Anxiety prior to 12 week scan next week

[Babycakes1989]

Hello ladies, guess I’m just after reassurance, postive stories or just a general hand hold. I had a missed miscarriage last year and found out at my 12 week scan that the pregnancy had not got further than the later part of 8 weeks. This time around I have had an early private 9 week reassurance scan that showed a lovely heartbeat. I balled my eyes out but I knew it was only temporary reassurance. Now the big one is approaching the sick anxious feeling has set in and I’m just praying I don’t get bad news again. I still feel tired, bloated, crazy dreams etc etc but I’m just so scared!! It’s also my 30th birthday 3 days after and I don’t want my whole birthday ruined 😢 xx

I had a MMC at 12 weeks last year, baby had made it to 8 weeks, I got pregnant again in October last year and am now 20+4 and had my 20 week scan yesterday and our little girl is looking perfect - I had some bleeding early on in this pregnancy and saw a lovely heartbeat at 7+3 but like you I wasn't reassured for long! We had our 12 week scan on new year's eve which was terrifying, my heart was in my throat until she said 'there's baby' - we were a bit early for the nuchal fold measurement so had another scan 2 weeks later and I was just as anxious then, same when we decided to go for a gender scan at 18 weeks, and before my 20 week scan... So basically what I'm saying is the whole thing is stressful and no matter what I did I couldn't reassure myself, but after the scan yesterday I am finally starting to accept the odds are hugely in my favour! Hand hold for you and hopefully you can take something positive from our similar stories X

Thank you so much 😘 what a lovely rainbow story! A lot of people have said that it’s also more reassuring when you start to feel them moving about in there xx

I absolutely hear you. I had a missed MC at 10.6 and it was so awful.

When I got pregnant again after 3 long years I could not get excited. I had a private scan too (at 8 weeks) and saw the heartbeat. The 4 intervening weeks were an absolute mental torture. I ended up cancelling a mini break that was booked in that period as I couldn't deal with thr possibility I'd mc while out of the country.

All was well in the end and I was in absolute floods of tears seeing DD bouncing around on my 12 week scab.

I'm writing this while my nearly 2 year old DD is snoring gently next to me for her afternoon nap.

Fingers crossed and stay strong. Keep busy and see friends to keep your mind off it, hard as it is.

Fingers crossed for you

*scan

I've had 4 previous miscarriage's one being a missed miscarriage. This week I had my 12 week scan and I cried the whole way there thinking the worst had already happened. There was no need for all the worry as within seconds I looked up at the screen and there was one very wiggly baby with a nice strong heart beat. Best of luck with your scan 😊

I've not had a mc but am very anxious anyway. You always know that it's possible and having had a lot of friends who have had bad experiences it's always on my mind. We had an early scan at 7+5 but there's still 2 weeks to go until my 12 week scan and although there's no reason why I should think it's going to be bad news, I'm constantly preparing for it.
I really hope that you get good news as the chances of bad news are relatively small.

I pretty much had the exact same as you last year.

Fell pregnant again, bled for a week at week 5/6 was seen my EPU for early scan at 8 weeks. Saw heartbeat and burst into tears too.

Was dreading my 12 week, but everything is looking great and measuring correct.

It's naturally for you to feel this way, just have faith in your body and try and keep busy until you need to actually go!

All the best OP XX

Thank you for all your lovely comments 😘 am I right in thinking that a ‘silent miscarriage’ is also quite uncommon in comparrison to a natural miscarriage? Hopefully that means my chances are good for this pregnancy 🤞🏻 If it’s good news Wednesday then I can finally maybe start enjoying this pregnancy. I find it hard to talk about and i get confused and annoyed when people I’ve told get excited for me and talk about the future when I’m not at the point in my head yet. I will look forward to the day I can finally accept and not have to pass the baby sections in shops without holding my breath and staring at the floor, thank you all again xxxxx

I had a silent miscarriage, I think they are more common than we think, they just don't get spoken about. I was naive enough to think when you had a miscarriage you bled loads and that was it. I had a tiny bit of spotting at 12 weeks but baby had stopped at 7 weeks.

I really empathise with you, I know the feeling of friends and family wanting to go ahead and start talking about prams and nurseries but until I saw 12 week scan I wasn't having any of it. Still not to be honest. The only thing I have bought so far is 2 tiny hats.

Here for you to sound off anything xx

Ahh I have found my thread!

@Babycakes1989 I too had a mmc discovered at 12 week scan last year and am now 10 weeks pregnant again, so can empathise with how you feel.

Good luck with your scan. Midwife told me before that mmc are not common, so to have two would be very rare indeed (that's what I'm telling myself)

Sending positivity your way and hoping you get the best news at the scan xxx

Thanks so much ladies 😘 I will keep you all updated. I’m sleeping disgusting amounts so hoping that’s a sign 😂 I started feeling better at 8/9 weeks last time whereas this time I feel worse every day it seems. Wishing you all the luck in the world too. Rainbow babies please 💖🌈xxx

@Babycakes1989 thinking of you today, hope all goes well! We got our scan date and it's 2 weeks today. Hope your scan went well xx

Thanks so much miss rose! Anxiously waiting around as it’s not until 5:45! Trying to keep distracted! Glad that you now have your scan date 😘 it will come round quick don’t worry! 🌈🌈 xx

@Babycakes1989 ooh that's a late appointment! I'm glad to have it too, hopefully the wait passes quickly 🤞xxx

Hi Babycakes1989,
I had a mc last year and am now awaiting my 12 week scan next week. I am also feeling very anxious even though I have had a lot of nausea and sickness. I had an early scan at 8 weeks and everything was good with a nice strong heartbeat.
I don't think anything can take the worry away. Just try to think as positively as possible and enjoy the moment.
Please let us know how you get on.

I hope everything went well for you? I had an mmc which was discovered at the 12 week scan and now I'm 12 weeks pregnant again and waiting for my scan (Monday) and feeling exactly the same xxxx

Hi ladies! What an evening. Here is my little babba looking perky and well! Was thinking I was going to be 12 weeks this Saturday but they dated me at 12 weeks 3 days. I’m so so so so happy I could burst! Good luck to you all too and please keep me updated too on here 😘🌈 keep the rainbow babes coming xxx

@Babycakes1989 I've been waiting for your post!! I'm so so happy for you, I bet it was such a lovely experience seeing your baby on the screen healthy and well. So nice to hear a positive story, you've given me hope that my scan too might just be okay 🤞 xxx

Miss rose it will be okay not long now 😘🌈 they reassure you as soon as you lay down & I found that really comforting. I can’t wait to hear all about yours. Please keep me posted!! Xx

Ahh @Babycakes1989 fantastic news! So happy to hear all went well! 🎉

@Babycakes1989 ahh I'm so happy for you! I remember us talking weeks ago and I'm so glad your scan went well! ❤️ yes I will definitely keep you posted on how mine goes, I feel anxious but excited at the same time xx

Babycakes1989 fantastic news!!! So happy for you
Fingers crossed for everyone else waiting for their 12 week scan x

Yay! What a lovely update. Enjoy your pregnancy

Thank you sooo much for letting us know, I saw the notification that your commented on here whilst I was at work and really wanted to check!! I'm so glad everything has gone well for you, makes me feel better about mine on Monday now 😊🌈 I am soo happy for you xxxx

Hope everything goes well for you @Kej13 please let us know how is goes 🌈