October 2019 thread 2

[Secretlifeofme]

Hi @CowBrow and everyone, thought I would start a new thread since the old one has filled up and I can't find another! If there is one and I've missed it, let me know how's everyone doing?

@Frizzy1986 and @Doop I've barely achieved a thing today other than sleep..... thankfully I'm off tomorrow, but on training Tuesday and have to get the bus there- really dreading it as just feel sick, tired and no motivation whatsoever at the moment.

I have been the same today @Frizzy1986 and @Doop I'm full of a cold and it's a major effort to do anything. DH took the girls to his parents all day and I had a 3 hour nap
Changed the bed and put some washing on and all I could do then was lie in the sofa...
I know my iron levels are low as they tested at first appointment last week so I've been taking iron supplements but doesn't seem to be doing much yet

I think its hard not feeling your productive self! Im quite career driven and work at full speed. Weeks 6-8 were horrendous for me. Tears, nausea, illness, generally feeling low. Im 9 weeks today and am feeling a little better. Crumpets have been a useful food. Randomly, Ive wanted lots of tropical flavoured fruit juice and fresh pineapple! Work is so hard on a day by day basis. I think Im just going to set myself small targets to achieve. Today I did some washing, tidied up, saw my niece and nephew and slept. Thats enough. I think we all just need to be reminded sometimes we are growing a tiny human, this is going to make us tired. I’m still realising this!

On a different note had my booking in appointment. All went well. 12 weeks scan booked for April 9th when Ill be 12+3. My nan, mums mum, had severe pre-eclampsia so much so she nearly lost her life and didn’t have any more children after my mum. Although my mum didn’t have it with my sister or I, I am deemed high risk so have a seperate appt with a consultant. Anyone else have experience of this?

God, what would I do without you lot? Honestly, you are the best. I think you're all right- I'm over thinking.

@womaninkent thank you SO much for sharing your pic. This is very like mine. I felt like everyone else's babies were filling their womb more in the pics than mine seemed to if that makes sense.
I realise how silly I'm being when I'm measuring a week further than my LMP...

Jays they're forever changing!! 🙄😐
Shouldn't complain on this particular change though- thanks for that @Rememberallball

@doop

Just to say welcome. This was a brave post to write and people with all kinds of emotions and situations are welcome! I am sure we will all go through ups and downs in the next few months and its good to have different people.

I am happy to have concieve so quickly but like you feel shocked and under prepared and have moments of "oh my god what have I done to my lovely life".

Been soo tired this weekend I've done almost nothing today except cook food I fancy eating this week! Hopefully my appetite doesn't change!

Anyone got any experience of trying to bring scan forward? I have midwife appointment this Friday (10+5 by then) but I'm away on a school trip and then at my sisters wedding all of week 13+14. I want my scan in the right time slot for screening and I think this has to be done before week 14?

Any who has had their booking appointment, did u get your bounty pack?

@Claireb2203, yes I got mine at my booking appointment this week - not that it was really worth the wait. It had a few advertising leaflets, a biro, 7 day supply of pregnaxare tablets and a book called “You and Your Pregnancy” all in a Velcro sealed plastic wallet.

I also picked up my Emma’s Diary packs from Argos the other day (Mum to Be, Bump to Baby and New Family) all 3 had the same pile of leaflets advertising such lovely things as HelloFresh boxes; Graze boxes; a company that will store stem cells; also an offer for Pregnacare (3 for 2 - which is available in most retailers anyway) - all went in the recycling bin. There were a couple of packs of disposable breast Oda, son stretchmark reducing cream and lotion; a couple of sachet packs of Vanish stain remover gel; sample size packs of breast milk storage bags.

I remember when my friend was pregnant and got her packs and they were stuffed full of samples of products, vouchers and booklets of advice. And, after her girls were born they got a huge box of weaning foods in jars, dried ones to make with water, feeding spoons and a bowl, dummies, creams and bath products and the iconic tub of sudocrem.

I was quite disappointed!!

I can completely echo what everyone is saying about being exhausted all the time and work being a struggle as a result... I'm a police officer and I'm hugely struggling at work to be on top of things. I've been moved to a desk-based role and been temporarily promoted, and despite not being out and about the co-ordination of everyone else is so tiring... especially given the climate of things at the moment. I have never before taken a day off sick in my time in the job, but I've had to call in sick twice in the last 2 weeks!!

But despite that, I know the tiredness is all for such an amazing reason and I wouldn't change anything.

I have my first midwife booking in appointment this week which will make everything very real!!

Hope you've all had a lovely Sunday xx

Welcome @neuroticnumpty,

I would definitely speak to the community midwifes team because, if you plan to have the NT measurement and combined test, these have to be done before 14 weeks. I didn’t get my booking appointment till this week (was 10+6) because I went away for 5 weeks at the beginning of February and only got back on Tuesday. We have declined the combined test because we used an egg donor and so the test is automatically flawed as they use my age not the donors age so the date of our scan is less important but our midwife still wants it done in the next couple of weeks!!

@Rememberallball sorry but can I just ask what is the combined test you mentioned? I'll be quite far along at my booking appt and scan.

The combined test is a blood test which, along with the nuchal translucency measurement, are used to give a prediction of the possibility of a child having Downs, Edwards or Patau syndromes (all of them are trisomy disorders) they also take into account maternal age in calculating risk (which is why it will be incorrect in my situation - I’m 47, my egg donor was 25).

@Rememberallball thank you x

@klanger19 call them, I think you need the scan before 14 weeks.

Also totally exhausted here. The smallest things just tire me out but I'm also sleeping badly!

Morning all, I have a scan this morning at 9am. I'll be 8weeks and 3 days and the hospital are giving me a scan every 2 weeks because I have had 5 MCs (one of which was a MMC) I'm so nervous something will have gone horribly wrong in the last 2 weeks. I've got to go straight to work after as well. Eek!

@kdd1980

Hi I’m sending you all positive vibes and I’m sure all will be fine.

I too should be having a scan this morning was due to have 12 week one next Thursday but had car accident Saturday morning so having a check over to make sure everything okay. I’ve been told by a&e they will scan me but I know when pregnant with my daughter and the same happened they didn’t as I had no signs of trauma. Just praying they do I need reassurance! Xx

Hi everyone, Hope it's ok to join.
I'm 10+1 with my first pregnancy at the ripe age of 40. Myself and DH delighted but also cautious and anxious so I'm happy to find a thread of ladies at the same stage of pregnancy as me. Have had booking in apt with midwife who said I'd by under consultants care. Have had a private scan already and NHS dating scan is 2nd April. It's all quite overwhelming!!! Xxx

@Heath1979 hello and welcome. I'm due 13 October so think we're the same if not close. I've got my 12 week scan on 1 April and my booking in appointment is today. I'm hoping after today it will feel more real because I've been lucky enough not to have many symptoms.

@Nextchapter19 I sat and ate 9 large oranges last night! And drank half a carton of orange juice throughout the day. I think our bodies are telling us something!

DP went to work with my coat with my car keys in this morning... So a day WFH for me - I'm not complaining! Lying in a foetal position until the sickness goes away right now...

@Jodie6 hello! I've had awful MS and it still doesn't feel very real 🤢 good luck with your booking apt & scan, look forward to hearing how you get on x

MS is miserable. Mine's started to come I waves rather than a constant back ground noise.
Today I'm home because I've totally lost my voice and I've got a sick toddler.

Can I just say being at work today would be easier for me... I get to sit down, I get to drink my tea, no one poops on me, I don't have four piles of snotty pukey laundry... I'm two loads in already.
Also no one will have found a banana piece and mashed it into the rug.

Good luck today Kdd1980 and Mummsie1.

And massive sympathy to all of those with terrible MS. It's just so awful. I'm also wfh today to try and save my energy for the rest of the week. Wooly17 days at home with the toddler are definitely a challenge at the moment!

I literally don't know how people are doing this with toddlers. I have become a difficult-to-care-for toddler myself because I feel so ill, let alone looking after anyone else. Huge props to you for that!

Can't get hold of the hospital to chase my scan date so we can both book it off work. Grr! This is not the joyous floating-on-a-cloud experience I envisaged when we were ttc for all those months

@kdd1980 I hope your scan went well.

I had to go to the toilet in the night and there was some light pink blood when I wiped...it's now turned into brownish discharge and I'm trying not to panic but this is how far along I was when it all went wrong last time. Trying to get through to my gynae to see what he says. DD2 has had pneumonia and been pretty ill the last two weeks so maybe just the stress of dealing with all that and now being ill myself...she's currently watching peppa pig so I've put my feet up on the sofa.