said the 11th based on the measurement but she said to wait officially until the dating scan at week 12 as the baby is big enough to get a more accurate estimate. I'm really pleased with that though as it puts me around the 8 week mark which is what I was going by already 😊

@dottydally Thank you. It is reassuring to know that I'm not the only one although I wouldn't wish it on anyone.
I understand what you mean about getting yourself mentally prepared. I don't think I thought about being successful and actually getting pregnant? It was always a hypothetical in my head and to be honest, even now it stills feels that way - still waiting to be told no actually, you've got it wrong.
I feel bad mentioned my OH like he's done something wrong. I just don't think I've adjusted to the hormonal changes. I'm not normally a crier apart from specific times of the month but honestly, I could cry at any minute. I got so mad in the office this morning because the girls wanted to kill a wasp and I'd had a wasp keeping me company yesterday, sat on my desk and it honestly felt like a personal affront. I literally could have pushed them out of the way to protect a damn wasp and I'm normally the quiet one in the office!
Got my early scan on Saturday and my first midwife app on the 15th - it's an evening appointment and Mondays are busy at work so hopefully it will go quick. Think I'll be approx 9 weeks by then.

@Hayley89 Sorry to hear that you're struggling too. I know what you mean about being anxiety prone anyway. I've had spells over the years but up until recently, I've been on a pretty even keel. I found that the first week was awful but after I got my letter from the midwife it seemed to calm me down because I know I can't do much until then.

The current anxiety just feels different, it's like it's suddenly dawned on me that for the next 7/8 months I'm just not going to be in control of the way I feel. I'm not good with nausea, I'd actually much rather just be sick and get it out of the way but unfortunately, doesn't seem to work like that - I'm never actually sick, just get the horrible feeling!

Every time I try to talk to my other half about the way I'm feeling, the conversation always seems to turn to his class/school - I'm not sure how he does it? He's really not good with sick anyway, so I'm trying really hard not to talk to him about that as I'd end up playing nurse to his nerves instead.

I think after the early scan I may consider telling one friend, just so I have somebody but to be honest, I don't really have a best friend as I'm quiet.

@Pollypocket5 Sorry to hear you're struggling with emotions too. I'm so grateful to this thread and group of lovely people as it does reassure me that I'm not alone and have somebody to talk to.

Lovely to hear that you have a countdown calendar, it must be exciting to be close to your 12 week scan.

My sister-in-Law was never fond of needles but as she had to have so many throughout the pregnancy with my niece it almost meant she overcame it due to pure necessity, so hopefully that might happen to you? Fingers crossed!

@peaky297 I never got past 2-3 with my DS2 who's a very healthy 9 month old! Tbh I think those CB weeks tests do so much more harm than good. They're not reliable and cause so much panic for ladies.

I struggle a bit emotionally. I don't think my hormones are back to normal from
DS2 tbh and I've started back at work today from maternity leave so I've been emotional and stressed over that but I find I'm very up and down!

@Pollypocket5 I was really superstitious about buying stuff with DS2 because we had so many bleeds and problems. Tho tome we don't have much to buy as he's only 9 months so have all his stuff but if I see things on offer we need I'll be getting them. Hoping a sale will happen soon so I can get a double buggy

@Mintypea5 I'm hoping you're first day back at work is going well.

Yes I'm hoping to get some winter bits in the sale as the summer is now coming but it's that whole don't buy anything until you've passed the 12 weeks. I just can't help myself. It keeps me feeling positive.

@cakeordeath89 I wouldn't say I was close still got 34 days to go but everyday is a day closer I guess.

That's what I'm hoping but I know the first couple of needles are just going to push my anxiety through the roof.

@Lozzlepop Thankyou! It was incredible. I think it'll be a big bugger ( like daddy!) there is a good foot height difference between us. My mum was comparing scans with my sister in law (due summer) and looks tiny compared to mine from early scans both the same time. I think her boy was measuring 15mm and she got pushed forward a week at her 12 week scan, ours is 19.6 so we'll see! Telling people was amazing. You'll absolutely love it!

congratulations everyone
I was wondering will most of you opt for a combined screening at your dating scan or would go with only the basic dating scan?
The midwifes give the option on the first meet if you want to have a combined one.

What is a combined screening??

@worriedmomtobe1 combined screening for me as I like to be prepared

@Pollypocket5 it wasn't toooo bad. I was pretty nervous going back but I saw lots of friendly faces so feel better. I like buying things too TBH I think I was so worried and superstitious last time it ruined my whole pregnancy. I'm trying to be more relaxed this time.

Had my booking in appointment today with the midwife 😊 she did say at one point 'you don't really seem like you believe you're having a baby' 😂 sums it up really!

She didn't really listen to me when I said I was having long cycles before conceiving so I'm told I'm 11 weeks (I'm definitely not) and will have my 12 week scan next week! Bit bizarre but she said if I'm right and they can't do the nuchal fold test then they'll bring me back in two weeks later, so freebie scan I guess!

@thumper59 yay so glad your scan went well!!! 🥰

Those of you who have had your booking in appointment, what to I need to take with me or have prepared? I literally have no idea! Was thinking of taking some questions to ask midwife but can’t think of anything :-/

@acatcalledgary the only decision you need to have made is what kind of screening you want to have. The rest is just the medical history of you and your partner and blood/urine samples.

Do you have a choice of hospitals near you? We only have one so we didn't need to think about it, but other people have more of a choice - hospitals, birthing centres etc and then there's always the option of a home birth.

@nofunkingworriesmate the midwife asks that do you want the scan alone or if you want to test for down syndrome which happens via a blood test on the same day of the scanning if you opt for it.
It gives you a probability like low or high which can make you anxious probably...

I think I will be going for combined screening. One of my cousin's has down syndrome so I think I would like to be prepared. I believe my brother and sister-in-law had the test when they were expecting my niece as I think there's a higher risk.

Had another scan with my consultant today. 10wks and 4 days so growing on track from each scan. I've finally been put on the system for 12 week scan date and booking app so will expect them through soon. Was amazing the difference 2 weeks makes. Baby had both hands under its chin was really cute to see. Hope everyone is doing ok today. I'm so tired but have to go and see a James Morrison concert with the hubby. Wonder if I can have a little nap while I am there

@thumper59 I bet it was ❤️Oh yes I have this fear too, I am 5'4" and DP is 6'5" 🙈I may have a toddler coming out of me lol! I actually can't wait I think my folks will be super excited as this is their first grandchild- the OHs sister has 2 little ones and she is desperate for them to have cousins so think everyone is going to be thrilled!

@OhMarnie oh thats so exciting that you are getting a scan next week 🙂how long did the appointment take? Do they ask you lots of questions?

This maybe a stupid question but is the blood test just like a normal blood test?

In terms of medical history what do they need to know? I've never had to do any of this before.

@Chesmum2019 that sounds amazing! Super cute. I’m really pleased for you x

@LittleAndOften thanks for the heads up. So obviously we are supposed to research birthing methods before we go? How am I supposed to know if I want a home birth?! Really hope my midwife is good and will put up with me, I feel so clueless lol.

@acatcalledgary we had no clue with our first and were taken aback that we were expected to decide there and then! Having said that, no one can stop you changing your mind - even about the scan - so I wouldn't worry if you're unsure. It's a bit of a daft system where you're expected to know stuff automatically.

My first midwife was useless and "forgot" to see me between weeks 12 and 24!
I requested someone else this time.

Guys I’m so worried, I had some cramps last night and went to bed early then this morning a bit of brown discharge. Now I’ve got blood like I’ve started my period and cramps are more painful