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Well, i think I’m out.

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Iswallowtoothpaste · 30/04/2018 05:56

Just done another test and it’s no darker than the one I did 2 days ago. Not sure how many DPO I am but symptoms have gone too and have low abdominal cramping.

It’s taken us 2.5 years to fall pregnant again after last M/C and looks like it’s happening all over again Sad

This baby is so wanted. Feeling very sorry for myself.

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SoyDora · 05/05/2018 08:33

But I know, deep down what’s going to happen. I just want some proof

How do you know?

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Iswallowtoothpaste · 05/05/2018 08:35

SoyDora the tests not darkening, the CBD only saying 1-2 whenit should be at least 2-3 at this stage and just a feeling.

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SoyDora · 05/05/2018 08:35

Can you leave the house to get some peace and quiet? Go for a walk to try and clear your head?

SoyDora · 05/05/2018 08:37

Ok. Well let’s face it there is nothing anyone can say on here that will reassure you or change your mind. The only ‘proof’ you can get is by going for an early private scan. If it’s bad news, then at least you know.

Pigeoncat · 05/05/2018 08:43

Seriously. What do you want people to say? Go to the doctors for your mental health. This is above our pay grade.

You’ve had so many replies here and you’re not even reading them. Get off the internet and help yourself.

Somersetter · 05/05/2018 08:48

You poor thing. You're torture yourself with these tests. If you have any left, bin them. Don't buy any more. Do something to distract yourself - go shopping, go to the cinema, have a long walk. The tests are not helping you and they can't tell you whether you'll miscarry or not. Flowers

rainbowstardrops · 05/05/2018 08:51

Oh I do feel for you. My first pregnancy ended in miscarriage and I remember that agonising anxiety when I fell pregnant again. I didn't keep texting but I remember constantly squeezing my boobs and going into a panic whenever they stopped feeling tender.
I have my fingers firmly crossed that you get your much wanted baby Thanks

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Iswallowtoothpaste · 05/05/2018 08:52

pigeoncat above your pay grade!? What a shitty thing to say. I’m going through real emotional turmoil right now, I hav no one else to talk to and I’m struggling like fuck.

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ProperLavs · 05/05/2018 08:56

OP. People are frustrated because despite everything we have said, despite sharing our experiences and thoughts you are still ploughing on doing the thing that is damaging to you and are not listening.
if you are going to miscarry nothing will stop it.
No amount of testing or not testing.

Pigeoncat · 05/05/2018 08:57

You misunderstand. You are suffering mentally and are asking for advice. The advice we give you is subjective and may not be the the correct advice for your situation because we are not qualified to give it to you. This is why people in this thread keep suggesting you talk to a professional. You sound like you are really depressed and anxious, a forum can I’ve you support but it won’t necessarily give you the advice you personally need.

ProperLavs · 05/05/2018 08:57

So, you are going to miscarry? Why are you doing tests? Why don't you just wait to miscarry.
use the money you would spend on more tests to get something for your dd.

PrimalLass · 05/05/2018 09:03

How else do I get answers?

You have answers from all the pregnancy tests you've taken.

GlitteryFluff · 05/05/2018 09:03

Ok, fine, let's say this pregnancy isn't going to stick and you are going to miscarry. Doing tests won't change that. So, stop doing the tests, because you've miscarried, no point, and get an early scan as your epu when you're 6-8 weeks and they'll confirm it's ended.
That way, you've not got your hopes up, they've told you what you knew. Done. But very sad.

Obviously there is a massive chance that this pregnancy is fine, and if so you'll be over the moon. Because you was expecting the worst. It's fine if that's what you're trying to do, tell yourself everything isn't fine, because of the tiny chance it isn't, but going to be so happy when it's confirmed that everything is fine!.

But doing the tests isn't changing anything! It's not helping you! It's not reassuring you. It's not doing anything positive for you. Stop.

ProperLavs · 05/05/2018 09:08

I have 6 children OP. I have also had 5 miscarriages and a pregnancy that I terminated. So i have been pregnant 12 times.
I think I can give you quite an experienced view point on early pregnancy that survives and ones that don't.

Sometimes before a positive test I have had cramps, sometimes that pregnancy stuck sometimes it didn't. Sometimes I didn't have cramps and lost the baby, sometimes I didn't have cramps and kept the baby. Cramping is no indication.
I was bleeding once and had a scan where they saw a high beat I still lost the baby.
There are no answers to you questions.

ALemonyPea · 05/05/2018 09:12

Keeping everything crossed for you.

I had cramping early on with all three of my pregnancies, which all ended in a baby.

Don’t give up hope yet, but for your own sanity, stop testing!

12PurpleSnails · 05/05/2018 09:14

As others have said OP I think people are getting frustrated because like you we don't know the answers to your questions/situation etc. No one can tell you if you will or won't miscarry (but people are making helpful suggestions which you are ignoring.) The only person who can give you a definite answer is a doctor if they do blood tests or a scan. Pregnancy tests tell you nothing beyond if you are or aren't pregnant.

ProperLavs · 05/05/2018 09:18

even a scan isn't definitive answer- all it means is that the embryo os alive on that day. As i said I had a scan that showed a heart beat and still lost it.
You have to wait, it's a simple as that.

User12879923378 · 05/05/2018 09:24

What would reassure you, though? If you're like me, you could have a scan tomorrow and see a lovely wriggly baby and be in bits worrying again an hour later. No number of tests or answers on the Internet are going to reassure you. You've just got to learn to live with the uncertainty. I agree that speaking to the doctor about your anxiety might help. Flowers

Redrosebelle · 05/05/2018 09:29

But if you want a definitive answer a scan would give you that, right? Either way?

ProperLavs · 05/05/2018 09:32

no, I'll say it again, a scan tells you everything is alright at the time of the scan ONLY. If there is no heart beat it will also tell you, but not at this early stage.
i think early pregnancy testing has a lot to answer for.
in the past women would have thought they were having a late period.

Redrosebelle · 05/05/2018 09:33

Ho

zaalitje · 05/05/2018 09:40

Cbd are the work of the devil.
They're banned in some places and you regularly see people on here stressing that they aren't showing 3+ that go on to have a healthy pregnancy.

They are notoriously unreliable and inaccurate and cause nothing but worry.

The table I've attached shows the huge range that's normal for each week the test can't cope with that. A level of 7,400 would be normal for 5, 6, 7 and 8 weeks. A level of 50 would be normal for 3, 4 nd 5 weeks.

Please OP step away from the tests. I've had several mcs before, I understand your anxiety but testing like this will drive yourself craxy.

Please contact your midwife and ask for support for your anxiety.

acatcalledjohn · 05/05/2018 09:45

Ok so I’ve just spoken to the doctor on the phone. She said that the tests are better for telling you that you’re pregnant as opposed to how pregnant you are, I’m a bit either way on this theory.

It's not a theory, it's what tests are designed for.

You are not listening to posters here and not listening to your highly trained GP. No wonder PPs are getting frustrated.

I think you need counselling because you are bordering on obsessive behaviour. Reading the thread it's almost as if you are willing this pregnancy to no to be viable. Because although the evidence says you are, you are coming up with all sorts of reasons to say you are not.

12PurpleSnails · 05/05/2018 09:50

@ProperLavs sorry for your loss, you're right about the scan it still won't give a certain answer. With my MMC it took two weeks of scans to confirm it 😢

MrsMozart · 05/05/2018 09:50

I get what you kean OP about just needing to onow. However the only way for sure is a scan.

Please, step away from the tests. If you need timeout tell you OH and he'll have to have the children for ten minutes.