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it is not impossible that i have completed fk'd up...htf do i break the news to dp

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MrsSausage · 22/05/2007 16:32

OBVIOUSLY I have changed my name.

We have 2 kids. Dp does not want more. Our second child in particular was a bloody hard baby.

I don't especially want more

dp really really really doesn't want any more.

period has not arrived today.

Very very faint line on all the seven tests I have done so far.

crappola. PLEASE be nice, don't tell me I am a fool and an eegit.

I had plans for my life, I am not THAT young and I need to get on with them if I am to Make Something Of Myself.

Crap.

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tinymum · 22/05/2007 16:49

I'm sure you will feel alot better once DP knows. Weight off your chest and all that.

CarGirl · 22/05/2007 16:49

hugs, what will be will be. An unexpected pregnancy is not that nice, making deicisions even harder. At least your eldest will be going to school soon?

CarGirl · 22/05/2007 16:50

As to your thread title - with a very large drink already poured for him.

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MrsSausage · 22/05/2007 16:53

god i love mn, you are all actually making me LAUGH

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tinymum · 22/05/2007 16:54

Try saying 'Darling, you know how VIRILE and incredably MANLY you are? Well......'

motherinferior · 22/05/2007 16:55

...and what a FANTASTIC LOVER with MASSIVE sex drive...

PetronellaPinkPants · 22/05/2007 16:55

console him with the fact that it is unlikely to be twins....

Pamina · 22/05/2007 16:56

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fannyannie · 22/05/2007 16:56

good luck - I can still remember the dread I had when I found out I was pg with this baby (I'm 38 weeks now). I wanted another (in a few years time) DH definitely DIDN'T. I'd taken the morning after pill - it didn't work, he wanted me to terminate, I was sure I couldn't...........took a long while but we've got through all of the shock and it's DH that now keeps having to remind me that "it could be any time......you really should get the last few baby bits we need"

lou33 · 22/05/2007 16:57

there are 4yrs 2 months between my youngest 3, it's busy but doable, i promise!

motherinferior · 22/05/2007 16:57

I have to say a bit of me is if that is at all consoling.

serenity · 22/05/2007 16:59

MI - have to say I thought this was you for a bit........

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MrsSausage · 22/05/2007 17:00

i am very worried i will have no time to myself

last db was SO hard. I don't want to say HOW because that will def out me. But hard hard hard.

there are further childcare related complications-saying more will out me-which will make it harder.

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MrsSausage · 22/05/2007 17:01

ps i am much less interesting than MI.

don't bother guessing, you will be disapointed.

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littlelapinWearsBoden · 22/05/2007 17:02

MrsSausage (and what an appropriate name ) as everyone else has said, unless you were making pinholes in condoms, it's not your fault alone!

My SIL had 4 under 4, all boys, and they are fantastic together, a really strong family unit.

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MrsSausage · 22/05/2007 17:04

pinholes in condoms? pmsl. don't men NOTICE that? I mean, it'd stretch...

i am going to go with the virile lover thing, i think.

right he is due home. i am going to pop out to the shops and get an actual proper test, not a 10 pack of strips from acess diganostics, and an enormous packet of folic acid

i do think I have to take what life throws at you and work with it BUT

ITS NOT SODDING FAIR

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PetronellaPinkPants · 22/05/2007 17:06

you might need this thread ...

littlelapinWearsBoden · 22/05/2007 17:07

Here, print this out

DaisyMOO · 22/05/2007 17:07

MrsSausage, when I found out I was pregnant with my fourth I cried and cried. My eldest had only just turned 5 and I also had a 2 yo and a 1yo I had just decided to apply to do a midwifery degree, we were happy as we were, dd was sleeping finally (hence the pregnancy, lol) and I did NOT want another. I even remember ds1 asking 'why is mummy crying' as I held the stick and sobbed. I kept my fingers crossed that I'd miscarry for ages and I didn't really bond with him during the pregnancy and 5 minutes before he was born I wailed 'I don't want a baby'!

Well, ds3 is 19 months now and I wouldn't be without him for any money. It wasn't easy, but I really wouldn't have missed a minute. He is so lovely, I know everyone says that, but boy do I love him!

If you've got a supportive partner I'm sure things will work out for you whatever happens.

MellowMa · 22/05/2007 17:07

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littlelapinWearsBoden · 22/05/2007 17:08

or this !

(not being flippant, just trying to raise a )

clutteredup · 22/05/2007 17:12

mrs sausage, i know where you are it was me this time last year - i'd always toyed witht he idea of3 but dh adamantly against - a minute before i took the test i thoguht well now i know i'm happy to stop at 3 - dh was furious, we talked abotion, divorce the lot - i turned up on a friends doorstep ( who can't have kids) and broke down - the worst place to go but she was my bf - any way it wasn't easy for a while - i even drove off and stayed the night in a hotel bcoz dh and i couldn't cope - ok that's the lot now not trying to scare you BECAUSE NOW we have a beautiful daughter we both love very much and can't ever imagine being without - dh adores her and ok my life is on hold for a bit longer and finacially we're tight at themoment but i wouldn't have it any other way - she was meant to be and i love her just as much as my other 2. i really feel for you but you will get through believe me and its worth it, i promise >>

toomuchtodo · 22/05/2007 17:14

Mrs Sausage - a big congrats!

hope its appropriate to say that, wishing you all well

what time does dh come home?

hbbell · 22/05/2007 17:15

hay my middle one was hard and then it all made me unwell But i was fine with number3 he was so content and i got him in to a good routine early thay realy helped. if you want to follow this through it might not be like last time it does not have to be But please tell him so he can help you deside whats best

Mumpbump · 22/05/2007 17:16

However you feel about it now, if you go ahead with the pg (and it sounds as though termination is not an option for you personally), you know you will both love your third child once it arrives. Your dh's reaction might surprise you. Like the idea of massaging his ego before breaking the news... Oh and congratulations!