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it is not impossible that i have completed fk'd up...htf do i break the news to dp

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MrsSausage · 22/05/2007 16:32

OBVIOUSLY I have changed my name.

We have 2 kids. Dp does not want more. Our second child in particular was a bloody hard baby.

I don't especially want more

dp really really really doesn't want any more.

period has not arrived today.

Very very faint line on all the seven tests I have done so far.

crappola. PLEASE be nice, don't tell me I am a fool and an eegit.

I had plans for my life, I am not THAT young and I need to get on with them if I am to Make Something Of Myself.

Crap.

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CarGirl · 22/05/2007 17:17

my youngest 3 were born within 3yrs 2mths and the youngest really did just fit in and now they're a bit older (youngest 20 mths) it seems really quite easy. If you have another nightmare baby go straight to cranial osteopath and harrass the medics until you get the help you need.

horace · 22/05/2007 17:31

Just wanted to let you know that you are not alone. I was feeling the same as you 4 months ago. Still not over the moon but feeling much better. Dh was much better that expected, i think mainly because I was so upset. Keep teling myself everything will be fine and am now beginningto beleive it. Don't shelter your DH from how you really feel not how you feel for him.

NAB3 · 22/05/2007 17:46

Have you told him? I hope it works out for the best. Some things are just meant to be. (whispers, I am secretly hoping for an accident too but that would be insane)

bobsmum · 22/05/2007 17:58

Dh was dead set against no3 until I thought I was pg last month. When I wasn't, he was actually disappointed and we had a big long chat about the pros and cons.

Now we're kind of going for a third in that I've stopped the pill.

I think our no2 reaching almost 2 makes us realise that the hard early year or so flies by so fast that we could do it again ok.

Especially after 2, most things will be like second nature.

If we do have 3, I'm sure it will be hard at times - just as having 1 was hard, but I would love to see the interactions between the children.

I really hope this all works out for you. Maybe no3 will be a surprise gift rather than a mistake?

All the best.

LadyTophamHatt · 22/05/2007 18:05

Hey Mrssausage, just over a yr ago I was in the exact same boat as you but it was No4 instead. Even down to the timing when I Ov'd and getting caught that way.

Dh really did didn't want anymore, I was terrified to tell him.

We'd just moved house, and I was going to starting college to get a life again.

Ds4 is now 4month sold and hes teh best mistake we've ever made.

Dh was sooooo ok abaout it. He was actually more ok about than i was.

It'll be fine.

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MrsSausage · 22/05/2007 18:10

he is back

i cannot bear to tell him

i have done another test (first response) and it is still faint, i have no idea what to make of this really.

The thing is, I think i'd have ovulated on the friday or pos saturday. not tuesday. i thought tuesday cos that was the day of my last period. but this is my first since last baby was born so might be odd or longer...

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FLIER · 22/05/2007 18:12

mrsS, you HAVE to get it over with...deep breath, sit him down and tell him.. a problem shared is a problem halved and all that...........

MellowMa · 22/05/2007 18:13

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Flamesparrow · 22/05/2007 18:13

Thinkin of you lots

DANCESwithnewlytannedlegs · 22/05/2007 18:14

Posted on your other thread Mrs S but just wanted to say good luck here too.

LadyTophamHatt · 22/05/2007 18:15

no mellowma, that was QoQ

MellowMa · 22/05/2007 18:18

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LadyTophamHatt · 22/05/2007 18:19

shes' fannyannie now.

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MrsSausage · 22/05/2007 18:20

you are all lovely

i am a frigging wuss

am off to have a bath

I suppose my theory NOW is that it is very very early days. i am thinking ACTUALLY period probably not due til perhaps friday, since i think its 14 days after ovulation?

i don't want to tell him. i am thinking that if i don't, it is not impossible that it will go away.

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LadyTophamHatt · 22/05/2007 18:23

MrsS...if its coming up faint line now it'll just get darker and darker as your period is due.
(unless something awful ahppens)

God, I really feel for you. I was so nervous abouttelling DH. I really thought he'd think I had tricked him or something.

He was totally ok about it...he even laughed about it while I had been fretting and faffing about ALL day.

LongDistanceClara · 22/05/2007 18:27

It's not impossible it'll all go away, but it's also not impossible he won't be hurt that you've known a little while and not told him if it doesn't all go away.

Just to put the flip side - and I mean it very gently, and I totally empathise, because I know how freaked out I'd be in your situation.

Try not to fret - what will be will be. Do whatever feels right for you - we only have a snapshot of your relationship on a thread where you're called MrsSausage - you know the intricacies of everything that's gone before.

Thinking of you.

morocco · 22/05/2007 18:28

oh how lovely! 3 is so so fab. I'm sat here right now bf our little 'mistake', she was also number 3, no 2 had had horrendous colic and we'd vowed not to go there again. in fact, we probably would never have dared, so dd1 had to sneak up on us! she is adorable and dh loves her to bits and I'm besotted.
dh was tremendously peed off for a day then was fine about it. I took quite a while longer, in fact i could say I was ambivalent through the whole pregnancy really, but the minute she was born, we clicked
3 is fab
congrats again

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MrsSausage · 22/05/2007 18:29

he is not going to laugh

he is going to cry.

he was saying only a few days ago that the idea of having another baby was sending him into panic attacks

baby no 2 was SO hard. she really was. only now, around 2 years on, are we getting our lives back

oh FKN hell, what a mess

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fannyannie · 22/05/2007 18:29

yes I'm QoQ/Gwenick - and it was me the MAP failed with - I shan't lie DH DIDN'T take it well at all - but once we got to the 20 week scan (yes I know it seems like a long time to wait.........it took my dad until I was born to accept I was on the way!) he was ok with it - and has continued to get more and more excited as time goes on.

morocco · 22/05/2007 18:29

oh yeah - I didn't tell dh for about 3 weeks so it's pertty early das for you yet - don't feel bad if you keep it to yourself for a while

fannyannie · 22/05/2007 18:30

sorry posted before I meant to....what I was going to say was better to tell him asap so he has longer to get to terms with the idea (then again he could be absolutely fine with it - men are funny creatures you know).

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MrsSausage · 22/05/2007 18:31

oh and I should say that he is, actually, seeing a counsellor anyway

and to be brutally honest, though he is lovely and fabulous, he does not deal with stress well really. It really gets to him

I need to go now and think how he would feel if he found out i hadn't told him

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NAB3 · 22/05/2007 18:31

Will he feel hurt that you didn't feel you could tell him?

LongDistanceClara · 22/05/2007 18:32

Um, have I emailed you in the last day or so?

LongDistanceClara · 22/05/2007 18:32

Don't worry, not going to say anything if you are who I think you are - just wanted you to know I am there for you on email if you need a chat.