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Gush of blood at 12 weeks? Terrified!

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CobaltRose · 08/04/2018 20:55

Hi everyone.

I'm 11+5 with my first child. About an hour and a half ago I stood up from the sofa and felt a 'gush' down there. Initially thinking I'd wet myself, I went to the bathroom only to discover bright red blood! Sad

Over the next few minutes it reduced to spotting, and now it SEEMS to have stopped. I'm not in any pain whatsoever and I'm still feeling nauseous and my boobs are still sore, but I'm terrified I'm losing the baby Sad

I tried calling the antenatal clinic at my local hospital and my midwife, but both lines were busy. I then called 111 and am still waiting for a call back. I'm terrified I'm having a miscarriage Sad

Any positive stories about bleeding in pregnancy? Thanks Flowers

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CobaltRose · 10/04/2018 08:15

Thank you so much for the support, everyone. I'm feeling a bit more hopeful today. Had no pain or any more bleeding overnight (I was laying awake for hours just waiting for the cramps to start, but they never did). Even the brown blood on wiping has gone now.

I'm still terrified, but trying to remain hopeful ❤

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Frazzled2207 · 10/04/2018 09:11

At my 12 week scan a haematoma was spotted and I was told to expect a bit of a bleed and not to panic as it would not affect baby at all.
As it happened it didn't come (think it must have sorted itself out naturally as gone by the next scan) but that's hopefully a bit of reassurance that these things can happen at this stage and can be harmless.

Cutesbabasmummy · 10/04/2018 10:56

I had the same at 6 and 8 weeks and bled until about 14 weeks. Was expecting my first much wanted ivf baby and was terrified.He's now 3 and fine!

WhyTheHeckMe · 10/04/2018 11:30

How did you get on op? Hoping all is well. Thinking of you

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CobaltRose · 10/04/2018 14:15

Had scan today... unfortunately it wasn't good news.

I'm having a miscarriage Sad Baby stopped developing several weeks ago, but I've only started to pass it now, so they're calling it a missed miscarriage. I still feel pregnant Sad Devastated but more numb than anything. I've cried a few times but I feel like I should be more upset than I am. I dunno. I'm just numb Sad

Gotta go in tomorrow for a D&C. Fiancé is obviously devastated too but is being a huge support, as is my mum.

What a shitty and exhausting day Sad

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OhFucko · 10/04/2018 14:18

I'm so sorry Flowers

Buddyelf · 10/04/2018 14:21

Oh goodness OP I am so sorry Flowers

ichifanny · 10/04/2018 14:22

Gutted for you cobaltrose the same thing happened to us a few years ago , look after yourself . Xxx

Flatwhite32 · 10/04/2018 14:25

I'm so sorry @CobaltRose. I had a missed miscarriage last August and found out at the 12 week scan. I also had an ERPC (pretty much the same as a D&C). Please let me know if you have any questions. It is so normal to feel how you do. Take as much time as you need to grieve, and don't let anyone force you into anything (like going back to work before you're ready). Take care. Xx

Cutesbabasmummy · 10/04/2018 14:34

So sorry and much hand holding xxx

Frazzled2207 · 10/04/2018 15:10

i'm so sorry, I was hoping for a positive outcome
please look after yourself.
I know many people who've had miscarriages who have gone on to have very healthy and beautiful babies. You'll be one of those soon.

twobambinos · 10/04/2018 15:13

@cobaltrose I'm so sorry was reading the whole thread hoping for a good news outcome. I hope you are doing ok x

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CobaltRose · 10/04/2018 15:30

@MouldyVoldy, I'm glad you had a good outcome but unfortunately in my case I'm having a miscarriage Sad

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MouldyVoldy · 10/04/2018 15:30

I'm so sorry! I didn't read the thread properly. :( I've asked for my comment to be deleted.

notWORKzilla · 10/04/2018 15:34

CobaltRose, I'm so so sorry. poor you Flowers

Girlwiththearabstrap · 10/04/2018 15:37

I'm really sorry to read this @CobaltRose. Look after yourself. I think there is a good miscarriage and loss board on mumsnet - I don't mean that you shouldn't post here obviously! Just that there is a board where people have all been through the same thing.
I hope you have lots of support around you. I had a similar experience years ago - not a MMC but an anembryonic pregnancy which was discovered late. I was sad and grieved but ultimately having the support of family and friends really helped.

Emelene · 10/04/2018 15:41

So sorry @CobaltRose. Be kind to yourself Thanks

Pinkvoid · 10/04/2018 15:51

I’m so so sorry Flowers. I went through this twice last year so know exactly how you feel. I think the worst thing in the world is the fact you had miscarried and just had absolutely no idea, as if your body has played some cruel trick on you Sad. You definitely chose the best method with the ERPC, it is quick and painless. Again, I am so so sorry and wish you all the best for the future. The consultant told DP and I to be kind to ourselves after the second miscarriage and that has stuck with me.

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CobaltRose · 10/04/2018 15:54

@Pinkvoid, thank you and sorry for your losses. Yes, the three options were ERPC, going home and waiting for it to pass naturally (which may take weeks), or having a tablet inserted and going home. I just want it over and done with Sad

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SparklyMagpie · 10/04/2018 16:00

@CobaltRose oh sweetheart I am so very sorry :(

Be kind to yourself,I hope you have support around you Flowers

Pinkvoid · 10/04/2018 16:00

I think the best thing to remember, as difficult as it is to accept, that you definitely did not cause this. After my first miscarriage I went through 10000 reasons why I was possibly to blame from drinking a G&T before I knew I was pregnant through to being around my DC when they had chicken pox (even though I had it as a child and the midwife reassured me as long as you have had it, it’s fine.) In reality, it is almost always just a random and horrible thing that can happen to anyone.

The next few weeks and probably months will be a blur. Let all of your emotions out and lean on people who you trust and love. Get counselling if you can too Flowers.

coastalchick · 10/04/2018 18:52

So sorry for your loss. Same thing happened to me last year, though I wasn’t passing clots, only a bit of blood when I wiped.

It’s a horrible time but you will come out the other side at some point, I promise. Lots of support on here x

kiwimummy11 · 10/04/2018 20:18

I'm so sorry to hear this Flowers When I miscarried, the most helpful thing the lovely nurse at the epu said to us was if the thought ever creeps in that it was something we'd done that had caused it to banish it completely because it absolutely wasn't the case. At the time I thought 'I'm not thinking that', but later it was so helpful as I processed it mentally. Look after yourself Flowers