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Gush of blood at 12 weeks? Terrified!

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CobaltRose · 08/04/2018 20:55

Hi everyone.

I'm 11+5 with my first child. About an hour and a half ago I stood up from the sofa and felt a 'gush' down there. Initially thinking I'd wet myself, I went to the bathroom only to discover bright red blood! Sad

Over the next few minutes it reduced to spotting, and now it SEEMS to have stopped. I'm not in any pain whatsoever and I'm still feeling nauseous and my boobs are still sore, but I'm terrified I'm losing the baby Sad

I tried calling the antenatal clinic at my local hospital and my midwife, but both lines were busy. I then called 111 and am still waiting for a call back. I'm terrified I'm having a miscarriage Sad

Any positive stories about bleeding in pregnancy? Thanks Flowers

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Ski40 · 11/04/2018 00:26

Oh no I'm so sorry 💔💔
I lost a baby 8 years ago so I know your pain and just wanted to send you a massive hug 😢💐💐 xx

SaturdaySauv · 11/04/2018 06:45

Flowers I really hope all goes well today. I had surgical management for missed miscarriage yesterday and it was a very straightforward and pain free process physically (the worst of it was a cannula in my hand for the GA).
The Miscarriage Association has good downloadable leaflets which are particularly helpful for the emotional side. Take your time to recover Flowers

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CobaltRose · 11/04/2018 06:49

Thank you so much everyone. I have now been admitted and am laying in my bed waiting to be seen. Unfortunately I'm not allowed visitors due to space Sad And I'm not allowed to wear my own clothes, not even underwear, so I'm having to bleed onto a pad on the bed, which is fairly humiliating. Sad

I think I'll be okay though Flowers

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jkl0311 · 11/04/2018 06:50

I really hoped this was going to be good news.... I am so sorry for you. But please don't get ate up over this.... 100s of people have a miscarriage and go on to have subsequent babies no problem. Hope it goes ok today Thanks rest up

SaturdaySauv · 11/04/2018 06:58

Are you sure you’re not allowed to wear pants and a pad? You’ll have time to remove everything before the anaesthetic. Could you just put them on anyway? You should be allowed for it to be as dignified as possible.
If it would help you could try to say you’re (understandably) upset and need emotional support and ask again if your DP/Mum can be with you. Or text/call and ask them to advocate for you.
Very sorry you’re going through this Flowers

Remember- this too shall pass. You’ll be home in bed with a cuppa later today.

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CobaltRose · 11/04/2018 07:04

Thank you. Unfortunately the staff nurse was very firm about no visitors and no outside clothing. She seems very formidable so I daren't question her. Apparently if I'd had a side room I'd be able to have visitors but I've been put in a two-bed bay. Better than a ward I suppose.

I'm still able to text, so am staying in contact with family that way. Just had the pessaries inserted (which actually didn't hurt at all). Now we wait....

Thank you so much for all your support Flowers

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Somersetter · 11/04/2018 07:16

I'm so sorry to hear this. Thinking of you Flowers

SaturdaySauv · 11/04/2018 07:22

Ah I’m sorry they’re not budging on it. It’ll all be over very soon and you’ll be home again. Now the pessaries are in place it won’t be long for the surgery.

I know it’s different for everyone but there was definitely some relief at the medical side being over for me (mixed with the sadness of course).

It’s all happened very quickly for you so take as much as you need to for dealing with the emotions of the loss. Your GP will be able to help if you’re having a rough time in the coming weeks. Let your family and friends take care of you too.

joystir59 · 11/04/2018 07:24

You sound strong and brave OP. Sending you love.

BrutusMcDogface · 11/04/2018 07:32

Ah, Cobalt. Thinking of you today Flowers

xiKGx · 11/04/2018 07:32

Handholding for you! SadThanks

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CobaltRose · 11/04/2018 07:36

Thank you everyone. I may sound brave but I'm absolutely bricking it! Blush I must admit I am a little relieved that there is a light at the end of the tunnel, so to speak. By this afternoon it'll all be over. Medically, at least. Of course I'm still heartbroken at the loss of my baby but today I've allowed myself to think it'll be okay. I'll be fine. In time. Flowers

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Flatwhite32 · 11/04/2018 07:56

@CobaltRose it's completely normal to feel nervous. I promise, it'll get better in time. However, please don't feel you 'should' be better quickly. I kept pressurising myself into trying to feel better, and it actually made things worse. Give yourself time to recover, to grieve and be kind to yourself. Xx

SaturdaySauv · 11/04/2018 07:59

Glad that you’re feeling positive about the future and that it’ll be ok in the long run. I feel the same to be honest- like it’s a horrible but temporary set back.

Don’t be scared of the surgery (easy for me to say the day after, I know). It really is so straightforward and minimal pain- and that’s the case for the majority of women. Thinking of you this morning.

PurpleSnails · 11/04/2018 08:09

Just caught up in this thread, I'm so sorry for your loss Thanks

I've been through similar myself and it is heartbreaking, be kind to yourself and give yourself time to recover both physically and mentally xxx

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CobaltRose · 11/04/2018 08:16

I've just seen the anaesthetist (who was lovely). Apparently I'm first on the list, so it looks like surgery is imminent. Shock

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CobaltRose · 11/04/2018 08:27

Doctor just asked if I wanted the feotal tissue examined Sad I said no. It may seem harsh of me but I just want this over and done with. I want to be able to grieve my baby without worrying about 'what ifs'.

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justforthisthread101 · 11/04/2018 08:28

You poor poor thing. I too have just found this thread and like everyone else am sending love and strength.

I had two MCs, one of which was an MMC and it’s a horrible thing. Take care of yourself and be kind to yourself. Give yourself the time to be sad. 7 years on I have a 5 year old and a 4 year old. This will pass. I know it’s massively isolating but you really are not alone.

Have a very unmumsnetty hug.

GerardButlersBird · 11/04/2018 08:31

Thinking of you @CobaltRose and sending you strength and good vibes. That's probably un-Mumsnetty too. Don't care. Been where you are Thanks

SaturdaySauv · 11/04/2018 09:14

I said the same about the fetal tissue. I think they test for molar pregnancy as standard but not any genetics. Glad the op will be over soon.

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CobaltRose · 11/04/2018 11:18

Hi everyone.

Operation went very well, I went in at 9 and was back on the ward by 10. I feel like I've had a few too many bevvies haha and my throat is killing me and has a weird chemical taste, but I'm okay. No pain yet and very minimal bleeding. Flowers

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joystir59 · 11/04/2018 11:58

Wishing you all the comfort in the world. It is a time to be very kind to yourself OP

SaturdaySauv · 11/04/2018 12:08

Glad it all went well cobalt. Hope you’ve had something to eat and a hot drink. Rest up Flowers

Sushirolls · 11/04/2018 12:18

Thinking of you Flowers

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CobaltRose · 11/04/2018 12:33

Thank you everyone Flowers Had to request some pain relief as cramps kicked in hard. Bleeding has increased quite a bit. It's now like a heavy period. But I'm feeling much more awake and I'm bloody starving! Grin

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