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Talk about every stage of pregnancy, from early symptoms to preparing for birth.

Well, i think I’m out.

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Iswallowtoothpaste · 30/04/2018 05:56

Just done another test and it’s no darker than the one I did 2 days ago. Not sure how many DPO I am but symptoms have gone too and have low abdominal cramping.

It’s taken us 2.5 years to fall pregnant again after last M/C and looks like it’s happening all over again Sad

This baby is so wanted. Feeling very sorry for myself.

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Iswallowtoothpaste · 04/05/2018 12:35

@putputput I am feeling much calmer than I was. It’s more wanting to know for definite but being quite accepting either way.

I think another thing on my mind is because it’s taken us so long to conceive again, I just think it’s too good to be true.

My partner has been fantastic and so patient.

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Rikalaily · 04/05/2018 12:47

Honestly try not to worry, cramping is totally normal, especially if it's not your first pregnancy, the cramping can get pretty intense and doesn't always feel like stretching pain, with my 4th I was cramping so bad, just like I do on my period, in my back and everything. I was constantly on knicker watch for the first 12 weeks until the scan. Feeling like you are about to/or just have come on is also normal in the early weeks, you get more swollen down there and heavier discharge which makes it feel like your period is going to arrive any second.

Symptoms wise, most pregnancies don't give any or have intermittant symptoms until around 7-9 weeks, some don't give any at all, some give you lots of symptoms before AF is even due.

In regards to the tests, as a previous poster has said, chemical pregnancies, the lines tend to be faint to start with then get even lighter, I've had around 6 chemical pregnancies while TTC my last two babies. My two confirmed miscarriages, one spontanious at 6.5w and one MMC, the tests had good clear progression on them both times, in fact with my MMC I was still getting super dark tests for weeks after the ERPC which was done at 10.5 weeks, I also cruelly had all the symptoms under the sun with my MMC too, I was pretty ill with morning sickness sat in the hospital waiting to have the pregnancy removed. The tests with that pregnancy were far darker than the tests I got with my current pregnancy (34 weeks now). Although I have to say, the only thing that made me suspicious that things wern't progressing as they should was that my cramping got less intense around 8 weeks when it's usually peaking for me around then, and then it almost vanished, so I booked a private scan which I just knew wasn't going to give good news. The one consistent symptom I've had with all of my successful pregnancies was the cramping which got worse up to around 8-9 weeks before it started getting less frequent.

On the flip side, one of my successful pregnancies had no symptoms at all apart from a few days of queasiness before my period was due, then it vanished and never returned, no sore boobs, no tiredness etc, only thing I had was the cramping. All pregnancies are different so try not to worry. I've had all kinds of combos through 8 pregnancies (5 births, 2 MC and the pregnancy I'm carrying now). I understand why you are worrying though, I didn't worry at all until my first miscarriage, since then I've been a serial tester in all the pregnancies since, my first 4 I just took 1 test to confirm pregnancy then didn't give it a second thought.

You are pregnant, Congratulations! Grin

memaymamo · 04/05/2018 12:50

Thinking of you OP. I know what it's like to obsess over something, and pregnancy tests are too easy a way to seek reassurance.

The clinic was right - the test is for knowing if you are or aren't pregnant. And you are!

Of course you're worried. It's so natural when you've experienced loss. Can you distract yourself with a list of tasks you need to get done? Then at least you'll be productive while distracting yourself!

Bluebirdsky · 04/05/2018 12:52

I know it's really hard but unfortunately there is no was to know for definite either way other than just watching and waiting and seeing what happens. It's rubbish and worrying I know but it's the reality.
I know it's hard but try and find some other things to do and distract yourself a bit it's easy to let it consume you and for it to be the only thing you think about, but it doesn't help you.

mumofmunchkin · 04/05/2018 13:01

In my first pregnancy I had really bad cramps that felt like my period was about to arrive, or had already come, for quite a long time. They didn't feel anything like stretching, just like period cramps.

The child is now 4.5 and off to school next year.

Everything you've described sounds totally normal for someone who is pregnant. Which you are.

Iswallowtoothpaste · 04/05/2018 17:52

Rikalaily so sorry to hear about your losses and thank you for reassuring me. I find the pains quite similar to the afterpains you get when breast feeding after birth.

Just a waiting game I suppose. All I can do is take comfort from the fact that I haven bled yet

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Iswallowtoothpaste · 05/05/2018 07:03

Should be at least 2-3 weeks even by my rough dates.

Well, i think I’m out.
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GlitteryFluff · 05/05/2018 07:14

Please, please if you can, stop doing tests. You're gonna drive yourself mad.
If you're planning on doing another one in a week to see it change to 2-3 please try not to!

There was a thread on here about how they aren't accurate and cause lots of heartache then sudden happiness and also the other way round.
Op emailed them her experience because they were so wrong.

PenguinChristmas · 05/05/2018 07:14

Stay away from those clear clue ones. I’ve never got a 3+ in my pregnancies. And they’ve never moved when they’re meant too. I think they’re actually really bias because they make women worry more.

GlitteryFluff · 05/05/2018 07:17

Just quickly searching threads, can't find the complaint one, but lots of people saying it didn't increase and their baby's are fine. Even a twin pregnancy didn't make it go past 1-2 weeks.

SoyDora · 05/05/2018 07:20

I have just taken a leftover digital in the name of research. Mine says 2-3 weeks when it should be 3+ weeks. I think they’re notoriously inaccurate.

12PurpleSnails · 05/05/2018 07:21

The weeks on my clear blue tests increased and I still had a MMC discovered at 10 weeks it tells you nothing. Please stop testing, you must be driving yourself crazy and honestly it tells you nothing reliable. Either go to the doctors and get a blood test to check your hormone levels or book a private early scan but realistically all these tests and speculation aren't telling you anything.

noitsachicken · 05/05/2018 07:22

I really don’t understand, you have taken multiple tests all showing you are pregnant, you have pregnancy symptoms, no bleeding. YOU ARE PREGNANT!

Stop testing.

I have had a miscarriage, I know how awful it is, but you are currently pregnant, and no reason to think otherwise.
With my last pregnancy I took one test, that was it, I knew I was pregnant. Why keep stressing yourself and the baby?

Mississippilessly · 05/05/2018 07:26

OP a pregnancy is 40 weeks. That is a long time. Unfortunately we can never be sure everything is going to be ok until that baby is in our arms safe and well. You are going to do your mental health and probably your relationship damage if you spend the next 9 months like this.

Stop. Testing. See a GP and get help for your anxiety. Because it will only get worse. Please.

jitterbug5 · 05/05/2018 07:27

With those clear blue tests, 1-2 weeks means since conception so it means you would be 3-4 weeks pregnant. Does that sound right?

If not, honestly, they are really quite inaccurate! I'm 12 weeks now and even leaving it a week in between testing it didn't go up! I don't really trust them

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Pigeoncat · 05/05/2018 07:30

STEP AWAY FROM THE TESTS. Every pregnancy is different.

I too have anxiety and have struggled a long time. The first few weeks I was taking a lot of tests and they all came out different and started worrying (I had 2 clear blues come out inconclusive and went ARRRGH) and then took another couple which came out fine. What will be will be. I am only 10 weeks now and still have no idea if everything is ok or not but the second I stopped staring at tests I felt better. My body is definitely giving me all the right signs at 10 weeks (sick, tired, hungry, tired, going off foods, fat, hungry, TIRED) and that’s as much as I need to know right now. The first scan will still be anxiety inducing and I might still get some bad news but taking more tests would change nothing. Just step away from the tests and let your body do it’s job.

PotteringAlong · 05/05/2018 07:41

Enough now. I’ve read and posted over the last few days on this thread. Seriously. Enough. And go to the dr’s about your mental health, please. Flowers

pumpersnatch · 05/05/2018 07:52

With much respect you need to stop!
You are pregnant. Your symptoms are early pregnancy symptoms. You've had a child you MUST know this.
Stop doing the tests you sound ridiculous and you'll make yourself ill

StillMissV · 05/05/2018 08:02

I understand where you're coming from but you really need to stop - you're going to make yourself ill. Can you speak to your partner and ask him to intervene, this really isn't healthy

Redrosebelle · 05/05/2018 08:07

OP what about having an early scan? You can go from about 6 weeks. I’d advise waiting until nearer 7, i had one and was much reassured by it

Iswallowtoothpaste · 05/05/2018 08:21

How else do I get answers? They won’t do blood tests and I can’t stand this limbo. I feel like I’m going to have to go for a scan and face the upset and humiliation of being told that the baby has died and then I’m going to have to have some sort of intervention to get it out of me.

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Mississippilessly · 05/05/2018 08:24

iswallow this is seriously disordered thinking. You know as much as can be known through pregnancy tests. You are prgnant. You have a choice. Either go for a private scan, which will either tell you everything is fine or tell you that you have sadly miscarried. This will either put your mind at rest or feed your anxiety. Or you see a GP and deal with the root of the problem - the anxiety - and get quietly excited that you are pregnant and wait until the 12 week scan.

PotTheRed · 05/05/2018 08:26

Good luck OP. I hope everything turns out ok. Do you have a date in your head where you would feel more confident with the pregnancy?

I used to wait until 13 weeks before I let myself start to get excited. Before that I would be 'hopeful' but not counting on a pregnancy. IYSWIM

SoyDora · 05/05/2018 08:27

But no one has answers in early pregnancy. Everyone is in the same boat. All anyone has to go on is a positive pregnancy test and lack of bleeding. Yes MMC’s sadly happen, to anyone. Until you can feel the baby moving around, a pregnant woman only has a positive pregnancy test to go on. Which you have.

Iswallowtoothpaste · 05/05/2018 08:32

But I know, deep down what’s going to happen. I just want some proof.

Have got DD and DSD really acting up today and I just can’t cope, I want literally 5 minutes peace and quiet, even a reassuring hug off OH but DSD is cling to him like a limpit and sitting in between us if we’re sat together. It usually doesn’t bother me but today I want to be selfish and ask for a cuddle without being forced apart and just for them to behave and stop knocking 10 bells of shit out of each other for once. I can’t cope with the noise and the she did this and she did that.

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