Newbie to the pregnancy board! Due end of December.. anyone else due around the same time?

[Rose2887]

Just looking for a board to join, have just started weaning myself off conception. I’m due 26th December. Feeling like it would be nice to join a group with people due similar time :)
Feeling a little anxious about things going wrong and dp doesn’t really understand x

Morning Rose,

You're not on your own. I'm exactly the same. Id spent the day yesterday on a training course for work (to mark exam papers - don't know why I've done it to myself) Hubby then spent the day at the football with his dad so obviously had a few drinks. I left the house at 7:30am got back at 6pm. I asked him to just get a few bits from the shop for tea and he hadn't, he was also being really annoying because he was drunk and I just lost it with him. Ended up sat crying in bed by 8pm and ended up having no tea.
Feel like he hasn't got a clue about it all. I suffer quite bad with anxiety as it is and he just really isn't helping. I'm now sat on the sofa reading a book because I don't want to be in bed next to him when he wakes up.
Hope you're okay. Remember you're not alone in this, we're all in it together xx

@emmalou9 @rose2887

Pregnancy is a time for Dads-to-be to prepare too. You might find they want to have a few big blow out nights out etc, and my advice is to let them have it. If that helps them mentally prepare for being all-hands-on-deck when the baby arrives then so be it.

Try to explain to OH that the first trimester can be the toughest part of pregnancy. People assume because the baby is so tiny that the effects can’t be that bad but for most the first 10 weeks and last 10 weeks are by far the worst.

Your hormones should settle down in the second tri when the placenta is established and baby isn’t drawing directly on you so much.

Also try to give OH specific instructions. They can feel quite useless during pregnancy so write them a list of things they can do while you are busy growing their child.

Today I told OH I needed a lie in (he got up with toddler) and for him to hang up all the washing. And to commiserate with my bloatiness and sickness.

Morning FoxgloveStar,

I really do try to be as explicit with him as I can. I normally get the the lines "you're not at work now" or "don't use your teacher voice with me". I also have lists for everything.

I just cant help but think he's being selfish. I completely understand about having a blow out etc but he's not understanding this side of it.

I'm now worried that because I got so angry and upset I've done something to harm the baby.

To top it off because he wound me up so much I slammed the laptop down on the table and have broken the hard drive in it which has all of our honeymoon photos on - I really should know better but he just kept winding me up!!

Ahhhh, why cant men be as simple as women!?

@Rose2887 @emmalou9 it's no wonder you're feeling like that, your emotions are all over the place cos of the hormones! Plus if you're tired etc that'll be adding to it.

I've not been irritable but I am SO emotional, I cried about 12 times yesterday. Once at a picture of a dog that looked a bit sad, once because my DP had just woken up and his hair was all sticking up and it was cute, once because a woman was a tiny bit rude to me on the phone.

My DP is just bemused by the whole thing, he doesn't know what the f is going on

Hey girls, thanks for the response means a lot.
My dp literally doesn’t have a clue, it scares me I’ll have to end up doing this on my own.
He shouted at me in tescos yesterday, I sobbed in the car and walked in and got into bed with no tea etc.. he slept on sofa just came up, slammed a coffee next to me and walked out.
Problem is he hates my friends, he moans about my family... and last night the argument started as I said he should want me for me. He doesn’t have many friends and hes quite selfish.
He said some awful things to me last night about how I can be on my own and claim csa, and how he could be sleeping with loads of women but he’s doing right by me, unlike other men would!!!!

Not sure what to do... :(

Hi all,
Just thought I'd write a post. I found out I'm pregnant on Tuesday. I had a miscarriage mid Feb and we're in shock we got pregnant so quickly. We weren't even actively trying and we were only intimate once. We just can't believe it.
Last time I was telling the world I was pregnant, but this time I'm trying to keep it to myself.
I'm apprehensive to start getting excited and getting things organised like seeing the doctor etc and letting them know I'm pregnant.
I'm not having as many symptoms as last time (no sore boobs or feeling sick) so it does feel different this time.
I did another pregnancy test yesterday and the line is very dark (which for me is good) as last time it took ages for the line to get darker.
Any advice for anyone who has suffered a miscarriage before and got pregnant again quite quickly? I'm worrying it could happen again.
Thanks xx

@Rose2887 that sounds awful for you. Is he normally that bad? My ex used to do the whole 'I could be sleeping with other women' thing as a way to control me and make me feel insecure.

However if he's not normally like that maybe he's just completely freaking out and stressed and he's taking it out on you? Doesn't make it acceptable but it may be easier to work through than if he's always been like that.

Rose do you think you are able to have a calm honest conversation with him? Give eachother the chance to explain your feelings. I think you need to try and get it straight now.
I hope he is just having a 'new dad to be' panic and doesnt know what to say.

@Rose2887 for you I have lots of hugs and you @emmalou9 ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

Men are weird. I agree with everyone about trying to have a conversation with them about how you feel AND how they feel.

@FireAndRain45 my DH is very much like yours, completely bemused. I’ve always been over-emotional (John Lewis Christmas adverts get me every time!) but I’m now irrationally cross or irritated...he just let’s me get on with it 😂😂😂

I completely understand that its scary for them as well as it. @Rose2887 has he not said a word to you this morning? I think part of the problem is that for them it doesn't feel completely real yet (no scan, no bump)
I'm the one that's sat here feeling guilty because we've had an argument even though I know its not just my fault.

Thanks @G00ders1 hope you're doing well!!

@lozapink I’m not sure there is anything you can do. Just try to stay calm and know that with every day that passes the chances of MC reduces. It’s going to be a hard few weeks till your scan but try to stay active and distract yourself with other things best you can.

Very sorry for your loss.

Oh @Rose2887 that sounds horrible. I hope he's just scared and will be okay soon. Massive hugs to you and @emmalou9.

My partners used to me being a stroppy bitch. We're in London currently for a weekend together. I've been soo tired walking around, I've been yelling at him loads. Everyone's looking at us like I'm a mad woman. He just laughs x

@rose2887 is this normal behaviour? It does sound like he is treating you quite badly but if it’s unusual then probably best to give him the benefit of the doubt and some time to adjust to the new world. If this is normal behaviour, well, I dunno, it’s not something I’d put up with but perhaps it’s not usually this bad?

@emmalou9 you haven’t harmed the baby with one argument but you need to find some balance as long term stress isn’t good for anyone. How are things now?

@mamfypuss today me: “get your elbows away from me! Wtf is wrong with them. I want to file them down” if we have a baby with your elbows it’s all your fault

@FoxgloveStar hahaha this is exactly what we are like. Every time I snap he just goes "food, I think we need food" 😂

@FoxgloveStar thank you for reassuring me. I know that stress is no good for baby.
Everything is okay now, just been to do the food shop but couldn't stop heaving all the way round. I think morning sickness has well and truly kicked in this weekend.
How are you holding up? What symptoms have you had so far?

@Rose2887 hows things your end now??

loza I’m sorry for your loss. The sickness doesn’t usually kick in till around 6 weeks and not everyone gets sore boobies or if they do it varying degrees of ‘soreness’

Mine are at presently less sore at this time of day but more so at bedtime, not untouchably sore though.

rose is he like this all the time? You shouldn’t be made to feel ‘grateful’ that he’s standing by you and not going out shagging scores of women instead. That rings alarm bells for me, that’s just the bare minimum of what is expected, he honestly shouldn’t expect a medal for it. Hoping that this is totally out of character for him and that you’re managing to sort things out. Thinking of you xxxx

loza i feel the same. Had a mc last summer so not as quick as you. I had to take a few months to get my head round it. Im terrified. DH is getting so excited, im so worried about dissapointing him again. Why cant our bodies just do what they are meant to?! No words of wisdom for you, but you are def not alone.

Sorry you are going through this @Rose2887 when clearly this is a time when you need support not stress. I'm hopeful this is just a phase and out of fear on his part and not the norm. Whatever it is though it's clearly not good enough. I hope you guys can talk it through and get to a better place. Sending hugs x

I’ve been feeling crap all day today. Feeling sick and so tired. Might skive work tomorrow if I’m still like this. Fizzy cola bottles have helped.

I'm with you @FoxgloveStar the exhaustion and queasiness are no joke. I'm only in week 5 so have a horrible feeling it's going to get much worse before it gets better! And what are these early mornings all about?! We go on hols next thurs so just tying to push through at work until then! x

@FoxgloveStar and @helbel42 I have felt absolutely dreadful today 🤢 I don’t even know what to do to make myself feel better and I hate feeling sick 🙄

Trying to convince DH that we should go on holiday in May half term, when I’ll be around 11 weeks. He says we shouldn’t go because if I’m still feeling sick then I won’t enjoy being on holiday. I’ve said I’ll feel better if I’m somewhere warm ☀️

Snap on feeling crap today. Thought i was going to throw up in tesco. And my boobs feel massive.