Catching up with those from TTC thread

[MrsC87]

Just wanted to catch up with everyone from the TTC thread. I know some of us have July due dates and others August due dates, so wanted to check in with you all!
How are you all doing?
@Delilah7 @Crossfitgirl @RanchoRelaxo @sunshine1987 @SullyWifey
Sorry if I have forgotten anyone, please add them in ❤️

@sunshine1987 oh really? Does it just depend on where you live then? I think I'll be tempted to pay for a scan privately just to hear the heartbeat! Xx

@Bettythecat we've not told anyone, we're waiting til the scan. I'm sure some people have guessed mind!

Not drinking has been fine, being January plenty of people are Dry for the month anyway! Then there's Lent you can use as an excuse too soon ;) I just said I was driving or watching calories a couple times when we were out.

@EltzBee I've got one event in about two weeks time I'm really worried about- it's one of my good friends 30th birthdays and we are going out for a girly lunch with a big gang of us which will be bottomless Prosecco and I really don't know how I can not drink without them noticing. If I say yes to the Prosecco they will notice I'm not drinking it and if I say no they guess straight away. The only thing I can think of is to buy my own drinks at the bar but since it's a sit down lunch I don't see how I can do that. Any ideas?!

To make matters worse I'm travelling back home the night before the party with one of my best mates and I feel like she will clock as soon as I say I don't want wine!! Help!

Maybe say you have a dodgy tummy? I had to lie to workmates over Christmas and just had alcohol free larger at our Xmas meal. I don't even like lager! I told close friends at 6 weeks. Very early but it was easier for me knowing I had their support and i had an early loss in September.

I didn't hear the heartbeat at the 12 week scan. I guess it could be different for each trust though?!

Our little squish has a heartbeat! 😁

Had a tough day as started having pains, EPU still want to wait to Tuesday, but my DH managed to change his meetings and get us an appointment at the private scan place a bit further away from us. Actually ended up being the same midwife that scanned us for the mmc in November. I had to have an internal then due to a tilted uterus. But this time, straight away on abdominal she found a heartbeat. I'm not going to lie, I completely blubbed ☺️. Squish is in the right place, strong heartbeat, yolk sac and plenty of space. Measuring a bit ahead of my dates (explains the positive at 8dpo) at between 6w2 or 6w4. I'm so relieved. She said she was very happy with what she could see. Fx that little squish keeps on growing now, got to get past the 9w mark before I can breathe, but feeling so much better after the spotting I've been having over the last few weeks.

Lovely news @GemmaJen I'm so pleased for you. Xxx

@Bettythecat I've got the same conundrum, a house party with friends this coming weekend. Last time I played designated driver, this time we're staying over... So not sure what to do, think I might play the Dry January card... But not sure it'll fly. Regarding telling people, it's whatever you're comfortable with, we're waiting till after our 9w scan to tell our parents and best friends, them after 12w for everyone else - but that's because we had the mc last time and I found it really difficult with the whole family knowing.

@EltzBee yes to the food aversions, just started cringing at the idea of my normal tuna lunches...🤢 But really craving jalapenos, onions and mayo... Not necessarily together, buy I wouldn't say no, lol. I think that's about my only symptom at the moment.

@bettythecat would check before you booked anything, I saw the heartbeat at my private scan but didn’t hear anything either x

@gemmajen so happy for you lovely x

Fab news @GemmaJen so happy for you. I also have a tilted womb apparently xx

Ahh @GemmaJen that's fantastic news xx

@GemmaJen if it's a house party you could take tonic water and lemons etc (and even some gin) and then just make your own drinks without the gin. You could also decant a non alcoholic bottle of wine into an old normal bottle and drink that?!

I had planned to tell my mum and my three bridesmaids, two of whom will be at this party. I was planning to get them to help me cover it by buying me drinks etc and not asking awkward questions but to be honest one of the girls is really so bad at keeping secrets I can just picture her telling her two housemates and her boyfriend which would ruin it for me when I actually do announce it. I'll definitely still tell my mum though as I would want her to know if anything went wrong too.

Xx

That must be such a relief @GemmaJen! I'm so happy for you.

I think it's so personal to who you tell. We have told both parents and our best friends cos I just can't keep secrets from them. I also work with my mum so not telling her would mean she thinks I'm being weird taking time off here and there and tbh my dad asked me if I was the day we found out. He sussed it that quickly.
Social situations are so hard. I drank appletizer New Years. Safe to say I OD'd on it and now can't face it. Had someone on my case the whole night like why don't you seem drunk, are you not in the mood. Bla bla. Was so annoying!!!!
I've got my best friends hen do before my scan and that's going to be hard as I'm not that close to her friends so don't want to share. It will be the week before my scan but nevertheless it's before not after.

Yay! @GemmaJen
I told my mum and dad two days after we found out and also my sister and brother. I knew I would want support from them should things not work out. We're a very close family.

Remember I said about my midwife telling me I'd poach the baby if I had a bath? My mum works at a GP surgery and asked a doctor there about it who basically laughed and said what on Earth makes you think that so my mum told the doctor what the midwife had told me and she said it was impossible to do that! My mum also said my notes were all wrong and the dr advised I ring the liaison office to tell them what's been going on

Had my scan and all ok, bubba was very chilled and didn’t want to move around very much 🙈 measuring 12+4. @bettythecat they let me hear the heartbeat 💜

@sunshine1987 wooowwwweeee! So lovely! Congratulations! 👶🏼 xx

@sunshine1987 eeekkkk look at your little one 😍 So happy for you xx

@canonlyhopexo poach the baby?! As if. You're hardly gonna pour boiling water over the baby! That doesn't sound right at all. You are supposed to be able to rely on your midwife for accurate advice. I'm meeting mine tomorrow for the first time.

So I don't know if any of you remember I took cod liver oil capsules up to week5+4 and then realised. Anyway I went drs last Friday and asked for advice and he was quite baffled at my question and didn't have a clue how or how much vitamin a can damage a baby. He said he will get back to me. So he rung yday and said he can't find any conclusive information but has emailed some specialists in the field and will get back to me. Then he said "how would you feel if it were to be a high risk" meaning how would I feel if the vitamin a has affected the baby. I was quite stunned at the question. I said well it was planned so I'd be upset. I didn't even know how to answer it. Like I was gonna say "oh I'm not bothered"! So now he's got me worried even more.

@sunshine1987 awwww how lovely!! Really hope we get to hear the heartbeat!!!! But be such a good feeling. What did you have your dates as?

Hello from sunny Lanzarote!
Just thought I'd check in to say good luck to everyone who has scans today and tomorrow. Really hope everything goes ok and so pleased for you @sunshine1987 and @GemmaJen.

And of course welcome and congratulations to the new mummies to be!

So glad we came but not being able to control my diet has left me feeling so rough the last few days. DH has been an angel looking after me though, and I'd rather feel like this here than at work, in the cold!

@sunshine1987 ahh congrats, lovely scan pic!

So I got a promotion at work this week (yay!) and been asked how I'd feel about going over to the US for a week at some point. I've said I'm not sure at the moment and can't commit - it's an 11 hour flight :-0 done some Googling and it sounds like long haul flights are generally safe but going to speak to midwife when I see her on the 7th and then give work more of an answer after our scan on the 15th. It sounds like the biggest risk is the additional risk of DVT which is already a higher risk due to preg. Gah sods law! My boss unofficially knows from circumstance but I've not 'officially' told him, but he's basically guessed cos I've been feeling so poorly!

@mrslbear I don’t really understand your doctor saying that, I don’t get what he was trying to achieve by asking that question? Sorry you haven’t got your mind put at ease yet over it all x

I was 12+3 so only moved by a day x

Congratulations @sunshine1987. It must be such a relief to have the first trimester done and duste 😊

@canonlyhopexo your midwife sound interesting, will the liason office allow you to switch midwives?

@EltzBee we're of to LA next week. Obviously it'll depend how far along you are, but my midwife just said to wear flight socks, move around and make sure to drink plenty of water. Oh and to check insurance as many don't cover maternity under a standard policy.

@GemmaJen ah cool, it would be LAX or San Diego I'd need to fly to from London - let me know how you get on! That's good to know that your midwife said it was okay :) are you flying normal economy? I think I'd be tempted to see if I could pay myself a bit extra to get more leg room to make moving easier.

Hmm good point on insurance - we have Nationwide bank travel insurance, need to check that for our Cruise in April as well. With our Cruise we could only travel up to 24 weeks pregnant, looks like flying is a bit more flexible up to 32/36 weeks for most airlines (not sure I'd want to fly that late though!).

@sunshine1987 does that mean your due date is now 1 day earlier than you thought? I've been wondering on mine as I know I ovulated 'late', but I guess it depends when they implanted and things too!

@eltzbee yeah it does. I know when I ovulated which was day 16 of a 29 day cycle but it must be based on implanatation or something as I was expecting my days to go down to 12+2 or something and it went the other way x

@EltzBee I'm going on a work trip to China on Saturday and which is also an 11 hour flight. I had thought the only restrictions with pregnancy is when you are in your last few weeks. Google seems to suggest it's absolutely fine so I would say go for it! Sounds like a great opportunity! X

@sunshine1987 oh cool, yeah I think ovulated on Day 17 with cycles usually 28/29 days too. Currently due date is 31st Aug. DH's birthday is 2 days after that so could be funny if bean is late! lol. You must be so pleased with your scan! How long did it take and did you manage with the drinking water and not needing a wee?!! (sorry, that's my worry even though letters says don't need to drink, everyone else seems to say drink first!)

@Bettythecat ah awesome! I think I'm such a worrier lol! I haven't been on a plane for about 4 or 5 years either. Will check with midwife when I see her and then all being well will probably say yes and see if I can co-ordinate with DH for him to come out to the US too and tag a holiday on for a 2nd week, if we can get a cat-sitter! It sounds like as long as blood pressure and anemia aren't a problem then generally it's okay then :)