August 2019

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Hello!! Anyone else just find out that they are expecting in August?? 🤗🤗

Oh @trimum I have everything crossed

Thanks people, the clot wasn't too big (smaller than a 50p) which is what I think made the midwife say it was fairly normal. Hoping the referral doesn't take too long to come through.

Hey thanks everyone, sorry I never replied proper crashed out last night and only just woke up 😂
Yeah I've had a high bp before but never this high and it was during a flare up of Vasculitis which I don't fancy having come back.

Hope everyone else is ok!💕

@Blii ... totally had loads of wind!! Crazy amounts!! Seems to have reduced a bit the last couple of days though!

I'm starting to get a winter cold ... I'm now thinking what a super convenient excuse it would be to get one before the works xmas Party! Never been to pleased to think Of a cold! Haha

Morning ladies

I've woken up today feeling even worse than I did yesterday. Nausea off and on heaving gagging the lot but not actually being sick. Also feeling so faint and like the room is spinning. I'm really lucky my work is quite understanding so I phoned them to say I'd be a little late in today until I got myself together (due to leave early today anyway for first app with midwife) and they just said to stay at home for today and rest and not to worry about my sick record as pregnancy related days don't contribute. But I can't help feeling terrible about it and that things are only going to get worse. I'm only 5+2 with my first so I just don't know what to expect and I feel a bit down.

Thinking of you @tri2mum it must be a worry but just try and think of the advice you've been given I'm sure it's nothing to worry about if you've been told all sounds ok

Mw from the epu just rang me again and said they've decided to push my scan back until the 28th to make sure I'm far enough along to see what they need to see. I'm not too bothered as if rather wait and have it at 8 weeks and I have no reasons to be concerned!

@canonlyhopexo that's great that your work are so understanding! I haven't actually mentioned it to anyone at work yet... symptoms aren't too bad so there wasn't really a need. Plus I didn't like the idea of my boss finding out before my mum! I plan to keep it under the radar until we come back after Christmas... only 6 more working days to go! Hopefully sickness won't get too bad by then. Also genuinely concerned I won't be able to stuff my face with pigs in blankets over Christmas if the sickness does come on strong!! Fingers crossed!!! #prioroties

@Whoopsies is this a private early scan you have booked?

@KMic I am very lucky. I've had so much trouble this year with my periods, I had an op in September and was diagnosed with endometriosis and my boss was brilliant all through that but she has a daughter a similar age to me who's been through it all so I'm guessing that's where she gets her empathy from. But I still can't help but feel so guilty for missing work. We're a busy admin department in the NHS and we've already got other people off on sick leave so I feel like a burden. But I also just want to listen to my body and do what I think is best. Maybe I'm being over anxious but when I feel so rough it's hard. I'm also concerned about the pigs lol! Best part of Xmas dinner!!

@canonlyhopexo just enjoy the fact you have a decent employer... any extra worry or anxiety won't do the baby any good. Chill out and try and get lots of rest and fluids inside you! Xx

@KMic not private, I supposedly had the copper coil in when I fell pregnant so they want to scan to make sure everything is ok. But seeing as I have no pain or bleeding etc and they think the coil may have fallen out they aren't in a huge rush. She said she didn't want it to be uncertain and have that going on at Christmas so we've moved it to the 28th. Got my booking in appointment for the 9th of Jan. Only problem is that it's at the children's centre attached to my son's school so I've got to try and sneak in past all the staff 😂

@Whoopsies haha! Why are things always so difficult to hide!!

Good luck with the the scan! Xx

@KMic thanks hun. I am doing my best to just chill out I've done nothing but sleep today or just lay in bed but even then I can just be laying there gagging!! I might try and read a book to take my mind off of things but that requires effort lol.

Has anyone told friends yet?
Told my best friend who's due in February and since I did she's basically implied I tricked dh into this, that it was a fake positive, that I'm faking it, and keeps repeatedly telling me that I've got what I wanted and questioning me like this is what you wanted?
Me and dh think it sounds like she wants me to get rid of it and that she's jealous cause all the attention isn't on her and it's making me so upset cause I don't want to tell our other pals who I've known longer in case they aren't happy for me too.
She's the first one in our group to be having a baby and now keeps non stop posting about it and she's just had a scan today and is talking on the chat to the others which is great but I know what she's like and the stuff she's saying on it is making me feel awful.
Told her how stressed I was and all she wrote was ok.
I didn't do this cause she was pregnant, we chose as a couple to do this together because it's pretty cool to create a whole human because we love each other.
Only told her cause I wanted advice and she's just made me feel so low on top of everything else.
Sorry to rant but I feel so emotional today along with being forced to rest and feeling like hell.
But I genuinely like this wee thread cause you guys have been so supportive and I'm glad we're all on this crazy adventure together. 💕
I actually sound like that girl from mean girls with the rainbows and sunshine 😂😂

@avacadooo sorry to hear your friend isn't really being much of a friend right now. I've not told any friends who aren't work colleagues. This is one of the reasons to be fair. Opinions are like belly buttons everyone's going to have one. But you do you and having a baby is a beautiful thing and she should be pleased she's got a friend who is going through similar. Xx

Oh wow avacadooo your friend doesn’t sound supportive at all. I’d have loved if one of my friends came out and said they were pregnant same time as me. I was quite young when I had my first and now he is the eldest of my group of friends babies. And he gets bored when we all meet up. It’s lovely to have a friend with a child a similar age.
Maybe she is hormonal and feeling like all the focus won’t be on her once you tell the rest of your friends. Hopefully she will calm down a bit!
KMic glad I’m not the only one

@trimum you poor thing! Thinking of you, hope you are ok xx
@avacadooo whaaaaat?? Omg your friend sounds like she had some serious issues. As if someone would choose to become a parent to copy their friend??? I think the hormones have taken over 😂
Don't take it to heart, I'd say she would react this way if any of your friends told her they were pregnant! This is such a stressful time, you need only supportive people around you! We will be all the rainbows and sunshine you need ❤
@canonlyhopexo oh jealous of your decent employer! I know mine will hit the roof when I tell her 🙈 I will be waiting till closer to feb I think before I worry about that!

Thanks guys.
I really don't understand why someone would think their pal was copying them with having a baby it's not like a pair of shoes you can bin in a year or two.😂
She's just been proper horrible about it, I'm still raging she thinks I did this without telling my husband. We only started trying because he said he was ready but we didn't think it'd happen so quick which he's obviously pretty happy with himself about.
She's the kind of person she has to be centre of attention, told me she was pregnant at my wedding and unfortunately she lost it but I was there for her even though I was on my honeymoon and then when she found out she was pregnant again I was honestly so happy for her but for her to turn round and act like this to me is awful.
I feel proper gutted, my sister in law is pregnant too and I was so excited that our kids would be close in age and now I'm scared she's gonna act the same as my pal even though sil is the nicest person ever.
I love you guys💕
Also @canonlyhopexo I wish I had your boss! Told mine and she gave me more hours instead of my request for less 😂😂

@tri2mum sorry you're going through that, I really hope its nothing and everything turns out fine for you.

@canonlyhopexo My sickness is/was just like that too, the dizziness whenever I stood up was horrible. I'm glad your work was sympathetic, mine was very good too and I've been feeling ok since tuesday so it may not last the whole time. It meant I've had to tell all my colleagues though so I could get through the day.

@avacadooo what an awful response. I have friends preparing for IVF atm and would love if they managed to conceive the same time as us! I already feel guilty about it but at least they know we were trying almost as long as them. Even when I was struggling with infertility I would have been happy for any of my friends if they got pregnant. We won't be telling friends until we see them face to face, which will be when I'm 15+ weeks. Except my work colleagues because as mentioned I had no choice!

@avacadooo Rest assured it's a very unusual reaction and I'm sure your SIL will be excited for you!

@avacadooo to me it sounds like jealously that you’re taking her limelight. That’s not a normal response. I told my best friend that’s due in March and she was ecstatic we were going through this together and that our babies could be as close as we are. That’s a normal friend response? Would try and ignore her and focus on the amazing journey you’re going through 💜

Wow avacadoo that seems very harsh of your friend! Hope you are ok xx

Very unusual and rude reaction @avacadooo . She doesn't sound like much of a friend. Has she ever done anything like this before?

@Ninunina nah she's normally great. She loves the attention and can be pretty hypocritical. She also loves the drama.
She's been so weird recently even before I told her, I said we'd have to get some wine in for after the baby is born and I got snapped at saying she wouldn't be drinking for over a year cause she was breast feeding, which is cool but the way she snapped was bizarre.
It's like she's the only person allowed to have a baby and if all the focus isn't on her she isn't happy.
As dh says she loves the smell of her own farts, but it's making me feel so alone.
It's the fact she basically keeps saying this is what you wanted at me that's pissing me off

@sunshine1987 That's so lovely your friend is excited!💕💕 I'm so excited my little bean will have a cousin the same age!!x