Catching up with those from TTC thread

[MrsC87]

Just wanted to catch up with everyone from the TTC thread. I know some of us have July due dates and others August due dates, so wanted to check in with you all!
How are you all doing?
@Delilah7 @Crossfitgirl @RanchoRelaxo @sunshine1987 @SullyWifey
Sorry if I have forgotten anyone, please add them in ❤️

@canonlyhopexo make a complaint. And request a different midwife next time you go. That is totally incompetent.

@Crossfitgirl I didn't want anyone to think I was being over sensitive but I do think it's a bit much now! I wouldn't know how to complain or request a new mw. As far as I know she's the only one who comes into the surgery?

It's perfectly acceptable to request a different midwife. There will definitely be more than just one midwife! Just ask at reception, quietly explain the situation and that you don't feel comfortable with this one given she's made so many mistakes in your notes. They should understand, and if you did want to complain they will tell you how to (they usually have leaflets).
Obviously it's totally up to you but I'd definitely not be happy with her care! They might have different ones based in different surgeries etc but you have the right to choose who you see, just like you can opt to request to see or not see a certain doctor. Xx

Hello everyone! I was on the TTC first baby thread with you all and got my BFP yesterday!! @FivexFive directed me here to you all!

Turns out one of my first symptoms is mad dreams and early morning wake ups! Went to bed absolutely exhausted last night but woke up this morning at 5am wide awake! Gah! Anyone else had that?

How is everyone feeling? Xxx

@Bettythecat congratulations and welcome 😊

Yes to the vivid dreams and early starts, I'm waking up at 3am as standard now, and I can remember all the dreams, luckily they're all full on nonsense and nothing worrying - last night I was considering the pros and cons of branded Vs unbranded chocolates and giving an American stranger a tour of my house... Its thrilling stuff 😆

@GemmaJen I'm glad it's not just me then!! I had a dream last night that I was on some huge group holiday where I was sharing a room with a load of random strangers and then several of those random strangers were playing some sort of sexual games in the bathroom. Oh and I was wearing a bath towel. I kept on getting annoyed they were hogging the bathroom. Then I remembered i had left my four cats without a litter tray and had to text the cat sitter. V weird. 😂

@bettythecat @gemmajen, last week I had a dream that donald trump made me and my dh go hunting for a new blue wale to replace the old one at the new york museum!! 😕

@FivexFive lol 😂 it's so weird isn't it- and they are so vivid!!

I know you will want an update on this @FivexFive but I am also still "damp" down there. Seems the days of knicker twitching aren't over when you get your BFP 🤦‍♀️

@Bettythecat congratulations! Lots of bfps recently 😁 and yes I definitely had lots of early starts in the first few weeks, that symptom died down pretty quickly though and then I just couldn't wake up in the morning 😂

Not having the best morning, lots of watery brown discharge and I'm in a panic. Midwife now saying talk to gp, even though last week they said they would refer to epu direct if there was any more issues. I've managed to get an appointment with the GP later today, and not my usual gp who wasn't helpful when I first saw her about this pregnancy. Trying to be positive but it's so hard. ☹️

@gemmajen please try not to worry, bleeding etc can be completely normal at the beginning of the pregnancy. I know it’s difficult xx

@GemmaJen at 9 weeks I had quite a lot of brown blood and like you I was terrified. GP was great and referred me to EPU where I had a scan. Baby was all fine, it was a hematoma, which is totally normal.
The sonographer also said some women have bleeding around about the time there period would come and that's normal.
Go see GP and hopefully they will refer you to EPU.

Do you have any pain?
How many weeks are you?

Sending lots of love xx

@gemmajen hope this GP is more supportive, like the other ladies said hopefully all is fine and it's normal. My GP told me that brown in colour isn't usually anything to worry about as it's 'old' blood.

Made it to the office today only 20 minutes late, which I'm taking as a win considering I spent a lot of the morning trying NOT to be sick and dry heaving and retching. Ah the glamour!

One of my colleague saw me getting a de-caf tea bag and the cupboard and was very worried I hadn't realised it was de-caf and that I needed the real stuff, bless him. Of all the things to notice it was my choice of teabag! lol

@GemmaJen From my experience the GP can do nothing but EPU are fabulous and will do bloods and a scan if needed. If you can’t walk-in to your EPU ask for a referral at the GP. Fingers and toes crossed for you; I’ve been consistently told that brown is usually either old blood or a mild infection, neither are to be worried about either.

@Delilah7 I have sent you a pm x

@mrsof20118 thanks Hun responded x

Thanks guys, I saw the GP and promptly broke down, she was suprised the midwifes hadn't done a referral. She was lovely, though she didn't give me any idea whether it was positive or negative, just that the EPU would be in touch.

@MrsC87 I'm 6 weeks, no pain just got cramps back today. Glad to hear everything was fine for you, gives me hope that it's nothing and I'm just being irrational.

It came as a gush of fluid (sorry tmi) and I haven't had any more since lunch, so maybe that'll be it. I had spotting in the middle of last week but nothing since. Hopefully all is fine, I'm just constantly worried and can't see this working out. Early pregnancy is just so frustrating ☹️

Been referred to a different epu this time - we live between counties. Hopefully I'll hear from them soon 🤞

@GemmaJen you are not irrational at all, and have every reason to feel as you do. I just wanted to share my story to say it's not always bad news and hopefully it won't be for you 😘 please look after yourself, take it easy and keep us updated xx

Aw bless you @GemmaJen. Must be so hard. At least the gp was helpful and you will have some answers soon. Sounds like it won't be anything to worry about but I can see how that can play on your mind. Fx for you!

@MrsC87 this epu won't see anyone before 7 weeks so we're booked in for Tuesday next week. Going to be a tough wait ☹️ I've cancelled my booking app for tomorrow, I'm just going to be a wreck till I know what's going on, so no point crying over the poor midwife - I find talking about it out loud the hardest. 🤞 hopefully all is well.

@GemmaJen try not to worry, I know it's easier said than done but try to think positive that it's stopped now. Your booking appointment will be fine for a few more weeks - mine isn't til the 7th Feb when I'll be nearly between 10/11w, so there's no need to rush having that when you're feeling stressed or worried.

I think a lot of the reason they don't like seeing people before 7 weeks is because before that it's hard for them to see much - they might be able to see a yolk sak but they might not be able to give you the news you want, whereas by 7 weeks the heart should be beating.

@GemmaJen could you book a private scan sooner so that you don't have to wait as long for EPU? x

@GemmaJen oh hun how frustrating for you. But as @EltzBee said it's just so that you aren't then worried unnecessarily on top of it all. Sending you lots of positive thoughts.

@GemmaJen I know it’s much easier said than done, but try your best not to worry and keep distracted. With my spotting I was scanned at 6 weeks and all they could see was a pregnancy sac. It was such a horrible experience with the ‘we need a second opinion’ scenario in the hospital and I was so so upset. I am rescanned on Thurs at 8 weeks and sometimes I wish I had just waited til now as I think the early scan only added to the anxiety of it all. It won’t be a long wait for you now, my 2 weeks have flown by. And as we say, brown spotting is so incredibly common. Even though I still don’t know what my outcome will be yet, I am finding I’m staying more positive as the days go by! X

Thank you ladies, I'm feeling a little better now, it's just a waiting game. Like you say spotting may be nothing to worry about, I'm just hoping it doesn't get worse - only had a little more this afternoon. Just on constant watch every time I go to the loo 🙈🤞

@EltzBee I can understand that they don't want to cause more worries by scanning early, it just feels like a week is such a long time! @MrsEG I don't know how you've managed a 2 week wait, sending you positive thoughts, hope Thursday goes well for you.

@MrsC87 I would do an earlier scan but our local places don't have availability this week ☹️

Thanks @MrsLBear, it'll be easier getting through tomorrow if I don't have to deal with needles and lots of questions. I'm booked back in for a couple of weeks from now, hopefully I'll get to keep that appointment.