it is not impossible that i have completed fk'd up...htf do i break the news to dp

[MrsSausage]

OBVIOUSLY I have changed my name.

We have 2 kids. Dp does not want more. Our second child in particular was a bloody hard baby.

I don't especially want more

dp really really really doesn't want any more.

period has not arrived today.

Very very faint line on all the seven tests I have done so far.

crappola. PLEASE be nice, don't tell me I am a fool and an eegit.

I had plans for my life, I am not THAT young and I need to get on with them if I am to Make Something Of Myself.

Crap.

Mrs S, I've been following this - I really feel for you and although you asked him to be honest, what he's done is given you his initial reaction, which probably wasn't far off your own. Give him a few days then talk to him again - what d'you think?

Sorry to hear he didn't react well, but he's probably in shock... I'd try and agree to have a chat after the weekend once he's got his head around it. No point in making rush decisions about important stuff like this.

omg, I really feel for you. I would feel exactly the same if I fell pregnant now .

I don't know what to say really.

On the positive side, you can still Make Something of Yourself, no matter what.

Remember, your dp is probably terribly shocked - and being up all night and feeling knackered won't have helped either.

Good luck with this Mrs S. xxx

oh dear

how many weeks do you think you are, early days?

can you give yourself a week to think things over, he may be in shock atm

have you done another test to be SURE???

yes i think i have no choice but to do that

i am taking the kids down to my parents for the next week (he doesn't have it THAT hard), so he will get a chance to ponder then.

if i am going to terminate i want to asap, but i can't see me doing that tbh

total tests now number 14

at 14

well now I will be honest here and say I would not not not NOT want another baby, I can hardly cope with 2

but I think I would regret an abortion more than another child tbh

I would forever think 'what if?'

so if you are doubting a termination now and only going along with your dh, I think that is a big mistake

just my opinion so sorry if harsh

xx

Blu did a great post (as per) on another thread, will see if I can find it

x

aaargh do not want to out self with ages of kids but they are around 2 and 3 1/2. and we were getting some semblance of a life back

bascially, yes its early days, but i have never miscarried (I know, i know...could still happen but...and if it did, i now think i'd be pretty sad about it)...

retested with early morning wee and clearblue and it was like a great, glowing "you've fkd up you idiot" sign. well more a cross, but still

Oh Mrs Sausage Sorry he has reacted like that. Just take heart in the fact that you have thought about termination too - even if only long enough to dismiss it so it makes sense that he would jump to the same line of thought. However like everyone has said, give him some time and then you need to have another talk. Will you tell your parents while you are visiting? I'm guessing not. Hope you are ok. Take care.

Oh and I'm at 14 tests too...I would be exactly the same!

Mrs S - you could be me, children the same age and I can have an inkling of how you feel having taken a pg test myself a couple of months ago, luckily it was neg but in those few minutes waiting for it to come up...ugh. No sage advice but just wanted to say it could happen to any of us.

I dont think I have ever heard of anybody that has regretted a child once it has arrived.

They are designed to be so god damned cute that we can forgive all circumstances

Hang in there - you are doing great staying calm in this difficult situation xxx

it's just his initial reaction MrsS. to men abortion seems like such a neat and tidy solution to a problem. get him some pro ;life literature so he knows exactly what he's asking you to do.

chances are when he's had time to get his head round the idea he'll be ok with it.

it took 2 of you to make this baby, he needs to aknowledge that instead of treating it like a problem that you need to fix

Good News !

he's emailed me

he's said that if i can't terminate then we will have cope with it

there are now minor details such as the fact that we have no baby stuff now and we will need a bigger car and we have No Money but...

these are just that, details

pah! details, who cares?

YOUR HAVING A BABY! CONGRATULATIONS!

fab fab fab fab fab

from the way you spoke about him he sounds like a Good Man.

Makes me feel all warm! now

who are you?!!

yes

out yourself

oh yes.... who the hell are you?

thought i knew but then my guess posted her under her own name so am baffled!

lol

I can't say, you will all be mightily disapointed, I promise

why would anyone be disappointed??? everyone is delighted !

oh c'mon

I have boring stuff to do and need to cease faffing

what baby stuff do you need?

You must out yourself!