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Wrong Due date?

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Deanna9 · 03/06/2018 10:20

I have a question about my due date, I and my partner think it's wrong going on what we know about ovulation.

Period on the 30th Sept 17- 3rd Oct 17

Sex on the 6 oct 17

Sex on the 20th oct 17

Period on the 21st oct 17- 23rd Oct 17

This makes conception after the 20th impossible so how is my due date the 6th sug 18.

Ive not had sex at all since the 20th of October so I know I can't have gotten pregnant after that.

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wonderings · 04/06/2018 20:17

Please come back and update us with what your midwife and consultant say, I would be very interested.

susurration · 04/06/2018 20:25

Some scenarios that could lead to this clusterfuck of dating 'issues'

  1. you've made a mistake with the calendar.
  2. you slept with someone else and are trying to figure out a way to hide this from your husband.
  3. you had sex in your sleep and had no idea.
  4. sinister (i apologise if anyone finds this one upsetting) but maybe you've been drugged by husband or someone else and raped.

All possibilities that could lead to the later due date.

MaggieFS · 04/06/2018 20:31

I've read this from the beginning and it's made me laugh out loud. Until I got to the point where OP says she will take this up with her consultant. This comment has made me post...

Given how rude you've been about qualified professionals and how hell bent you are on debating how pregnancies are dated ad nauseam, I hope to goodness you're paying for a private consultant and not going to waste valuable NHS resources to 'satisfy your curiosity'.

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Deanna9 · 04/06/2018 20:41

Rachie how is talking to my fiancé and consultant a head shake?

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Deanna9 · 04/06/2018 20:49

Actually I'm not seeing a consultant about this, I'm seeing him because of my previous birth and reduced movement in this pregnancy. My midwife when asked did say the things I've said weather I've misunderstood or not and she's the one who told be to bring it up with my consultant.

I'm doing what they say, I am treating the pregnancy as I'm dated and this only came up again because I've been told recently that getting pregnant when on a period is impossible or extremely unlikely.

Yes my scan is probably correct I understand that now I've been informed there can be a 9 day discrepancy.

I am allowed to ask question of my medical team, if they seem stupid to you and other people here that's fine but I'd rather have it straight in my head.

I've not insulted any medical professionals I haven't talked to personally, if I've insulted the midwife on this post I apologise but I don't know you and haven't talked to you privetly or in person.

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mrsshelby44 · 04/06/2018 21:09

Some scenarios that could lead to this clusterfuck of dating 'issues'

  1. you've made a mistake with the calendar.
  2. you slept with someone else and are trying to figure out a way to hide this from your husband.
  3. you had sex in your sleep and had no idea.
  4. sinister (i apologise if anyone finds this one upsetting) but maybe you've been drugged by husband or someone else and raped.

All possibilities that could lead to the later due date.

THIS!! I think number 3 is most likely!

NCPuffin · 04/06/2018 22:27

Sorry, but I want to placemark for this. I never do, but I NEED to know how this ends after OP has spoken to the consultant.

HoppingPavlova · 04/06/2018 23:50

How is talking to your fiancé going to assist you? Are they a qualified healthcare professional specialising in this area? Given the questions you have had so far I doubt it.

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Deanna9 · 05/06/2018 06:42

Because I like to talk things out with him especially when it's info about his baby that's posssibly being sent out to a stranger. How exactly do I know this person is a medical professional? Other than taking someone's word for it.

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Bluebirdsky · 05/06/2018 07:19

To be honest OP I am really surprised that you would post on a forum like this without having talked it out with him first!

HoppingPavlova · 05/06/2018 07:35

Sorry, I was confused. I thought you meant you were talking to your fiancé and consultant about the whole dating issue, not whether you should reach out to an internet random. In respect to the dating issue I could understand talking to your consultant but not your fiance who I suspect has even less of a clue than you do. Obviously though if you are seeing your consultant in a few days there is no need to contact anyone else as they will answer your question. I’m sure they will provide exactly the same advice you have already been given but at least their response will hopefully be taken onboard.

AllPowerfulLizardPerson · 05/06/2018 09:00

"How exactly do I know this person is a medical professional? Other than taking someone's word for it."

You are totally right to recognise than on the internet anyone can be anyone.

So why did you post in MN? Because you expected that the community here had sufficiency checks and balances for accurate information to predominate? I think that would be a reasonable expectation - there are enough posters, some of whom have been around for years, whose maternity I do no doubt. There are also many who post as HCPs, again entirely convincingly and for years. I do not think they can all be imposters. And those who have posted on this thread have done so with unanimity.

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Deanna9 · 05/06/2018 09:51

For personal experiences and opinions, funnily enough I'm not taking anything anyone says as gospal. People seem to be tellinge I'm wrong for not believing them.

When the one poster explained the count 9 months and add 7 days I said it works out with my dates with a 9 day discrepancy on the 12 week scan.

Maybe I am one of the people that can get pregnant on or just after a period who knows.

Forums are supposed to be a place to ask questions, just like I'd call my mum/brother/dad any friends that have children and ask if that person thinks I should get checked for a symptom I'm having checked or if its a normal thing in pregnancy.

A wider range of people gives a wider range of answers. Or someone will ask something I hadn't thought of or throw in something I didn't know.

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ShowOfHands · 05/06/2018 10:06

Your periods are irrelevant. People can and do get pregnant during and just after their periods.

The bottom line is that you cannot have conceived on or before the 20th of October. Doesn't matter how you count or when you bled. The scans are conclusive.

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Deanna9 · 05/06/2018 10:43

Counting from that date makes my due date right so your kinda proving my point

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MyDcAreMarvel · 05/06/2018 10:46

Nobody is proving your point.

ShowOfHands · 05/06/2018 11:32

Counting 9 months and a bit from the 21st assumes October 21st as the date of your last menstrual period. Which likewise assumes you conceived the baby, had sex, had contact with sperm etc in NOVEMBER. So what point have you proven counting that way? That you conceived after 21st October? Precisely. That's what we're all telling you.

Devon123 · 05/06/2018 11:34

Following

Ifuckinghatethatdog · 05/06/2018 11:52

Your pregnancy is consistent with a last menstruatal period of the 21st October.

Your pregnancy was conceived with an egg that was released in November.

You did not conceive this pregnancy with the sexual intercourse you had on the 20th October.

This is all fact. And is backed up by numerous scans, presumably done by different Sonographers, and by the consistent growth of your baby in line with these scans.

No one is trying to trick you or lie to you.

What you are suggesting is biologically impossible.

I give up.

Hausfrau29 · 05/06/2018 12:03

Christ, it was easier to explain to my husband how I was 8 weeks pregnant even though he'd only been home from work 6 weeks than explain this to OP.

BTW, my daughter is his incase you're wondering... Which no one educated is.

DarkLikeVader · 05/06/2018 12:04

Almost afraid to post this...

But there’s option 5) no sex but other sexual activities that could lead to pregnancy cf. the ‘spermy fingers’ thread we had a couple months back 😳😮

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Deanna9 · 05/06/2018 12:11

21 day cycle means I could have released and egg on the 24/25 oct which sperm could have lived too. Uve all told me that too.

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FireAndRain45 · 05/06/2018 12:19

OP, have a look at this www.mamanatural.com/due-date-calculator/ you can work out your due date from conception rather than last period. If you had sex on the 20th October (and ovulated on the 20th) you'd have been due July 13th. If sperm had lived for the maximum 5 days, and you'd ovulated on the 25th October, the latest you would have been due would have been July 18th.

lollypop13 · 05/06/2018 12:32

Jesus Christ almighty. This is mental. The USS is an extremely reliable tool to calculate EDD. Stop bloody over-analysing and enjoy your pregnancy. Ask your midwife to prescribe you one big chill pill.

Devon123 · 05/06/2018 13:16

But wernt you only 12 weeks since having your 1st baby? How do you know your cycles were constantly going to be 21 days? Things would still be being settling down.