Catching up with those from TTC thread- 2

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So I went with the same thread title so everyone could find us.
@sunshine1987 @SullyWifey @mrsof20118 @GemmaJen @RanchoRelaxo @Delilah7 @Crossfitgirl @EltzBee @MrsEG (tagged from memory, will come back and tag everyone else- baby brain 🙈)

@Bettythecat and @MrsLBear I am so incredibly sorry to hear your news.

And @Flapjackered, what a rollercoaster for you. I have everything crossed that this isn't false hope. I'm just sorry you have another two weeks of purgatory before you know.

I'm sorry I've been crap at keeping up this week ladies. The crazy dreams have ramped up and I kept waking up in tears after dreaming about awful things happening to babies. I ended up avoiding Mumsnet, the news,band any conversation where anything bad could happen. I feel ridiculous, and more than a bit selfish, bearing in mind what others are going through.

Hugs to all. So excited for those of you who are hearing and feeling your babies for the first time. It's such a magical time.

@MrsLBear I'm so sorry to hear your update, sending hugs X

I hope time speeds up @Crossfitgirl, my anxiety has ramped up in the past few weeks and I'm really struggling to get through each day, my poor DH has been taking the brunt of it. 9 days till the scan now 🤞

@mrsLbear @bettythecat @fivexfive I'm heartbroken for you and just so sorry that this has happened. I will keep my eyes peeled on the TTC thread if you do go back on there when ready, but I hope it isn't too long before we see you back on here.

@flapjackered how are you feeling? I'm relieved for you that the scan has shown something and there's some if little hope it may be good news, but having to wait 2 weeks is just awful to be in limbo for that long when it could still be bad news as well. When is your next scan lovely? I don't know if this is a terrible suggestion but would there be any benefit to having a private one in a week, if it means the wait is less - if they believe the sac is around 5 weeks, the heartbeat may be able to be seen at around 6 weeks and this may confirm or negate things a little sooner for you? I don't know though - I guess if docs have said 2 weeks then maybe you should stick with what they've suggested but it's just a thought, if it helps at all. Did they re do your HCG levels? Hope you're OK xxx

@eltzbee I get the stretching feelings too. It's so nice to think it's baby! Great news on being low risk too. You must be relieved :-) @cookiewaffle also I can't stop messing with that link you posted! Showed it to DH as its amazing how everything is squished inside!

@chaosmoon sorry you've been having such awful dreams. It's hard not to get worried when you do hear sad news, it really makes you think about your own baby and you just want to take care of it even more. Don't feel selfish, we all need to take care of ourselves despite who is going through different things. Have they settled down now?

@gemmajen I tried not to think about my 12 week scan as it got closer but it was impossible, and cried on my way to work the day of, I was so anxious! But all was fine and you will be too :-) try to distract yourself as much as possible xxx

@AngeloMysterioso yuck! I think I would have struggled to not be sick! I'm surprised they're allowed to smoke inside.

@gemmajen I was really worried about mine too but it was all fine, try not to stress out too much and just take each day as it comes. Wear clothes that are easy to roll down, I was glad I wore jogging bottoms and a loser tee as they were easy to move for the midwife!

@Crossfitgirl super relieved for sure! We booked a private gender scan last night too, for 3 weeks today when I'll be 16+1. Excited! Going to wait till then to let more people know I think. May tell the MIL and my Nan when we see them next though.

@ChaosMoon ah no at the weird dreams! I've read that is quite normal xx

@flapjackered sorry you’re in a state of limbo still, I have everything crossed that the dates were just wrong and all is ok. I hope you’re ok xxx

So sorry @MrsLBear. Hate seeing all this bad news :( xx

Aah @eltzbee I'm 16+1 today and we have a private gender scan booked for tomorrow!

Quite excited really!

Anyone care to have a guess or place your bet on a boy or girl? I literally have no idea at all! Lol xxx

Feels like ages until my next scan again on 18th. I'll be 20+5 then.
Started to feel some flutters a few weeks ago and now getting what feels like little taps which I'm guessing is baby moving or kicking. Very hard to resist the urge to book another private scan to check in though. Midwife didn't check for the heartbeat at my 16 week appintment either, every trust is so different.
My payroll were not much help with working out take home either. Said pension is payable on smp though.

@Crossfitgirl ooh exciting! Can you post your 12 week scan let's see if it had any clues lol and we can guess till tomorrow!

I tried to guess ours but couldn't tell lol!

@crossfitgirl I’m saying boy 💙

Hi ladies. Sorry I've been awol again. Didn't really wanna post about my journey when others are going through a lot.
I was 20 weeks yesterday. Scans Tuesday, so nervous. Want baby to be nice and healthy. And then finding out the gender is a bonus!

@Delilah7 good luck for Tuesday! Couple of gender reveals then in the next few days looking forward to hearing how it goes! Crazy you're 20 weeks now half way! Time is flying by! Xx

Hi everyone, so sorry to read so much sad news, @flapjackered am keeping my fingers crossed for you for the next scan, there's a small bit of hope there I think, but I definitely understand if you don't want to get your hopes up

I had my anomoly scan just over a week ago now, and everything is looking good (had it early due to being consultant based) we have got another consultant scan in a few weeks then a ton of growth scans at the end, gonna end up needing a whole album for the scan pics haha
We bought a pram and carseat the other day from Mothercare because they have got an event on and we got a really good deal!

@Crossfitgirl hmm there's a lot of girls due soon that I know so I recon boy 💙 (although I have literally got every single pregnancy gender guess wrong so far, even my own! so that pretty much means it will be a girl 😂)

Oh and for everyone starting to wonder if they are feeling movements, I started feeling flutters around 17 weeks, I am nearly 20 weeks now and they are much more recognisable, DH even felt her kick the other night for the first time :)

Thank you @MrsEG. It's reassuring to know there are people out there who understand 100% what you're going through. Good luck with your test, as much as it will make everything seem much more real it will be a step forward. Gosh yeah totally, couldn't fault the nhs. They have been incredible!

Sorry to hear you're in limbo @FlapJackered! Can't imagine having to feel like that for 2 weeks. Thinking of you and hoping that it speeds by so you can get the answers you want. Honestly all of this has made me realise how strong us women can be. I have absolutely everything crossed for you though!

Thanks for all the kind messages girls ❤️❤️ each day is a better one for me atm which I'm so thankful for.

@EltzBee thanks Hun xxx

@MrsLBear No worries at all - like you, each day I felt better and now I’m already feeling okay about the future.

To all the pregnant ladies on the thread I do hope mine and others bad news hasn’t caused any anxiety - I was so grateful for the support when it happened to me. It’s just one of those things; some of us are unlucky but most of us aren’t - I feel nothing but completely happy for you all and wish you healthy pregnancies and deliveries from here on in! We’ll all be looking to you for advice when it’s our turn :)

Good luck with all the 20-week/sex scans too! I remember my sister actually went to a medium at 14 weeks as she couldn’t wait who told her it was a boy - at 20 week scan it was confirmed it was a girl!!! Mother had already gone out and bought about 10 blue babygros too... (which to be fair, she still wore!) Its so exciting - I was so excited when I knew I was having a niece and it makes it feel very suddenly real; all the fun of choosing names etc!

Best of luck ladies, all of you - everyone going through a hard time it really does get better, and all you lovelies expecting, enjoy every second! Xx

Thank you everyone for your lovely messages. It is really hard not to get my hopes up. In the back of my head I think it's not good news. According to ovulation I would be 6+4 at the scan which at the least would make me 5+4 and she said around 5 weeks which sounds too small really. Also the lack of symptoms is also worrying me a bit. 😕

@Crossfitgirl Thanks lovely. I did think about getting a private scan next week but not sure if it will worry me more. The next scan is on 8th, seems so far away and I am a mess as I can't concentrate on anything! They didn't do hcg as they said it wouldn't tell them anything more at the moment.
I hope you're ok? You must be so excited for your scan, are you finding out the sex?

@ChaosMoon Sorry you've been having such horrible dreams, I can sympathise as had a dream last night one of my best friends had died and woke up with tears streaming down. Sometimes they feel so real don't they. X

@FlapJackered hugs. When was the date of your last period? That's what my GP and midwife used to estimate they said not to base it on ovulation xx

We got air conditioning fitted this morning in our bedroom. Ready for the summer now!

Thanks @Crossfitgirl @EltzBee. You're right, totally normal, just very unpleasant sometimes. Last night I was fighting in a battle, crashed a boat and then went swimming, so not so bad... They really do feel so real @FlapJackered. That sounds awful, I'd have had to call my friend as soon as I woke up.

@MrsEG don't worry about us. Life causes anxiety - sometimes we deal well and sometimes we are a hormonal mess. I love your attitude to all this and you're right. We definitely need to make the most of this.

I did love that link @cookiewaffle. It's amazing to think what our bodies can do, that we're barely even aware of.

Have an amazing time at your scan @Crossfitgirl. Based on nothing at all, I'm going to guess girl.

Good luck for Tuesday @Delilah7. And I'm glad your anomaly scan went well @RanchoRelaxo.

I'm going to guess girl @Crossfitgirl! :)

@RanchoRelaxo glad everything is looking good. Can't wait for DP to start feeling the kicks too! xx

Hi ladies! I keep saying I'm having a break, but can't resist coming back on to see how everyone is doing!!

@crossfitgirl, based on nothing at all I am going with a boy for you 🙂💙

So many scans etc coming up, there's no way I'll be able to resist having a nose on this board... It really cheers me up hearing some positive stories 🙂

To all my ladies going through a rubbish time, my love to you all xx We are strong women though and we will all get through this and go on to better days. 💐

I'm feeling much more myself recently. I think something is starting to happen for me, can definitely feel something coming on. Oddly, I feel better for it. Just knowing for sure and am hoping it will mean the scan on Friday will just be a formality so we can look to next steps. Dh and family have been amazing, as has everyone on here. Am feeling so lucky to have such a support network. Am currently going a tad overboard planning dh's birthday for early March. Am well and truly spoiling him 🎂😃

I'm sorry for the bad news on this thread. Thinking of you all.

I've just started maternity leave a week ago (now 36+4) and I've unexpectedly found myself feeling really down and a bit sad - honestly I don't know why. All is ready for baby, I've done my 'nesting' cleaning of all the cupboards etc, finished some decorating. I've a very intense job so wondering if it's the come down from that. I've had a good diet throughout pregnancy and have been very active. Now I just want to slob about and eat ice cream - that's making me feel guilty too! Any tips to shake myself out of this?!

@crossfitgirl I'm guessing boy for you x

@eltzbee I can, but I don't know if there'll be any clues! Can't see anything much lol.

@delilah7 half way there! How are you feeling?

@ranchorelaxo glad your scan was OK. Oooh that's exciting which pram and seat did you get? That's the first bits on our list but we didn't want to over face ourselves so thought we would just go to mamas and papas and pick one. I think they may be pricey for what they are though.
Love the guessing strategy! You're with my 2 SILs with team boy lol.

@mrsEG aww that was a lovely message to read, I hope you're doing OK. These things are a part of life, and this is a place to come to for support, so I'm glad you guys have been able to find that here. Of course it's going to feel worrying for others, it can't be helped, but reading what others have gone through has only helped me to be so much more appreciative of what I have, and I'm actually so happy to be there for and support who I consider my friends on here, virtual or not - you ladies are what helped me through every stage so far in a massive way.

@flapjackered aw hun. Are you still at work or taking time off? Do what you feel is best for you, the 8th does seem far away but if that's when you need to wait until, you will get through it and if you need to vent we are all here for you.
It sounds strange but I'm a little indifferent about the scan, well for the gender... As I don't mind what I'm having, if anything I'm just anxious to see the baby again and just have that moment.

Thanks @chaosmoon, I'm going to embrace every moment of seeing my little baby and yay for team girl! (@cookiewaffle too)

@fivexfive I'm glad you are feeling more positive, and that you're seeing the process as a way to move forward, you are amazingly strong. Xxx

@luckykitty13 maybe this is just the lull, between you working so intensively and getting ready for baby, and the baby actually arriving. Is it possible you feel sad as you are perhaps feeling a lack of purpose, in that you're used to being so busy and now that you've done everything... You maybe feel like you've lost your sense of purpose as in... You're ready and are simply just waiting now?
I would embrace the free time, make the most of it as much as you can - pamper yourself, do things you enjoy, read a book, get a facial, whatever it is you enjoy doing or maybe won't get chance to for a while. That's my advice, enjoy this short sweet break of not having a "purpose" for a few weeks, not being tied down to anything, and take care of YOU, have some quality time with DH, eat whatever the fuck you want, and don't feel bad about it! You're about to be a mum, make yourself the best and happiest and most relaxed mum you can be by simply pampering yourself and doing what you like!

I hope that helps?? Sorry if its rubbish advice!