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15 and Pregnant

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meliabrooke · 10/10/2017 20:21

Hello all

I'm not sure if this is the perfect place to put this but I'm going to stab a guess and put it here anywho.

So Hi I'm Melia and I'm 15 and I did a pregnancy test a couple of days ago and found out I am 8 weeks pregnant (I missed a couple of periods but I didn't think much to it, until my friend suggested I do a test). I am really scared and don't know what to do, I don't want to tell my parents and I'm scared my family will be ashamed of me, but I really want to keep this baby as I am pro-life, and I wouldn't think of adoption.

My heads just a massive mess but I was just wondering if anyone can give me any advice on what to do and eat and websites that would be useful etc?? It would really help me sosososososososososo much.

Melia

OP posts:
HerRoyalFattyness · 10/10/2017 22:47

Hi. I'm glad to read you told your mum and step dad and you're going to the GP tomorrow.
I was pregnant at 16. Had my oldest at 17.

It was hard. Very hard. I was at college at the time. I stuck at it, and id advise you to stick with school. Don't throw away your GCSEs because you're having a baby. You'll still need them.
I didn't get morning sickness at all in that pregnancy.
It was a textbook pregnancy. Couldn't have gone any better.
I will tell you Though, i thought I was prepared for giving birth but it freaked me out a bit that I was actually having a baby when it happened Grin

It's a lot for you (and your family) to deal with, but sounds like they're supportive.
I'd definitely tell the dad as soon as possible too, so that you know if he and his family will be willing to support you. The bigger your support network, the better.

stolemyusername · 10/10/2017 22:52

Bullshit Ttbb. I had my eldest young and she and I (plus subsequent children) are absolutely fine thank you very much.

Your comment says more about you than young mothers as a whole.

bambambini · 10/10/2017 22:55

Great you've told your mum and great so far you haven't felt sick - hope that continues. Go see your doctor with your mum. You are very young, probably too young to really understand what is ahead of you but if having the baby is what you feel is your only option - then good luck. I know a woman who gave birth at 15. She got her degree and is now a teacher and many others coped too -especially if your mum is supportive.

Solasum · 10/10/2017 22:57

In your mum's shoes I would take on your baby and effectively raise it as your sibling.

How do you think the dad will react? Are you still together?

lookingforthecorkscrew · 10/10/2017 23:14

Solasum your reply has really troubled me. You wouldn’t let your daughter parent her own child?!

HerRoyalFattyness · 10/10/2017 23:30

Solasum and you don't think that would mess up your kid and the baby? You honestly think that would cause less damage than allowing your daughter to parent her own baby?

Cracklesfire · 11/10/2017 03:51

Ttbb obv hasnt read the thread or she'd know you've already made the mature decision to tell your parents and that they are supporting you going to GP etc.

You sound very smart and capable. I know some amazing mums who had their kids at 16 and 17. I think it's a scary, steep learning curve whatever your age and as a first time mum in my 30s last year I still needed a lot of support from my partner and my mum to get through the early days.

Hopefully if you get to the GP soon they'll be able to arrange for you to see the midwife and they can also put you in touch with local groups who can support you. If you can continue studying then I'd really encourage you to as it'll give you many more choices & opportunities once baby is a bit older. Look after yourself too - it's not all about what's best for the baby. Make sure you're eating regularly if you can & taking folic acid with vitamin D.

www.nhs.uk/Conditions/pregnancy-and-baby/pages/pregnancy-and-baby-care.aspx

is a good place to start looking at pregnancy related information. Good luck OP!

TheCatsMother99 · 11/10/2017 06:25

OP, ignore ttbb, they clearly hadn't read the whole thread when they commented and, frankly, I don't know what planet they're on.

I'm sure you'll be fine.

Original poster
meliabrooke · 11/10/2017 07:14

Me and the Dad are together but I'm not stupid as he is 17 and It's not going to last with a baby but it doesn't bother me,

And I am ignoring them, don't know why they bothered posting..

OP posts:
PurpleDaisies · 11/10/2017 07:16

Does he know you're pregnant yet?

It doesn't have to not work out-friends of mine stayed together in the same circumstances and ended up getting married. It's sensible to plan as if you're on your own though.

HerRoyalFattyness · 11/10/2017 07:26

Being young doesn't mean the relationship won't work.

Me and my partner have been together ten years and now have 3 kids.

MyOtherProfile · 11/10/2017 07:30

How old is the father? I didn’t think sex was consensual under 16? (I can’t really talk as I lost my virginity at 15) but isn’t there some sort of issue with your age and getting pregnant...? Won’t the father be in trouble with the law?
No he won't, not if the girl is 15 and the boy is 17.
Glad to hear your parents are supporting you OP.

Auriofthemoon · 11/10/2017 08:55

Another young mum here. I have 2 now. I carried on living with my parents until after the baby was born and I'm so glad I did. Having the support of my mum was the most helpful thing ever.

If you have the family nurse partnership in your area, they are fantastic. You could ask your gp? I ha one until my eldest was 2 and it was such invaluable help.

Ignore the nutter saying you'll regret it. Just because they place more value in having everything material thing possible...that's their problem as a mother not yours!

lookingforthecorkscrew · 11/10/2017 09:16

Why all the reality checks on here? Honestly. It seems the OP has a decent support network. She is young, it’s not for ANYBODY on here to try and foist their ideas upon her.

BeansMrSeanAndHeinz · 11/10/2017 09:20

The NHS has good advice on what you can and can’t eat and there’s a pdf here

I wrote down everything I wanted to ask the doctors and midwives, and then made a note at the end of any thing they were meant to follow up.

I can’t help with the young bit, I was getting on a bit when I had mine Grin but I have seen young mum groups signposted in then children’s centre - ooh yeah check out where your local children’s centre is if you’re in the UK.

Good luck.

AnUtterIdiot · 11/10/2017 10:41

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MegsMog · 11/10/2017 11:49

My sister got pregnant at 18 and, although it was unplanned, my nephew is the most wonderful child and we are all so happy to have him in our lives. It's utter rubbish that young mums can't be brilliant mums (though as you've probably seen on here already you might face some judgement from others Angry).

My sister's partner moved into my mum's house before the birth, and my mum helps out a lot which is really helpful for my sister. I can see it would be a lot harder for her if she didn't have that support.

I definitely agree with other posters on here to ask your midwife for groups etc to go to, especially if there is one for younger mums. I think my sister found it hard to make new mum friends as she was put off by NCT etc as all the other couples were just much older (that was her though - you might not mind!)

Good luck, and look after yourself - it'll be hard, but it's always hard to have children!

comfyshoelady · 11/10/2017 12:11

Hi OP. I just wanted to say a few words of support. I know a lot of women who were/are young mums (because of where I work). It might not be planned but in my experience they rise to the challenge and make great mums.
Hope it all goes well for you. xx

pinkyredrose · 11/10/2017 12:20

OP why are you against abortion? Do you really think you're mature enough to be a mother? Don't want to upset you but you seem rather taken with the idea of a baby but babies are so much hard work plus they don't stay babies for long. You don't seem to have really thought this through.

Expectingbsbunumber2 · 11/10/2017 12:37

You need to do what is best for you! I would go see the doctor soon so the can register you and get you booked in with a midwife so you can get your folic acid tablets and bloods done. I'm glad your getting support though from your mum and step dad.

WaitroseCoffeeCostaCup · 11/10/2017 12:43

OP why are you against abortion? Do you really think you're mature enough to be a mother? Don't want to upset you but you seem rather taken with the idea of a baby but babies are so much hard work plus they don't stay babies for long. You don't seem to have really thought this through.

She seems taken with a baby? Maybe because she's pregnant?!
Your post is breathtakingly rude. How about speaking to the OP as a fellow mother than a naughty child?
OP you don't sound immature to me, quite the opposite. Good luck to you Flowers

pinkyredrose · 11/10/2017 12:44

Shes 15. She is a child. I fail to see how my post is 'breathtakingly rude'.

pinkyredrose · 11/10/2017 12:46

Plus i didn't say 'taken with the baby ' i said 'taken with the idea of a baby'. They mean different things.

SparklyMagpie · 11/10/2017 12:47

pinkyredrose she only found out a couple of days ago Jesus christ

TiesThatBindMe · 11/10/2017 12:47

Ttbb, is it about a babies childhood or is it about aborting a baby? Your long rambling post makes fuck all sense.