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Well, i think I’m out.

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Iswallowtoothpaste · 30/04/2018 05:56

Just done another test and it’s no darker than the one I did 2 days ago. Not sure how many DPO I am but symptoms have gone too and have low abdominal cramping.

It’s taken us 2.5 years to fall pregnant again after last M/C and looks like it’s happening all over again Sad

This baby is so wanted. Feeling very sorry for myself.

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Girlwiththearabstrap · 05/05/2018 17:27

I am very sorry this is happening. As others have said a bleed doesn't always mean the worst although obviously it can do. Can you get anyone to sit with the kids so you and OH can talk and spend some time together? I'm not excusing him if he's been nasty but it does sound like you've both been under a great deal of stress the last few days and that can make people act unpleasantly.

FuckingHateRain · 05/05/2018 18:13

I am guessing that your anxiety has caused communications problems. You have been very wound up for a while and this will have affected him.

I'm sorry this is not something you say to someone going through a potential loss. Not having a go but this is insensitive
Even if she's been shit to him, wtf he can bear with it for the day

ProperLavs · 05/05/2018 18:25

of course he can bear it for a day, but it's something she should bear in mind, especially if wanting to try again.

Applejack70455 · 05/05/2018 18:27

To play devil's advocate - I had this, where I was so sure it wasn't going to work out I told DP about ten times and it was like crying wolf when I eventually knew for sure. He was lovely once I started bleeding but before that had taken everything with a pinch of salt because I had been so anxious and he would rather wait and see what happened.

Applejack70455 · 05/05/2018 18:31

Ok so I know it sucks. But it's early days and you just have to get on with looking after your daughter and stepdaughter. Your DP is being a dick but it's not the end of the world although it might seem like it and the best thing you can do is jsut get on with caring for your children.

huha · 05/05/2018 19:10

OP, I hope your friend can make it for emotional support. While I am in no way validating your DH's reaction, please remember that he may be reacting emotionally rather than sensibly. You've done a ton of negative self talk over the past week, something that I'm sure has had a negative affect on both of you. Take care of yourself for now, deal with his shit later (other than TELLING him he needs to care for kids so you can sort yourself out).

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Iswallowtoothpaste · 05/05/2018 20:40

I don’t think I do want to try again. That’s it for me now.

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FuckingHateRain · 05/05/2018 20:48

So sorry OP, been through this shit, it's awful
There are things you can do if you want to try again (basic tests,etc), if not you have a lovely family you can enjoy. Wishing you quick recovery and health x

MyOtherProfile · 05/05/2018 22:50

I don’t think I do want to try again. That’s it for me now.

I certainly wouldn't want to try again with him.

huha · 05/05/2018 23:42

That's not very fair @MyOtherProfile

MyOtherProfile · 05/05/2018 23:45

huha have you read how he has responded? I wouldn't consider trying again with a man who behaves like that.

Cantchooseaname · 06/05/2018 05:43

I hope you are doing ok today. Now isn’t the time to make any decisions- about relationships, pregnancies, anything. It’s time to grieve, to give yourself time and space to deal with the physical and emotional fallout.
Hope you have had quiet night.

12PurpleSnails · 06/05/2018 07:58

It's also worth pointing out you still might be pregnant. With my successful pregnancy I bled at 6 weeks, 9 weeks and 13 weeks. Everything was fine. I think you need to see your GP for support mentally regardless of what happens with this pregnancy.

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Iswallowtoothpaste · 06/05/2018 08:47

We kissed and made up last night. Obviously I haven’t exactly been the best person to be around over the last couple of days and have been quite distant and difficult to live with.

I’ve had absolutely no more bleeding, the mystery deepens. Goodness knows what’s going on. I’ve woken feeling nauseaous, breasts are sore and I’ve got lower stomach cramps too.

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Scrowy · 06/05/2018 09:02

You can't set too much store by bleeding.

I've had first trimester bleeding in all three of my pregnancies and only one was a MC.

The bleeding was so heavy with DC1 that I didn't actually know I was pregnant until I was 8 weeks as I had a 4 day period like bleed around the time my period should have been so got a bit of a shock when I went for a scan a few weeks later at what I thought was 8 weeks to find I was actually nearer 11 weeks!

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Iswallowtoothpaste · 06/05/2018 09:14

Scrowy my friend bled all the way through her pregnancy, didn’t show much at all and as a result didn’t find out she was pregnant until she was 36 weeks gone!

I’ve bled in all my pregnancies too, only my odds are so great, first pregnancy was a M/C at around 5-6 weeks then had DD then a M/C in December 2015 and now, well, we don’t quite know yet, was hoping it was going to follow the pattern M/C, baby, M/C, baby and then that would do me, no more heart ache but we’ll have to wait and see. I’ve heard a lot about Haematomas causing heavy bleeding during pregnancy. My mum said that she never bled with me but I barely moved, she said she bled constantly with my brother and if it wasn’t for the fact that he was booting her in the bladder every 20 seconds during the last 2 trimesters then she’d have been constantly at the midwives office.

All pregnancies are different I guess. Will just have to wait and see. Could easily have gotten my dates wrong, I know I ovulated late but can remember how late, maybe not as far on as I thought.

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SecretStash · 06/05/2018 09:26

Hi OP, sorry to hear about your bleed. I’m glad to hear you and your partner have made up.

I personally think it’s time for an early scan to see what’s going on.
I think I’ve suggested it a few times but you didn’t reply. Is it something you’d rather avoid?
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PrimalLass · 06/05/2018 09:33

Crossing fingers and toes for you, OP.

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Iswallowtoothpaste · 06/05/2018 09:48

SecretStash I’d like to go for one but I’m not sure that I’m far enough to actually see anything. I would be absolutely amazed if I could see a little heartbeat.

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SecretStash · 06/05/2018 10:05

You must be at least 5 weeks?

Maybe in a week?

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Iswallowtoothpaste · 06/05/2018 10:49

That’s what I was thinking but then I’m not sure when I ovulated. I get ovulation pain and I definitely didn’t get it 2 weeks to the day of the start of my period like I usually do. I was working my dates out as though I’d ovulated late which would’ve been the 13th ish of April but could’ve been even late than that to be fair. My first BFP was on 26th of April so that could’ve been 9dpo at the earliest which means that I may (or may not) have Ov’d on the 17th. Gaahhhhh I don’t know. It’s a mind fuck.

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franktheskank · 06/05/2018 10:59

Book a private scan to put your mind at rest think they can do it from 5 weeksSmile

franktheskank · 06/05/2018 11:00

I had one at 5 weeks it's like a little ring with a blob on the inside.

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Iswallowtoothpaste · 06/05/2018 11:17

Ah right, I’ll look into it, perhaps by the time the appointment come I’ll be further on anyway? Having said that he doctor was going to send me in for an early scan. Had one at 7+4 weeks with DD and could clearly see a little blob and a heart beat

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WhoAteAllTheDinosaurs · 06/05/2018 12:09

Yup, time for a scan I think. Hope it's all ok for you OP.

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