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LucindaE · 2017-10-19T19:01:29+00:00

I hope everyone suffering from the Horrors of Hyperemesis will find this thread useful as a source of support and information. There's no TMI on here - can't be by definition - and nobody should feel ashamed of moaning as much as they feel the need to. MOH's wonderful website is full of useful information on this illness: [[https://sites.google.com/site/pregnancysicknesssos]] Another invaluable website is: [[www.pregnancysicknesssupport.org.uk]] If you need help in obtaining medication, phone them on: 024 7638 2020 Lastly, the NICE guidelines on treatment are useful: [[https://cks.nice.org.uk/nauseavomiting-in-pregnancy]] I would like to thank everyone who has given such invaluable support and advice on this and on previous threads. Remember when you are at your worst, 'This Too Shall Pass'. It really will. So many women on this thread have thought they couldn't get through this, but they did.

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OnNaturesCourse · 05/11/2017 16:43

Thank you Lucinda and DeadDoor.

I actually phoned the midwife as there was a lot of blood but their not concerned. I did manage to DTD this morning so I wonder if that's added to it. Currently just feel like I need a poo

lookingforthecorkscrew · 05/11/2017 17:05

I’m 7+4. I know it’s going to get worse.

DeadDoorpost · 05/11/2017 17:13

nature I swear if you go before me I'll be annoyed 😂😂😂 I've been hoping to be early so it's frustrating lol.
cork I literally slept my way through weeks 7-13 which helped. I was so exhausted physically, mentally and emotionally. Knowing these women were going through the same really helped though.

OnNaturesCourse · 05/11/2017 17:27

Dead, I know that if I get excited baby will stay put so I'm doing my damn best to forget but I'm still getting the discharge and aches. How are you not meant to get excited lol... I'm sat eating my baby shower cake to try distract myself. Not sure if it's going to stay in my stomach but heyho distraction either way.

lookingforthecorkscrew · 05/11/2017 17:39

I can’t sleep through this, I have a 3yo DS here. And a husband that works crazy-long hours.

OnNaturesCourse · 05/11/2017 17:47

Cork, is there any friends or family that could help with your little one?

Mustang27 · 05/11/2017 18:20

@TwoDrifters I bf taking cyclizine and ondansetron.

Yeah @BlueButTrue I was just chiming in to say you are not being unreasonable to say what you did and manage visits from the get go because it can be utterly ridiculous and so hard when you are trying to recover from a pretty standard vaginal birth. Glad your mum has given her head a wobble.

Ooo ons that sounds promising, you managed sexy time I’m in awe.

@lookingforthecorkscrew if you are anywhere near Glasgow I’m happy to help in any way possible. I had a lot of days like that it’s so miserable.

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LucindaE · 05/11/2017 18:21

lookingforthecorkscrew It can be so hard with a toddler. Can they add or substitute any meds? Are there any childcare options (part time) you could pursue to get a bit of a rest?

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OnNaturesCourse · 05/11/2017 18:39

Mustang... I just managed sexy time, kinda just lay there all frumpy lol.

TwoDrifters · 05/11/2017 19:10

Pippa Thank you SO much! And Mustang good to know!

MeadowHay · 05/11/2017 19:12

Natures I can't wait to feel better for sex...it's only been about two and a half weeks maybe but feels like ages away and I feel so grim and ugly and unsexy atm not to mention exhausted and sick.

DM and DB and DS came to visit me, was nice of them and DM brought me leftover homemade soup and made me plain fairy cakes and brought me a box of chocolates. She is very generous and it was good to have some other faces to talk to and distract myself. However when it came to work they all sorta ganged up on me and were like "ahhh you'll be fine just go in", "it might be what you need right now" and all this! I explained that most women with HG have some time off work as it's a serious illness and explained how I'm permanently exhausting and sleeping around 14 hours a day (sometimes much more on the worst days) and still so exhausted, and moving to go to the bathroom/get a shower/get changed makes me vomit, as does being in a car etc etc and they all just shrugged and were like "you'll be fine give it a go" and all this...I was actually speechless at one point and didn't know what the hell to say. I did say that if it wasn't pregnancy-related I'm sure people would take it more seriously given how sick I am and my DM went "nah I don't think so"....! I also explained how most women with HG don't get much better until 14-21 weeks and given I'm only 8 weeks now I probably won't feel better for a long time and DM just keeps going "oh just think positively it'll be fine". If I had a broken leg and prognosis was X amount of weeks, she wouldn't be telling me 'think positively and it will have magically healed in a few days' would she?! I had a cry about it when they left . I feel so awful and it's awful to think they're not taking me seriously. I even had a bout of vomiting while they were here.

Cork Sending you , I hope someone can help you with DC a bit, I wouldn't be able to look after a child in my current state, I can't imagine how difficult this must be for you .

TwoDrifters · 05/11/2017 19:13

corkscrew I know, I KNOW it’s so hard to believe it when people tell you it will get better but it truly will. Meanwhile, can a family member/friend come to stay for a while to help out? Can your husband take any leave? I’m so so sorry you’re struggling

Natsku · 05/11/2017 19:42

Oh corkscrew so sorry its so bad for you right now, please talk to your doctor about how you are feeling as maybe you can get some more effective meds to help

OnNaturesCourse · 05/11/2017 20:11

meadow

I didn't feel sexy but I did feel a tiny bit horny... And I can say that's the first time I've felt the slightist bit up for it in easily 3+ months. Poor DP.

As for the work comments, take with a pinch of salt. I got them too in the early days, ended up going in a few times just to be sent home. People soon shut up, and it's you that knows what is and isn't going to help you. Do what YOU need/want. I know that's easier said out the moment but honestly it was the best bit of advice I got and took action on. Xx

Sally8655 · 05/11/2017 20:30

Thank you for the kind words everybody, I'm currently on 3 x cyclizine and 4 x ondansetron during waking hours as I'm not too bad sleeping. I have just tried the proclorperazine (probably wrong spelling) but it made me worse so dropped that. I've been trying to remember which weeks were worse with my son but after trying to block that period from my mind for a few years I'm not too sure. I remember feeling much better around 26 weeks but I'm hoping to improve s but sooner this time as it does feel somewhat different and I'm forcing myself to eat and drink rather than allowing it to take over. So far I've kept myself out of hospital and I'm a bit proud of that achievement as sitting for hours while they fill me with bags of fluid is so draining in itself. We've also had building work going on at home but thankfully tomorrow is the last day and I'll have my home back. Things can only get better!!!??

NerNerNerNerBATMAN · 05/11/2017 20:54

Sally and lookingforthecorkscrew it will get better, I PROMISE

I can well see why people consider termination. If I wasn't appropriately medicated my mind would definitely go there. I remember once thinking it was easier to get to the termination clinic (2 streets away, I live in a city) than it was to get to my GP for more meds.

I would have really struggled this time, REALLY STRUGGLED, if my 3 year old wasn't in pre-school three days a week, and DH hands on when he's home. I hope you've got some good RL support corkscrew

DeadDoorpost · 05/11/2017 22:51

sally the prochlorperazine made me worse too so you're not alone in that! I couldn't keep it in my mouth long enough for it to dissolve. I threw up too quickly for it to even make any difference.
meadow my dad was sympathetic until about week 13.. And it's definitely a pain in the neck when no-one believes you properly on how bad you are. I at least had a friend who had witnessed just how sick I was and DH didn't even realise until I made him phone 111 after a particularly bad vomit session. Maybe invite them over to actually watch you on a bad day. It'd give them an insight.
Well, I've not had any more pains so I'm all sad I won't be able to wind family up by telling them I'm calling BabyDoor "Guy" because he was born on the 5th. It would have been my last hilarious prank on them all. I did however have some pink when wiping earlier after the loo but DH and I dtd because I thought why the hell not. He then panicked thinking it was a sign of labour when I told him... sadly it is not. sighs

OnNaturesCourse · 05/11/2017 23:01

Never know Dead. It could still be a sign.

I'm just out the bath and my lady parts are on fire weird didn't start until I dried off and getting into bed. I feel incredibly sick too, whole belly feels gassy but under my ribs too.

DeadDoorpost · 05/11/2017 23:28

If I suddenly go into labour I'm going to forever think if you as my magic charm nature 😂
You could be close. I had to take another ondansetron tablet during dinner because I felt so sick. I mean, it tasted good and looked good but I just felt so ill all of a sudden. Took a while for me to feel better.

DeadDoorpost · 06/11/2017 07:35

Woke up and needed the loo. Definitely wiped more pink away this time, wasn't even a question about it. And I'm pretty sure I had something of a shock go through my stomach as well which made me open my eyes in pain/surprise as well.
Stomach keeps twitching but because I'm laying down I can't actually tell if it's the baby moving or just my stomach... so I have no idea if it's BH or not 😭
DH also told me not to go into labour just yet. Or this week, but to wait until friday at least 😂😂 ill try not to lol

Mustang27 · 06/11/2017 09:25

Yes Dead do make sure you labour considerately and when it’s most convenient.

Ons that’s me on a good non pregnant day I’m still impressed.

Meadow I find family always mean well but actually can be the least supportive of all the people you discuss hg with which is scary as you would hope they could see the toll it’s taking on you. Even if you are completely office based I can’t see how sitting nursing a sick bowl in work incapable of doing anything could possibly be the cure you need. Ignore ignore ignore if you go to work you will only regret it take it from other HG sufferers who have been their and done that (I would often fall asleep regularly during first pregnancy in office) funny now mortifying at the time.

OnNaturesCourse · 06/11/2017 09:48

Well baby nature is wiggling more again, and I constantly feel like I'm going to pee myself when they do, but everything else has stopped. Little toad getting our hopes up. If they keep up with these false alarms I won't believe it when the time really comes and end up birthing in the kitchen or something stupid. It's like the baby who cried wolf lol.

OnNaturesCourse · 06/11/2017 09:48

Well baby nature is wiggling more again, and I constantly feel like I'm going to pee myself when they do, but everything else has stopped. Little toad getting our hopes up. If they keep up with these false alarms I won't believe it when the time really comes and end up birthing in the kitchen or something stupid. It's like the baby who cried wolf lol.

seizethecuttlefish · 06/11/2017 12:02

Cork I feel for you. I’m 13 weeks and just doing one day at a time. People keep telling me to wait till I’m holding my baby. I can’t even think that far ahead. I have a 4 year old, it’s tough.
Nature go you. I can’t remember what sexy time is but I know it got me into this mess!
Meadow my mum is convinced that I’ve eaten something that disagrees with me or have a bug. She can’t understand why the meds don’t just fix it.
Sally prochlorperazine never did a thing for me. I can actually throw up with it dissolving in my mouth.
Fingers crossed for everyone waiting to go into labour.
Love to everyone. Had a good day yesterday. Really tired today. Dr this afternoon to get a sick line and see if we can figure out why I’m getting dizzy all the time.

seizethecuttlefish · 06/11/2017 12:02

Cork I feel for you. I’m 13 weeks and just doing one day at a time. People keep telling me to wait till I’m holding my baby. I can’t even think that far ahead. I have a 4 year old, it’s tough.
Nature go you. I can’t remember what sexy time is but I know it got me into this mess!
Meadow my mum is convinced that I’ve eaten something that disagrees with me or have a bug. She can’t understand why the meds don’t just fix it.
Sally prochlorperazine never did a thing for me. I can actually throw up with it dissolving in my mouth.
Fingers crossed for everyone waiting to go into labour.
Love to everyone. Had a good day yesterday. Really tired today. Dr this afternoon to get a sick line and see if we can figure out why I’m getting dizzy all the time.