it is not impossible that i have completed fk'd up...htf do i break the news to dp

[MrsSausage]

OBVIOUSLY I have changed my name.

We have 2 kids. Dp does not want more. Our second child in particular was a bloody hard baby.

I don't especially want more

dp really really really doesn't want any more.

period has not arrived today.

Very very faint line on all the seven tests I have done so far.

crappola. PLEASE be nice, don't tell me I am a fool and an eegit.

I had plans for my life, I am not THAT young and I need to get on with them if I am to Make Something Of Myself.

Crap.

My husband has just said he doesn't want it . I don't know what to do. Reading your thread is giving me lots of advice but he is still sticking to his guns.

ohhh, have been away & just caught up - many congratulations, fillyjonk.
And surely the powers that be MUST have one of the power-sleepers earmarked for you this time?

mrs sausage -or whoever you are didn't read enough to find out, any way many congrats, your gap is a bit like mine and will always look well planned in the future - i was saying to DH how awful we were together when we found out about dd2 and i was always worried that i'd feel bad about not being thrilled on finding out like i was about the other 2, but you know what it's all in the past, dd2 is wonderful and we're so glad she decided to join us - ok so she's going to be the most determined to get her own way of all the family OMG!!! but things generally turn out for the bets - congrastulationsxxxxxx

sorry being dumb and now looked at rest of thread, congratulations fillyjonk - that's better - BTW I've put my reeducation on hold too, reluctantly but just looking forward to going back even more.

oh you are all sooo kind

tulip-I really really feel for you, obviously! dp is Not Keen. bloody hell, I am Not Keen. I can't think of a decent reason to go ahead except that...I can't bear to do otherwise. With both previous pg we were suprised but really rather happy. This time I've only just stopped shaking. Please do post more, don't worry at all about hijacking.

I do feel like we get a bit lulled into a false sense of security with contraception. we see sex as risk free, really. But there IS about a 5% faliure rate (oh I don't KNOW what the faliure rates are, but they're not 0)

I definitely feel secure about our contraception - condoms - but I suppose that maybe I am being naive. If we had another baby I don't know how we'd ever fit it in, it's a squeeze as it is.
We've always had the good fortune to have planned all ours but even then it's always been a bit of a shocker coming to terms with the reality of even more children.
I hope you and your dh can get to a happy point soon.

I mean dp

oh he IS my dh really

I just struggle to come to terms with that

ironically, about a week ago, it was our anniversary and we went out for dinner

fiilyjonk you sound so much like me its spooky, I have a one year old and two year old and it was also our anniversary last week!

lol

my old friend (who had very bad - oh, I've forgotton what it's called, begins with e and affects fallopian tubes) got pg unexpectedly with ds1 and ds2 and then on her dh's 40th birthday she also managed to fall pregnant with twin girls.

what is he saying he will do if you go through with it?

cupcakes -

no bloody TWINS

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how are you feeling today? Better? Worse?

I was thinking of you last night re 9pm bedtimes.

To give yourself more time in the evening, move their bedtimes 10 mins earlier per night - then in a week they will be 8pm.

Repeat, then you will have a 7pm

worked on dd2, she was a bugger for being downstairs all evening

Am glad it's working out Filly.

filly, i felt like you when i found out i was pg with number 3 and 4, i cried my eyes out for 6m of each pregnancy

but now as a single mum although it gets really busy and stressful, and sometimes i struggle, i cant really see myself without them (well maybe for holidays )

This was you?

Well well well

lol

keep UP boris

olive that is good advice, they are about 100 miles forward of where they were in terms of sleep but agree, need to move them forward now.

dd2 can still be a pain - last night at bedtime she was saying she doesn't need sleep and wants to be with mummy DOWNSTAIRS

so she does still remember getting her own way

but now remains UPSTAIRS even if I spend 30 mins saying it is bedtime dd2

dd1 has always been fab so No3 may be a dream

your No3 I hasten to add, not mine

I haven't been reading the thread.

I wish you all the luck in the world Filly, and the offer stands. Feel free to post the baby to me when it arrives.

awwww boris

Filly

I saw your thread on Tuesday but didn't have time to post - checked back today to see how Mrs Sausage was getting on because I'd been thinking about you (but not in a stalker-ish way obv)

Am crap at advice but wanted to wish you all the very best. I have my fingers crossed for an easy pregnancy and an amazing sleeping baby at the end of it.

BTW, your dp is very lucky to have you - giving him a bit of space and time is a great idea - but are you going to get some space for your own head? Look after yourself x

So is it all panning out for you? Did your husband come round to the idea?