First Time Pregnancy (5)

[mrsjkerry]

Hey everyone. Had to make a new thread as we were nearing 1000!

Congratulations @Jessiecat27 !! How are you feeling? I had a MW visit the day I got home, they were much better than hospital!

Thank you! Thelionqueen1 I'm running on adrenaline at the moment, luckily the midwife who called in today was the same one I've been seeing anyway so it was nice to see a familiar face! I'm waiting to hear back from home start now as I was only referred yesterday regarding breastfeeding so I can get some help from them, apparently they're amazing so looking forward to that! Howre you doing? And how is everyone else? Our thread has gone quiet 🙈

I'm good my DS is 7 weeks now, it's flying by! He's lactose intolerant so on a special formula and I've stopped breastfeeding because I don't want to go lactose free! Nice to have a few glasses of wine again! Also finally starting to get a bit more sleep 😂

TheLionQueen it is encouraging to know that I may get some sleep again sometime in th future 🙈 DD now 17 days old and will still only sleep on me. Love her to bits but finding things much, much tougher than I ever imagined, I thought having young nieces and nephews would have prepared me slightly but nope! My dad keeps saying to tell myself 'this too shall pass' which I'm trying to do on an hourly basis!

And congratulations Jessiecat27 your little boy is gorgeous 😊 Xx

@NC1990 I completely agree about it being tougher than expected, I don't think anything can ever prepare you! But it's getting much easier already, I'm less of a walking zombie (my DS only slept on me or DH too for a while) and the smiles and fun I'm getting back from him now makes it so worth it!

NC1990 thankyou!
Thelionqueen1 is good to know it gets easier!
Has anyone frozen their maternity pads or put anything on them to soothe down there?

@Jessiecat27 congratulations! What a gorgeous baby xx

Thank you (: Squigglefish

Hi girlies! Awww these gorgeous baby photos are getting me so broody 💗 I'm 30+2 now so only 9+5 left.
Excuse the language but shit's getting real 😂
I think I've started noticing braxton hicks now. I didn't think I'd ever felt them, I always thought it was my girl moving around but I'm distinguishing the sensations a bit more now. She's still not a mega active babe. Mostly moves early morning between 7-8 when I'm still in bed but just waking, then I feel the occasional single wiggle or kick during the day but also hours of nothing. Then evening time after my main meal when I'm watching I'm a celeb, she goes nuts for about an hour 😂 whole belly ripples and everything 🙈 crazy feeling.
Then when I go to bed, I can still feel her but this is when I think I'm getting BH coz ine minute it feels as though she's doing a big turn-over in there... but then one half of my belly tenses up and goes hard and it feels a bit like when you get cramp in your toes (but in my belly!) and I want to laugh, it feels so weird 😂 is that BH do you think? It's not painful at all, but neither is it a pleasant feeling. It reminds me slightly of when I once tried my friend's 6-pack machine, sticking those pads on my belly to tone me up (never worked lol).
I hated those pads though coz my friend would turn them up for a laugh and I'd scream and laugh and cry coz I couldn't handle the spasms in my tummy 😳
Which has made me wonder... is labour like that 6-pack machine? Coz if it is, I'm suddenly terrified!
I've always thought I can do labour. I'm a pear shape and always had what my mum calls "mothering hips" so I've been naively thinking I'm gonna be fine. But since I've had pelvic girdle pain, my hips, foof bone and lower body and abdo area has been in constant pain where I even cry turning over in bed sometimes. Made me realise how low my pain threshold is.
Then feeling these little spasms (if that's what they are) and remembering how horrible the 6-pack pads felt and how I couldn't handle the feeling... it's all just getting to me a bit!!
I'm excited for my baby girl so much 💗 but I've been watching a lot of one born every minute as well (I've always watched it, I love it and have never been scared or grossed out) and there are perfectly sane women, some older than me who've had kids before etc, and labour transforms them into absolute howling crying messes who have no control of themselves or their screaming and whereas before I'd be rolling my eyes like come on, is it that bad? Now I'm like... omg. She was fine, so normal and calm and is now screeching, swearing, hitting and screaming for pain relief, calling out for her own mother... and I'm just petrified!!!!
@mrsjkerry so glad you and babe are ok! Bet that was so scary!
Congrats to all the new mamas 😍

@Flatwhite32 how are you feeling chicky? How far along are you now?x

@MistyBxx unfortunately it's 50/50 here. Had to have an emergency scan at EPU last Wed due to some pink and brown discharge (which has now stopped thankfully). Was dated nearly a week behind, and all they could see was a gestational sac and yolk sac. Got another scan a week today to see if the pregnancy is viable or not. I haven't slept well in a week, and I just look shattered with big bags under my eyes. I'm preparing for the worst.

@MistyBxx you'll be fine. OBEM is designed to be dramatic. I laboured from Thursday to Saturday with no pain relief. The key is to just stay calm. Once you panic it's game over!

Oh no @Flatwhite32 that's not the news I was hoping for!!! I've got everything crossed for you that the spotting was implantation and you may be a few days out with your dates, nobody can ever be 100% sure when conception occurs. When I had my mmc, I didn't even have a yolk sac, I just had the gest sac and it was completely empty when I thought I was 7 weeks, they said I was 4 at the most...😳
My friend also had an early scan which showed nothing but a gest sac AND yolk sac, she came home devastated expecting the worst but when she went back a fortnight later, fetal pole etc was all there and she went on to have a trouble free pregnancy! Our bodies are so complex chicky, no way can we know exactly what is going on in this process, it's all guessing until scans can prove things.
I hope this week goes fast for you now to put you out of your misery waiting! The waiting is the worst 😣 don't give up on your little seed just yet, it could be burrowing away deeper in there and is still just too tiny to see 🤞🏼💗

Thanks @mrsjkerry I hope so! I don't know why I'm suddenly having a breakdown about it lol. My mum is going to be with me and she won't take any nonsense if I start screaming and being hysterical, she will be like come on, pull yourself together. And my hubby is a big baby himself, if I start freaking out and screeching and crying, he's gonna pass out before anything even happens 😂😂😂
Hope you're feeling ok!xx

@MistyBxx I was terrified of labour, I was adamant I was o lay having gas and air - was begging for pethedine- if it gets too much take the drugs! You'll be fine the pain is so worth it xx

I'm not one of those people that are like "oh I want to do it all naturallll" LOL if it hurts, I want it to not hurt, and quickly! So I always said I'd take anything they offered! BUT a few of my friends had pethedine and they said they felt completely off their faces and didn't know what was going on, the babies also came out a bit doped up themselves and their memory of the whole thing is really hazy! So I've decided I really don't want that!! I always said I wouldn't want epidural but I actually think I'd rather be "in the moment" and fully aware of what's going on, even if I can't feel it from the waist down... than just be on cloud 9 and not know what the hell is happening lol. What was your experience with pethedine @ew1990??xx

Honestly, after having the pethedine I don't remember anything until the midwife told me to stand up coz she'd turned back to back. The pain went with the pethidine but I don't know if I fell asleep through sheer exhaustion or what. I remember saying I just want to sleep. I remember my midwife giving it me and then it was another midwife asking me to stand up coz they had a shift change. With the pain though I found the contractions worse but I don't know wether that's coz I was on the hormone drip. The relief when my body started pushing was insane.

Baby wasn't drowsy though and latched on after ten minutes or so. I couldn't have handled an epidural I hate needles. I had to have a cannula for fluids and the drip a needles for pethidine a needle to help with placenta and a blood test and then a needle inside vagina to numb me for stitches. So think I handled them well.

I had pethidine too @MistyBxx it was totally useless. Made me very sleepy but didn't take the pain away.

Bloodynora 😳 that's a lot of needles. I had my anti-D last week (I'm negative blood type) and I couldn't look at her doing it and it really hurt!! I was like ow ow OW STOP it stings!!!! And that was just a needle! I'm not great with them either.
It's so weird, I haven't been thinking much about the labour until I've been suffering from pelvic girdle pain (and also feeling what I think are very mild braxton hicks.) Now I'm in so much pain with the pgp just walking, sitting, lying, driving, standing, pretty much every movement I make is really hurting, that it's made me realise my pain threshold is obviously low. I could cry just turning over in bed some nights so how am I going to handle labour?! I want to be super positive and keep telling myself like if it was that horrendous, nobody would have more than one child lol. And reminding myself about the gorgeous amazing prize at the end of it! 💗

@MistyBxx you never know you may surprise yourself, I do not have a high pain threshold at all but managed labour with just gas and air (not entirely through choice, my labour was too quick for any other pain relief!) and although it was obviously painful (I do remember begging for an epidural at one point because the midwife kept insisting I was still in early labour, when I was actually 9cm dilated!), it's different to any other kind of pain. Definitely take the drugs if you need them though, that's what they're there for!

@MistyBxx I wanted all the drugs but my labour was too quick and ended up with nothing except 10 mins of gas and air at the end. As @NC1990 take what you need and you will get through it, no other time of experiencing that pain do u get your lovely baby at the end of it :) good luck xx

@MistyBxx I'm negative blood type too, they take a sample of blood from the cord to see what blood type baby is, if she's also negative you're alright if she's not you have to have another anti d xx

Thanks girlies. @lydiangel83 I've still got 9 weeks to go yet but I'm thinking about it every day now lol. @ew1990 when will they test the cord blood? After the baby is born?x

Yes once the placentas out. Izzy is negative too so I never needed another anti d thank god I couldn't have handled another needle