Hyperemesis Support

[LucindaE]

I hope everyone suffering from the Horrors of Hyperemesis will find this thread useful as a source of support and information.
There's no TMI on here - can't be by definition - and nobody should feel ashamed of moaning as much as they feel the need to.
MOH's wonderful website is full of useful information on this illness:
sites.google.com/site/pregnancysicknesssos
Another invaluable website is:
www.pregnancysicknesssupport.org.uk
If you need help in obtaining medication, phone them on:
024 7638 2020
Lastly, the NICE guidelines on treatment are useful:
cks.nice.org.uk/nauseavomiting-in-pregnancy
I would like to thank everyone who has given such invaluable support and advice on this and on previous threads.
Remember when you are at your worst, 'This Too Shall Pass'. It really will.
So many women on this thread have thought they couldn't get through this, but they did.

Snap Nat.

I read the thread most days but I'm not sure it's good for me it's a pretty horrible reminder of how shit it is.

There is so much support on here is never have survived if I'm convinced. It is worth it in the end though.

Lost I hope it's a girl for your boys. Not so much for her though, she will have her dad and 3 big brothers vetting her partner choice in the future lol fun times.

herecomes

It’s one of those things that gets reported anecdotally a lot. Yes it’s the same active compound but who knows how different packaging/filler/carrier substrate affects the drug delivery?

I’d go back to the pharmacist , take both the tyres of the pills with you and say something like ‘I know it’s the same drug and I know it should be the same but this is just not working for me - how do I get the previous type?’

LucindaE - Thanks Mother Hen!...I have taken everyone’s advice and not gone into work today, my sick note has been extended for another 2 weeks so we’ll review again then. I feel totally floored today after my efforts to get out and about. I’ve been in bed all day so far which feels rubbish as I can hear the kids downstairs with hubby and all I want to do is play with them and cuddle them..even the smell of my own children makes me gag right now 😕

Thanks to all for kind words and support.

Herecomes hope you get your meds sorted soon, it’s an odd thing but guess it’s plausible due to different manufacturing processes. Fingers crossed you feel better soon

RockinRobin I am sorry that Ondanseton isn't helping that much; some find that combined with Cyclizine and an anti acid, it is really good. Do invest in a laxative for the constipation it causes.
SleepyBadger I am so glad that you haven't tried to drag yourself into work. You obvioulsy need lots of rest. It's very sad about the LO's', but they will soon forget this period fo comparative neglect, if past posts on this thread are anything to go by, being resiliant.
Mustang and Natksu It is always lovely to have you, as you give such good advice, but not nice for you that such grim visions are triggered. For me, it is made more bearable by many years having passed.
hotchocolate How are things today?
Everyone?

Hi lucinda I have had a pretty bad couple of days. I spent all yesterday afternoon and evening in bed and today I am feeling very rough. I have been sick quite a lot over the past couple of days. I am 9 weeks now so I am wondering if my HG is perhaps peaking and maybe it will start to ease off after this. I can hope at least. I’m so looking forward to my bed tonight.

My doctor has just prescribed me two weeks worth of metoclopramide. I’m just wondering if anyone has been on it for a longer period of time as the hospital will only prescribe it for 5 days?

hotchoc metclopramide can cause movement disorder like symptoms in susceptible people (so for example it’s never given to Parkinson’s patients.) the uk is very conservative in prescription - in other countries this is not the first line but the second line treatment. If you have no side effects it’s safe to take for most of the pregnancy. Whatcthe hospital will prescribe to you as an in patient is often on a shorter timescale than what your GP will, purely because responsibility lies with the prescriber and your GP is responsible for your longer term care.

I took it - didn’t work for me alas but no side effects. I hope it works for you and you get some rest.

hotchoc sorry to hear you are feeling rubbish. Hope you get on ok with the new meds 🤞 I’ve never been on that one so can’t offer any advice but fingers crossed for you x

I feel a bit silly but I’ve just spent the last hour in floods of tears after a fight with DH. After a horrible episode of bringing up my entire stomach contents including my multivitamin (yuck that was unpleasant on the way back up) I then had to get on my hands and knees and mop up my daughters wee off the bathroom floor after an accident...(so already in a less than favourable mood) Then husband accuses me of being ‘lazy’ and I should ‘just be getting on with things’ says he can’t cope with the kids on his own and he feels he shouldn’t have to do everything. I’m not paraphrasing either he actually called me ‘lazy’. I’m so so so upset I can’t even put it into words...

sleepy I am so angry for you!

He can’t deal with the kids, but you’re supposed to when you’re in such a state? Give him to me, I’ll lecture some sense into him!

Tell him you’ll remember that next time he has an illness.

SleepyBadger I am outraged. Words fail me! I hope that this was said in temper, and but that 'lazy' is so insulting. He must have known you would be ill. Is he open to reading the 'advice for partners' on the Pregnancy Sickness Support website?
Anitidae Good advice as ever.
hotchocloate I am so sorry about bad days. I hope it is at least peaking for you and that metoclopramide helps. Is the acidity any better since taking an anti acid?

Anatidae thanks. I’m angry too. But mostly just sad and teary. I’ve given myself a nasty headache from crying now too! Oh it’s a mess! You’d think with this being 4th Hg pregnancy and he’s seen me in some states he’d be more supportive but nope 👎 it’s pants

He’s the kind of man aswell that thinks he’s dying if he has a cold 🙄

Sorry i didn’t want to turn this into a husband bashing session but I’m just feeling so unsupported at home. Thank god for this thread!

LucindaE thanks I’ve sent him the link before but I don’t know that he’s read it. Just makes me so sad I have nobody on side at home and feel like he’s being pretty cruel x

Oh sleepy I’m sorry your husbands being unsupportive. I imagine it’s stress but that really doesn’t help you. I’d be so upset too.

Thanks ana for the info on metoclopramide. I’m picking it up tomorrow and hopefully it will pick me up a bit.

The acidity is much better with an anti acid lucinda although I am not taking them often as I think I’m already on enough meds really.

Hi ladies, at the hospital atm and not sure what this means- can you help please?

Will update my appointment with Endo when I have a bit of energy to recall what was said.

Poodle - it means you have very high ketone levels in your urine, but all the other things they test for are negative (blood, glucose, protein (infection.)

It’s an indicator of starvation/dehydration, hopefully they’ll start putting some electrolytes and sugar into you via IV

Keep taking the antacids hotchoc! They work best when you have a steady level of them being taken in. Don’t worry about taking them alongside other drugs - if you take a lot they can reduce your iron absorption a bit but that’s easily fixed if needed. I found the ranitidine made more positive difference to me than any of The antiemetics

Sleepy I'm angry with your DH on your behalf! Lazy!!? It's his responsibility to care for his children too!

Poodle I hope you get some help at the hospital.

Hot choc fingers crossed new meds help and you can start to feel better soon.

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Sleepy I think most of us have been at that point with our other half's and this really is the best place to vent.. I found mine didn't get it at all and coming here helped immensely. I'm really sad and angry for you and for him to call you Lazy on your fourth HG pregnancy, if he hasn't gotten it by now he never will. If you are near the central belt of Scotland I am more than happy to provide any help that is needed, feeling alone in this is nearly as crippling as the Hg itself.

Poodle I really hope they got some fluids into you and you are feeling a bit more like yourself.

Hot I'm also with Ana when it comes to ranatidine it was a like saver for me and wish they had prescribed it far earlier.

Nails did you not realise childcare is an optional extra if you have a penis or at least that is my experience. Except one of my friends whose husband is a star I'm often green with envy at his home making and baby care ability. Iv noticed your post kind of trails off I hope you are coping ok and didn't have to make a mad dash to ones sick bowl

Poodle fingers crossed you get the help you need at the hospital and do update us when you are feeling up to it x

Mustang thank you that’s so sweet of you to offer your help...unfortunately I’m nowhere near Scotland though I’m located down in the midlands. I agree feeling lonely and isolated for me is almost as bad as the crippling physical symptoms. This thread really is a lifesaver! Thankfully my parents come over once a week when my husband is at work to help me with the kids and little household jobs when they aren’t in nursery. They have been fantastic and because they have seen me like this many times before (and my mum had an auntie who had HG in every pregnancy) they have been understanding. It’s hard not having your husband understand though but you are spot on though, if he hasn’t got it by now he never will.

nails yep that’s my experience too. Unfortunately DH was raised in a very old fashioned way where the men/boys are waited on hand and foot and women do everything. Not how I was raised...my Dad is an absolute Gem and always helped my mum with the housework/childcare etc. which is how it should be. As soon as he walked through the door from work his priority was always me and my sister. I think I compare most men I know to that standard and most seem to fall short I’m afraid 😕. For those of you with supportive partners you are so so lucky, cherish it and accept all the help and support you can.

Sleepy upset and angry for you , pleased you have some support from family. I think you are amazing getting through this on meds that aren't helping, with an unsupportive husband. Pleased you are signed off for another few weeks though.
Hotchocolate hope the metoclopramide helps you feel better. Agree with making sure you take the antacid regularly.
Poodle poor you, hope you got some fluids and IV medication and feel a bit better.

poodle I hope you’ve had some fluids. How are you feeling?

I’ve taken an antacid this morning. I feel really poorly this morning. Just going to see if I can keep some cornflakes down. I’m hoping the metoclopramide helps when I get it later. I’m really struggling at the moment.

Hotchocolate 8-10 weeks was definitely my worst time as it was peaking, hopefully you are almost through the worst. I think our go to food lists are very similar, I ate cornflakes a lot too (as well as mash!), can't eat cornflakes now though at 14 weeks.
Really hope the metoclopramide works, it works in a different way to the other meds by actually helping food move through from the stomach. Fingers crossed the combination works well on a longer course this time.

Hi all.
Hotchocolate I agree the early weeks were really bad. I go through different foods I can eat and mash with baked beans was def it early on. I also managed flat coke and weirdly sometimes ice cream.** Hope the meds help.
Sleepy sorry you're not getting any support. Peeved on your behalf. A group of friends used to refer to it as needing the husband disposal kit lol. We can all get together and hide the body, if required. Just shout, we're a big group.
As of tomorrow, I'm no longer off sick. I'll be on holiday and then mat leave. Only 9 weeks to go. Mini parasite is nearly here.
Hugs to all.

I am very lucky to have a supportive husband. He’s sympathetic and it’s the little things that make a difference - he’s been up with our toddler every day and changing the hideous morning poo nappies while I take five minutes to sit up slowly and get downstairs. Small things like that are what makes the difference. When I get up in the morning I’m usually retching for 5-10 mins so that’s not nice to do with a toddler hanging off you. We make sure each of us has one lie in day at the weekend as well and he brings me a cuppa in bed. Small things, but it’s the small things that matter. He works long hours in a very demanding job so that’s not an excuse!

I’m so angry for you all if you’re not getting support - you are carrying these men’s babies! They need to man up and do their fair share. harrumph!

It certainly makes me realise i have to raise my sons to be equal partners in the home - I do think Swedish men are actually more clued in to this to be honest. I still know a few useless lazy bastards here but far fewer than in the UK.