15 and Pregnant

[meliabrooke]

Hello all

I'm not sure if this is the perfect place to put this but I'm going to stab a guess and put it here anywho.

So Hi I'm Melia and I'm 15 and I did a pregnancy test a couple of days ago and found out I am 8 weeks pregnant (I missed a couple of periods but I didn't think much to it, until my friend suggested I do a test). I am really scared and don't know what to do, I don't want to tell my parents and I'm scared my family will be ashamed of me, but I really want to keep this baby as I am pro-life, and I wouldn't think of adoption.

My heads just a massive mess but I was just wondering if anyone can give me any advice on what to do and eat and websites that would be useful etc?? It would really help me sosososososososososo much.

Melia

If you can't see how it's rude you have bigger problems than your first post implies! I wont take over the OPs thread with an argument. You are rude and inappropriate and therefore best ignored.
OP if you are in Berkshire I am able to help with groups/support. Please feel free to pm me

Sparkly Yes i know.

Waitrose what problems?

The NHS has a brilliant service called Family Nurse Partnership. Basically, you get an allocated specialist teenage health worker who helps you through the whole pregnancy and follows you up for two years after. The idea is that young mums get top quality support so that they and their children are not disadvantaged. You get referred when you book in with maternity services

ttbb, pinkyredrose, the OP didn't ask for your opinions on her pregnancy. She asked for information and advice because she had decided she was keeping the baby. Not sure why you felt the need to write such negative, judgemental posts. Best of luck, OP, you can be a good parent at any age x

Good luck OP.

Hi OP, Congratulations on you pregnancy .
I got pregnant at 18 with my partner who was 19 at the time, we went on to have another baby 2 years later and we are still together now, Been together for 12 years now. So young relationships can work.

It's hard work, but if you've got the support, you can do it, and there is a whole network of support and advice on here.

Good luck for the future.

WaitroseCoffeeCostaCup I am in Berkshire Where in Berkshire are you?

A village just outside Reading music

Going by your username, I'm guessing Pangbourne
I live in Reading.

Close!

Are there any clubs or anything you go to?
I would love to make some good friends, but it's not easy.

Feel free to pm me if you don't want to put the info on here

My closest friend had her eldest at just gone 17 and she is a fantastic mother

Good luck OP & hope the doctors goes well x

Hey Melia. I’m the same as you at the moment apart from I’m 21 and my partner doesn’t want me to keep it, I see us splitting as he wants me to get rid or he won’t be involved. I’m worried with what to do but I don’t ever see me aborting it as I like you am pro life. If you ever want to talk let me know as be nice to speak to someone sometimes. sending luck

Hi op i come from a family of young mum. My mum was under 18. My sister under 16 and i was 16 when pregnant.
Its not easy but it is worth it. My mums now in her mid 40s with 2 grown daughters and 4 grandchild one who will be 16 next year.

Your parents and you will take some time adjusting but its really good you have managed to talk to them and they will get you medical treatment.

Theres lota of resources here included for any questions you have and theres no such thing as a silly question.

Ie morning sickness you may not get any. I never suffered it with either of my dc.

I had my first dd when I was 16. Like you, I was scared of telling my parents but luckily they were supportive.
It was very hard at first. I was able to stay at my mums until dd was 2. I went to college where they had free childcare, and also managed to get a good job and pay for childcare. I breast fed, saved and bought everything she could need myself and didn't once rely on benefits.

Dds dad didn't care, and wasn't in the picture so I had to do everything myself. Dd really gave me the kick up the bum I needed, to turn my life around. Everything had to be about her, her care and welfare and making a good life for us both.

Dd is now 15, a straight A student and an absolute pleasure. I have been married for 10 years, and have 2 further dds. Both have excellent careers and our own home.

It will be hard, but it's achievable. I still remember now the family member who told me I couldn't be a mother and should abort, and it still hurts. There will be a lot of judgement about young mums, but you can prove them wrong but being the best mum to your child you can be.

Good luck

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Thank you everyone for your words of encouragement, I went to the doctors today and also told the father so it's been a big day, but it's all okay. The fatheris actually over the moon (was a bit shocked at first) and supports me as does most of his family and I guess you all know what went on at the GP.

As for @ttb and @pinkyredrose or whatever, I asked for support not for people to make me feel like shit. And I'm having this baby as long as all goes well so if you've nothing nice to say, please dont post here :) x

My friend fell pregnant at 15, I still remember how shocked I was! Her mother even more so! My goodness it was a kerfuffle, but she wouldn't change a thing. She's a fantastic mother (it's now 15 years later!) and very happy. There are a lot of sites out there, I advise you start with googling what it is you'd like to know but of course your doctor needs to know asap. Good luck [flower]

@ChocolatePancake thank you, thats given me hope!! And I went to the GP today. Also your usernames made me hungry!

Good for you. I hope everything works out for you. My Aunt's grand-daughter had her baby last year when she was 16, was determined to keep it, and I have to say is doing an amazing job. She has a good supportive network. As for your relationship one girl I went to school with fell pregnant at 15, went on to have 1 other child with this guy, is now 40 and still with the same guy. SO IT DOES AND CAN WORK.

Good luck xx

My EX DH was 33 when our DD was born and he was/is a selfish immature twunt waste of space.

My nephew became a dad at 19 and he is one of the best dads ever.

I wanted to say that age has nothing to do with being a good parent. It's all about the love, protection, time and kindness that you can give your child.

Music I can't figure out how to message you! Can you message me?!

I am 29 and about to be a Mum, I don’t feel my age meant I woke up and was ‘ready’. Same for my DH.

The journey you go on over the next 8 months is what prepares you. And clearly people do that at all ages. You sound like you’ve got a good head on your shoulders and lots of support, so good luck & enjoy it. Take the help you’re offered and be kind to yourself, you’ve had a huge day