Catching up with those from TTC thread- 2

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So I went with the same thread title so everyone could find us.
@sunshine1987 @SullyWifey @mrsof20118 @GemmaJen @RanchoRelaxo @Delilah7 @Crossfitgirl @EltzBee @MrsEG (tagged from memory, will come back and tag everyone else- baby brain 🙈)

Thanks for all your advice re the gp! I won't go armed with a full bladder then! 😂
Did those of you who temped keep on temping? I have been doing it so long it seems odd to stop but I suppose there is no need to now?
Also I keep getting waves of cramps like AF is going to turn up, is that normal?!

@Bettythecat Good thinking! I am going to whizz out tomorrow and get a couple more frers. I also have some clearblue digitals left from the trial so I might just pee on one tomorrow for fun! 😂

😂 I have missed you @Crossfitgirl ! You have been such an amazing support since the start and I was keeping my fingers crossed I would get my bfp so I could join you girls here. ❤️ I actually can't believe it! it feels too good to be true and that I will wake up and realise that it's another crazy pregnancy dream. 😂😂
How are you feeling now you're in the second tri? Has the nausea abated?
When did the nausea kick in for you properly?

@RanchoRelaxo omg that is amazing!! I have never seen a scan like that before - it must feel very real now!

@Crossfitgirl it will be a boozy train ride with Prosecco then either a dinner out or dinner in (probably also boozy) and then they want to get a train to the champagne region to do wine tasting on the second day and then come back to Paris. I'm worried about feeling huge, being knackered, not being able to drink but having to be around a load of drunk girls and having to share a bed with someone as it's a girls trip so we will all have to share rooms. I made the mistake of googling "energy at 31 weeks" and it's basically just a load of message boards of women saying how exhausted and awful they feel 😂

@bettythecat ahhhhh. In that case, if it were me I would tell your friend and maybe see if she's happy for you to modify or sit out some of the stuff... If she's your best mate she will understand. I could cope with being around wine etc, but sharing a bed is out. I'm struggling to sleep as it is with only a tiny bump at 13+3. I guess you won't really know how you feel until the time, 2 of my work colleagues have been fine right up to their mat leave at about 35 /36ish weeks. Tricky one! Let us know what you decide to do! Would your friend be upset if you didn't go and she didn't know the real reason? It's so hard when you don't want anyone to know, but perhaps if she is your best mate it won't harm to tell her and swear her to secrecy so you can discuss the do with her properly? Obviously it's totally up to you, I told my close friends very early on but I felt comfortable doing so, some people don't want anyone to know till certain everything is fine.

@flapjackered I stopped temping straight away as I hated doing it anyway lol. Plus I figured I would panic about every single fluctuation if I carried on. Other than panicking about MC, it doesn't tell you anything else so there's no need.

The cramping is normal, I had loads the first few days, felt like a massively huge AF about to drop, but it never came. I also got sore boobs and nipples that week. It was sooo strange. I felt like if I even coughed, I would cough the baby out! Other people got loads of CM, but I didn't get that. It's different for everyone.
The nausea and not so nice symptoms started pretty much dead on 6 weeks for me, began with food aversion and progressed into feeling constantly hungover. Mine was only bad for 2 weeks then has gradually got better and better, and now at 13+3 I have felt absolutely fine for the past few days, and I like tea again! Think it's finally gone!

So how did DH react? I saw your line, it looked exactly like mine did! Have you told anyone else? It didn't sink in for me for a good few weeks! Xxx

@Crossfitgirl that is good to know! Have you had any weird cravings yet?
I woke DH up and he said 'oh my god you're pregnant!' But since then has been fairly underwhelmed as he has man flu and of course he is feeling so terrible he can't be seen to be happy while he has a sniffle. 🙄 He is also keen for me to not get too excited as the chance of MC is like 25% at the moment. So not exactly celebrations in the Flapjackered household at the moment! 😂

I think I will tell my sister and family end of next week. The trouble is my Sister has been trying for longer than me and is on her 2nd round of ivf as she has endometriosis. I see her next Friday do you think it would be kinder to call her the day before to tell her so she has time to process it? I know she will be happy for me but when my best friend got pregnant I felt glad I found out before she was planning to come and tell me face to face. What do you reckon?

@Bettythecat hmm that's a tough one, I would be tempted to leave it just because over the last few months I've realised how boring it is to be the only sober one in a room full of drunks 😂 but that would mean telling your mate, which I understand isn't ideal. I told one of my mates right at the start (well she guessed because it was right after my MC) and I actually loved having her to share stuff with I couldn't tell anyone else.

@Crossfitgirl 😂😂 thats funny, I can definitely see where your coming from though, it would feel so good to say 'you were wrong!!' to everyone. Nah I didn't have a preference, I've always seen myself with a little girl though but I was just so sure it was a boy! I cried happy tears after they told me but mostly through suprise!
The 4D was only for a little bit at the end of the scan, think the sonographer said it would look better when she got fatter too, but I got all the photos on an app anyway so they are nice to look at (even like an alien 😂)

@FlapJackered I had a lot of cramps early on, they started calming down around 10ish weeks I think, but now I'm starting to get cramps and pains again if I move too quick, think they are pretty standard throughout so don't stress about them. Re your sister, I think it's a good idea to give her a heads up before you see her, even if it's just a text then she can process it alone, although I'm sure she will be super happy for you

@Crossfitgirl my thoughts exactly- it was the sharing the bed part I just know I won't want to do at that stage. I did float the idea of telling her before she books this week but DH said it would be a bit odd to tell her now when none of our family know at all. I also won't be seeing her this week before she plans to book it so logistically it's a bit tricky. Maybe I just have to pay for it and pull out last minute if I feel I can't go. DH thinks I should make something up and say I have a wedding or something but I feel awful lying to her and she's also the type of person who would be offended that I didn't feel able to tell her when she does find out. I might feel fabulous at that stage who knows!

@FlapJackered I second what @Crossfitgirl says about temping. The only thing it can apparently predict is MC and at this stage there is nothing you can do if that's going to happen so I thought I would rather not know or guess plus as @Crossfitgirl says I hated it anyway so stopped! My app sent me a message after I had stopped temping saying it was "very important" I carried on so that they could predict the risk of miscarriage- I was quite shocked by that actually. Not really what you want to be told by an app!

@RanchoRelaxo yeah I agree it would be nice to have someone who knows and actually she is the one person who is super trustworthy and I know she wouldn't tell anyone until I'm ready. I know what you mean about being around a load of drunk people though- I think I'll also feel like a party pooper as I can't join in!

Oh no I don't have time I read everything right now but I will today but just saw @FlapJackered BFP 🥳🥳🥳🎉🎉🎉 yyayyy!!!! Huge congrats so so so happy for you!! Been rooting for you for ages! Since you and @Crossfitgirl made me go and seduce DH the night I was O the month I got pregnant!! Will never forget that haha.

So happy for you darling. Can't wait to catch up with you on here.

Xx

@Bettythecat I'm 31 weeks now and, while I know everyone is different, I'd go. It won't be long after that until your option for doing weekend away disappear for a while and it would be nice to spend time with your friends. I did a hen weekend before Christmas and even though I only knew 2 people, everyone was so lovely and understanding, I had a great time.

I'd definitely shell out a bit more for a single room though. You could tell everyone you've started sleep walking or snoring or something, and you don't want to wake anyone up!

@FlapJackered giving her time to process it beforehand seems kindest. She'll want to be happy for you and that'll give her a chance to settle any other feelings before you get together.

@SullyWifey 😂😂😂 that was hilarious! I'm so glad it worked out for the best!
How many weeks are you now?

@ChaosMoon @RanchoRelaxo I think you're right. Thinking of how I felt I would want time to be sad so I could then be happy for her.

@Bettythecat You're right I think it's time to ditch the thermometer! I can't believe your app said that! I already feel like I have been bombarded with warnings of what not to eat/do, it's quite overwhelming!
Tricky one re the trip - I think I would book the flights but avoid booking trains or anything to champagne. Then see how you feel nearer the time and if you feel you can join them do that otherwise book yourself into a nice spa in Paris and join in with them on the bits you can manage.

I have just booked my midwife appointment 6th March! 😬 Feels very real suddenly!!
DH just asked if that's one he should come to? I am guessing not?

@bettythecat I told a few people out of necessity before family knew. Its not a rule, just a choice you make, to tell who when. I told 2 people at work as I wanted them to know in case I felt ill, passed out etc, or for general planning of my workload to minimise risks etc. Told my 2 crossfit coaches at 5 weeks, the spa staff the day after I found out I was pregnant, and my reflexologist! Lol. They all knew before family but I wasn't bothered. I wish I'd told my close friends sooner tbh as it'd have been nice to confide in them.

@flapjackered yes I would let her know first and give her time to process it. My sister had endo and fibroid, had 3 failed rounds of IVF and is childless... I told her at Xmas with the rest of my family face to face but I do wonder now if I should have told her before then. We were only with my mum and dad though, and I spoke to her a few days after to check it hadn't upset her and she said she was fine, wasn't upset etc although it had got her thinking again about maybe one more round of IVF, as she's not 40 yet and still has time to try again.

As for first appt, my DH came with me, they do ask about family history and both your medical history so it's useful to have them there. Also, DH wanted to come and it's useful if he has any questions too. But it's not essential if he can't, so wouldn't worry too much if not. It might help him get excited more having a professional tell him baby stuff!! Lol.

Don't worry about DH not being too excited just yet, particularly if he's worried! We were the opposite - I wasn't excited as I knew how common MC was, but DH couldn't stop smiling as he was blissfully unaware. I think for the guys, it really doesn't become reality until they see the proof for themselves though. The idea of a baby got him excited, but it never felt real. Even when I have symptoms, it never feels like there's a baby in there, even for me as the pregnant one, so imagine how hard it is for DH to imagine! I worried all the time I'd MMCd as it just didn't (and still doesn't) feel like theres a human being in my tummy!

The reality I think only hit both of us at the 12 week scan. Actually seeing it wriggling around, was when it finally sank in.

So exciting!

Have you got any pregnancy apps yet? I've got Ovia (my fave), baby centre and flo, but flo is completely shite but i kept it as it had my chart on it from conception! Lol. Xxx

Sorry. Such essays!

@flapjackered my OH didn’t come and I’m glad he didn’t as he would have been bored out of his brain lol. They didn’t ask me much about his side so wasn’t really much need for him there and they didn’t tell me anything I kinda didn’t already know about the scan and tests, was just a 30 minute run down of history, peeing in a cup and getting bloods done xx

@ChaosMoon thanks that's good to know and I agree that I should make the most of having the chance to do this stuff now. I'm sure next year I won't have as much freedom! They will be booking an air bnb so I won't be able to book myself a separate room unfortunately. If there are an odd number of us though I could probably have a room on my own.

@FlapJackered that's a good idea about doing the bits I can manage. I'm sure I can do dinner and even the wine tasting as long as I spit out the wine and don't feel too knackered but doubt it will be that energetic. To be fair the spa idea sounds very tempting!!

@Crossfitgirl yeah I told the barman on Saturday night and the check in person at the airport plus gym instructors too. The barman was hilarious and made it his mission to hide the fact I wasn't drinking he even said he would make me a fake shot if people tried to make me do them 😂. If I get chance to tell some of my besties a bit early and I feel like it I definitely will just at the moment I feel like it's so early I'm not ready yet and also none of them have been through it yet so they might not get it as much. I'm telling my mum this weekend though and may tell my brother too when he's staying with us next weekend. I think it will be fairly obvious when we have dinner and I don't have wine!!

Hi ladies. Well messaged my boss last night explaining I was still feeling really unwell with exhaustion and sickness/nausea, and that I'd still not been able to even leave the house since getting home from work last Tuesday and was no chance I'd be able to travel to the office today. Asked if I could work from home this week and have flexibility with my hours so I could still cover my work without needing someone else in our team to cover it. Fell back asleep this morning and got a couple more hours sleep, still waking up shattered though. But least I've taken that worry and pressure of about trying to make it to the office. Have booked a GP appointment for tomorrow morning. I'm seeing the midwife for booking in appt on Thursday but tbh I just can't go on like this much longer. Sorry can't remember who it was but someone asked if I could be anaemic - I've had super low B12 and Iron in the past, and whilst my 'Pregnacare' vitamin says it has them in it, I will raise this with the GP again as usually I take much more B12 especially than is it in that.

Having bloody weird dreams as well, can't always remember them but wake up with that horrible 'that was weird' feeling. They seem to all be around not having control or someone else taking something. Maybe subconscious fears?

@EltzBee that sounds horrific. Definitely get the help you need and take the time off you need. My cousin was so ill with morning sickness that she was signed off work for a few weeks- you might need a bit of proper time off until you get through this stage. Xx

@eltzbee I agree with @bettythecat, I even found having to concentrate mentally was exhausting at that stage. Maybe you should re evaluate when you see the GP and see if they feel you should just be off completely?
It was me that asked about anaemia, it's normal to be tired but that sounds much more than a bit. Glad you've taken the pressure off for now anyway and hope you start to feel better soon. How many weeks are you now?

I have had some weird vivid dreams recently too, not been sleeping that well. Last night I dreamt there was a baby in the family, not my baby, but it was some kind of evil or demon baby and nobody else knew but me, and I kept wishing it to die!!
How fucking disturbing is that. I told DH and he was a bit freaked out lol. I did assure him it wasn't our baby and someone else's at least 😂

@Crossfitgirl 10+2. Will see what GP says tomorrow, when I had a telephone appointment with a different GP a couple weeks ago she couldn't care less. This isn't normal tired its not functioning tired 😴 different doctor this time and a face to face appointment.

This thread moves so fast, but just caught up with everything that's going on with you lovely ladies.

@RanchoRelaxo Congrats on having a girl! oh my goodness how exciting! As others have said, obviously at the end of the day I dont care what I have, but secretly I think I want a girl haha.

Ladies so many of you are on trips, been on or going on! I'm so jealous! I love a break away but there's no way we can afford one this year! Even though I will try and sneak something in! Its DH 40th a couple of weeks after i am due and the plan was to do California and Vegas, but that's now being push to next year! I still want to do something special for him though!

@FlapJackered I am 14.1 now! It went really slow at first, but has gone quickly over last couple of weeks! I had awful tiredness, sickness and nausea basically from the word go at 5 weeks, and it was hell on earth until about week 10/11. Then suddenly I woke up one morning feeling like a new woman! I have had a couple of sick days last week, but they are nothing compared to how it was! Loads of cramping throughout that worried me, and the usual spotting around week 5/6, but all is well so far! @crossfitgirl is right though, until you see your little bean on the ultrasound you worry about every single thing constantly, its so hard to let yourself get excited this early, but over time when old AF stays away then you get more and more excited! As you know it took me a long time too, so sometimes I wonder if that's why its a little harder to believe! I did 4 tests in the end. two rapid response and two clear blue digital. and stop temping, its not worth the stress. You made a baby darling!!! All you can do now is sit back and look after yourself and get out of the danger zone that we all dread!

@Bettythecat Its hard to know how you are going to feel at that point isnt it, bare in mind none of us have been pregnant before, we all just guessing here! I would like to think that I would go and would just do what I can manage and then let the girls carry on with the night and ill go back for some sleep etc! I think its good if we squeeze in a few last min nice things before bubba arrives though!

Saying this I also have my own dilemma... I will be 33 weeks pregnant when I go to see Spice Girls at Wembly, in the standing area!! I am defo going because its been a little girls dream of mine forever haha! but theres no way I am going to want to stand the whole time! I am thinking of emailing them closer to the time and ask if I can have seat for little break in the area they reserved for Wheelchair users! Otherwise I'm sneaking in a stool!

@Eltzbee You dont sound well at all my lovely, I hope the GP is a little more helpful this time! Really explain that it isn't manageable at all and its effecting your work etc. I really hope they listen xxx

Sorry for the essay ladies, I must try harder to stay upto date! Love to you all and your lovely bubbas xxx

@SullyWifey just a quick note to say I am also going to see the Spice Girls in Manchester in June!! I was completely obsessed with them when I was little- was never into the boy bands or anything just them (and Geri specifically!). I absolutely can't wait. Hopefully the excitement of it will help you to sail through it a bit but a secret stool sounds great idea 😂 I reckon there will be an awful lot of pregnant ladies in their audiences as all their fans are now at the baby making stage!! Xxx

Hi all, wow what a busy day on here!! Will try my best to tag....

@flapjackered, I hope the time doesn't drag too much for you until your first appointment and that you don't get The Sickness! X

@bettythecat, I'd say go to Paris if you can! By then everyone will know so I'm sure you'll be excused from certain elements without any judgement and, like the girls have said, will be a nice chance for a getaway before the baby comes. Buuut... If it comes to it and you decide not to go, I'm sure your friends will understand xxx Also, hope you and @sullywifey enjoy spice girls 😎 I have images now of the front 4 rows just being screaming pregnant women on stools! Xx

So, I had my first midwife appointment today!! She's lovely. Has sent my info to our chosen hospital , waiting for my dating scan appointment now. She says I'm either about 7 weeks or possibly 11 (my last period in Dec was for 1 day and quite light) I think I'm only 7 though, to be honest. Once that is confirmed, we'll decide about our holiday. I'll be seeing a consultant because of my history and she said there is a chance I'll have a caeserean but will find out more when we see the consultant. Now we play the waiting game!! Xx

How are you feeling after working from home @EltzBee? It makes such a difference to have that flexibility. Good luck with the GP tomorrow.

My god @Crossfitgirl, I thought my dreams had been weird but that definitely wind the disturbing award!

@Crossfitgirl I have missed your essays! You're so right about it not feeling real. I just can't imagine it happening! I just don't want to go back to ttc, I honest don't know how much more I could take of it all. I am willing this little shrimp to hold on!

I have downloaded 3 apps! Baby centre, what to expect and Pregnancy+. I thought I would get them all and see what I prefer. I will check out Ovia for sure. I have freaked DH out with Pregnancy+ as they give a 3D image of what the baby looks like now and in his words 'it looks like a clitoris with a balloon attached.' 😂🙈
That is a v disturbing dream! At least it wasn't your baby in the dream though!

@sunshine1987 that's good. I think I might ask the clinic when I go to get the pregnancy pack. I said to DH it's up to him if he wants to come but it might be pretty boring.

@EltzBee sorry you're feeling rotten. That's good that your boss understands. Take it easy and don't push yourself too much. You have a very good excuse!

@SullyWifey I can't believe you're so far along! It only seems like last week we were urging you to jump on your DH 😂
I am sure you're right about relaxing more after the ultrasound, it just seems so far away at the moment!
I have gone to boots and bought 5 more pregnancy tests...oops 🙈 I got a bit carried away!

@Bettythecat I am SO jealous you're seeing the spice girls!

@flapjackered hahaha a clitoris with a balloon 😂😂😂 that’s proper made me laugh