Posifrickinspring thread for PG after MC!

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If we can't be positive about the weather what can we be?

Welcome posters new and old.

24 weeks Lisa! Congratulations, so so happy for you Is time moving any quicker than it was?

So hope it's good news belkins, hand hold

I'm starting to properly freak out about scan tomorrow. Much deep breathing. Work is a big pile of shite all of a sudden as well so we don't need any more bad news.

I can totally relate to not wanting to make plans for the pregnancy or the idea of a baby. But we've had a few chats about stuff that's just unavoidable, I caught myself looking at the Finnish style baby boxes yesterday, then berating myself as if window shopping affects anything!, then looking at more. It's all so confusing!

I also can't believe that we got to 12 weeks with my MMC without discussing money or plans at all. So irresponsible looking back, as we had no reason to think it wasn't all going to plan! I've started saving like mad (DH has a very expensive ex so despite alright incomes we don't have a lot spare...), which is worth doing anyway, and we're cutting summer plans with the kids back to save cash and energy. Just having to travel hopefully.

Wow 24 weeks @Lisas. What a milestone. I am so thrilled for you.

Can I ask you all something. I’m about to meet a very good friend who’ve I’ve not seen for ages. She doesn’t know I’m pregnant, yet, but it will be obvious when I meeting her and not drinking. She will be over the moon happy for me and I’m looking forward to telling her. We are having a fancy dinner in London to catch up. Would you have a glass of fizz? I don’t want to do anything where I think it’ll be my fault if this pregnancy goes wrong. I’d normally have one glass and not worry (well in previous successful pregnancies I’m pretty sure I had the odd glass every now and then and all turned out fine.) it’s just this time I’m not sure. I’m only 5 weeks... I hate how every decision is laced with what ifs and guilty feelings!

Personally, not in the first trimester. I'm not sure if I'll drink at all but the first trimester is such a head fuck (second trimester is turning out to be too) that id probably stay away. I wouldn't want another thing to be able to feel bad about.

@NoCatsHere could u have soft drink and blame antibiotics or something. A little white lie?

Hello everyone. I need a talking to. My first mc was a blighted ovum diagnosed tentatively at 7 weeks and confirmed at 9 weeks. I am coming up to 7 weeks and a scan next week. When i think about it i feel so worried. I can't bear the thought of watching the sonographer and trying to read her face again. Any words of advice for getting through that first scan again?

Cats could you drive? And then just blame it on that? Do you absolutely not want to tell her yet? I know it's early but certain friends I've been honest with if I was seeing them in person right from the start.

I hear you snore. I’d never had a good scan, just the terrible 12 week one with my mmc which knocked us for 6, then a bunch of crap ones during that mc for monitoring. I was so sick of the sad faces.

I was so stressed before our 6 week one 2 weeks ago I started guffawing in the waiting room beforehand. DH looked like he was going to puke and was silent. The sonographer knew we were there under the RMC so I hoped she’d be quick and nice and I just introduced us then said we were incredibly nervous so to please let us know as soon as she could if things were okay or not. She said yes of course and then got on with it all quickly. We saw the sac with a transab then she said to have a wee and she’d use transvag one to check heartbeat.

I don’t know what might have been different if I hadn’t said how nervous we were but it was nice to honest rather than my normal very polite

Got another one tomorrow and I’m 50/50 no point stressing as all will be well and aaarrrggghhh what if it’s not, there’s no way we’ll cope. We’re watching Brooklyn 99 and pretending it’s not happening. Tomorrow morning I’ll stick my headphones in and work non-stop till it’s time to go.

Really really hope it’s good news for you.

@Snorebrown at my first scan in the RMC they went straight away to the heartbeat and told me within seconds it was there. I think if you say how nervous you are they won't fuck about checking other stuff until they tell you it's ok.

Definitely mention it as soon as you walk in @snoresbrown I think it's a very fair request that they make things as clear as possible asap to put your mind at rest.

Thank you for your positive thoughts this afternoon - my results came back at 5215 (I'm only 5wks) which is more than doubling every 48 hrs since my last test last wednesday. The nurse told me not to panic so much - which I thought was a little odd from a clinic that deals specifically with recurrent miscarriage as surely she deals with anxious patients every day!

Wishing you the best of luck tomorrow @AnneLovesGilbert I hope you're able to get some rest tonight ready for tomorrow. Sorry to hear work is stressful at the moment as well.

Hi all, thanks for your messages in the end I didn’t drink. I didn’t want anything to blame if it went wrong later on. I told my friend straight away, it wasn’t so much telling her more that I fancied the fizz but didn’t want to jepodise anything!! She was happy for me so that was lovely to be able to share it.

Anne good luck tomorrow. Keeping everything crossed for you.

Good luck tomorrow @AnneLovesGilbert
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Aww Cats that's lovely, I'm glad you could share with your friend :)

Good luck Anne.

Belkins, that sounds really positive! Keeping fingers crossed for you.

Great stuff cats

Thanks for the advice everyone. I will definately ask them to be quick I hadnt thought of that. That few minutes silence felt like forever before. Good luck Anne I'll be rooting for you :0)

Another bleed this morning. I called the labour ward and they said I could go in but I've decided not to. There wasn't as much blood as Monday and nowhere near as much blood as last week and I'm now back to spotting. It just isn't feasible for me and DP to miss work every other day and I'm having to make a judgement call. I'm seeing my midwife tomorrow morning so will (hopefully) hear baby's heartbeat but I think I need a plan of action because this bleeding is clearly going to be regular. If the baby was moving then the judgement calls would be easier to make but I'm having to go on volume of blood at the moment.

WTF is wrong with me? Multiple miscarriages and now a pregnancy with constant bleeding and no answers? I feel really down.

Oh kiri no advice but wanted to say im thinking of you

Hi everyone! Can I join? I’ve had 3 miscarriages in a row and I’m now 4 weeks and 4 days pregnant, I have an early scan as I can self refer after my past and I had a lap & dye procedure last month and got pregnant straight away. I’ve never been pregnant for longer than 6 weeks and started bleeding before I’ve ever had a scan so I’m praying this one sticks. It’s perfect timing considering we are getting married next June!! We’ve been trying for 6 years and it feels like everything is coming together finally but my partner says we shouldn’t get our hopes up :(

Hi Natasha welcome :0)

Hi Natasha - I'm really sorry for your losses. My history is quite similar to yours: three miscarriages, two at 5 weeks and one at 7. Do you have a date booked in for your early scan?

Thinking of you today Anne. And thank you to both you and msjuniper for the 24 weeks congrats - I am relieved to say that finally, since the 20 week scan, it does seem to be going a bit quicker. Weeks 4-10 seemed to last as long as the whole time since.

Hi @Lisa! I’m sorry for your losses too. Very similar aren’t they. Yes my early scan is tomorrow but I really don’t feel positive about it. My boobs aren’t sore anymore and I still feel like AF is going to come, then it eventually did on the times before. Super nervous but I know they won’t be able to see much this early :(

LisaSimpsonsbff I was just saying to my midwife today how quickly it has gone in the last trimester. I cannot believe I am 38 weeks today and potentially going to have a section in 2 weeks! I think once I started to feel movement it started to speed up a little. Congrats on 24 weeks-such a milestone to get to

I had a glucose tolerance test this morning due to having increased fluid levels. My midwife was late so it didn't start until 10.30 so by the time of the 2nd lot of bloods I was ready to eat my own arm off! Made up for it since then-am STUFFED.

I'm going to get some arnica tabs soon to start-how far in advance of surgery do you think I should start them? I was thinking prob about 10 days?

@AnneLovesGilbert & @Snorebrown hope all goes ok today

@kirinm hope bleeding has stopped - how blooming hateful! My friend is 14 weeks has had bleeding throughout with no reason given, baby is fine :).

@natashaarr im similar 2 very early losses & a mmc so did see heartbeat for that one but lost later. Im 6 weeks with scan booked for next week & im petrified of what will be or not be there 😕

Thanks keeping. Ive another week to go unfortunately but already worried :0/ its going to be a long week

Sorry @Snorebrown thought was today 🙈. Ive my early one next week & already bricking it too!