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Talk about every stage of pregnancy, from early symptoms to preparing for birth.

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15 and Pregnant

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meliabrooke · 10/10/2017 20:21

Hello all

I'm not sure if this is the perfect place to put this but I'm going to stab a guess and put it here anywho.

So Hi I'm Melia and I'm 15 and I did a pregnancy test a couple of days ago and found out I am 8 weeks pregnant (I missed a couple of periods but I didn't think much to it, until my friend suggested I do a test). I am really scared and don't know what to do, I don't want to tell my parents and I'm scared my family will be ashamed of me, but I really want to keep this baby as I am pro-life, and I wouldn't think of adoption.

My heads just a massive mess but I was just wondering if anyone can give me any advice on what to do and eat and websites that would be useful etc?? It would really help me sosososososososososo much.

Melia

OP posts:
Fluffysparks · 10/10/2017 20:23

Bumping for you Flowers

PurpleDaisies · 10/10/2017 20:24

Just wondering if you've used your real name as your username? That's really not a great idea and if you have, I'd ask MNHQ to delete this thread and you post another with a different username.

I'd see your gp name they'll put you in contact with a midwife who can help you with your questions. Many areas have special groups for younger women like yourself. Good luck with everything. Flowers

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meliabrooke · 10/10/2017 20:26

Purpledaisies- It's not my real name no, I wouldn't put that on here aha. and thank you Fluffysparks xx

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gamerchick · 10/10/2017 20:27

You need to tell your parents. It’s too big to keep to yourself.

mynameisspam · 10/10/2017 20:27

Is there a teacher or another adult you can trust to tell? Your parents may not be best pleased initially but do try to tell them, then they can help you get the support you need off doctors etc.
Try not to put it off too long because of scans, antenatal appointments etc.

Xxx

Adviceplease360 · 10/10/2017 20:31

Definitely speak to your parents. Eat fruits veg meat and take multivitamins. Speak to a doctor who will pass your details to a midwife who will take care of you during your pregnancy. Don't drink or smoke if you currently do. In the long run, sit your gcse's, stay in education and work hard to give your baby the best chance. You will be okay.

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meliabrooke · 10/10/2017 20:35

Thank you all! I'm going to speak to my parents now. I will update with what they said..

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Ilovechocolate111 · 10/10/2017 20:37

Hope everything goes ok xx

flutterby12 · 10/10/2017 20:38

Good luck Flowers

CL1982 · 10/10/2017 20:43

Good luck @meliabrooke Your parents will understand I'm sure ❤️

beckieperk · 10/10/2017 20:58

Good luck. Keeping my fingers crossed for you. Flowers

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meliabrooke · 10/10/2017 21:50

I've just come out of a lengthy conversation with my mum and stepdad who are not best pleased to say the least, but support me 100% and say it's my decision what to do with the baby, but they wan't to know the fathers name and get in touch with him as he obviously has rights. My dad doesn't know yet but I will tell him when I next see him. They say to stay on this site and keep checking it for information to help me as well as them. They are going to take me to the doctors tomorrow. Has anybody else here been through this? When will the morning sickness start?

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Ilovechocolate111 · 10/10/2017 21:55

I'm so glad they didn't kick off.
You will need all the support you can get.
I went though the same thing apart from I was 16 lol.
Morning sickness can happen from 5 weeks + but you might be lucky and not get any.
I'm so happy for you SmileFlowers

stopbeingadramallama · 10/10/2017 22:01

Hello,

I was young when I got pregnant. 17. I was scared to tell my mum (I text her) as I thought she was going to go mad. She did, but eventually came round and was so happy once my little boy was here. I made her tell my dad as I hardly see him and didn’t have the guts to tell him (well done for being able to do it face to face) and my whole family weren’t best pleased but they’re all supportive now.

It wasn’t the best situation but I wouldn’t change it for the world. It’s hard and scary but it’s worth it all.

My morning sickness started very early and lasted through so it wasn’t the best but I got used to it haha.

I’m glad that you have people around that are there for you and I’m happy that you think you’re making the right decision. I hope everything goes okay for you and if you ever want to message me on here, I’m always up for a chat.

Good luck with everything x

PisforPeter · 10/10/2017 22:07

Congratulations!
Make sure you are taking folic avid tablets which you can buy at the supermarket x

stopbeingadramallama · 10/10/2017 22:09

Also, once I’d seen the midwife she told me about this young mums group that I could start going too to meet some other girls in the same situation. It was good to make some friends that were the same, so it might be good to see if there is anything similar near you x

teaortequila23 · 10/10/2017 22:17

Hey I got pregnant at 18
Was very scared to tell my family but tbh my mum worked it out as I was feeling sick and throwing up everywhere.
With my second I never threw up once so hopefully u will be lucky!
I'm happy your step mum and Dad are being supportive. I'm not sure what country your posting from but here in the uk if your under 19 and pregnant there are special support workers who come and visit you answer any questions and stay with you from pregnancy all the way through till your child's I think 2nd or 3rd birthday so I hope your from here for that... just take it easy and good luck xxx

CL1982 · 10/10/2017 22:19

That's wonderful and well done OP. I would take your mum to all appointments with you and as another poster said tell your GP now so you can get appointments with the midwife in early.

Keep your schooling up my love. It's so important you try and get what qualifications that you can before the baby arrives. I'm sure school will support you 100%. Good luck.

danslenoir · 10/10/2017 22:21

How old is the father? I didn’t think sex was consensual under 16? (I can’t really talk as I lost my virginity at 15) but isn’t there some sort of issue with your age and getting pregnant...? Won’t the father be in trouble with the law?

(Sorry not helpful)

Thirtyrock39 · 10/10/2017 22:24

I would go to your GP so you are in the system and I would keep an open mind about all your options. You do need to think very seriously about how this will have a huge impact on the rest of your life. You need to be sure that you are emotionally ready for this and are able to provide a suitable environment for a baby- have you got childcare for continuing your education ? Have you space for a child in your parents home ?
You just need to be really practical. All the best with it all.

LucyLambstealer · 10/10/2017 22:27

Please please make sure to see a midwife soon even if you just go by yourself without telling anyone. They will do a few blood tests on you and they are important for both you and the babies health that you get them done.

Frazzled2207 · 10/10/2017 22:32

Aw bless you and well done for telling your mum. She will help you through this I’m sure.
Hopefully the gp will be helpful and depending on where you live you might be referred to a teenage pregnancy specialist midwife who will be brilliant (though most midwives are in my experience).
You might not be sick at all if you’re already 8 weeks. Bear in mind your trousers will start feeling a bit tight soon, and soon after that you will start developing a bump.
Do make sure your partner is aware, what he thinks of the situation will be important even though what you want is more important.
All the best x

Ttbb · 10/10/2017 22:32

I concieved my first child when I was 18 so I know what it is like (to an extent, my husband-fiancé at the time-was a lawyer with a PhD and a good salary etc but this didn't protect me from the judgement, just the uncertainty). I'm going to be blunt with you. You don't have the luxury to make these choices for your own sake anymore. You are going to have a baby. This baby will be completely innocent and completely helpless. If you can't support your baby you need to do the right thing and either find a nice family to adopt him/her or get an abortion. I know that it may seem to you now that loving your baby will be enough but it's really not. Even I feel guilty often for having my children, they have everything, materially speaking, but sometimes I think that I would be a better mother if I had done a couple of degrees first. If you are struggling to feed your child then just imagine how you will feel. Every mother needs help, but given how young you are you will need more than most. You need to tell your parents asap so you will know what you can rely on (by way if childcare, financial help, etc.) they will find out eventually and they will be more upset and disappointed if you don't tell them and try to hide it. If you don't have the emotional maturity to even tell your family that you are pregnant how do you expect to be a decent mother. I know that it is asking a lot at your age but you need to grow up and you need to grow up now. For your baby's sake. Motherhood can be hard and it can be wonderful but let me make myself very clear, this is not about motherhood. This is about childhood. Your baby's childhood. Your baby is the only who matters now, you and your feelings come second, they will always come second so you need to pull yourself together and find a way to give your baby the childhood he/she deserves. Everything is against you on this one so you have no time to loose. Crack to it.

WaitroseCoffeeCostaCup · 10/10/2017 22:36

^Hmm

Justaboy · 10/10/2017 22:38

My daughter told me that she was expecting like you did, seemed to have had an accident taking her pills! really?

Well we now a a well handsome baby boy here now enriching our lives:)

I can only tell you he's a lot of work, needs feeding constantly day and night, farts, burps distributes muck better then any farmers muck spreading equipment but he's just started smiling and tell you what its lovely to see that happy little face:-)

Best of luck and as the other women posters have said heed their advice!