First time mums 2017/ early 2018

[lydiangel83]

An ode to the first time pregnancy thread! x

He works Monday to Friday so I told him to just sleep in the week and then he takes over at weekends.

He's working away tonight for the first time since she was born so it's just me and her! Curled up on the sofa watching Christmas films.

@mrsjkerry I've got a baby carrier and she's only been in it once while I washed up and did some tidying whilst she was extremely clingy one day. My DP bought it so he can use it when we go out but we haven't used it so far

@NC1990 what is ranitidine for? My husband is again osteopath but I want to give it a go and tongue tie lady said it would help her!

@lydiangel83 it's for silent reflux, doesn't seem to be helping her at all though!

We've had an absolutely terrible few days. She cries every evening from 6pm-midnight without fail, and sometimes fusses from 5am-7am then from 11am-3pm! I'm so exhausted with all the crying, I get absolutely no enjoyment from her at all. I can't even get out the house because she just cries wherever I take her. Can't see a light at the end of the tunnel right now. So gutted I got such a miserable baby, I'm so grateful to have her but the sleep deprivation is killing me.

God, that was a depressing post, apologies. I love the bones of this baby, just wish I could stop her being so upset!

@NC1990 bless you, i really feel for you. Is there anyone who can take your baby off your hands for a few hours so you can get some rest and alone time? I had a total meltdown last night. It was tiredness, im still recovering from my tear and PPH and it all got to much. I was sobbing and covering baby in tears! My mother in law has taken the baby for the day, im so grateful.
Hope things get better for you soon x

Just got to have a proud mummy moment, look at how grown up she is, haha 😍
4 hours old vs 4 weeks old x

@nc1990 you poor thing, remember "this too shall pass". Definitely agree with squigglefish, is there someone that can have her for a bit whilst you sleep? The sleep deprivation makes everything harder.

@squigglefish She's beautiful, they change so quickly don't they? I swear DD is a totally different baby now from the one we brought home 7 weeks ago.

@NC1990 out DS used to do the same after 6pm and until we went to bed, I ended up putting him up to bed on his own at 7 and he's really settled into it, we do bath then bottle and put him down and it took a while but now we don't hear from him until he wants a feed about 11-2 (5am last night, I couldn't believe it!)

I said I wanted to take him to bed when we did but think he was getting over tired and seems to work. Maybe an idea to try if she'll settle? Sorry to hear you're having a tough time, it won't be forever (I know that doesn't help!) I survive with chocolate and the occasional wine

Thanks ladies, I know it will pass, and she does have her good moments (very occasionally 😁).

My mum has been great and comes over to see me a couple of days a week so I do have plenty of support. I have a Christmas lunch out with my friends on Sunday and I think it will do me the world of good to have some baby-free time.

@TheLionQueen1 that sounds a good idea, she does get so overtired and then there's no going back! She's had a better night tonight amazingly, was nice for DH and I to be able to sit and watch a movie in peace for once 🙂

@NC1990 I feel your pain after a few bad nights and grizzly days, then mother in law comes over whilst I have an MRI scan and she slept for 4.5 hrs!! Typical!!

@Squigglefish she really is beautiful :)

@TheLionQueen1 I'm mega impressed with that routine!!

It's great because we get dinner and some time together in the evening, so even if he is awake all night then you feel a bit more relaxed and prepared! He woke at 2am last night though and wouldn't go back to sleep until 7.30am, that was hard work!

DH out tonight and I have to pick him up which means getting baby out of bed at 11pm to drive, that'll be fun

Hi

I'm a FTM has my LO on 15th of October 2017. She's 9 weeks on Sunday 😊

@TheLionQueen1 do you put him upstairs on his own? Izzy has a feed at like 10ish then 1ish then sleeps through till 7ish. I'm scared of leaving her on her own though even for 2 hours from 11-1

Yes, we go up at 7pm, he has a bath, bottle then straight into bed, can take him a while to settle then we head back down and have dinner. We have a video monitor so I can constantly see him, he's zonked right now! He rarely wakes now until we go up at 11ish and give him another bottle. He was terrible in the evenings before, it wasn't fun for him or us as he was just crying and we were trying to eat one handed, now we get dinner in peace!

Also we can speak to him through the monitor and play nursery rhymes, which sometimes settles him rather than needing to go up!

Dinner in peace sounds amazing!! I've just covered izzy in spring rolls 😂 how old is your little one again? She's 6 weeks old today so I'd prob wait a bit longer before I left her upstairs on her own

Haha! I've spilt spaghetti bolognese on jack don't worry!! He's almost 10 weeks now, but we started it at 6 weeks,I wouldn't be doing it without the monitor!

I like the sound of your monitor, might have to invest,

My goodness I'm so jealous of your babies! Layla wakes every 1.5/2 hours for a feed, the longest she has ever gone is 4 hours and that was after an 8-hour crying session so she had exhausted herself. I'm still breastfeeding and it's relentless.

I have also spilt many dinners on her, I got bolognaise sauce on one of her lovely white babygrows the other day oops 😭

NC I know you might not want to but maybe try a formula feed as the last feed in the hopes you can get some rest! I remember the exhaustion of breastfeeding I really feel for you

@nc1990 we do one bottle of formula before bed and it works a treat. She settles (not on her own admittedly) after a couple of hours but then sleeps for 6 or 7 hours so I get a good rest and then bf the rest of the time.

We also use a bottle of EBM at night to try and buy us some extra hours. Takes forever to settle her tho and usually feed her lying next to me so have not been disciplined enough about her sleeping in her own bed! That is going to come and bite us!

Hey girls, DD has her 8 week vaccinations next week. I'm obviously expecting crying and I'm planning on giving her a dose of Calpol an hour before. Anything else I should expect or any other useful tips?