Arguments over pink pram!

[Summerbaby2018]

So I am either going to get icandy or egg but found out the icandy colour I wanted ( butterscotch) is being discontinued so that's left me stranded I don't want a black pram for a girl as I'm girly myself but my partner refuses to push a pink pram? Has anyone else's partner felt the same or is mine just being an arse as usual about decisions? I wanted to go for this one

And people still say that “girls are just naturally drawn to pink-nothing to so with stereotyping or conditioning at all.....”hmm

Some are, its ridiculous to suggest that no girls are just going to like pink. 1 of my DD's and 1 of my DS's love pink and 1 DD and 1 DS hate it, nothing to do with stereotyping or conditioning I just let them like whatever they like. If anything I think girls who are put in pink and given a pink bedroom from a young age are more likely to get bored of it and not like it but some still of course just will.

Can't tell if OP is being deliberately antagonistic with the "huns" or genuinely talks like that

Hmm I think the fact the OP wanted a pink pram means that her hun is for real. Pram hun innit.

I have no idea if the huns and hearts are real but I am finding this thread very entertaining.

That pink pram is a definitely hun-mum pram. I suspect the use of the word hun is legit here.

I see someone has already suggested Netmums - which I agree is a good idea. You may get more of the responses you like from over there.

I really thought mumsnet was a place for support, a place where we are all equals, but because this poster wanted a pink pram and uses the word “Hun”, she’s being sent over to netmums. Some serious stereotyping going on there. How very judgmental of you!

Alright, no need to be bitchy.

Yes Hun is legit it's just one of those words plumbed into my head I hate it just as much and the pink pram was simply an act of curiosity this is my first baby I'm young I didn't really know what's practical in terms of dirt ect I just wanted to be adventurous with colours that's all

Summerbaby no need to defend yourself. Best of luck with your new baby when she arrives. No one will ever agree with all of your choices. Do what makes you and your family happy

The hearse comments don't bother me I just thought this was a place for support which is was I signed up for because I had no one to talk to and thought who better than Mums themselves ...I understand there always going to be the odd comment but being bitchy and nasty to someone it doesn't make sence

*harsh comments

@Happyland8

Thankyou 😊 I have decided on a black one with my partner as I didn't really think of all the dirt 🙈 And going to just add colour with accessories

Good choice I went for black and it has lasted well for both my daughters.

@summerbaby2018

I’m so sorry you’ve been treated so badly on this thread! May I recommend you try reddit and look for the parenting subs. So much kinder on there, all the bullies get voted down.

Ah OP...Mumsnet judgement strikes again! It's like arseholes and comprehension exams when we were kids ...everyone has an opinion and no-one reads the question properly.

I think you have all you needed and more from this thread. Personally I think you can have whatever f*cking pram you want for whatever sex you have and having had a ridiculous conversation with my DH over two almost identical grey prams at a baby show (one was Joolz and the other Mutsy) with him maintaining the Mutsy was 'more manly' (they were identical and I thought the Joolz was more practical) I sympathise. An almost hissy got was had over coffee. I rolled my eyes and just went for the 'Mutsy man pram' despite the fact I preferred the handling on the other one and would be the one using it more....sigh.

They have such delicate egos at times bless them.

Anyway. You have a pram and I totally get why you fancied more of a statement. I think practicality won out (arse hole time-I think a wise choice) and may I recommend a beautiful colourful pram blanket or two and maybe a really adorable changing bag in a nice bright pink?? The guy can now buy you one I feel having won this 'battle' which you can smile secretly at whenever he disappears to the loos in public with it over one shoulder to change bubs 😂

My recommendation attached. Cute, girlie and sensible ❤️ Good luck with it all.

I had a pink pram as pink is my favourite colour. DH had no issue pushing it.

Posters saying they'd be mortified to even see a pink pram, let alone own one, need to get some perspective.

@duccess why? We were asked an opinion on a pram and gave an honest response. No one has to like it, OP's dp included.

And should we leave comments like “gender stereotyping is rubbish” unchallenged?

I feel a bit sorry for the DH's here. All this "You have what you want hun, you're the only one that matters, I bought the pink shit I love and fuck DH whatever he says".
Eugh. Selfish bints.

It’s as if feminism never happened, isn’t it? Bints? Really, bints?

She has a point though. I'd hate it if my DH spent £1000 on anything without consulting me or taking my opinion into account.

However the word 'bint' is VU!

Well....OP asked whether we thought it was fair that she got to pick the colour of the pram or not over her husband's opinion. She didn't ask our opinion on whether she was gender stereotyping (or our views on it) nor did she ask whether we approve of pink as a colour for a pram or whether we thought it was a sensible colour.

However in all fairness, this is the internet and people have every right to express an opinion and you do open yourself to it when you go public. I just don't think using someone's thread to bash out issues she hasn't asked for help on is fair on the poster and seems to happen time and time again on Mumsnet where honestly some of the feedback borders on trolling (or just mean ladies, just mean!).
-sure pink isn't my thing but I'd never tell someone I thought their option was chavvy even if I thought it was!

Don't get me wrong- a good stimulating debate on feminism and gender stereotyping is healthy and needed but just...not here, not right now. Let's start a purpose made debating thread on it and have a structured debate which isn't going to hurt someone :)

We're all different-wouldn't it be boring if we all had the same coloured prams?!

But her dh didn’t want a pink pram because of gender stereotyping. So it is relevant.

I thought he didn't want it as it was pink and he would feel uncomfortable pushing it? Also very relevant obviously. A pram is a massive purchase which you both have to live with!